WTF do you do about a neurotic girlfriend??

**Atomini** · 10-06-2007, 10:29 AM

I can't take this shiat. She's a great woman and all, but she's one of those types who's brain is ALL OVER THE PLACE. Depressed one day, happy the next, changing her mind about things every minute, etc. etc.

She dumped me about a year ago (even though she apparently didnt want to) out of nowhere because she didn't know what she wanted and couldn't make up her damn mind. And now we're kinda sorta back together. I thought she did that at the time because she was really stressed out with schooling and work, but after not being in contact with her for about 8 months after she dumped me out of nowhere, she contacted me again. So now I don't even think it has to do with stress or whatever she's doing at the moment. I think this is just the way she is all the time. I think it's just her.

Feels like she's toying around with my head. Or maybe she isn't, but it seems like she is (SEE, this is what i'm talking about!!).How the hell do you deal with someone like this??

**Big** · 10-06-2007, 10:43 AM

take her back then dump her

**ottomaddox** · 10-06-2007, 11:07 AM

^^^^^^^Good advice.

**peteroy01** · 10-06-2007, 11:49 AM

make her bi-polar azz go get some pills!

**Atomini** · 10-06-2007, 11:57 AM

lol, pills.

Man, i'm cold but i'm not THAT cold.

**Lexed** · 10-06-2007, 12:02 PM

give her anal that will shut her up

**Ir0n** · 10-06-2007, 12:20 PM

Come on guys, it should be a serious post. But man the above is funny!

**Mjølner** · 10-06-2007, 12:22 PM

Stop thinking of her as a girlfriend, and instead, think of her as one girl out of a pool of women, which you can choose from at your convenience.

*If you were with a 10/10 right now, would you miss her?

Unless the answer is yes, just consider her a resource to tap into, should the other 20 women in your phone-book have busy signals.

**Expat** · 10-06-2007, 01:39 PM

Originally Posted by Atomini

I can't take this shiat. She's a great woman and all, but she's one of those types who's brain is ALL OVER THE PLACE. Depressed one day, happy the next, changing her mind about things every minute, etc. etc.

She dumped me about a year ago (even though she apparently didnt want to) out of nowhere because she didn't know what she wanted and couldn't make up her damn mind. And now we're kinda sorta back together. I thought she did that at the time because she was really stressed out with schooling and work, but after not being in contact with her for about 8 months after she dumped me out of nowhere, she contacted me again. So now I don't even think it has to do with stress or whatever she's doing at the moment. I think this is just the way she is all the time. I think it's just her.

Feels like she's toying around with my head. Or maybe she isn't, but it seems like she is (SEE, this is what i'm talking about!!).How the hell do you deal with someone like this??

make sure she is not bi-polar.

**Expat** · 10-06-2007, 01:40 PM

Originally Posted by Lexed

give her anal that will shut her up

Lexed..wrong orifice

**Atomini** · 10-06-2007, 02:13 PM

Originally Posted by Expat

make sure she is not bi-polar.

ANd how can I find this out?

**taiboxa** · 10-06-2007, 02:33 PM

here i got stories for you toto:
Origin Tai's Ex Wife: My lil Bipolar Bunny
Depicting: Bipoloar Love n' HATE!!! Grrr

Heres some common shit i woul see in my days.
1. One Your ALWAYS CHEATING on me HOW COME you dont wanna hae sex with me. -"well holy shit we did it tihs morning and i have tons of work to do, but dont worry ur stll very pretty"

2. I hate my self im so ugly and i cant even please you, i need to find you beatiful younger girl for you to sleep with. "What the hell are you talking about, your great! and there is no one i'd rather bone than you so cheer up!'

3. I am never going to be able to meat your standards i dont even know why i bother i should just kill my self - "Dont be an IDIOT (i slapped her really hard here)

-we remidicated her here-
and she just existed like a zombie again and it seamed like our marriage was gone fer good.

- she got off meds we had long time and agreed to call it quits

JUST THINK THAT COULD BE YOU!!! i say stick with her and fight it out so someday you can go w/ her to her BIPOLAR THERAPY MEETINGS!

**Igifuno** · 10-06-2007, 02:43 PM

you're obviously not happy with her bro so why don't you be straight up w/ her and tell her what's she's doing to you and that you're not interested in cointinuing the relationship unless she just wants to have one night stands..

**Johny-too-small** · 10-06-2007, 02:53 PM

Why deal with something you dont have to? Do you realize how fuvking short life is? Live for youself, bro.

**Atomini** · 10-06-2007, 02:54 PM

Holy shit Tai.... that's exactly the way my girl is, LMFAO. Well, except for the suicide shit. But otherwise, she acts the exact same way. SHe's even done the whole "I hate myself and everything about myself" stuff even though i've done everything to convince her that she's wrong. Man, maybe I should bring this up and tell her she could be bi polar...

**takedownII** · 10-06-2007, 02:59 PM

lmao...nice post tai....

**Perforator** · 10-06-2007, 03:22 PM

Atomini if you love her and want to help then I can completely understand.....but I can also tell you from experience you're in for one hell of a ride.

**peteroy01** · 10-06-2007, 04:12 PM

my wife had an IUD and she didnt have her period for 2yrs. that was 2yrs free of not being on the hormonal rollercoster. but now before aunt flow comes my wife is a little crazy. so maybe your girls bi-polar or maybe its just crazy period hormones. just a thought.

**Atomini** · 10-06-2007, 06:55 PM

Originally Posted by Perforator

Atomini if you love her and want to help then I can completely understand.....but I can also tell you from experience you're in for one hell of a ride.

Shit, you're scaring me.

**taiboxa** · 10-06-2007, 07:02 PM

well, i truely loved her w/ everything i had but my health became an issue being with her... trying to comfort someone every night of every week, telling her everythings going to be ok (even though u know it did nothing) and having her cry on ur shoulder every day kuz she was unhappy.. not with u but with her self... its ruff.. depression spreads like wild fire and its VERY DIFFICULT to be the shoulder for your loved one to cry on ... when thats all you can do... basically it boild down to the fact she wanted to be a mom but was told she would never be able to become pregnant. well lo n' behold after we divorce she remarries 6months later and is pregnant 3 months after that.. so definetly a lil GodWork there to help her out.. so sometimes seperation is for the better no matter how much u love em.

**Amorphic** · 10-06-2007, 07:13 PM

do what i did, dump her ass and live for yourself.

**juicejunkie2** · 10-06-2007, 10:56 PM

Originally Posted by taiboxa

well, i truely loved her w/ everything i had but my health became an issue being with her... trying to comfort someone every night of every week, telling her everythings going to be ok (even though u know it did nothing) and having her cry on ur shoulder every day kuz she was unhappy.. not with u but with her self... its ruff.. depression spreads like wild fire and its VERY DIFFICULT to be the shoulder for your loved one to cry on ... when thats all you can do... basically it boild down to the fact she wanted to be a mom but was told she would never be able to become pregnant. well lo n' behold after we divorce she remarries 6months later and is pregnant 3 months after that.. so definetly a lil GodWork there to help her out.. so sometimes seperation is for the better no matter how much u love em.

Tai, you sure you're not shooting blanks??

**juicejunkie2** · 10-06-2007, 11:00 PM

On a more serious note .. she may just have major depression .. does she ever have super energetic days/weeks where she tries to get everything done right away or go on crazy shopping sprees or stays up all night etc ?? One can't be "diagnosed" with bi-polar disorder without episodes of mania. If you really give a flying fu@k then maybe you should suggest a psychiatrist .. and if not then tap that resource, as the bros say above, till a better option comes along.

**Expat** · 10-07-2007, 05:53 AM

Originally Posted by juicejunkie2

On a more serious note .. she may just have major depression .. does she ever have super energetic days/weeks where she tries to get everything done right away or go on crazy shopping sprees or stays up all night etc ?? One can't be "diagnosed" with bi-polar disorder without episodes of mania. If you really give a flying fu@k then maybe you should suggest a psychiatrist .. and if not then tap that resource, as the bros say above, till a better option comes along.

QUOTE=Atomini]ANd how can I find this out?[/QUOTE]

here ya go...in answer to your question

**Atomini** · 10-07-2007, 09:52 AM

Originally Posted by juicejunkie2

On a more serious note .. she may just have major depression .. does she ever have super energetic days/weeks where she tries to get everything done right away or go on crazy shopping sprees or stays up all night etc ?? One can't be "diagnosed" with bi-polar disorder without episodes of mania. If you really give a flying fu@k then maybe you should suggest a psychiatrist .. and if not then tap that resource, as the bros say above, till a better option comes along.

Yup she falls pretty much under all of those categories there. She recently posted this note on her facebook page yesterday,

"For the last few days I have realized that a lot of the things that were important in my life are clearly not as important as what I ahve been missing. I've always thought that getting the best marks, and getting the positions you want is happiness and important to my future life. But what I ahve been really missing, is the fact that I'm not happy at all.
I get the marks I want... at times, but when I dont - I cry?
I get the men I want, but when I get too close - I wanna be alone.
I have the job I like.. show up whenever.. do whatever.., but i'm not satisfied.
I broke the connections with people I was tired of, but lost most of friends
I'm clearly looking for some amazement and a new flick to my life...something new.. someone different for a change!... Maybe I'm over reacting?
I can't think of anything. I mean, I'm in the process of rehabilitation of lowering and improving the high standards, but the're not standards-they're goals."

**nbkandrew13** · 10-07-2007, 05:35 PM

dude i have got a phd on crazy bitch 1 how old is she. she needs medication make her see a dr. i had known for years my wife was manic, bi polar she refused to get help i tolerated it. till i coulnt any more told her she has to go get diagnosed or im done she went 3 days later she has tried several meds best one is wellbutrin with adderrall the other thing that has helped is she grew up and realized being hot wasnt enuff she is way more calm.. this is the love of my life who one time jumped on the hood of my car i had to sling her off just like my girl yourshas much deeper issues that have nothing to do with you stuff that fuked her up from her childhood.... she has to deal with it or you have to walk away

**J*U*icEd** · 10-07-2007, 05:53 PM

bro if you weren't heart broken over this bitch when you broke up and you were able to live you life day to day without being depressed or thinking about her everyday when you weren't wit her... then u really don't care about her as much as you think you do... it just ain't worth it... this bitch is fvcking wit u and using you as her fvcking boy toy at her will... why the fvuk would you put up with that sh!t??.... think about that you could be married to this crazyness for the rest of your life... bro ditch this bitch, cut her off (revenge) and go find another normal girl.... there are millions of them out there.... BRO GET RID OF THIS BITCH!!... i wouldn't be able to deal wit that day to day.... the police would be at my house for domestics everyday... GET A NORMAL GIRL!!!.... whatever you do(which i hope you know she ain't the one) best of luck to you!!

**juicejunkie2** · 10-07-2007, 07:15 PM

Originally Posted by Atomini

Yup she falls pretty much under all of those categories there. She recently posted this note on her facebook page yesterday,

"For the last few days I have realized that a lot of the things that were important in my life are clearly not as important as what I ahve been missing. I've always thought that getting the best marks, and getting the positions you want is happiness and important to my future life. But what I ahve been really missing, is the fact that I'm not happy at all.
I get the marks I want... at times, but when I dont - I cry?
I get the men I want, but when I get too close - I wanna be alone.
I have the job I like.. show up whenever.. do whatever.., but i'm not satisfied.
I broke the connections with people I was tired of, but lost most of friends
I'm clearly looking for some amazement and a new flick to my life...something new.. someone different for a change!... Maybe I'm over reacting?
I can't think of anything. I mean, I'm in the process of rehabilitation of lowering and improving the high standards, but the're not standards-they're goals."

Brotha this sounds like classic depression and yeah someone above is right about some childhood shiat.. it's always something about mom being too strict, dad didn't show enough love, blah blah. There is help available, check out crisis centers in your area.. free if no insurance, so you should suggest that to her ... and fu@k it if she doesn't listen.. move on caues you can't help someone that doen't want to help themselves!!

**nbkandrew13** · 10-07-2007, 07:27 PM

kinda like iraq cant help someone who doesnt think they need help... lol

**juicejunkie2** · 10-07-2007, 07:36 PM

Originally Posted by nbkandrew13

kinda like iraq cant help someone who doesnt think they need help... lol

ummm .. yeah .. kind of like that!! j/k

**3bd** · 10-08-2007, 11:15 AM

she a capricorn by any chance?

**PEWN** · 10-08-2007, 11:17 AM

simple answer to this....

Tony Danza

When you are giving it to a chick from behind, you yell out "Who's the boss?" She'll get confused, turn her head around, at this moment, you donkey punch her in the face and then scream TONY DANZA!!!

**3bd** · 10-08-2007, 11:25 AM

roflmao! ... that's terrible pewner

**Atomini** · 10-08-2007, 04:55 PM

Originally Posted by 3**

she a capricorn by any chance?

No, Libra.

I think astrology is bullshit though, so I dont think that has anything to do with this, lol. People can just be screwed up in the head despite what time of year you were born in.

**Animal Cracker** · 10-13-2007, 09:50 PM

Fire her! No need for drama!

**Bojangles69** · 10-13-2007, 10:28 PM

Originally Posted by Atomini

I can't take this shiat. She's a great woman and all, but she's one of those types who's brain is ALL OVER THE PLACE. Depressed one day, happy the next, changing her mind about things every minute, etc. etc.

She dumped me about a year ago (even though she apparently didnt want to) out of nowhere because she didn't know what she wanted and couldn't make up her damn mind. And now we're kinda sorta back together. I thought she did that at the time because she was really stressed out with schooling and work, but after not being in contact with her for about 8 months after she dumped me out of nowhere, she contacted me again. So now I don't even think it has to do with stress or whatever she's doing at the moment. I think this is just the way she is all the time. I think it's just her.

Feels like she's toying around with my head. Or maybe she isn't, but it seems like she is (SEE, this is what i'm talking about!!).How the hell do you deal with someone like this??

This is one of those "it depends" questions.
And what it depends on is what youre willing to tolerate from someone you label your gf.
A good deal of men would have already gave this woman the boot. And whether or not she has a real mental disorder is not the primary concern. Thats for her and the doctors to sort out at some point in her life. Your job is to figure out WHY your tolerating what you are tolerating.
If its for the right reasons (a wrong reason would be "I'm staying with her because theres never a dull moment" a right reason would be "I'm staying with her because I care for her and want her to get better & be happy").
understand what you are signing up for.
I knew a girl who was severely bi-polar. She went most of her life undiagnosed. Had 2 major boyfriends who dumped her for reasons similar to the ones you mentioned. And those 2 boyfriends also became a major justification for her recent attempted suicide. Its all she talked about, how "fake" her ex's were. But she also talked about how in love she still was with her last 8 month old ex-boyfriend.
In the grip of love the answer is not always as clear as water.
You can become a trigger for some further form of self destructive behavoir on her part if you leave her. If you stay with her she may never reach that pivotal point where a life event (you dumping her) provokes a transition in her negative behavior.
So I can't answer the question for YOU.
I can however answer it for myself.
And my answer is I would have peaced out on that girl a long time ago. ANYBODY conveying the type of unstability you describe needs ALONE TIME to find themself and not suck anyone else into the chaos they create.
If its bothering you to the extent you would post a public thread asking for advice I would imagine you've long ago reached the point where you really should have left her.
And remember, its for her own good.

**Atomini** · 10-14-2007, 12:29 AM

I tolerate nothing. I just broke it off with her completely 5 hours ago and she said a bunch of shit to me that really hurt me. This time around it's even WORSE than when she dumped me a year ago! Time to dig in for some sleepless nights...

**goaheadandhitme** · 10-14-2007, 09:27 AM

favorite Quote for the day:

"Many times it's only when the dissatisfaction with the current situation becomes greater than the fear of change is true change possible."

**Atomini** · 10-14-2007, 01:06 PM

I realized something. When she said some of the shit to me last night, I was about to fvcking barf when she said that. I've been through the mill, and thats the first time ive EVER felt sick to my stomach about something someone said to me, and it came from the person i'd least expect to say something like that. Oh well, people suck. Especially when they're psychos.

**goaheadandhitme** · 10-14-2007, 05:18 PM

Originally Posted by Atomini

I realized something. When she said some of the shit to me last night, I was about to fvcking barf when she said that. I've been through the mill, and thats the first time ive EVER felt sick to my stomach about something someone said to me, and it came from the person i'd least expect to say something like that. Oh well, people suck. Especially when they're psychos.

In my experience, in that context, she was describing how SHE felt inside. When people lash out with that kind of pain, it's comming from somewhere. Do you think she was trying to hurt you, or did she just lose control of something thats there all the time? If that makes you feel anybetter.