My GF got Molested by her ex.

**briancb1** · 08-08-2007, 05:12 PM

I've been with this girl for like 6 weeks. She lives with her parents like 30 minutes from me so we only see each other maybe 1-2 times a week. Just for a little background, we havn't had sex yet. She is a virgin and wants to lose her virginity to me, but when she is ready as were still new to each other.

So I'm at work trying to keep busy when my GF texts me:

GF: "Baby when you get off of work we need to talk"
Me: "Am I in trouble?"
GF: "No"
GF: "I'm ready to have sex lol"
Me: "Wow ok =) haha I wasn't expecting that"
GF: "I know I'm ready im horny for you I love you so much"
GF: "Baby I need to hear your voice!"

So at this point I call her from my office. She sounds like she is completely sad! I could tell something was wrong... She initially wouldn't tell me but after some prying she said that she was molested by her ex BF the night before.

Just as a note, I said it was cool with her meeting up with him at a resturaunt like she had asked me earlier. He is apparently moving away and just wanted to say bye or something of that nature. I didn't care because she said she was going to meet him at the resturaunt and drive herself, assured me nothing could happen...

So I'm about to leave work, I got off the phone with her because I wasn't about to go into detailed questions at work.

The biggest thought is why would she be so up to jump in the sack and then have me call her and pour all this horrible news on me?! It doesn't add up, it seems fishy...

what questions do you think I should ask... opinions?

**Lexed** · 08-08-2007, 05:14 PM

I find it strange if her Bf molested her and then she goes say goodbye to him seems weird.

**briancb1** · 08-08-2007, 05:17 PM

Originally Posted by Lexed

I find it strange if her Bf molested her and then she goes say goodbye to him seems weird.

Im her boyfriend, she was molested by her ex when he met up with her to say goodbye supposivly. sorry if that wasn't clear.

**Lexed** · 08-08-2007, 05:19 PM

Oh lol thats what I meant still though y would somone go say bye to somone who did this kind of thing to her

**x_moe** · 08-08-2007, 05:20 PM

lexed are you drunk

**takedownII** · 08-08-2007, 05:22 PM

wow, thats a weird situation...i don't know why she would even go say bye to her ex......and she called you after he molested her?????

what do you mean molested her....like raped????

**Big** · 08-08-2007, 05:23 PM

weird man, it seems to me if she was just molested the night before more sex would be the farthest thing from her mind.

**Lexed** · 08-08-2007, 05:24 PM

she wouldnt be a virgin though if he raped her

**football2007** · 08-08-2007, 05:24 PM

so by he molested her=they had sex?

Most likely. Thats what I have found...

**Schmidty** · 08-08-2007, 05:25 PM

I would interogate the fvck outa her. Ask her were, how and why it happened. Sounds a lil fvckd up if u ask me, but i dont trust anybody. I once beat my hand with a hammer because i thought it was cheating on me.LOL!

**dedic8ed1** · 08-08-2007, 05:25 PM

Not too be a dick but it really sounds like she put herself in that situation,Who get's molested and then says goodbye?She must be very young.

**takedownII** · 08-08-2007, 05:25 PM

Originally Posted by Lexed

she wouldnt be a virgin though if he raped her

lol....now why would you even say that captian obvious???lol

have you been drinking???

**Flagg** · 08-08-2007, 05:37 PM

"Molested" sounds vague.

Did he rape her or did he prehaps become physically aggresive with her? If she is a virgin then she may not know what being molested is. Im not saying she is stupid, but for someone who isnt sexually experienced being "molested" could really mean anything.

Sit down with her, make her take you through everything one step at a time and if you think there is cause for concern, call the cops.

**l2elapse** · 08-08-2007, 05:52 PM

that is a weird situation

**LawMan018** · 08-08-2007, 05:54 PM

Oh hell no... I would find that pos and **** him up! Or get one of your gay friends to molest him! Little taste of his own medicine!

**Lexed** · 08-08-2007, 05:55 PM

hey lawman u can do it right? LOL

**Renesis** · 08-08-2007, 05:59 PM

I don't think you guys are getting it... From what I got from the story SHE WENT TO SAY BYE THEN GET MOLESTED AFTER. You guys are being judgemental against her and you haven't even got the facts right from what it seems. Anyways, I am not going to give advice seeing as I just said not to be judgemental -.-

**Tesla** · 08-08-2007, 06:04 PM

After I read your story I would recommend running away from this girl as fast as possible. I see red flags all over the place on this one.

**therecanonlybe1** · 08-08-2007, 06:05 PM

Originally Posted by ImaGetBigger

weird man, it seems to me if she was just molested the night before more sex would be the farthest thing from her mind.

i agree...sounds like she uses sex as a tool and puts light on it depending her emotion...was she sexually abused as a child..

**Flagg** · 08-08-2007, 06:10 PM

Originally Posted by therecanonlybe1

i agree...sounds like she uses sex as a tool and puts light on it depending her emotion...was she sexually abused as a child..

For a site that tirelessly tells us to RESEARCH, it seems one or two of you haven't even researched the first opening post.

The guy claims his girlfriend is a virgin, so her being abused as a kid would kinda null and void her being a virgin. Second he clearly states that this Ex of hers attacked her AFTER she said goodbye to him.

Don't paint everything red, people.

**Panzerfaust** · 08-08-2007, 06:14 PM

Attention Whore!

**gixxerboy1** · 08-08-2007, 06:14 PM

I find it strange any adult is still a virgin. I would NEVER date one.

Who knows what she meant by molested. They could have had a kiss good bye and he grabbed her ass or something. Could be a lot.

But still weird
1 she is a virgin
2 she texted you she wants sex after so called molestation

**Amorphic** · 08-08-2007, 06:16 PM

Very strange indeed, I dont know what to make of this one, I would be very careful around her for a bit though, get all the details, something just seems wrong with this.

**PEWN** · 08-08-2007, 06:26 PM

ditch that hoe man... i would not deal with crap like that after 6 weeks... i call bs on this story..... nothing adds up theres to many holes... i hope everything turns out ok for you..

**Mogamedogz** · 08-08-2007, 06:29 PM

Maybe she really was never a Virgin in the first place, and this is just her way of explaining it to you before you find out when you cak slips right on through with no problem!

Just saying... gotta consider all possibilities here.

BTW: You sure there even was a BF that she went to meet? Could be totally made up...

**StoneGRMI** · 08-08-2007, 06:29 PM

Run Brian! Run!

If you don't get out now while it's very early you'll end up with more BS like this for a long time to come. Next thing you know you have sex with her and she tells everyone that YOU molested her or something crazy. I would be out asap!

**Lexed** · 08-08-2007, 06:32 PM

fck her then ditch her http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kbLevHSVuZY

**Sir Lifts-a-lot** · 08-08-2007, 06:40 PM

story sounds like it is fuked up ten times from sunday... Girl sounds too young, too flighty, and too emotionally unstable....

**Jiesel** · 08-08-2007, 06:48 PM

The red flag goes up for me that you guys are using the word "Love" @ 6 weeks....I thought 3 months was really quick for me and mine.

Anyways, If shes willing to have sex now, sounds like shes doing this out of feeling bad that she had sex with him. Odds are she had sex with him on her own free will and is using the molestation thing as a cover-up. Trix are for kids....

**LawMan018** · 08-08-2007, 07:00 PM

Originally Posted by Lexed

hey lawman u can do it right? LOL

I hate you

**DSM4Life** · 08-08-2007, 07:03 PM

**DSM4Life** · 08-08-2007, 07:06 PM

***Doc.Sust*** · 08-08-2007, 07:17 PM

so what does MOLESTED mean in this case? tesla is right , run away, red flags, i doubt she was molested, i know you dont want to hear this, but if she REALLY had no feelings for this guy, she wouldnt have been there to begin with.

**Fordfan01** · 08-08-2007, 07:23 PM

Originally Posted by Doc.Sust

so what does MOLESTED mean in this case? tesla is right , run away, red flags, i doubt she was molested, i know you dont want to hear this, but if she REALLY had no feelings for this guy, she wouldnt have been there to begin with.

agreed plus if it was the night before y didnt see tell u right when it happened????

**rubix6** · 08-08-2007, 07:34 PM

this situation is really wierd. Keep us up to date on what is going on

**domeyeahaigh** · 08-08-2007, 07:42 PM

come on dude its obvious, she is trying to cover herself up dont be dumb you got played this is not a weird situation she probably met up with him whatever happened happened and her cover up is that she as molested..if she was...make her call the ****ing police or even better, you call em...bring up the idea to her i guarantee she wont be down with it..she wanted it and she wants you....realize this or not she'll probably do it again do not be a dumbass

anyways good book to read sperm wars...

**domeyeahaigh** · 08-08-2007, 07:46 PM

ps if she is hot keep her your not married man are you in a really serious relationship with the prospect of being married? if not...do your thing brotha 6 billion people in the world roughly half of them are women so 3 billion women in the world take 1 percent are hot and wanting to bang you that is 30000000 women all ready to bang and hot..please do not limit yourself to one woman man..keep it real, wear the gym strap always

***Doc.Sust*** · 08-08-2007, 07:46 PM

Originally Posted by Jiesel

Odds are she had sex with him on her own free will and is using the molestation thing as a cover-up. Trix are for kids....

DING DING DING!!!! BINGO!!! we have a winner!!!!! this whole story reaks of half truths and BS on her part, i dont believe her story is 100% legit. it doesnt make sense, listen to your gut, can you honestly say that you dont feel that some of this may be sligthly fabricated?

**buffgator** · 08-08-2007, 07:48 PM

How do you molest an adult? Get out of the situation, if stuff like this is going on only 6 weeks into a relationship than you have a world of problems up ahead! Plus if she claims shes a virgin, than only after 6 weeks says she loves you and want to lose it to you, does not add up.

**domeyeahaigh** · 08-08-2007, 07:48 PM

pss she is probably not a virgin man i have heard girls say that before and then they are freaks in the sack man if she is not ****in tell her to keep on truckin she is playing games, life is short do you REALLY have time for that bs? man this thread pisses me off