Confidence

**legobricks** · 12-20-2007, 03:50 PM

Ok for me being serious, I still do think about my ex fiance at night or sometimes during the day wondering what she is doing. Do i miss her, kinda yeah, she was like my best friend. In 10 years if we ran into each other and wanted to get back together would i? Probably yes. Do I think its real love, Yes. Only one ive ever felt it for, felt like she was my other half. Did i want to marry her, yes but i also wanted to really experience the single life. Is she over me? Nope. She still keeps in contact with my cousin and talks about me and things that wish she could do over or see in the future. Would i go back to her now? Hell no, im having way too much fun now. and she really f*cked things up for me to even think about getting back with her now or for the next 10 years for that fact! but after that, its all good no hard feelings!

**largerthannormal** · 12-20-2007, 03:58 PM

shit my computer dont have sound here at work...i saved that link though ill check it out..hahah thanks bro..

you lego..i hear ur story..see i dont know if goin through all that drama will be worth it. i fricken hate drama..i just want everyone to be happy! sorry that was kinda gay but what ev..

**sphincter** · 12-20-2007, 09:37 PM

Originally Posted by roidattack

If you dont love her and want to spend the rest of your life with her stop wasting your time.

I agree 1000%. The purpose of a relationship is to make you feel better/happier/more content/etc. You BOTH must be getting this from the relationship and giving it in turn our there are bound to beproblems and resentments somewhere.

If you are in a relationship and are not getting out of it the above mentioned qualities BUT you are putting them in, you need to either:

A) communicate with the partner about how you feel and do so without candy-coating... information transfer is what we need, not ass-kissing candy-coated bullshit that causes more misunderstanding than you already have

or

B) Drop the relationship like the bad habit it is.

Too many people stay in a relationship because of 'time invested' in the relationship and they don't wann 'throw it away' think how much harder and worse it'll be in 2; 5; 10 years from now when you've got so much more time 'invested (wasted) on this B.S> unfulfilling relationship and maybe even have kids then too?? If the relationship isn't providing you with the basic needs that we get into relationships for, cut your losses ASAP.

Also.. communication is key and fundamental to teh succes of any relationship be it business, friendly, or intimate. If you can not openly and without comproimse express your feelings and opinions on a matter and if they can't do the same; there will be problems.

BTW I'm happily married to the most wonderful girl in the world and our communication is top notch. She goes to therapy for issues not pertaining to me and her therapist was AMAZED at our relationship. at first my GF (now wife) thought I was being mean when I expressed myself directly and openly to her but as she got used to it she came to need it and rely on it. NOW, when I hang out with girls at a bar or whatever and I tell her not to worry, she believes me and ther eare no issues. I give her the same courtesy as well.

I recently started boucnig at clubs and spend most of my time kicking game to the barflies who are sometimes cute, sometimes hot, and sometimes fukking SMOKIN! then I finish my shift and come home to my wife with no temptation whatsoever. I get everything I could need or want out of my relationship and no barfly could replace that even for a moment. My wife believes this too and has no problem with me doing this and even with me flirting wit hgirls at bars. I just don't take them to bed.

bottom line: if you're 100% happy, stick it out. If not, cut bait and run.

**qualityclrk1** · 12-21-2007, 01:24 AM

legobricks......omg i can't wait for phoenix lol hahaha, i'm supposed to be heading down tomorow (friday), but for some reason my mom called my friends up and was like "hey don't let *my name* go to phoenix yet, make him wait till after christmas" so idk wtf that means? maybe a plane ticket!?

**Titan 3** · 12-21-2007, 03:10 AM

I've been married for ten years...... As much as new ass looks good, I remind myself what a great person I have by my side. If yours is worth keeping - keep her.

RA · 12-21-2007, 07:35 AM

No, its not. If you do love/respect her then stop putting yourself in situations that make her feel uncomfortable.

Originally Posted by largerthannormal

i do most definalty! shit this is harder than it sounds!! ha yo roid attack u ever check that PM from last week i resent it! haha! thanks bro!

**legobricks** · 12-21-2007, 10:02 AM

Originally Posted by qualityclrk1

legobricks......omg i can't wait for phoenix lol hahaha, i'm supposed to be heading down tomorow (friday), but for some reason my mom called my friends up and was like "hey don't let *my name* go to phoenix yet, make him wait till after christmas" so idk wtf that means? maybe a plane ticket!?

You dont even know what your missing!

Im probably going to california next week friday tho. How long you gonna be here for?