Why do I fall for every woman???

[mustang331]

I swear, every girl I have sex with it seems I always fall in love with them.. There have been a few where it was only sex and I was fine with it.. No emotions, no feelings.. But its rare.. I am not someone that likes to get 1 night stands.. I really wish I was, I really wish I didn't give a ****.. For example, recently I met this girl.. She's got a great head on her shoulders (attorney) and just an outgoing obnoxious nuthead like myself.. We have had the most amazing sex ever about 25 times in like 3 days.. But for once in my life I took a step back to evaluate the situation and I just know its not a good choice for me.. I would have ZERO trust for her and there are some other issues..

So, it comes down to, WTF!! I already told her I can longer do this, I told her I would still be friends with her and that I would fall for her if we continue... She gave me some BS speech that it would probably happen to her too and we should just keep having fun.. Sure I have done this enough times and then I realize she's not the girl for me by the time its to late.

I am for the first time stepping away, I have never done this, but I must admit, it still stings for some reason..

We were friends for a few months (I work with her) and then last week it was the first time we slept together..

I am a ****ing mess, lol
anyone have this problem? or can you all just **** away no problem?

[amcon]

well, the thing is you do like her, and dont like that she said the same thing back to you about not falling for each other... so, go with it!!!! and stop over thinking it... go read the book men are from mars and woman from venious... that will help -

and to answer your last question: no i dont have that prob i am not a puss - (lol - he he he ) i think i am soooooo funnny

good luck - and dont buy her a gift or say any thing stupid to her

[J-Dogg]

I'm similar, but not to that extent.

I have to break down my life into parts.

"Controlables" and "Uncontrolables"

COntrolables would be things you have 100% control over. Money, bills, working out, things that are controlled simply by your influence. You can only blame yourself for not having these in order.

Uncontrolables are things that are relationships, family, friends and such. These are things we have to accept that we do not have COMPLETE control over. We can influence them, but we don't have control over them.

If you have feelings for a girl, you can do your part, but if she does not want to be with you, that is not under your control. All you can do is keep taking care of your controlables. The uncontrolables will play a smaller role in your life, if you focus on your controlables. When everythings in order, things will work out.

If she wants to continue, and you feel for her, why not. YOu can't eliminate her as a option simply because of the way somthing worked out a past relationship.

[amcon]

I'm similar, but not to that extent.

I have to break down my life into parts.

"Controlables" and "Uncontrolables"

COntrolables would be things you have 100% control over. Money, bills, working out, things that are controlled simply by your influence. You can only blame yourself for not having these in order.

Uncontrolables are things that are relationships, family, friends and such. These are things we have to accept that we do not have COMPLETE control over. We can influence them, but we don't have control over them.

If you have feelings for a girl, you can do your part, but if she does not want to be with you, that is not under your control. All you can do is keep taking care of your controlables. The uncontrolables will play a smaller role in your life, if you focus on your controlables. When everythings in order, things will work out.

If she wants to continue, and you feel for her, why not. YOu can't eliminate her as a option simply because of the way somthing worked out a past relationship.

hey must have read the book!!!!

[J-Dogg]

hey must have read the book!!!!

Actually kinda,

I just applied my business accounting to my life.

IN your budgets, your labor, some materials and such are controlables. You can cut those expenses easy.

While things like insurance cost, and even your sales you have less control over or have to invest serious money to alter.

Its WAY easier to cut labor than increase sales.

[calgarian]

OH Crap...what going on here .... Look KIDS Lust lasts during sex if it was a one night stand and u r falling for her check ur estrogen levels. Also It kinda shows a bigger problem on ur part. I dont understand why you guys confuse lust with love. Here is the thing if u think about her and u get a hard on...its lust......

thats the best advise I Can give in 30 seconds.

[mustang331]

I'm similar, but not to that extent.

I have to break down my life into parts.

"Controlables" and "Uncontrolables"

COntrolables would be things you have 100% control over. Money, bills, working out, things that are controlled simply by your influence. You can only blame yourself for not having these in order.

Uncontrolables are things that are relationships, family, friends and such. These are things we have to accept that we do not have COMPLETE control over. We can influence them, but we don't have control over them.

If you have feelings for a girl, you can do your part, but if she does not want to be with you, that is not under your control. All you can do is keep taking care of your controlables. The uncontrolables will play a smaller role in your life, if you focus on your controlables. When everythings in order, things will work out.

If she wants to continue, and you feel for her, why not. YOu can't eliminate her as a option simply because of the way somthing worked out a past relationship.

Very well said.. She actually said the same thing back to me, in terms of falling for one another.. problem is, I am still scared, I just KNOW it will NOT be a good situation.. I don't like many things about her, but my feelings are telling me otherwise.. I wish I could just **** and thats it, but my feelings take over..

I read the book BTW too

[mustang331]

OH Crap...what going on here .... Look KIDS Lust lasts during sex if it was a one night stand and u r falling for her check ur estrogen levels. Also It kinda shows a bigger problem on ur part. I dont understand why you guys confuse lust with love. Here is the thing if u think about her and u get a hard on...its lust......

thats the best advise I Can give in 30 seconds.

hahaha, I agree, I am not saying anything about love, lol. It lust for sure, but maybe its just because I have been in a hole for the past year and finally have some humping going on.. BTW it was much more than just a one night stand, more like a one week stand haha

[D7M]

OH Crap...what going on here .... Look KIDS Lust lasts during sex if it was a one night stand and u r falling for her check ur estrogen levels. Also It kinda shows a bigger problem on ur part. I dont understand why you guys confuse lust with love. Here is the thing if u think about her and u get a hard on...its lust......

thats the best advise I Can give in 30 seconds.

Exactly! wasn't there a thread about this same kinda thing just the other day.

[amcon]

Actually kinda,

I just applied my business accounting to my life.

IN your budgets, your labor, some materials and such are controlables. You can cut those expenses easy.

While things like insurance cost, and even your sales you have less control over or have to invest serious money to alter.

Its WAY easier to cut labor than increase sales.

that is a very healthy way to look at it - dont loose you dreams though, meaning if you have a "sales" goal in mind dont settle !!!

[J-Dogg]

Very well said.. She actually said the same thing back to me, in terms of falling for one another.. problem is, I am still scared, I just KNOW it will NOT be a good situation.. I don't like many things about her, but my feelings are telling me otherwise.. I wish I could just **** and thats it, but my feelings take over..

I read the book BTW too

You are a lot like me with some of this, but I'll garantee if you are, you will find a reason to find SOMTHING wrong with EVERY girl. None will meet your standards.

Accept her for who she is, what she does and see how it goes. If things dont' work, they don't....in the mean time, keep the rest of your life under control!

[jimmyinkedup]

this is scary - it used to be you had to worry about this with women ...now its the guys falling head over heels...cant say im sorry to see the shift! *L*

[calgarian]

Exactly! wasn't there a thread about this same kinda thing just the other day.

Also love turn into pain in the ass rather quickly. Sex turn crappy as soon as u get into relationship. It doesnt take long for a "Honey" to become "that bitch". Enjoy while it lasts and make the most of it. Believe me.

[calgarian]

this is scary - it used to be you had to worry about this with women ...now its the guys falling head over heels...cant say im sorry to see the shift! *L*

Estrogen levels I tell ya.

[amcon]

this is all i know - women like strong men... and if your not fake it till you make it... you have two choices the way i see it (im not right or wrong here - however i alway followed this) looser her and act like a wimp or loose her and act like a man. next piece of advice is: i prefer the bad boy approach - they seem to expect you going to make them cry once in a while.

[Matt]

Didnt we do all this yesterday?? This board is turning all girly

[amcon]

Didnt we do all this yesterday?? This board is turning all girly

lol to many guys who never used clomid after a cycle... estrogen must have stayed high, and the natural production of test never came back.... it looks like it is an epidemic!!!!

[calgarian]

Didnt we do all this yesterday?? This board is turning all girly

lol to many guys who never used clomid after a cycle... estrogen must have stayed high, and the natural production of test never came back.... it looks like it is an epidemic!!!!

I am saying that all along

[gst528i]

FOR FKUC'S SAKE we are men.We are in love WITH GETTING OUR DI-CK'S WET. Stop confusing the that with love.

[auslifta]

You fall in love with them cause you feel so grateful that someone finally said yes to letting you stick your member in them.

[bladerunner9]

Estrogen levels I tell ya.

Humm Girls need some winny shots LOL

[BuffBuffalo]

Well just stop having sex for like a month. By the time it's over you'll forget all that moral foolishness!

[firmechicano831]

maybe because you don't get enough Puss.y.

[jimmyinkedup]

damn i thought i was in the lounge and somehow lately i keep ending up in the females only forum. Wtf???

[nickbcd]

if your going to have sex your probably going to get emotionally attached one way or another, just find one that you argue little with and stay with her.

[StoneGRMI]

damn i thought i was in the lounge and somehow lately i keep ending up in the females only forum. Wtf???

No kidding...every other thread these days are dudes asking other dudes how to ask a girl out. It's not hard.

[mustang331]

No kidding...every other thread these days are dudes asking other dudes how to ask a girl out. It's not hard.

LOL I really have no problem getting *****, its just the after affect..

I am a ****ing *****