help with my drinking problem

[notorious_mem]

Alright its been awhile since ive posted on here and heres why I took the last 6 months off drinking and parting like a crazy man.Ive been battling a drinking problem for at least 7 year now since ive been about 17 .I never went a weekend without drinking from the time i was 12 to almost 18 when i got my first dui im now 24 with 2 kids and a failing marraige i need to quit and ive tried so many times,is there anything anyone on here can point me too to try to help myself with this?

[Johny-too-small]

Have you tried AA?

[taiboxa]

as SC would say..
your desire to change has to be greater than ur desire to remain the same..
thats bout it.. no one but you can do it.. if you change for anyone but your self your just going to end up reverting to the way u used to be in due time.

basically the only advice i can really give you is.. MAN UP and dont be a p*ssy.

[notorious_mem]

tai im guessing you've never battled this one but thanks for replying none the less.and no ive never tried aa.Maybe this was a bad place to ask for help but its the only online family ive ever had and most my friends drink so advice is kinda thin there.

[taiboxa]

tai im guessing you've never battled this one but thanks for replying none the less.and no ive never tried aa.Maybe this was a bad place to ask for help but its the only online family ive ever had and most my friends drink so advice is kinda thin there.

actually ALCOHOLISM runs in my family on BOTH SIDES.
how do i fight it.. I AVOID ALCOHOL completely.. I DONT HAVE.. a lil drink here and there.
i dont make excuses to drink.
i dont let peer pressure TAKE ME TO PLACES where alcohol is readily available..

[stocky121]

Have you tried AA?

ditto thats the only thing i can think of

[gixxerboy1]

tai im guessing you've never battled this one but thanks for replying none the less.and no ive never tried aa.Maybe this was a bad place to ask for help but its the only online family ive ever had and most my friends drink so advice is kinda thin there.

Tai was right. No one can help you. No one can stop you from drinking. You need to do it yourself. You have to want to stop. And you sound like you do. You just have to want it more then you want a drink. Until then you wont be able to stop.

[mavsluva]

Alright its been awhile since ive posted on here and heres why I took the last 6 months off drinking and parting like a crazy man.Ive been battling a drinking problem for at least 7 year now since ive been about 17 .I never went a weekend without drinking from the time i was 12 to almost 18 when i got my first dui im now 24 with 2 kids and a failing marraige i need to quit and ive tried so many times,is there anything anyone on here can point me too to try to help myself with this?

Question for you.

Do you drink because:

a) You enjoy a false sense of reality?
b) You rely on drinking to escape your reality?
c) Both

[notorious_mem]

actually ALCOHOLISM runs in my family on BOTH SIDES.
how do i fight it.. I AVOID ALCOHOL completely.. I DONT HAVE.. a lil drink here and there.
i dont make excuses to drink.
i dont let peer pressure TAKE ME TO PLACES where alcohol is readily available..

Maybe it seems like a simple thing to do but when almost everything you do involves alchohal it hard to do thing that dont involve alchohol like eating out watching a movie at home football on sundays...lol im just trying to stay undercover through this because of work and image around town i guess.

[PEWN]

tai can do it so can you..

now if only tai can stay away from tv dinners also...



As far as your problem.... Whats worth more to you ... family or booz.... i hope you choose family....

[notorious_mem]

Question for you.

Do you drink because:

a) You enjoy a false sense of reality?
b) You rely on drinking to escape your reality?
c) Both

both but a) and b) has changed as ive gotten older. does that make sense?

[gixxerboy1]

Question for you.

Do you drink because:

a) You enjoy a false sense of reality?
b) You rely on drinking to escape your reality?
c) Both

Sorry to hijak but

How you feelin Mav's glad to see you here

[notorious_mem]

sounds like tai has dealt with it ... so a apology is neccessary...

now if only you can stay away from tv dinners also...



As far as your problem.... Whats worth more to you ... family or booz.... i hope you choose family....

your response sounds like a freshman in highschool sticking up for the captain of the football team...and not a very smart one at that.stay out of this if this is the best help or advice you have. thank you...

[taiboxa]

Maybe it seems like a simple thing to do but when almost everything you do involves alchohal it hard to do thing that dont involve alchohol like eating out watching a movie at home football on sundays...lol im just trying to stay undercover through this because of work and image around town i guess.

its simple unless someone is holding a gun to your head.
all you have to do is remove the beer from your home.. im certain that your wife will be all for NOT HAVING the aclohol around if she really understand the issue at hand.. otherwise there is definetly other factors besides the drinking involved

[notorious_mem]

its simple unless someone is holding a gun to your head.
all you have to do is remove the beer from your home.. im certain that your wife will be all for NOT HAVING the aclohol around if she really understand the issue at hand.. otherwise there is definetly other factors besides the drinking involved

ive tried that cus thats the first thing i always think too but my wife drinks and so she always tells me the same thing i just need to slow down and not drink so much...or just drink socially which works for awhile then i get right back into the swing of it all over again.

[mavsluva]

both but a) and b) has changed as ive gotten older. does that make sense?

It makes sense.

The real issue with most addictions is not what you turn to to relieve yourself. You must address the root cause that leads you to turn to your addiction first. You must work on pinpointing what it is that makes you weak. Because its our weaknesses that drives us to find our comfort zones. Because when we're in our comfort zones....we feel very strong!

[kfrost06]

First, go to a detox to sober up then go directly to a strong support group like AA where people with the same problem have overcome and will be able to relate and support you. You can share your stories w/o fear with them for they have been through the same thing. Having a Higher Power will help, something that is stronger then the alcohol since the alcohol is stronger than you. GL!

[Johny-too-small]

Might be a good time to find new friends, move to the other side of town, get a fresh start on life.

[notorious_mem]

First, go to a detox to sober up then go directly to a strong support group like AA where people with the same problem have overcome and will be able to relate and support you. You can share your stories w/o fear with them for they have been through the same thing. Having a Higher Power will help, something that is stronger then the alcohol since the alcohol is stronger than you. GL!

I cant go to a detox because ive got too many bills and too good of a job to lose to take off for it.As for aa ive thought about it but i think i might go see a counselor and c about getting out patient help for this.

[taiboxa]

ive tried that cus thats the first thing i always think too but my wife drinks and so she always tells me the same thing i just need to slow down and not drink so much...or just drink socially which works for awhile then i get right back into the swing of it all over again.

welp, theres the underlying downfall of this ordeal.
if you cant remove the temptation then your going to be in for a long ruff trek.

[notorious_mem]

It makes sense.

The real issue with most addictions is not what you turn to to relieve yourself. You must address the root cause that leads you to turn to your addiction first. You must work on pinpointing what it is that makes you weak. Because its our weaknesses that drives us to find our comfort zones. Because when we're in our comfort zones....we feel very strong!

how do you figure out your weakness..sometimes i think I drink to relieve stress other times its a social gathering other times just to forget about all i have going on everyday.

[Kratos]

I drank like you drink when I was in college and few years after, somehow I outgrew it, just not that fun anymore. I'm only a few years older (28) but I have a lot of things in my life I'd rather be doing than getting plastered. I keep beer in my fridge and almost never touch it. The only thing is I go out every weekend for social fun and drink, if I go out with a girl for dinner even durring the week I'll have a few drinks, what else are you going to do when you are single. I just lost the desire to be sick the next day and be kissing the toilet. Booz really is a nice social lube and it's a shame if you can't drink socially, mabe cold turkey is best for you. There is a drug called Antabuse that will amplify the hangover effect if you do drink, that might get you to quit.

[notorious_mem]

welp, theres the underlying downfall of this ordeal.
if you cant remove the temptation then your going to be in for a long ruff trek.

ya i know thats the kicker.We both know our marriage and life would be better without alchohol but always seem to go back to it.I think i just need to start with her and work my way out of this stupid ass circle of trouble.

[taiboxa]

I drank like you drink when I was in college and few years after, somehow I outgrew it, just not that fun anymore. I'm only a few years older (28) but I have a lot of things in my life I'd rather be doing than getting plastered. I keep beer in my fridge and almost never touch it. The only thing is I go out every weekend for social fun and drink, if I go out with a girl for dinner even durring the week I'll have a few drinks, what else are you going to do when you are single. I just lost the desire to be sick the next day and be kissing the toilet. Booz really is a nice social lube and it's a shame if you can't drink socially, mabe cold turkey is best for you. There is a drug called Antabuse that will amplify the hangover effect if you do drink, that might get you to quit.

sounds like electroshocktherapy lol ><

[taiboxa]

ya i know thats the kicker.We both know our marriage and life would be better without alchohol but always seem to go back to it.I think i just need to start with her and work my way out of this stupid ass circle of trouble.

communication is numero uno in any relationship... definetly talk w/ her bout it, because i feel that if she really cares for you and wants it to work.. she will work w/ you...

[notorious_mem]

I drank like you drink when I was in college and few years after, somehow I outgrew it, just not that fun anymore. I'm only a few years older (28) but I have a lot of things in my life I'd rather be doing than getting plastered. I keep beer in my fridge and almost never touch it. The only thing is I go out every weekend for social fun and drink, if I go out with a girl for dinner even durring the week I'll have a few drinks, what else are you going to do when you are single. I just lost the desire to be sick the next day and be kissing the toilet. Booz really is a nice social lube and it's a shame if you can't drink socially, mabe cold turkey is best for you. There is a drug called Antabuse that will amplify the hangover effect if you do drink, that might get you to quit.

28 seems to be a magic number cus alot of peaple have told me they chilled out at 28.I dont think right now i can be a social drinker and not have it lead to me drinking all the time or too much.I can go months without doing something stupid and it doesnt affect my success in life(such as making money or friends) so sometimes i can fool myself into thinking i can be a social drinker but i always end up doing something stupid or violent within a few months of thinking ive slowed down.

[mavsluva]

how do you figure out your weakness..sometimes i think I drink to relieve stress other times its a social gathering other times just to forget about all i have going on everyday.

Write down on a piece of paper the things that you don't like about yourself. I even encourage you to review them with those that you are closest with. After reviewing those things, then ask yourself how alcohol affects those things that you don't like about yourself.

For example, you might write:

1. I don't like how I turn to alcohol to relieve my stress.

While you may think that alcohol relieves your stress, it actually increases your stress. Hence the reason why you posted this thread. Because believe it or not, you stress about the alcohol before it even enters your system. Therefore, it has control of you rather than you having control of it.

My advice to you is to gain control of your life outside of the alcohol. The alcohol urges will soon die down once you gain better control of your life.

Good luck!

[notorious_mem]

communication is numero uno in any relationship... definetly talk w/ her bout it, because i feel that if she really cares for you and wants it to work.. she will work w/ you...

ya i agree....appreciatte the thoughts and help..

[notorious_mem]

Write down on a piece of paper the things that you don't like about yourself. I even encourage you to review them with those that you are closest with. After reviewing those things, then ask yourself how alcohol affects those things that you don't like about yourself.

For example, you might write:

1. I don't like how I turn to alcohol to relieve my stress.

While you may think that alcohol relieves your stress, it actually increases your stress. Hence the reason why you posted this thread. Because believe it or not, you stress about the alcohol before it even enters your system. Therefore, it has control of you rather than you having control of it.

My advice to you is to gain control of your life outside of the alcohol. The alcohol urges will soon die down once you gain better control of your life.

Good luck!

appreciate it mav.....

[wascaptain5214]

bro, alcohol is a powerful foe. dont try and fight it alone, get help. AA isnt a bad place to start. good luck.

[notorious_mem]

bro, alcohol is a powerful foe. dont try and fight it alone, get help. AA isnt a bad place to start. good luck.

i do need help and im going to seek it my work has a lot of options considering how screwed up up railroaders can get..lol so im gonna find out how and where. thanks for the help.

[Titleist]

i do need help and im going to seek it my work has a lot of options considering how screwed up up railroaders can get..lol so im gonna find out how and where. thanks for the help.

Shoot me a PM and I can put you in touch with some guys that are recovering alcoholics in our community. I have no personal experience with addiction, but there are many guys around the boards that do.

AA is the first step you need to take. Tons of meetings are the way to go.

I agree with everything Mavs has stated as well. I think this is something they do in AA(writing down the pros/cons). Write about how drinking negatively affects your life and make a list of the people that you have hurt.

[smokeyd]

ok man i went threw something similar, if old lady wont stop drinking neither will you, in most cases. I had to change freinds, stop going over to peoples house for fights or going to the movies or going out to eat with other couples. everything stoped, became a some what hermit for a while till you can control yourself!

[taiboxa]

ok man i went threw something similar, if old lady wont stop drinking neither will you, in most cases. I had to change freinds, stop going over to peoples house for fights or going to the movies or going out to eat with other couples. everything stoped, became a some what hermit for a while till you can control yourself!

thats what i did .. and look at me now!..


im fat

[tadpoleboyy]

what i do to quit bad habits, is find something else to do. Being idle is the worst thing ever, you get bored, then go for the bottle/pipe/ whatever.

[DSM4Life]

The first step is wanting help, congrats.


I would try looking up local help meetings in your area.

[notorious_mem]

Ive got so much stuff to do to keep me busy im going to see a counseler and try to get back into exercising and family activities.

[flow07]

I am 25 and a alcoholic, I have been sober for about 2 years, quitting drinking was the hardest thing i have ever attempted to do. I failed more than once. I personally went to a intensive detox program. A month in a hospital and a whole lot of cousling. I was out a week and drinking again. Alot of people dont even believe alcoholism is a real thing. I can tell you personally it is. I wasnt able to quit till i had hit the rock bottom. Almost lost my job, dui and couldnt make ends meet. (probally the whole not going to work thing) When i realised i wanted to change. I seeked help from another alcoholic who was sort of guiding light and helped me change. I went to a few aa meeting but seemed fruitless to me.(but they do help alot of people) I guess what i am saying is take it day by day find someone who can help. Dont be afraid to ask for help. Surround yourself with quality people and you can quit. Infact i think today is a good day to improve yourself. I probally didnt help, but i hope i did!!!

[notorious_mem]

I am 25 and a alcoholic, I have been sober for about 2 years, quitting drinking was the hardest thing i have ever attempted to do. I failed more than once. I personally went to a intensive detox program. A month in a hospital and a whole lot of cousling. I was out a week and drinking again. Alot of people dont even believe alcoholism is a real thing. I can tell you personally it is. I wasnt able to quit till i had hit the rock bottom. Almost lost my job, dui and couldnt make ends meet. (probally the whole not going to work thing) When i realised i wanted to change. I seeked help from another alcoholic who was sort of guiding light and helped me change. I went to a few aa meeting but seemed fruitless to me.(but they do help alot of people) I guess what i am saying is take it day by day find someone who can help. Dont be afraid to ask for help. Surround yourself with quality people and you can quit. Infact i think today is a good day to improve yourself. I probally didnt help, but i hope i did!!!

i appreciate it sometimes i think peaple dont think alcoholism is real either i know its very much real peaple have told me for a long time theres mark and theres drunk mark.That right there is enough to tell me im two different peaple when im sober and when im drunk.

[dupa95]

For me getting sober was the easy part. Staying away from a drink a day at a time was the hard part. I f you choose to Make AA your life, You will have a life beyond your wildest dreams. Nomal people say I am being dramatic when I say alcohol is a killer.I have lost lots to my freinds to this disease,and famliy members. If you choose get to a metting and get a plan to get to one for the next day( an AA meeting that is.) I have been at this a day at a time for over 12 years now. If I can get sober any one can. I am a guy who was a lost cause but my higher power gave me the gift of sobrity.I have never let go to the gift and a day at a time i will hold on to it. Rember WE CAN my power was not enough I need help an AA put there hand out for me and YOU!