i think gf may be cheating on me (this isnt that joke lol)

**MMArmour** · 09-11-2009, 01:37 AM

^^^ hahahaha

**cfiler** · 09-11-2009, 02:22 AM

Time to get your phone back and get rid of her. If she was telling the truth, she would have told you right away. If her ex is depressed and cutting himself then he needs to talk to a couciler/therapist, not his ex gf. She should have been trying to get him help if he's a danger to himself.

Maybe call the police and tell them he's trying to commit suicide? They'll go kick his door down and either
a: get him the help he needs, or
b: scare the crap out of him and teach him not to text a woman if she's in a relationship.

**countrybhoy** · 09-11-2009, 02:38 AM

Originally Posted by ray0414

ok well ive been dating this girl for a few months and gotten pretty serious. yesterday i got her a phone and put it on my plan, so i have all control over it from verizon.com well i seen some texts and asked her about them and she said it was her girly friend. it was weird cuase i could tell other texts had been deleted and the texts on there sounded like from a guy. so anyways, i looked up hte number online and payed 5bux, and hte name on the phone is a woman, but she has the same last name as her ex bf,and is from the same city her exbf lives in and i told her no talking to ex bfs and she promised not to.on the website i can check text messages sent and recieved but u cant read them, it only shows the times, but since i just activated it yesterday they havent quite showed up yet on the website so i cant see how many times shes texted this number. so my question is, cuase i think ive heard before of someone using this way to catch a cheating spouse, but is there a way to have all her texts forwarded to my phone? or even get to read them? i dont know if its verizon that does the text forwarding or not but any info is appreciated.

you told her no talking to ex boyfriends lmfao . just how insecure are you .lmfao . m8 you dont need a girlfriend you need a shrink .. far to imature ,what age are you 18-19 years old

**DSM4Life** · 09-11-2009, 04:42 AM

Cut her - no pun intended...

**Cloe85** · 09-11-2009, 05:27 AM

If an x got my number from my Mom, and called and left me a message, I 'might' try to help them some BUT I would tell my husband immediately because thats something I feel he sould know about, before replying to the message.

I would not try to hide that.

Now if its someone I dont want to deal with, I'd have my husband take over and tell the person to go away.

Now if an x or a girl pal calls him, he tells me.

It goes both ways.

good luck
Chloe

**J-Dogg** · 09-11-2009, 05:34 AM

Originally Posted by Cloe85

If an x got my number from my Mom, and called and left me a message, I 'might' try to help them some BUT I would tell my husband immediately because thats something I feel he sould know about, before replying to the message.

I would not try to hide that.

Now if its someone I dont want to deal with, I'd have my husband take over and tell the person to go away.

Now if an x or a girl pal calls him, he tells me.

It goes both ways.

good luck
Chloe

Now that you bring it up, my girl friend when through my phone and saw those text messages.

**OH REALLY** · 09-11-2009, 07:48 AM

i think you should be the bigger man here..and tell her that no one should be depressed to the point of hurting them selfs....but tell her that he needs a doctor not her....and if you really love her let her tex him, but just to help him throught the hard time..if you act like the bigger man you will look more confident, stronger, and be a better man then she has ever had..because no other guy would do the same...and FYI most people on this site have a self image problem rememmber that when asking for advice....girls are different then guys they want to help people look at all the female RNs and Doctors its in her nature.....do you really think she would cheat on you after those great months you have shared with her?... i dont know her but i like to think not

**jfalco** · 09-11-2009, 09:00 AM

Get out of this relationship because you already blew it. Stop spying on your gf. Find someone you trust to date. Talk to a therapist about your trust issues. You went to a lot of trouble to track down a suspicious text for seemingly no reason and then jumped to the worst possible conclusion w/o any real evidence. If a girl did that sort of shit to me, I would dump her. Just checking her texts is the same as accusing her of being dishonest as far as I'm concerned.

**J-Dogg** · 09-11-2009, 09:08 AM

I guess I'll have to be the first guy to admit, I talk to 3 of my ex's and never tell my girl friend about it.

1 has a kid with another guy, she cut my hair yesterday. We regularly exchange text. I give her a hug when I see her, we flirt, but that's it.

the second is getting married on the 19th. Before I started seeing my girl friend, I was still sleeping with her while she was engaged.

the third I talk to if she's at the gym, give her a hug when I leave.

I've never cheated on my girl friend, and never plan too. I know she would not like it if I was talking to these girls. But my girl friend talks to her ex from time to time, and I don't mind, or bad mouth her ex's.

Am I a bad boy for not telling her?

**Dancer** · 09-11-2009, 09:55 AM

OH YOUNG OHHHHH,

Exes are exes for a reason. VERY rarely does a friendship work after you are emotionally envolved and have ties.

IF SHE IS TEXTIN HIM ALL NIGHT LONG and its just to a friend OHHHHHH BULLLLL MOFO SHIIIIIIIIIIIT...

Like Cloe said, she was just being a friend then she should have told you.

**OH REALLY** · 09-11-2009, 12:25 PM

[QUOTE=Dancer;4857616]OH YOUNG OHHHHH,

Exes are exes for a reason. VERY rarely does a friendship work after you are emotionally envolved and have ties.

IF SHE IS TEXTIN HIM ALL NIGHT LONG and its just to a friend OHHHHHH BULLLLL MOFO SHIIIIIIIIIIIT...

Like Cloe said,[B] [B]she was just being a friend then she should have told youQUOTE]

maybe she tryied telling him they did have rules and one was no talking to exes........i think she was hiding it because she was afraid of how he would act.....but he said they had rules and when there are rules in a relation ship that means some one is insecure....and has trust problems

**domeyeahaigh** · 09-11-2009, 02:15 PM

yeah dude your one dumb mother****er for believing her I swear...

"oh hes going through a lot..he cuts himself"

oh well hes a ****ing *****...maybe he does cut himself but either way shes DTF with him and probably does and will **** him again and spread her genital herpes to you from him and wajlaksjd;laskfj;asklfj

im done with this thread and never checking anymore "i htink my gf is cheating on me" threads

**OH REALLY** · 09-11-2009, 02:25 PM

some times you have to be the bigger person to win the real prize

**TJ09** · 09-11-2009, 02:47 PM

Originally Posted by ray0414

well i wrote this this morning and now its about 1am so ill give an update. turns out my suspicions were correct, the phone was registered in his moms name thats why i figured it woulda been him. i picked her up today and was checkin out her phone, i just got it for her yesterday so i was playin with it,and noticed again text messages were deleted where there should have been texts from that number and again she said it was her friend crystal, i knew she was lyin threw her teeth. well on the drive home she kinda changes her story about who the person is shes texting, says her name is crystal, i ask her last name and she says she doesnt know cause she just met her *YEA FU*KIN RIGHT!!* im not stupid so i dont buy that crap at all. so were about to pull into my driveway and she gets another text from the person so i grab the phone and i send a reply saying "OK alex" ( the name of the doosher i suspected it to be). we pull in the driveway and she bitches a lil bit and i tell her i know its him blah blah and that she should just come clean. and finally she does come clean and immediately she started crying. she claims she didnt want to tell me cause she didnt want me to freak, and that she was only texting him to try to be nice cause hes been super depressed lately and had been cutting himself (something she did in the past also so she claims she can reach out to him) and she claims his dad tried to kill himself or something the night before. but all i know is the day before which was yesterday which was the first day she had the phone, she sent out quit a bit of texts to him all night long. i finally got the log tonight and she was sending them to him pretty just about right after she'd send them to me. i do however recall her saying a few weeks ago taht the kid hadnt been doing well and was really depressed. she told me how he was hittin on her last week so i definitely dont trust the little puke. I suppose i gave her the benifit of the doubt of the story but told her that its never okay to lie and she should have explained the situation right from the get-go instead of lying and covering shit up.i just seen the text log just now when i got home and i am back to being a not-so happy camper. but basically if your gut tells you something is wrong u should listen and at least explore the posibilities. not sure what i am going to do just yet. things between us have been pretty amazing up until this point. maybe just throw the chips in the air and see where they fall.

You honestly arent believing a word she told you are you? I hope not! Smartin up and get rid of her know, you said you've only been together a couple months well it will hurt alot more after you've been with her for a couple years and you find out shes been banging her ex the hole time. Im not trying to be mean but ive kinda been there, i wish i woulda took the advice im giving you. Theres to many nice girls out there who wont be texting there ex behind your back all the time, never let a girl have a negative impact on you!

**stpete** · 09-11-2009, 04:26 PM

Relationships are built on trust and you obviously don't have any in her. And i don't think you ever will. You'll always be remembering this incident. Cut your losses and be done with her.

**Juturna** · 09-11-2009, 04:27 PM

Agree with St Pete. You can't build a house without a foundation.

**Juturna** · 09-11-2009, 04:29 PM

Well you can - but it will fall down. And then crows will peck your eyes out. And then wolves will come and eat your skin as you lie there, blind and unable to move because your wife shackled you down while she went out with Ricardo.

**ray0414** · 09-12-2009, 12:18 AM

i have such a hard time meeting girls so its hard to kick her so fast. i seem to keep catching her in little lies, yet she tells me all the things i want to hear from a girl, how much she truly loves me and how she dont know what she would do without me, we are together in all our free time and talk quite a bit, im sure she hasnt physically cheated on me. btw i am 26. the reason we discussed her not talkin to her exes is cause i know they are arsholes and the "loser" type and it was even her idea that she not talk to them anymore. relationships suck.

**thai-lan** · 09-12-2009, 01:38 AM

lol there is no such a thing called love , its all about the benefits between two people.. dont be fvcking blind , women ALWAYS LIE . get your shit back then tell her to fvck off... Do NOT let women distract you

**xnotoriousx** · 09-14-2009, 12:41 PM

Originally Posted by thai-lan

lol there is no such a thing called love , its all about the benefits between two people.. dont be fvcking blind , women ALWAYS LIE . get your shit back then tell her to fvck off... Do NOT let women distract you

How much child support have YOU been payin?? lol jk I totally agree, it takes getting done wrong by one before you get wise to it, but not all women are the same just as all men aren't so just go with your intelligence, and not your emotions and you'll end up alright. Good luck broski.

**thai-lan** · 09-14-2009, 03:15 PM

Originally Posted by xnotoriousx

How much child support have YOU been payin?? lol jk I totally agree, it takes getting done wrong by one before you get wise to it, but not all women are the same just as all men aren't so just go with your intelligence, and not your emotions and you'll end up alright. Good luck broski.

lol i dont pay for no child support atleast here in thailand or back home.... its not my fvking fault if the chick gets pregnant ,its her responsibility to take birth control pills....

**spywizard** · 09-14-2009, 03:20 PM

personally, if i have to go to that much trouble, i'll kick her to the curb.. after anal that is..

and taking her around on the swingers circuit..

that's not wife material.. that's girl friend material.. use it while ya got it..

**thai-lan** · 09-14-2009, 03:22 PM

hhaahahah exactly right !!! its their problem if they get pregnant !!!

**Dancer** · 09-14-2009, 07:55 PM

bitches

**Bojangles69** · 09-14-2009, 09:43 PM

Originally Posted by thai-lan

lol there is no such a thing called love , its all about the benefits between two people.. dont be fvcking blind , women ALWAYS LIE . get your shit back then tell her to fvck off... Do NOT let women distract you

I had to spend about 10 years of my life busting my ass with women before I realized those few facts.

A lot of people would say thats a negative way of looking at it, but its reality, and reality is what keeps us in check.
I view every single relationship I'm in, and that other people are in, as a business interaction, and thats exactly what it is.

Theres always a clear line of barter that exist between 2 people and if 1 person can barter higher with someone else you better trust and believe they will.

**CrazyHorse13** · 09-15-2009, 12:01 AM

Dude..I dated a girl once and she always seemed to be talking to guys....and I would get so mad at the guys...then one day it hit me....its not the guys fault..Its hers.....So my advice...would be.....dont forget its her fault...not his....and tell her to quit talking to him and tell him to go to the doctor.......this is bigger than any texting can do....

**CrazyHorse13** · 09-15-2009, 12:03 AM

Yeah man...leave her...start gaurding your heart now...and in further relationship....it will be tough but your better off without her....She is not the only girl in the world....

**MASTER** · 09-15-2009, 06:05 AM

Originally Posted by Bojangles69

I had to spend about 10 years of my life busting my ass with women before I realized those few facts.

A lot of people would say thats a negative way of looking at it, but its reality, and reality is what keeps us in check.
I view every single relationship I'm in, and that other people are in, as a business interaction, and thats exactly what it is.

Theres always a clear line of barter that exist between 2 people and if 1 person can barter higher with someone else you better trust and believe they will.

Yep its cynical, but exactly how it is. How many people have had a so called best friend or best friends for years, only to drift apart. It comes down to mutual benefits, it doesn't have to be direct benefits, but simply whether you enjoy the company of the other person and they fit in with your current lifestyle. We have all had a friend or girlfriend that we got along with great, but who didn't get along with anyone else in our lives, or fit into any part of our lives anymore.

As for the op, you are either a paranoid, controlling douche, or the girl has done something big in the past to make you suspect her. Sit down and talk it out properly with her, and if you arent happy with what you hear, then can her. Being in a relationship with someone you don't trust will drive you crazy and eventually you will resent each other. Don't settle, don't get comfortable, you deserve to be the relationship you want to have, and there are plenty of girls out there that im sure would fulfill that criteria.

**ray0414** · 09-16-2009, 10:19 AM

Originally Posted by MASTER

Yep its cynical, but exactly how it is. How many people have had a so called best friend or best friends for years, only to drift apart. It comes down to mutual benefits, it doesn't have to be direct benefits, but simply whether you enjoy the company of the other person and they fit in with your current lifestyle. We have all had a friend or girlfriend that we got along with great, but who didn't get along with anyone else in our lives, or fit into any part of our lives anymore.

As for the op, you are either a paranoid, controlling douche, or the girl has done something big in the past to make you suspect her. Sit down and talk it out properly with her, and if you arent happy with what you hear, then can her. Being in a relationship with someone you don't trust will drive you crazy and eventually you will resent each other. Don't settle, don't get comfortable, you deserve to be the relationship you want to have, and there are plenty of girls out there that im sure would fulfill that criteria.

i assure you i am not a douche. i have fallen very hard for this girl and she claims the same for me..yet i keep catching her in all these little lies. u guys know how i told you i got her a cell phone last wednesday, she was so happy about it cuase then we could talk all day, every day (the way we like it). well i droppped her off at hime at 315 or so, and i was waiting around for her to text me for the first time and she eventually did at 356. when i found out a couple days later she had been talkin to her ex on there i went back and checked and it turned out she had actually texted her ex first, before me, at 3:55. we have had a couple emotional breakdowns together and the first time(last saturday) she said she would do whatever it takes to keep me happy, well that hasnt exactly gone thru as she was saying. last night we had another breakdown over the phone, and after we had been arueing for a lil while, we both cried a lil bit and as she was crying she said she wasnt going to lie to me anymore, thus addmitting that she had before. today it just seemed like she was lying again, she was in class and i could see on the verizon site that she was texting all class long, but wasnt to me but i wont see who they were sent to until tomorrow. well i seen her after class and asked her how class was and she said she was bored and i said well u shoulda texted me i woulda kept you company and shes like "were not allowed to text in class i had the phone in my locker" which is total BS cuase i seen she was texting during class. i dont know why should would lie though cuase she knows i can see her logs online and knows that ive been checking. this girl is either very retarded or a very confused person, and shes going to take me down with her. she didnt bring her phone to lunch she said she forgot it in her gym locker, which we bought a lock for the locker yesterday. well she left her bookbag in my car cause im pickin her up later. and guess what i found in her bookbag? the lock we bought yesterday. my guess is she had her phone in her bra which she does sometimes and i forgot to check. the red flags are everywhere but if she wanted to break up with me she coulda done it last night. so idk man this shit is outta control.

**Kratos** · 09-16-2009, 10:31 AM

she knows you've been watching her every telephone move and she's still with you?

I assure you, you are a douche. And maybe you weren't one before you met her...she might have brought it out of you through things she has done to you. But when you're glued to the verizon site and can't wait until tomorrow to see who's she's called, the phrase healthy relationship doesn't come to mind.

get out now

**Mooseman33** · 09-16-2009, 10:33 AM

why would she break up with u, u buy her the shit she wants..
this girl is a pig man, she is lying to ur face, when u know she is.

LIFT UP UR SKIRT, GRAB UR BALLS AND KICK THIS POS TO THE CURB..

how can u as a man look at urself in mirror knowing ur living a lie, and on top of it, being made to look like a fool..
if that dont work, call cheaters..

**ray0414** · 09-16-2009, 11:11 AM

Originally Posted by Kratos

she knows you've been watching her every telephone move and she's still with you?

I assure you, you are a douche. And maybe you weren't one before you met her...she might have brought it out of you through things she has done to you. But when you're glued to the verizon site and can't wait until tomorrow to see who's she's called, the phrase healthy relationship doesn't come to mind.

get out now

i was NOT watching her phone until i started suspecting that she was lying. even when i confronted her about the number belonging to her lady friend she was still denying it for like 5 minutes til i told her how i figured it out, then she had to admit it. everything was fine til i noticed things were fishy and i investigated. i am not 1 to be fooled, had i found out she was telling the truth i would have left it at that and let it all go and probably felt bad for doing it, but since i was right i do not feel bad becuase MY emotional well-being is at stake here. Im sure alot of other guys(and girls) would do the same to protect themselves.

**Mooseman33** · 09-16-2009, 11:32 AM

Originally Posted by ray0414

i was NOT watching her phone until i started suspecting that she was lying. even when i confronted her about the number belonging to her lady friend she was still denying it for like 5 minutes til i told her how i figured it out, then she had to admit it. everything was fine til i noticed things were fishy and i investigated. i am not 1 to be fooled, had i found out she was telling the truth i would have left it at that and let it all go and probably felt bad for doing it, but since i was right i do not feel bad becuase MY emotional well-being is at stake here. Im sure alot of other guys(and girls) would do the same to protect themselves.

are u serious with that?

this girl is fooling u every which way, just imagine what happened before u where on to her..

**Kratos** · 09-16-2009, 11:58 AM

Originally Posted by ray0414

i was NOT watching her phone until i started suspecting that she was lying. even when i confronted her about the number belonging to her lady friend she was still denying it for like 5 minutes til i told her how i figured it out, then she had to admit it. everything was fine til i noticed things were fishy and i investigated. i am not 1 to be fooled, had i found out she was telling the truth i would have left it at that and let it all go and probably felt bad for doing it, but since i was right i do not feel bad becuase MY emotional well-being is at stake here. Im sure alot of other guys(and girls) would do the same to protect themselves.

dump her ass, then you won't be a fool
do you really have to catch her with a dick in her ass before you wake up?
you're in a shitty relationship with no trust and you're handling it like a stage 5 clinger. She's a ho, so she's got to go. You know over half the world's population is female, I promise you ddn't find the only one out there.

**elitepeptides** · 09-16-2009, 11:59 AM

In the meantime start looking for another hottie. Hang out with the guys and check who is single. Don't cheat, just set up the departure and arrival.

**Mooseman33** · 09-16-2009, 01:12 PM

Originally Posted by Kratos

dump her ass, then you won't be a fool
do you really have to catch her with a dick in her ass before you wake up?
you're in a shitty relationship with no trust and you're handling it like a stage 5 clinger. She's a ho, so she's got to go. You know over half the world's population is female, I promise you ddn't find the only one out there.

stage 5, thats some good sht there my friend...

**tripmachine** · 09-16-2009, 06:00 PM

TRUST is HUGE.... you don't have it with her. You need to either fix shit RIGHT AWAY to where you trust her and she's not doing shady shit by lying etc.. if you don't fix shit right away then you REALLY NEED TO GET OUT... or detach yourself from her emotionally if you can and use her up as much as you can without wasting too much time and money on her..... seriously. My ex of 6 years couldn't trust me for the last 3 years of our relationship and now it's ended and screwed... TRUST TRUST TRUST!

**skinnykenney** · 09-16-2009, 08:36 PM

Originally Posted by Nooomoto

Sit that bitch down and make her explain herself.

definately do this! Don't be a puss or beat around the bush either.and don't let her use that why would I get on your phone plan and do that when you can see all my activity excuse!!!!!!!!

**Bojangles69** · 09-16-2009, 08:44 PM

Originally Posted by Mooseman33

why would she break up with u, u buy her the shit she wants..
this girl is a pig man, she is lying to ur face, when u know she is.

LIFT UP UR SKIRT, GRAB UR BALLS AND KICK THIS POS TO THE CURB..

how can u as a man look at urself in mirror knowing ur living a lie, and on top of it, being made to look like a fool..
if that dont work, call cheaters..

lmao.

or jerry springer

**ray0414** · 09-16-2009, 09:22 PM

The girl im seeing has issues from her past, shes been in an adoptive home for about 13 years, she was taken away from her dad when she was 5or6 cuase her dad raped her many times,and also let one of his friends rape her and did something to her vagina witha knife so shes had numerous surgeries on it. i guess shes been in and out of therapy for personal reasons and i think sexual reasons too. shes never had a relationship this serious, normally she just gets used for sex so she doesnt know how to act or how to be a good gf which is too bad cause i know shes got a good heart. Well i did as was told by a few guys here, while she was napping i swiped her phone and she got a couple text messages from a certain guy she always had a crush on and had sex with once a few months ago, so i pretended to be her. definitely got some good info and i guess for the past day they have been talking about ****ing, i just pretended to be her and acted like i was all drugged up last night and couldnt remember what we were talkin about so i was like "what did we talk about last night". but im super tired so ill have to finish the update tomorrow when i can think straight.