What would you do.

[gixxerboy1]

I had an ex that lived with my at my parents house. We haven't lived there for about 3 years. And We have been broken up for almost 3. We are on horrible terms. But i haven't seen or talked to her in almost 2 years. I don't have her number. She has called mine few times blocked and just sat there.
Any way my parents are selling their home. And she has some stuff there. There is a big box of family photo albums. Now the thing is both of her parents are dead so i would think she would want these. So i sent a letter to the last address i had for her. I sent it with a DC#. It was delivered a few days ago and she hasn't called. Should i try again? Or if i don't hear from her soon just throw them out?

[G-1000]

Yes or just hold on to them. You dont wont to throw that out on her. If you get her addy just mail them to her.

[gixxerboy1]

Yes or just hold on to them. You dont wont to throw that out on her. If you get her addy just mail them to her.

Its a big box of albums. Its heavy to ship. I thought of it. Hell if she called and asked i probably would. But if she can't make an effort to call and ask about them why should i go through the hassle.

[hotstuff]

what did you say in the letter?

[hotstuff]

and are you guys in the same city? or is she farther away now?

[mavsluva]

Please keep them. Is there a way that you can get them to her indirectly, say via a friend or something? You can most likely go to your local police department and they'll see to it that she receives her stuff. Just state your case and I would like to think that they'll be most willing to help.

[gixxerboy1]

and are you guys in the same city? or is she farther away now?

This is an old ex. She lives about 2 hours away. I told her in the letter exactly what was going on. told her i wanted no drama but i figured she would want the pictures to please call me either way and we could figure out a way for her to get them.

[G-1000]

Its a big box of albums. Its heavy to ship. I thought of it. Hell if she called and asked i probably would. But if she can't make an effort to call and ask about them why should i go through the hassle.

She might be busy.

[hotstuff]

just wondering if you are absolutely sure that's where she lives.... and was thinking you could just drop them off at her doorstep if she wasn't too far away... but that's kinda far.

[hotstuff]

but as mavsluva said... keep them. don't know the situation as to why you guys are on such bad terms... but it's still really nice of you to be concerned knowing her parents are gone.

[G-1000]

Time to make a road trip.

[STYLE74]

Yeah bro i would hold on to them no matter what because they might mean alot to her. Even though she might be being difficult with you i think you should be the bigger person and just hold them to see what happens.

[gixxerboy1]

just wondering if you are absolutely sure that's where she lives.... and was thinking you could just drop them off at her doorstep if she wasn't too far away... but that's kinda far.

I'm not sure if that is her address still. I asked the PO if they would forward it if it wasn't. They said yes.

Maybe I'll wait a week and send another letter that's registered so i can see if she signs for it. She just never gave a shit about anything. I hoped she changed and figured this would be important.

We dont have any mutal friends

[hotstuff]

did u try a search for her online? for her address? sometimes that helps. or you could at least get a phone number sometimes?

[gixxerboy1]

did u try a search for her online? for her address? sometimes that helps. or you could at least get a phone number sometimes?

Yea tried all that. Even searched myspace.

[Bojangles69]

I had an ex that lived with my at my parents house. We haven't lived there for about 3 years. And We have been broken up for almost 3. We are on horrible terms. But i haven't seen or talked to her in almost 2 years. I don't have her number. She has called mine few times blocked and just sat there.
Any way my parents are selling their home. And she has some stuff there. There is a big box of family photo albums. Now the thing is both of her parents are dead so i would think she would want these. So i sent a letter to the last address i had for her. I sent it with a DC#. It was delivered a few days ago and she hasn't called. Should i try again? Or if i don't hear from her soon just throw them out?

this may not be the best advice but some gasoline and a match would have solved that problem for me 3 years ago.
But it youd like my advice. Id pick out the individual pics and mail those to her without the actual albums.
Tell her they got damaged and you needed to get rid of the pics.

[G-1000]

Yea tried all that. Even searched myspace.

Wells if it means that much i will give your her number.

[G-1000]

this may not be the best advice but some gasoline and a match would have solved that problem for me 3 years ago.
But it youd like my advice. Id pick out the individual pics and mail those to her without the actual albums.
Tell her they got damaged and you needed to get rid of the pics.

Come on man think of that. What if they were your pics of your family.

[Bojangles69]

Come on man think of that. What if they were your pics of your family.

You may have misread.
I meant take the pics out and mail those to her without the albums.
I could be wrong but I think the value is 99% the actual pics and 1% the albums. That way it would be easier to just mail them to her and forget about the whole situation.
I could be wrong but if he tells her the albums got damaged but the pics didnt shed be so happy she got the pics that she wouldnt even give the albums a second thought.
If you disagree thats fine, i just really thought it was smart idea.

[Bojangles69]

Come on man think of that. What if they were your pics of your family.

ohh but if your talking about the gasoline thing honestly that would have been after i told her she needs to take them back or im burning them. im not that cruel of a person lol. unless she was a complete bitch when she broke up with me than my sympathy would be right out the window..

[G-1000]

You may have misread.
I meant take the pics out and mail those to her without the albums.
I could be wrong but I think the value is 99% the actual pics and 1% the albums. That way it would be easier to just mail them to her and forget about the whole situation.
I could be wrong but if he tells her the albums got damaged but the pics didnt shed be so happy she got the pics that she wouldnt even give the albums a second thought.
If you disagree thats fine, i just really thought it was smart idea.

I'M sorry i thought you ment just take a few out and mail them.

[big L 17]

i hope u get ahold of her keep us update and keep the photos she will appertce it when u give them to her

[gixxerboy1]

Wells if it means that much i will give your her number.

If your talking to her i feel sorry for you. You dont have a bunny rabbit do you?

[needmorestrength]

definatly dont throw them out.. Hold on to them or do as BO said and just mail the pics

[Pac8541]

Document all the steps you have taken to get a hold of her, keep receipts from the post office, registered mail cards, etc. Give her a month. If no contact by then, I'd chuck 'em.

YOU are going out of your way to be compassionate and understanding. YOU are making the effort to make contact and allow her to salvage sentimental items from her childhood. If she doesn't give a sh!t then it is not your responsibility to make up for her lack of concern. And for the record, I would be shocked to hear of a PD being willing to help return her stuff to her. If you happen to run into a particularly nice policeman who is willing to do it, great, but more than likely the furthest you'll get with that is a record search and maybe an officer who will stop by her last address of record to let her know to contact you. Trust me on this one. Just my .02.

[goodcents]

If she wanted the stuff, I think she would have picked it up within 2 years. Your too nice man, I thought we were making progress One day you will be as bitter as me and just toss the stuff (after you pissed on it)

[goodcents]

ps, thanks for the smiley faces, it really helped me read the post

[G-1000]

If your talking to her i feel sorry for you. You dont have a bunny rabbit do you?

Just the one that vibrats.

[gixxerboy1]

ps, thanks for the smiley faces, it really helped me read the post

See i was thinking of you when i did it.

Oh i'm bitter. I forgot i even had them they were in my parents attic.

Maybe i should slip some of the x rated ones i have of her in the middle of the albums. So they show up when she is showning them to someone else.

[goodcents]

See i was thinking of you when i did it.

Oh i'm bitter. I forgot i even had them they were in my parents attic.

Maybe i should slip some of the x rated ones i have of her in the middle of the albums. So they show up when she is showning them to someone else.

You should keep them for when you get old I wish I would of kept all the pics I had I throw them away when I hook up with a new chic. I only have a few tapes now

[shwamin2004]

What would Jesus do?

[goodcents]

What would Jesus do?

[gixxerboy1]

I just called her aunt because she never got back to me. Her aunt told me she committed suicide 2 months ago. I cant believe it. I'm so upset about it. Her aunt didn't have my number to call and tell me. I wish i got to go to the funeral to say goodbye. This fvcking sucks.

[needmorestrength]

I just called her aunt because she never got back to me. Her aunt told me she committed suicide 2 months ago. I cant believe it. I'm so upset about it. Her aunt didn't have my number to call and tell me. I wish i got to go to the funeral to say goodbye. This fvcking sucks.

oh no bro.. thats terrible... you definatly did the right thing to try and send her the stuff... Thats one thing you can be thankful!

[gixxerboy1]

I feel like part of it is my fault. She had alot of problems she always did. If i just would have stuck by her. I always was such a hard ass with her. Maybe if i did soemthing different she would still be here. I'm so mad at her. She could have called me if she needed to talk

[needmorestrength]

I feel like part of it is my fault. She had alot of problems she always did. If i just would have stuck by her. I always was such a hard ass with her. Maybe if i did soemthing different she would still be here. I'm so mad at her. She could have called me if she needed to talk

Obviously she didnt bro.. things happen for a reason.. You guys broke up for a reason, she moved away.. Dont beat yourself up about it

[G-1000]

Bro i am sorry for the loss. But you can’t blame your self. She was a grow women that made a very bad dissection. I’m sure if she had that kind of problems you would have only delayed it. Sounds like she had some major help for a long time. It’s just to bad she did not receive it or know how to seek it out her self.

[STYLE74]

Hey gixxer so sorry to hear this news bro. IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT man and like needmore said above don't beat yourself up over it. Sometimes things are out of our control, there is no way you could have known. Sorry again.

[prncezzml]

Wow that's intense. You can't blame yourself though, people who have deep seeded issues need psychiatric help, you wouldn't have been able to do anything. I am sorry for your loss though, that would be hard to believe for awhile.

[Anastasia]

sorry for what happened to your ex gf!

Yeah keep her stuff or send it to her aunt!