Finding date of conception

[Amorphic]

Christ why must you bring up a valid point!

It’s just a real bad situation. I don’t want to go though the whole, I get my kid this week, you get my kid the next week. I grew up without a dad and it was tuff, really tuff when hard times were around.

She is open about the due date….Tow Truck Boy knows about it and she posted on her myspace that she is 6 ½ weeks along. He seems real happy about this, no idea why he would be stepping in line to raise my kid unless she was already riding his greasy pole then also. I know they both changed their relationship status to “In a relationship” 3 days after we split. The 3 months I spent with her, both status’ remained “single”.

I know pre-cummers has some traces of tad poles in it too. But honestly, I’ve never even came close to blowing my load in her. She just could never get me there. Only 2 times did I even get off having sex with her and both of those times I had to finish myself off as she just could not do it.

I feel like white trash, honestly.

dont get down on yourself bro

[T3/T4 GSR]

This is the kind of situation that made be go from being like you, the guy who only wore a condom once, to the guy who wears one all the time. Luckly for me it ended in an abortion as we were both teenagers at the time.

[*Admin*]

Dont be hard on yourself just deal with the situation and learn from it...

but as I stated you need to talk with her and arrange to have DNA done at birth... it is much easier and less complicated that way and you can be at peace as can she...

and while you may have never fully ejaculated in her sperm swim out all by themselves during the sex act...not only at ejaculation... this is the reason pulling out is not a full proof method...

[DSM4Life]

Dont be hard on yourself just deal with the situation and learn from it...

but as I stated you need to talk with her and arrange to have DNA done at birth... it is much easier and less complicated that way and you can be at peace as can she...

and while you may have never fully ejaculated in her sperm swim out all by themselves during the sex act...not only at ejaculation... this is the reason pulling out is not a full proof method...

Can i go on the record by saying that anyone who uses the "pull out method" and truly believes that its a safe form of contraceptive is a moron.

[J*U*icEd]

Dont be hard on yourself just deal with the situation and learn from it...

but as I stated you need to talk with her and arrange to have DNA done at birth... it is much easier and less complicated that way and you can be at peace as can she...

and while you may have never fully ejaculated in her sperm swim out all by themselves during the sex act...not only at ejaculation... this is the reason pulling out is not a full proof method...

thats one long ass lesson to learn from... 18 years to be exact.... run away run far far away!!

[J-Dogg]

This morning, honestly ,I felt the answer was tuck my tail between my legs and thank the lord this guy was willing to just be with her and take care of who’s ever kid it be.

Things did not work out between me and her, I have to be honest too, I’m spitfull because they did not because of 2 reasons:
1. I was honestly too good for her….and she knew it
2. I tried very hard to make things work and reassured her all the time, she was what I wanted

I know realize though that I really was too good for her, and things just can’t work out.

That is what makes it hard. I don’t want to make a kid if it’s mine suffer because of my selfishness. I don’t know this tow truck driver, but I know he is not a comparable man to me. He cannot offer a child what I can.

On the other hand, I don’t want to do the split custody thing. I’m a man, men don’t get custody of their kids. I’m at a huge disadvantage in the legal system when it comes to kids because I was born with a penis. I make a lot more than the 2 of them put together, and I would hate supporting the 2 of them. If I had the kid a week, she had the kid for the week, I should not have to pay her anything because I make a better living. Sometimes it seems like it’s easier to just try to forget and move on with your life, even if you are procrastinating dealing with a particular issue.

I have 3 siblings and I’ll talk to each, 2 sisters and a brother.

Big Sister: Dreading the talk…..She will tell me to man up, and she is probably right.

Little Brother: He’ll advise me to run, he is at the opposite side of the spectrum.

Little Sister: The most like me, the youngest of the kids, but she has always been able to make sense to me.

[*Admin*]

Can you talk to her and ask her "if she was sleeping with towboy when she was sleeping with you... that could help solve alot of issues...

also remember just because the baby is proven to be yours by DNA does not mean that you haft to be a part of its life ever... you can sign all rights over to them and be done with it (no support and no parental rights)and never haft to look back...

then again you sell your self short... men get custody of children everyday now if they are the better/fit parent...

understand this is a life long decision.... I think you know what the right thing to do is and what you truely want to do as well... and no its not easy... good luck

[rockinred]

jdogg,

Sounds rough... I would think twice before taking advice on children from people that don't have any....

First, if the child is yours it is a part of you in every way...hence the term, "chip off the ol block"...you really need to figure your position on where you are at with this reality...like everyone has been telling you. I know i wouldn't want another man depriving me of all the things I would like to pass on to my children and develope them as humans.

The other part that you need to come to terms with is, "if you play, you gots to pay". there are so many that think it is ok to just play and yes it is very tempting, but... in actuality it is like playing with life and death stuff... it is no joke... my brother has 3 kids 3 different ladies, and no matter how good, clean, and civilized he is living... he has problems... the kids have problems, the girls have problems, he has problems...

I will tell you that if the kid is yours, you do the right thing, the best you can and it will work out in the end... maybe not perfect, but it will work out... if you run like a deadbeat, chickenshit dad, then I guarantee you will have problems in life... besides, how many other issues will you run from.

everyone on here saying run probably doesn't even have a kid and they probably have no idea how big of a deal that is... to tell you the truth, you don't sound like the running type, because you would have already did it and would not be on here and you would also be hush hush...

Call her and ask her...maybe it turns out it is not yours... you never know... do what is right in your heart... kids are a big, big deal.. it is a part of you, how can you leave yourself stranded?? I can't.

[rockinred]

I would call her and tell her.. that you don't want to interrupt her life and relationship, cause you want to move forward in life, but you just want to clear the air about the kid being yours... Tell her you are a little concerned because if it is you would like to be a part of it however that may be.. including if she stays with tow truck dude. Be a man about it, don't let it turn bad, keep it positive. Tell her guy you are not trying to get in the way or rain on their happiness, but you want to be a man about your actions.

also, the tow truck guy might not be as good looking or talented as you in a lot of ways, but it doesn't mean he is a bad person.... If he is happy about a kid and you run away...guess what?? he is demonstrating more admirable qualities then you right there... regardless of profession... not trying to talk smack just helping you open your mind a little.

so if it amounts to it is yours, she wants to be with him, then you need to establish a good relationship with both to have a healthy environment for the kid. you will be able to communicate and do what is right and just because he has a job you don't approve, maybe he can be good to kids in other ways... never know..

chew on this stuff... but you really need to get to the bottom of it and then move on or deal with it.

[calgarian]

I was doing a girl, things did not work out. She has a new boyfriend, they live together.

The last time I did anything with her was in March, we were not real sexually active.

She is preggers now, due in December.

Mine or his?

Look Bro,

All I want to say is this. If it is your kid would you want some asshole to take care of it espacially if the women is a whore like u say. I would get a DNA test to make sure it is not sure. Children are so precious to bail out on not saying thats what you are doing. I am a father and I know how does it feel when your son come running as soon as you get into the house.

So far the serious post thats the only reason I like anal women cant get pregnant.

[J-Dogg]

This is really starting to complicate me, but you guys are right I feel like I have to contact her. This could really mess up my life, it’s the wrong girl.

I was just sitting here doing paper work, listening to music and I just started to tear up. I’m not scared to be a dad, I’m not afraid of children, I’m scared of these circumstances.

I think I’d be a great father, I’d protect my kids from anything. I work hard and could provide I’m 27 but honestly know of very few people my age that share the same wisdom as me. I had to grow up very fast in my life, and that was 10 years ago. I had to grow from being thrown on my ass at 16 to what I am today. I own a sugsesfull company while older more established companies go bankrupt and close, I continue to grow. I owe 25k on my primary house, everything I drive is paid for and I have 4 other homes I rent out (10 units). I was not born with a golden spoon in my mouth. I was born into a home full of cigarette smoke and abuse. It might be time for me to look at this as the final step to becoming a man.

I don’t want my kid around another guy, I don’t know if you guys realize it, but SO MANY little girls are molested as children. I am honestly not sure if I know of a girl that has NOT been. Both my sisters were, all my girl friends but 1 have. My prior ex never told me about it until we were breaking up. I don’t want to trust some other guy and his life style around my child. I don’t know if I would trust her to place the kid in safe hands all the time. While she is a thoughtful and adorable girl, she is not very smart.

I don’t want to try to win this girl back either though. She really was a sweet girl, thoughtful but I did everything I could for her and that was simply not enough. I waited on her hand and foot, brought her lunch to work almost every day, sat down and ate with her then continued on my 12 hour work day. I took off the days she had off to spend time with her. I made her an Easter basket, baked brownies, beef jerky, baby ruths, bee’s wax chap stick all her favorite things. I tried to give it to her Easter night but she was not home, I left it on her door step. Earlier that day I told my Ex about her because this girl was always a little jealous of my ex. I got a bread knife pulled on me. That night, she got the basket and thanked me in a myspace message…then broke it off. There is just no way I could make this girl happy. I was talking to 3 girls the first time I really met her, it was at a Christmas party. I immediately cut off all ties with other girls.

I’ve previously had a scare like this, and eventually came to terms that having a kid would be good for me. The first thing I thought was it was going to mess up my career. Having a kid to provide for though…it would give me purpose, purpose other than getting a new bike, a new hot tub, going on a vacation or blowing what I make on lavish things. At that time, I was in a stable relationship.

I currently am talking to a Ex who had moved away, was kind of getting re-attached to her some what. I’ve also met the coolest chick I’ve ever talked too. She is smart, 25% Puerto Rican, really has her shit together. I don’t know how I would explain to her I knocked up a girl 7 weeks ago. I get along with my Ex’s family also, we have a good relationship and I would hate to tell them. I guess that is not a main concern of mine, as I am the one who did it, and I have to accept explaining this to these people if it is mine.

I’m not going to do anything about it today, or tomorrow, probably not even this week. I’m going to sit back, clear my head and make a choice on what to do. Probably going to be a ruff and emotional week.

[calgarian]

This is really starting to complicate me, but you guys are right I feel like I have to contact her. This could really mess up my life, it’s the wrong girl.

I was just sitting here doing paper work, listening to music and I just started to tear up. I’m not scared to be a dad, I’m not afraid of children, I’m scared of these circumstances.

I think I’d be a great father, I’d protect my kids from anything. I work hard and could provide I’m 27 but honestly know of very few people my age that share the same wisdom as me. I had to grow up very fast in my life, and that was 10 years ago. I had to grow from being thrown on my ass at 16 to what I am today. I own a sugsesfull company while older more established companies go bankrupt and close, I continue to grow. I owe 25k on my primary house, everything I drive is paid for and I have 4 other homes I rent out (10 units). I was not born with a golden spoon in my mouth. I was born into a home full of cigarette smoke and abuse. It might be time for me to look at this as the final step to becoming a man.

I don’t want my kid around another guy, I don’t know if you guys realize it, but SO MANY little girls are molested as children. I am honestly not sure if I know of a girl that has NOT been. Both my sisters were, all my girl friends but 1 have. My prior ex never told me about it until we were breaking up. I don’t want to trust some other guy and his life style around my child. I don’t know if I would trust her to place the kid in safe hands all the time. While she is a thoughtful and adorable girl, she is not very smart.

I don’t want to try to win this girl back either though. She really was a sweet girl, thoughtful but I did everything I could for her and that was simply not enough. I waited on her hand and foot, brought her lunch to work almost every day, sat down and ate with her then continued on my 12 hour work day. I took off the days she had off to spend time with her. I made her an Easter basket, baked brownies, beef jerky, baby ruths, bee’s wax chap stick all her favorite things. I tried to give it to her Easter night but she was not home, I left it on her door step. Earlier that day I told my Ex about her because this girl was always a little jealous of my ex. I got a bread knife pulled on me. That night, she got the basket and thanked me in a myspace message…then broke it off. There is just no way I could make this girl happy. I was talking to 3 girls the first time I really met her, it was at a Christmas party. I immediately cut off all ties with other girls.

I’ve previously had a scare like this, and eventually came to terms that having a kid would be good for me. The first thing I thought was it was going to mess up my career. Having a kid to provide for though…it would give me purpose, purpose other than getting a new bike, a new hot tub, going on a vacation or blowing what I make on lavish things. At that time, I was in a stable relationship.

I currently am talking to a Ex who had moved away, was kind of getting re-attached to her some what. I’ve also met the coolest chick I’ve ever talked too. She is smart, 25% Puerto Rican, really has her shit together. I don’t know how I would explain to her I knocked up a girl 7 weeks ago. I get along with my Ex’s family also, we have a good relationship and I would hate to tell them. I guess that is not a main concern of mine, as I am the one who did it, and I have to accept explaining this to these people if it is mine.

I’m not going to do anything about it today, or tomorrow, probably not even this week. I’m going to sit back, clear my head and make a choice on what to do. Probably going to be a ruff and emotional week.

Anal sex always help

[firmechicano831]

half and half. lol