Walking away from violence..!!

**inky-e** · 09-25-2008, 08:33 PM

I need to vent so here goes......last year I got into a sick relationship with this bitch...I am married so it was wrong from the get go...fast forward...my wife finds out!! .....WE've been married over 20 yrs.....I break it off with the bitch and my wife says we will work through it. The night I broke it off the bitch calls my wife and threatens her and says some really ****ked up shit to her. So my wife tells me to take her to where the bitch was...and I did...my wife beat the crap out of the bitch...thats it..end of story...or so I thought...before i forget I gotta tell ya that I met the bitch at an N.A meeting, I'm in recovery and thats where I go to stay clean. Now.....three weeks ago the bitch sees me at a meeting and then later she calls me..blocking her # because she knows I probably wouldn't pick it up. She goes on to tell me that she's still in love with me and that her boyfriend is too insecure, especially about me. He always asks questions about me and so on. Then she tells me she wants to get together for sex...I said no...and reminded her of how things ended and hung up. A week later I'm at another meeting and her boyfriend kinda disrespects me...at the end of these meetings the person running the meeting asks another person in the circle to close the meeting..usually with the serenity prayer...so the boyfriend points his finger at me and says..."hey you...yeah you...I don't know your name..close the meeting"....so I did...now its obvious he knows my name because he's obsessed with me thru his insecurities....so...in a form of retaliation as I walked out of the room and as I was passing by the bitch,,,I said to her..." I see you never made it to the gym"...it was a jab at her cause she's gotten fat..I know it was wrong..but I was pissed...anyway...outside she asks me what I meant..I told her to forget it it was nothing...RIGHT!!..I knew she would be affected by what I said because she's also insecure. So I'm talking to friends outside and I look in and see her telling her boyfriend what I had said..so I don't think much of it cause he's a little punk and if it came down to it ..I'd snap his neck in a minute!,..So..I get on my bike and am still kinda talking to a friend and the boyfriend comes and stands next to me and my friend , he says nothing...he had ample time to make move or say whatever ...so I start my scoot up and leave. A little while later a friend calls me and says that the boyfriend was freaking out..telling people " He doesn't know me..I'll stab him in the neck""...and the bitch was also going on and on...anyway I thought for an instant on going back and fukking him up....but I didn't. I have alot going for me and also have alot to lose. I have a nice home, great wife and two beautiful children, ans I also have my freedom. A few days pass by and I'm at another meeting and they are both there..this is a huge meeting with100 + people in an auditorium. Towards the end of the meeting...I notice her and then I notice him ..they were sitting at different ends of the front row. I immediately fixated on him like a freakin rabid pitbull...I remember myself just rocking back and forth looking at him building up my anger...I made a decision to get him! Then all of a sudden the bitch, who had noticed the way I was looking at him, goes to him and hands him her grandchild, an infant!! Motherfukker!!! She hands him a baby!! She knows I'm not gonna hit a guy with a fukkin baby in his arms! As she handed it to him she said something to him and they both looked my way. My Bro Tim Dogg was there next to me and he kept telling me it wasn't worth it, reminding me that I was surely gonna wind up in jail or worse. So Tim and another friend escorted me to my scoot and made sure I left without incident. That night I decided I was going to hit other meetings where I knew they wouldn't go...AA meetings. So for the last couple weeks I've been going to meetings at this place and have been doing great. I've been in good spirit and actually very serene. You know the saying...out of sight out of mind. So tonight I', m at the new place with Tim Dogg, just sittin there listening to the "message"..and who do you think walks in??? YUP!! The fukking bitch and the dude!! I couldn't fukking believe my eyes, she's pushing a baby stroller so I look at the stroller than my eyes catcth the person pushing it...and it was her!!!!Motherfukker!!!! And right behind her is the little fukk! As soon as he saw me.. he gets his phone and starts texting someone...I don't know who..nor do I care. But in an instant my serenity is blown and I'm in full blown anger bordering on rage! Tim says "lets get out of here"...so we leave. We're outside pretty much in disbelief of what just happened. My new found sanctuary has been disgraced by that kunt! We figured maybe someone had seen me at the new place and told her, cause I know she doesn't go to AA, she goes to NA...why was she there? My gut tells me that she is trying to bait me into hitting the guy. I spoke to my sponsor and he agreed that its a possibility that she wants to see me in jail or prison, away from my family...she IS a sick and vindictive kunt, and remember, she got a beatdown from my wife, so she may want to get even in this way. IDK , I also believe that if this guy really wanted a piece of me. he would have made his move that night that I made the comment about the fat bitch, but remember he waited till I had left to start talking shit, he kept his mouth shut when I was there. My sponsor told me that its gonna be inevitable that I'm gonna run into these people at meetings from time to time..and I shouldn't have to leave because of them, he's right, but I'm a sick angry and fukked up man, plus I'm on juice (test and tren ) and I could easily snap!! But I won't...I've decided that I'm gonna just keep doing what I'm doing, staying clean and sober...go to my meetings...and if they show up...ignore them. If he wants to get down..let him make the first move so its self defense and there will be witnesses to it. I'm also not gonna turn my back on him cause he IS an addict and not to be trusted. Anyway I'm confident in my asss kicking ability that if he were to make a move ..I'd literally kill him with my fist and feet and snap his little neck! WOW...I feel a little drained right now, but I'm home with my family and thats the most important thing in my life! I can't let other people's insanity become mine...I've had some of the most dangerous men in the world try to take me out in the past...and I've managed to stay alive and moving forward..so I'm not gonna let this insignificant little asshole take up anymore space in my head...thats it...fukkem!! Plus she told me my dick is much bigger and I fukked her 10 x better than he can!!hahahaha Its all good!

**DSM4Life** · 09-25-2008, 08:40 PM

That is so much text

**daem** · 09-25-2008, 08:45 PM

Good job on keeping the fists down.

You said it best when you said "I've got alot going for me and alot to lose". Would you rather think about how much of a loser the other guy is and laugh to yourself, or be sitting in a cell somewhere because you went to town on him?

The biggest man walks away from situations like this and appreciates his freedom.

**KingTenderloin** · 09-25-2008, 08:52 PM

wow that was a long one ..... I Agree with daem. Buddy sounds like a douche, i wouldnt bother with him. If u are sure that it would be no problem for u to rip his head off then im sure he knows that too lol so actually doing it wouldnt do anything but put u in jail. Like u said its very possible that she would love nothing more than to see ur life get fvcked up....Id steer clear of that bs....

**Older lifter** · 09-25-2008, 09:04 PM

Bide your time bro, let it all slip by for awhile.......

**warchild** · 09-25-2008, 09:04 PM

Glad to hear you kept your cool bro, i had an ex pull similar shit and try to get me arrested so i'd lose my career. I threatened her with a lawsuit and she shutup quick. Needless to say man you are doing the right thing and if that b*tch boy was going to do something he would have already. Some people are alive cause its illegal to kill them

**audis4** · 09-25-2008, 09:18 PM

good man!
walk away with both your middle fingers sky high

**Kale** · 09-25-2008, 09:31 PM

Simple. Dont take the bait but bait them into making the first move, that way whatever you do is self defense. Just keep calling the Fat Bitch a Fat Bitch I am sure that will push them over the edge.

Just make sure you think before you strike !!!! Also don't hide from them, get in there faces and show you cant be intimidated without actually striking the first blow.

**Ernst** · 09-26-2008, 01:32 AM

Get a restraining order. He told people he wanted to stab you in the throat, after all. They'll issue a temporary one until a court date at least. How much you want to bet a junkie don't show? Then it's granted. While my own solution would be much different, it sounds like you have too much to lose... wise of you to keep cool.

**CSAR** · 09-26-2008, 01:50 AM

Inky, good on you for overcoming your addiction and body transformation. I think you're a real inspiration to a lot of people on this board.

I think ErnstHatAngst has a good idea, but if memory serves correct, the burden of proof would be on you to get a restraining order against them. And it wouldn't look to good given that you had intimate relations with this woman.

The best thing you can do is document each and every encounter. Write down times, dates, locations, events, people present, etc. Print e-mail or text messages. Retain the call memory on your cellphone and any text messages she sends.

Above all, ignore them. Go to your regular meetings. Keep not only your sponsor up to date, but if there is a meeting organizer or NA charter official of any kind, inform them of the situation and ask them for assistance and guidance.

Don't let them get to you, because the minute you act out, you'll be the one who gets into trouble. Good luck and remain positive.

Come here to vent! I know people are sick of hearing me bitch about Japan, but if I didn't, I'd probably hang myself from my pull-up bar.

**JiGGaMaN** · 09-26-2008, 01:55 AM

Arent you all a bit old to be acting like this?

**DSM4Life** · 09-26-2008, 05:06 AM

Originally Posted by JiGGaMaN

Arent you all a bit old to be acting like this?

**southmadejd** · 09-27-2008, 01:00 PM

Wow Inky....you said you have had some of the most Dangerous men in the world try and take you out and you survivied.

So are you friends with Chuck Norris now or does he still want to kill you?

**warchild** · 09-27-2008, 01:12 PM

**Amorphic** · 09-27-2008, 01:37 PM

being on tren probably doesnt make the situation any easier i imagine

**J-Dogg** · 09-27-2008, 03:59 PM

Sounds like a rough situation Inky,

It’s not always easy to walk away from that kind of stuff. You don’t have to be stronger than him, be smarter than him. Walk in confident, show nothing bothers you, anything they say and do rolls off your back because you are just happy to have your family and are getting your life on track.

As you know, it’s DRAINING to be angry; you can’t get what makes you upset out of your head. Let go of it, it’s not important, you are better than them.

**FallenWyvern** · 09-27-2008, 04:24 PM

Originally Posted by inky-e

" He doesn't know me..I'll stab him in the neck""...

You need to confront this guy about that. Ask him if he said that. Talk is talk, but that is a little bit different.

**B.E.N.** · 09-27-2008, 05:28 PM

Sounds like FIGHT CLUB. Ha!

On a more serious note. Why don't you just take out an EPO on the dude Build it to the judge like you are scared, he was going to stab me...blah blah type. He would could be in the meetings then and you forget them both and move on. Then even if there is a fight somewhere you look like to victim defending yourself in court.

WIN, WIN.

**0tolerance** · 09-28-2008, 04:49 AM

im in the same situation but with my mums boyfriend, he wants to see me in jail at all costs and my mum kisses his ass too much to make him stop stirring me...

Ive held off till now only because i didnt want to lose my freedom, but with your family and life... that would make it immensely hard..
i found that making the person terrified of you will make them quiet down abit...

although i did stab my mums boyfriend a long time ago.

**stpete** · 09-28-2008, 05:35 AM

You're doing the right thing by trying to go to different meetings and staying away from them. I'd block all emails and change my phone # if i had to. They'll eventually go away, so stay cool and don't let those two get to you.

**Freakish** · 09-28-2008, 05:49 AM

kill him,skin him...wear his face to your next meeting

lol no seriously,respect to you in keeping your cool like that,i struggle with shit like that

**WARMachine** · 09-28-2008, 01:34 PM

Im proud of you big brother...

Its important not to lose your cool in those kinda situations...

I know youd smash that mofo into a pancake, but still, its not worth being locked up and away from your family...

Stay strong big dog!

**Polska** · 09-28-2008, 11:13 PM

Originally Posted by Kale

Simple. Dont take the bait but bait them into making the first move, that way whatever you do is self defense. Just keep calling the Fat Bitch a Fat Bitch I am sure that will push them over the edge.

Just make sure you think before you strike !!!! Also don't hide from them, get in there faces and show you cant be intimidated without actually striking the first blow.

I didn't read the original post but kale that girl in your avatar is out of this world.

**JiGGaMaN** · 09-28-2008, 11:38 PM

Originally Posted by J-Dogg

Sounds like a rough situation Inky,

It’s not always easy to walk away from that kind of stuff. You don’t have to be stronger than him, be smarter than him. Walk in confident, show nothing bothers you, anything they say and do rolls off your back because you are just happy to have your family and are getting your life on track.

As you know, it’s DRAINING to be angry; you can’t get what makes you upset out of your head. Let go of it, it’s not important, you are better than them.

Word. You need to be more enlightened like. Life is pretty good if you dont let anything get to you.

**Older lifter** · 09-28-2008, 11:43 PM

I didn't read the original post but kale that girl in your avatar is out of this world.

It might not be a girl!!!!!! The last one wasn't

**Bojangles69** · 09-29-2008, 12:11 AM

space bar is your buddy

**southmadejd** · 09-29-2008, 08:17 PM

Yeah Kale gets the hottest trannies on the planet. Does a tranvestite mean that they used to have a dick but got it removed and made a va jay jay or is that something else?

**zimmy** · 09-30-2008, 11:14 AM

seriously...wow. I feel your pain. I can understand how you feel like your sancuary is being pissed on. You have to keep from beating the guy. NOthing good will come of it. Ignore them, don't make eye contact, forget about them completely. Jus tshow them theat they don't mean sh*t to you. What do you care about some sicko X and her retard bf. Not worth your family, your life, your freedom or another moment of your thought. My prayers are wtih you. I am just now getting the ability to not act on my anger. HOpefully you will stay strong.

**Oki-Des** · 09-30-2008, 02:56 PM

Good job keeping your cool. But, if you insulted her in front of him, he probably does not want to fight you, but rather not look like a total wuss in front of her. Especially since he walked up to you at the first place but said nothing. Basically, your battle is still with your ex. If you call her names you are simply showing her there are still feelings, even if bad. If you want her to leave you alone you have to act indifferent to her being around. If she knows it bothers you she will be there every chance she gets. If she knows you dont give a damn, she will stop wasting her time. Good luck man and dont get thrown in jail for something from your past.

**warchild** · 09-30-2008, 02:57 PM

has anyone scene/heard from inky? he has not been here for a few days, wonder if he killed that guy?

**KingTenderloin** · 09-30-2008, 03:02 PM

Originally Posted by warchild28

has anyone scene/heard from inky? he has not been here for a few days, wonder if he killed that guy?

i was thinking the same thing yesterday

**warchild** · 09-30-2008, 03:09 PM

his myspace says he hasn't logged on since the 26th

**Dukkit** · 09-30-2008, 03:22 PM

Originally Posted by warchild28

has anyone scene/heard from inky? he has not been here for a few days, wonder if he killed that guy?

hes fine. he texted me today. hes going through some family trouble.

keep him in your thoughts and he'll be back

**Kratos** · 09-30-2008, 03:40 PM

your problem is with the bitch, not the dude. You already banged his ho and that's worse than an ass beating...you win.

Btw, I found out the hard way if you kick someone's ass real good they send you to prison and someone has to bail you out for a ridiculous sum of money. Then you have to pay medical bills. For example if someone needs a plate to fix their face. Then you have legal bills, then your fate is in the hands of the system. Since I think you have a record if I remember correctly it could be bad for you.

**rockinred** · 10-01-2008, 07:18 AM

I say beat his assss....j/k

If you really want to squash this and you are sincere... I would just approach both of them while they were with there kid and say, "look I am sorry for my immaturity of calling you names... I am trying to move on with my life and I wanted to say that we are both making changes in our life (obviously by being at AA and NA meetings) and this stuff is childish", "tell them you don't want to get inbetween them either and you wish them the best"...do this with a warm smile.

then extend your arm to her first and shake hands and then to him and shake his hands while looking him in the eye with peace and firmness. I guarantee that this will squash it and if you really can beat his ass and intimidate him, he will know by seeing it in your eye and he will be happy that this can rest in this manner and he didn't have to test himself. Part of him might just be proud and even though he will get a beat down he doesn't want to leave his girl and himself hanging like that...

don't forget when you approach them keep a warm smile of peace...

there you go brother... it really is that easy.

**rockinred** · 10-01-2008, 07:23 AM

Oh, and one other thing... if they try and get out of control...don't let it... you keep it under control... if he starts to say anything crazy...just say "look, I really don't want to go there... I am coming to keep everything cool" raise your eyes like you will hurt him but you just want to end this responsibly. then walk away before it gets out of control... and approach them by yourself... tell your boy to stay behind....

**Freakish** · 10-01-2008, 09:12 AM

Originally Posted by rockinred

I am coming to keep everything cool" raise your eyes like you will hurt him

i love the eyebrow move....its dam scary lol

**calgarian** · 10-01-2008, 10:02 AM

Holy Crap

I missed this thread altogether....Inky-e I am coming over just to give him a hand

**inky-e** · 10-03-2008, 01:01 PM

Quick update....I called the bitch and apologized for calling her fat...I reminded her that it was her boyfriend's disrespectful tone towards me that motivated me to insult her..I also told her that I can't let other peoples behavior (her BF ) influence me in a negative way. She accepted and its squashed. The truth is...I gotta keep my side of the street clean. Right now the weight of this situation has been lifted from my shoulders...I"m getting my serenity back and I'm moving on....Thanks everyone for your input and support.....FTW.......Inky

**Amorphic** · 10-03-2008, 01:02 PM

Originally Posted by inky-e

Quick update....I called the bitch and apologized for calling her fat...I reminded her that it was her boyfriend's disrespectful tone towards me that motivated me to insult her..I also told her that I can't let other peoples behavior (her BF ) influence me in a negative way. She accepted and its squashed. The truth is...I gotta keep my side of the street clean. Right now the weight of this situation has been lifted from my shoulders...I"m getting my serenity back and I'm moving on....Thanks everyone for your input and support.....FTW.......Inky

glad to hear it bro. keep it up