Do i have the right to be mad?

**DSM4Life** · 12-31-2007, 05:34 AM

Going to make this long story short. I broke up with my boyfriend on Thursday. He was emotionally more into the relationship than i so it was easier for me to deal with. We been together for little over year and we do live together. I went out sat for my **ay and meet someone. The new guy i met has been texting me Sunday throughout the day. Nothing sexual just cute stuff about himself or telling me I’m cute etc. It’s like when you first meet someone and you’re in the "puppy love" stage. So anyway, Sunday night my X b/f happens to look at my phone and my messages which he has NEVER done in the past to my knowledge. After reading the messages he flips. Telling me I’m a f**king liar, that he hates me and for me to go live at this other guys house. All said out of anger. Well I walk away and let it be for the night since it was late. He on the sofa and me in the bed with wondering thoughts.

Now i understand why he would be hurt about this but at the same time i keep saying in my head WTF were you doing on my phone. I feel like saying obviously you were looking for something so don’t be pissed off when you find it. Also how the f**k are you going to disrespect me like that by totally breaking my privacy/trust like that ?!

**bossman_1986** · 12-31-2007, 05:39 AM

eeww

**gixxerboy1** · 12-31-2007, 07:49 AM

Its happened to all of us. He shouldn't have gone through your phone. And you have every right to be mad about it. but some people freak if they are loosing someone they care about and do things they normally wouldn't to figure out why. Like gonig through your phone.

I'm sorry my texts got you in trouble

**Renesis** · 12-31-2007, 08:16 AM

LOL at the last comment by Gixxer, but yeah Dsm I agree with him for the most part. He is just in a state of emotional chaos and is looking for some kind of specific reason to be. I would be pissed if my ex went through my phone as well.

**dogman69** · 12-31-2007, 08:24 AM

idk ive had thoughts and concerns of my girl cheating so i felt that i had to go through her phone all based on the way she acted and when i look through them i was right

**dogman69** · 12-31-2007, 08:28 AM

and that to me what you did is pretty much cheating it mean your not happy enough with the person that your with and you have to go out and find someone new you might as well as broke up with your bf and went out the someone new cuz the right one for you chould always feel like puppy love and you should never feel like you need it from somewhere else

so no i dont think you should be mad

**Renesis** · 12-31-2007, 08:29 AM

That still doesn't make up for the fact that you destroyed her privacy. If you believe she is cheating on you grow some balls and confront her about it. If she won't come clean and you have doubts then you should drop the relationship anyway.

**Renesis** · 12-31-2007, 08:32 AM

Um dogman since when is flirting cheating? That doesn't even make any sense. When I was dating my ex we flirted with the opposite sex it doesn't mean we were going to do anything. What DSM did was not cheating. He found someone he connected well with and broke up with his b/f before anything else happened. From the description he gives he didn't do anything physical with this guy yet so I don't see how he is cheating.

**goodcents** · 12-31-2007, 08:36 AM

Originally Posted by bossman_1986

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**goodcents** · 12-31-2007, 08:39 AM

Originally Posted by bossman_1986

eeww

There's always at least one dsm

**Renesis** · 12-31-2007, 08:45 AM

Dsm we'll kick his ass for ya

**Dukkit** · 12-31-2007, 08:53 AM

been there, done that, yes you can be mad. but you also have to realize that he is hurt. and when ppl get hurt they lose some sense. so be mad. but forgive him in the end.

**Z-Ro** · 12-31-2007, 09:23 AM

Originally Posted by DSM4Life

Going to make this long story short. I broke up with my boyfriend on Thursday. He was emotionally more into the relationship than i so it was easier for me to deal with. We been together for little over year and we do live together. I went out sat for my **ay and meet someone. The new guy i met has been texting me Sunday throughout the day. Nothing sexual just cute stuff about himself or telling me I’m cute etc. It’s like when you first meet someone and you’re in the "puppy love" stage. So anyway, Sunday night my X b/f happens to look at my phone and my messages which he has NEVER done in the past to my knowledge. After reading the messages he flips. Telling me I’m a f**king liar, that he hates me and for me to go live at this other guys house. All said out of anger. Well I walk away and let it be for the night since it was late. He on the sofa and me in the bed with wondering thoughts.

Now i understand why he would be hurt about this but at the same time i keep saying in my head WTF were you doing on my phone. I feel like saying obviously you were looking for something so don’t be pissed off when you find it. Also how the f**k are you going to disrespect me like that by totally breaking my privacy/trust like that ?!

Why did you guys seperate?

Yes, I would be angry if I broke up with a g/f and she went through my phone. Gixxer said it when he said that sometimes losing someone you like or love causes you to do things you would not normally do, its just hard to accept and you resist change in that area of your life.

**xero** · 12-31-2007, 09:43 AM

You were cheating, you got caught out, you are pissed about being caught and are now looking to detract from the real issue.

I have no idea how things work in a gay relationship, but face it, you betrayed your partner. Take the rap and move on.

**Z-Ro** · 12-31-2007, 09:45 AM

Originally Posted by xero

You were cheating, you got caught out, you are pissed about being caught and are now looking to detract from the real issue.

I have no idea how things work in a gay relationship, but face it, you betrayed your partner. Take the rap and move on.

I think he broke up and then met someone?

**Renesis** · 12-31-2007, 09:47 AM

It seems he met someone and then broke up either way it isn't cheating BECAUSE HE BROKE UP WITH HIS PARTNER.

**Dukkit** · 12-31-2007, 09:52 AM

cuz his fawking balls off!!!!

**RANA** · 12-31-2007, 10:07 AM

Originally Posted by gixxerboy1

Its happened to all of us. He shouldn't have gone through your phone. And you have every right to be mad about it. but some people freak if they are loosing someone they care about and do things they normally wouldn't to figure out why. Like gonig through your phone.

I'm sorry my texts got you in trouble

Not me, I have never had a b/f.

DSM I hope things work out for you.

**Lexed** · 12-31-2007, 10:21 AM

where are the kitty pics?

**dogman69** · 12-31-2007, 10:23 AM

Originally Posted by xero

You were cheating, you got caught out, you are pissed about being caught and are now looking to detract from the real issue.

I have no idea how things work in a gay relationship, but face it, you betrayed your partner. Take the rap and move on.

right on!!

**RANA** · 12-31-2007, 10:34 AM

Originally Posted by xero

You were cheating, you got caught out, you are pissed about being caught and are now looking to detract from the real issue.

I have no idea how things work in a gay relationship, but face it, you betrayed your partner. Take the rap and move on.

Broke up on Thurs and meet him on Saturday, where is the cheating?

**Renesis** · 12-31-2007, 10:36 AM

Ignore them.

**dogman69** · 12-31-2007, 10:45 AM

im sorry but somthing similar happend to me and it still pisses me off to this day im not trying to affend anyone

**Johny-too-small** · 12-31-2007, 11:06 AM

Originally Posted by Lexed

where are the kitty pics?

lol...youre always good for a laugh

RA · 12-31-2007, 11:43 AM

Personally I dont think its right to be messing around while your still living together.

RA · 12-31-2007, 11:44 AM

I think your more pissed than dsm

Originally Posted by goodcents

There's always at least one dsm

**briancb1** · 12-31-2007, 12:42 PM

Originally Posted by Renesis

LOL at the last comment by Gixxer, but yeah Dsm I agree with him for the most part. He is just in a state of emotional chaos and is looking for some kind of specific reason to be. I would be pissed if my ex went through my phone as well.

always leave my phone in my car on silent when I go to visit my girls. if its never there they can't look at it.

if they ask where your phone is "Its in my car, but I don't want to be bothered when I'm hangin out with you babe"

woks like a charm

**10nispro** · 12-31-2007, 12:50 PM

There was no cheating....It was a privacy thing that your X violated. You shouldn't have to, but, just erase the messages.

Hope you continue being strong minded

**Amorphic** · 12-31-2007, 12:55 PM

he was in the wrong. oh drama.

**NotSmall** · 12-31-2007, 01:12 PM

Who cares if you have "the right to be mad"? - If you're mad you're mad!

Why be mad though? - You're the dumper, he's the dumpee - ergo you won, you're the victor! Also, you have already found someone else who is making you feel good about yourself - another point for you!

He has just been dumped and is hurting and his looking at your phone may not be the right thing to do but it is perfectly understandable given the circumstances.

**Lexed** · 12-31-2007, 01:21 PM

fine ill guess ill have to do it

**Amorphic** · 12-31-2007, 01:33 PM

lol lexed, well done

**goodcents** · 12-31-2007, 05:03 PM

Originally Posted by roidattack

I think your more pissed than dsm

Actually I thought it was the frown face till after I posted

**DSM4Life** · 12-31-2007, 06:28 PM

33 post damnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn, i just got in.

I didn't cheat read the thread before you reply.

I talked to him today on the phone. I said listen, i am a little angry that you went through my phone. He quickly started making excuses saying that he was trying to turn off my phone etc etc which i quickly i shot all of them down cause they were just straight out lies. He finally broke and said i thought you cheated on me and i was so…. hurt. He said it in such a sad and sincere way I almost felt bad. I wanted to kill him with kisses !

Anyway i don't hold grudges...well i try not to. I might not be in love with him but I still love him so i can't rag on him. He is emotionally hurt and we all know that is the worst kind of pain there is so I dropped it. I just said in the future ask me and i will honestly tell you anything. We made up and life is better now.