Swinger issues???

**mick86** · 07-15-2008, 09:15 PM

One word "Jealous"

I wish I could
(a) find a decent girl and that
(b) she was open to us fooling around with other women. That would make me a very happy man.

**Rugger02** · 07-15-2008, 09:55 PM

Originally Posted by TOOBAD

Just a little fyi, I spoke with the wife tonight. Basically begged and pleaded for another chance. She finally gave in and we both agreed to put the lifestyle on hold for a while, maybe forever if it makes our marriage even better. So what's next? I have made a commitment to her to be in to her like i was that girl the other night at the club. The problem is that was alcohol induced and I really am not normally like that BUT because she saw me be that way, she is expecting it from me.

I guess men are different when it comes to that siht! I can fcuk like a porno star (for real i can) but i get a very low score when it comes to being intimant and romantic. Any suggestions, should i try reading a book or something. I can not let her down again, she is an incredible girl and deserves nothing but the best.

For anyone considering this lifestyle i would strongly suggest that you realize what repercussions "could" be involved. Just something as simple as the emotional disconnection from my wife when we "played" with another couple was detrimental on its own! And it can get a lot worse than that.

Bottom line, some fantasies are better off left in the head!

Very true, I've always thought it would be sweet to have a three way with my wife and some random chick, but at the end of the day I'm not willing to risk in any way what i have with my wife. Sure the sex part would be awesome, but so would having a functional and loving family with moral and respectful children. IMO the latter is more rare and more meaningful than the former...

**CSAR** · 07-15-2008, 10:43 PM

Originally Posted by TOOBAD

i get a very low score when it comes to being intimant and romantic. Any suggestions, should i try reading a book or something.

I don't know what she likes, but off the top of my head:
1) Cook her a nice simple Italian dinner with candlelight. Let her indulge in the vino, but I'd recommend you limit your alcohol intake.
2) Give her a foot massage using warm oil or Tiger Balm.
3) Give her a hot bath with milk and rosehip oil. Don't get in with her, but rub her shoulders and kiss her neck collarbone area.
4) Cover the bed with rose petals. Don't skimp on the foreplay - take care of all of her needs.
5) Hold her and spoon when you're finished.
6) Cook her breakfast in the morning.

Basically, just show her your appreciation. Doesn't have to be fancy or expensive. Just my opinion/2 cents.

**firmechicano831** · 07-15-2008, 10:45 PM

well good look bro,

PT · 07-16-2008, 02:47 AM

i wouldnt mind swinging if my girl just sat there and watched while i was surrounded by beautiful women. actually i wouldnt mind her messing around with some hot girls either but if some guy started banging her i would probably swell both his eyes shut before breaking his neck.

**Polska** · 07-16-2008, 11:39 PM

Originally Posted by pietro75

i wouldnt mind swinging if my girl just sat there and watched while i was surrounded by beautiful women. actually i wouldnt mind he messing around with some hot girls either but if some guy started banging her i would probably swell both his eyes shut before breaking his neck.

You and 95% of the male population. lol

**BITTAPART2** · 07-17-2008, 07:09 AM

we love it, have no problems.

just fun

**Nicotine** · 07-17-2008, 07:28 AM

Originally Posted by TOOBAD

Just a little fyi, I spoke with the wife tonight. Basically begged and pleaded for another chance. She finally gave in and we both agreed to put the lifestyle on hold for a while, maybe forever if it makes our marriage even better. So what's next? I have made a commitment to her to be in to her like i was that girl the other night at the club. The problem is that was alcohol induced and I really am not normally like that BUT because she saw me be that way, she is expecting it from me.

I guess men are different when it comes to that siht! I can fcuk like a porno star (for real i can) but i get a very low score when it comes to being intimant and romantic. Any suggestions, should i try reading a book or something. I can not let her down again, she is an incredible girl and deserves nothing but the best.

For anyone considering this lifestyle i would strongly suggest that you realize what repercussions "could" be involved. Just something as simple as the emotional disconnection from my wife when we "played" with another couple was detrimental on its own! And it can get a lot worse than that.

Bottom line, some fantasies are better off left in the head!

you don't need to do HUGE things to be romantic! women love the small things.....

while watching tv, take her slippers off - rub her feet.

random kiss on the cheek.

telling her once she gets dressed up how mint she looks.

a bunch of small things = one really huge thing!

**Rugger02** · 07-18-2008, 03:24 AM

Originally Posted by Nicotine

you don't need to do HUGE things to be romantic! women love the small things.....

while watching tv, take her slippers off - rub her feet.

random kiss on the cheek.

telling her once she gets dressed up how mint she looks.

a bunch of small things = one really huge thing!

You're definately right. Plus going all out on one single romantic "favor" is basically a glorified apology. Showing she is special to you in many small ways shows a little something deeper. That you actually care and aren't just trying t opacify the situation through bribery.

**TOOBAD** · 07-21-2008, 11:42 AM

Well my first weekend of being "swinger-free" turned out to be a very nice weekend! We were really in to each other and couldn't keep our hands off one another. Maybe this is something we should have done a long time ago. We are still going to hang out with all of our swnger friends, we just are not going to participate, at least not for a while. I have no regrets about the lifestyle but I do think there comes a time when you have to either take a long break or just let it go altogether.

**playboii** · 07-21-2008, 02:07 PM

I would end any dudes life if I ever saw my wife/gf getting plowed by some other guy

**Serotonin** · 07-21-2008, 03:04 PM

Sounds to me like an insecurity issue. Now, I wasn't there and I have no idea how you were behaving or what you were saying but her response seems fairly irrational (a woman irrational?).

Talk to her about it and see how she feels about getting out of the lifestyle.

I missed your post on the end of the first page. When I was swinging I would act really into a woman if I was... I mean some couples have their kinda off the wall rules that seem silly to me but from what you said, it seems she's more jealous and maybe just needs some extra attention. Women are fickle.

**wilson9d** · 07-21-2008, 05:48 PM

I think it should be mandatory that all threads like this must have pics.

**mex83** · 07-23-2008, 09:40 AM

Originally Posted by inky-e

I don't understand this whole "bi-sexual" thing. I just don't. You're either gay or you're not. IMO

Couldn't have said it better, IMO I think that people who consider themselves bi are just people who are in the rejection phase or they just want to be in the closet. The same thing with the DL (Downe Low) guys which mainly are black guys. I mean come on guys and gals.... if you like your own sex then so be it , its 2008 we are not back in the black and white days. If you a guy and like dick or you a chick and you like ***** then so be it that is your and your uniqueness dont try to be someone you are not.

IMO about swingers, couldn't be able to do it I am way to jealous of a guy to share the person who I am with with someone else. Also enough about that double standard where guys would only want another girl to join but not another guy that is not being fair and equal in the relationship. You have to remember a relationship is about two people and both of them need to be pleased equally if not the relationship is not going to work no matter how hard you try to work things out.

**TOOBAD** · 07-23-2008, 11:35 AM

Well, if I was a girl I sure as well would be bi!! How can you look at a hot ass chick and not want to lick them all over??? A beautiful woman is a like a piece of art, you can't help but to desire it. Like my wife says, she don't want to hold hands and walk down the beach with another girl but she sure as hell wants to lick and kiss her!

Again, it is the seperation of love and sex...some people can do it, others can not.