i think gf may be cheating on me (this isnt that joke lol)

[TJ09]

That sucks sounds like she's had a rough go of it

[Bojangles69]

The girl im seeing has issues from her past, shes been in an adoptive home for about 13 years, she was taken away from her dad when she was 5or6 cuase her dad raped her many times,and also let one of his friends rape her and did something to her vagina witha knife so shes had numerous surgeries on it. i guess shes been in and out of therapy for personal reasons and i think sexual reasons too. shes never had a relationship this serious, normally she just gets used for sex so she doesnt know how to act or how to be a good gf which is too bad cause i know shes got a good heart. Well i did as was told by a few guys here, while she was napping i swiped her phone and she got a couple text messages from a certain guy she always had a crush on and had sex with once a few months ago, so i pretended to be her. definitely got some good info and i guess for the past day they have been talking about ****ing, i just pretended to be her and acted like i was all drugged up last night and couldnt remember what we were talkin about so i was like "what did we talk about last night". but im super tired so ill have to finish the update tomorrow when i can think straight.

Dude a lot of people go through shit.
I was molested for 2 years when I was a child, got hooked on all kinds of shit and wound up becoming a chemist for an organized crime syndicate. Then going to prison, trying to off myself and just one bad thing after another after another.

The problem is, although the lists vary from person to person, when you just focus on one aspect of a person life and make a list of it, it always seems more extreme without the positives to balance it out.

And honestly, till this day, I tell girls Im not relationship material (which suprisingly makes them want relationships more). I tell them I have trust and commitment issues and also have problems with flirting and cheating. I think when you are getting into a relationship you really just gotta know what you're signing up for.

But all in all man the main focus in your head right now should not be her. You gotta worry about your own well being, you gotta figure out how your gonna make it through today, and how you plan on changing things tommorow. A lot of guys here feel very bad for you, as you would for them if they were going through this.
You are not alone, and everyone agrees its not a healthy predicament to be in.

No matter what your afraid of happening when you leave her, I would just be so much more afraid of what would happen if you stay. And she may not be smart enough (like me lol) to realize maybe now is a better time for her to be in therapy then a relationship. If she can't make that descision for herself can you? Or request she goes into therapy before you ever see her again? You have a lot of things to consider guy but try and heed some direction from the general consensus in this thread. Our mission is whats going to make you happy in the long run, not this second. So please give some of what guys are saying her a try. You owe it to yourself after this shit really.

[Mooseman33]

Alright man, what u need to do is go to home depot, buy a 2x4, go out to the parking lot and break the son aof a bitch across ur head...
this girl is a train wreck in progress.u need to bounce this maniac and erase her from ur mind.

you are being played like a FOOL..and worst part, u still pay for it all..
manup bro, kick this bitch to the curb..