How do you guys handle the risk of rejection

[gettingthere]

I also suffer from this, you may laugh with this person and talk for a while but will i hell go in for the kill or ask for a number or whatever, i always have to wait for them to make the move!! serious lacking in confidence

[Hazard]

I also suffer from this, you may laugh with this person and talk for a while but will i hell go in for the kill or ask for a number or whatever, i always have to wait for them to make the move!! serious lacking in confidence

I can help you with this..... works PERFECTLY!

If you are keeping her in a conversation.... then you're doing something right..... shes obviously interested enough to stick around and talk to you. You don't want to drag anything out or over stay your welcome..... so come up with a time constraint and tell her you've got something cool to do..... possibly meet a friend. This lets her know that you have other priorities and havn't dropped everything for her.....

After that..... when it's time to get the number..... pull your phone out and hand it to her at the level of her heart. She will almost always take it without question..... she'll subconsciously already give the OK to give you her number. As you do that..... say "Hey.... do me a favor..... put your number in my phone and i'll give you a call tomorrow..... blah blah blah make it up"

YOU NEVER ASK FOR A NUMBER...... you tell her to put her number in your phone as you are passing it to her at the level of her heart.....

thank me later.....

~Haz~

[Knockout_Power]

YOU NEVER ASK FOR A NUMBER...... you tell her to put her number in your phone as you are passing it to her at the level of her heart.....

thank me later.....

~Haz~

if I may add to this... do yourself a giant favor and dont have 30 names of other girls on your cell... might not give the right impression.

[Hazard]

if I may add to this... do yourself a giant favor and dont have 30 names of other girls on your cell... might not give the right impression.

I bring my work phone with 100 doctors listed in there LMFAO! you should see their face when I intentionally let them see my list.....

~Haz~

[Knockout_Power]

I bring my work phone with 100 doctors listed in there LMFAO! you should see their face when I intentionally let them see my list.....

~Haz~

I know the feeling... Im in the medical feild, half my numbers are Dr's, dentists or pharmacists

hopefully she doesnt recognise one of them as her gynocologist as well...

[Hazard]

I know the feeling... Im in the medical feild, half my numbers are Dr's, dentists or pharmacists

hopefully she doesnt recognise one of them as her gynocologist as well...

LOLOLOL

we're just pimpin LOL!

~Haz~

[Knockout_Power]

LOLOLOL

we're just pimpin LOL!

~Haz~

hopefully its working for you... nothing on this end

[Hazard]

hopefully its working for you... nothing on this end

It can't be used for pick-up..... it's like the icing on the cake. You get the number.... and let her see the list of docs on your phone when you're screwing around with it. Shes bound to ask why you have all those doctors in there..... and you glorify what you do...... LMFAO

For instance..... I sell human tissue and am presant for surgeries..... but I tell them.....

"I'm a sports medicine and orthopedic specialist..... I sell human tissue and artificial joints. It's actually a really fun job.... I love it. I get to see surgeries and assist the doctor with anything he needs help with....."

You get the idea..... LOL - works everytime

~Haz~

[Knockout_Power]

yah, not so attractive when I tell people I rebuild mouths that have been smashed in... first question is always "did you do it"?

[Hazard]

yah, not so attractive when I tell people I rebuild mouths that have been smashed in... first question is always "did you do it"?

LMFAO.... well I'd say.....

"I fix teeth for a living..... making girls look prettier every day" she'd prolly say something about her teeth..... and this is an opportune time to give her a playful neg.....

when she shows you her teeth..... look at them like you see something wrong..... she'll get concerned.... and give a playful smile and say "They're perfect"

~Haz~

[Shinalynn]

Wow guys there is ALOT of good advice! I have got to say I am a sucker for funny one liners. I myself have only hit on one guy. One drunkin day I told Tai I had this undying urge to make him mine. Two weeks later he was mine.

[Igifuno]

take em to starbucks...order for them what IGIFUNO would get.....a double skinny caramel mocha macchiado with a spritz of lemon on the lite whipped cream....theyre pants will fall right off

works like a charm.. chicks dig the vanduzzifuno cocktail.

ask iggy...hes the fag

chicks also dig gay dudes.. lol..

Seriously though bro.. its all in your confidence. Women love men with confidence and a good sense of humor. Smile at them, make them laugh, compliment them.. trust my pvssy will fall all over you. Its pretty rediculous how easy it is actually.

[MaNiCC]

Off subject has anybody read the art of seduction?

[Igifuno]

does it have pictures?

[Knockout_Power]

Off subject has anybody read the art of seduction?

no, but I bought my ex a copy of "the art of suction"... dont think it ever got read.

[Knockout_Power]

Wow guys there is ALOT of good advice! I have got to say I am a sucker for funny one liners. I myself have only hit on one guy. One drunkin day I told Tai I had this undying urge to make him mine. Two weeks later he was mine.

was he on cycle? Were pheremones flying at you from all the excess test.

[Shinalynn]

was he on cycle? Were pheremones flying at you from all the excess test.

LOL No I dont think so....but now that you mention it..

[Older lifter]

I really don't have a problem with this, i get rejected but don't really care, i don't go looking for it all the time but am open to it, if you can have a laugh you usually have fun in the sack, i just look at it for fun, i don't want to pressure or chase someone,, I don't want a relationship, just fun fun fun, women also want the same at times and alls good...... if they don't no worries......

[cherrydrpepper]

When do you guys call the girl? I am thinking not the next day but the day after that? I know if you wait too long they think you aren't that interested.

[Knockout_Power]

When do you guys call the girl? I am thinking not the next day but the day after that? I know if you wait too long they think you aren't that interested.

you know what, dont play those fuken head games on when to call someone or not... if you like her... call her the next day and thank her for a nice evening or tell her you had a great time. Dont start a relationship playing games.

[Neevor]

you know what, dont play those fuken head games on when to call someone or not... if you like her... call her the next day and thank her for a nice evening or tell her you had a great time. Dont start a relationship playing games.

x2!

If I like a chick, I'll text her the same evening I take her out. If she likes me she'll welcome it.

But lets not assume anyone is starting a relationship here lol...

[yannick35]

Rejection is never fun believe me when i was in my teens i was the king of rejection.

I felt really mad, pissed off, loss total self confidence in myself and more.

When i got older i am 38 right now, but around mid 20 i realized that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and that there is nothing we can do about it, same here, one of my friends is going to show me a girl he finds hot as hell and i will find her normal, and some times not even attractive, so if i feel that way its quite normal that women will look at me that way too.

Now i don't care because i have been with my GF for 6 years and its going great, of course i still get complement here and there but its part of the game right.

At some point i started to rebuild confidence in myself and sort of let go the physical appearance aspect, most hot chicks are total bytches, i said most not all of them, but most of the time when i got turned down is when i was going for them.

More down to earth women, the ones you can actually talk to and have a mature conversation with, without talking about how they look are the ones best suited for serious relationships, don't get me wrong i have been turned down by them too, but they have a more subtle way of doing it, and it won't drag you down thinking you are the ugliest person in the world.

[40plusnewbie]

Ok I was out all day in miami yesterday. I talked to this girl for like 2 hours in one of the government agencies i had to do business in. We were both waiting on something. She's got to be 10 years older than me but perfect latina body (I'm almost 30) and honestly totally bangable maybe even could knock one out looking at her able. I couldn't get a good feel for if she was feeling me and I pussed out, didn't get her number or offer her mine.

I hit the beach and some clubs afterwards.

I go out and this girl starts getting all on me saying how cute I am and shit and feeling my muscles "you've got pecs" hahah. She gives me her number after we talk like an hour. No luck last night but I'm hoping to bang her next weekend when im back in miami.

I start thinking about it I'm like damn how many numbers am I not getting just because im a bitch who fears rejection? So I thought I would put it out there on here so I can man the f up and get some advice on how the big boys do it.

Pay Attention. THIS is how the big boys do it:

**** PHONE NUMBERS

You know what it says to a girl when you ask her for her phone number?

It says "I want to **** you, but I haven't quite figured out how to go about it yet, give me your number and when I figure it out I will give you a call."

This is overly dramatic, and overly simplistic, I simply want to illustrate a point. You know how they say "A girl decides within the first 3 minutes of meeting a guy if she is going to **** him or not?" Well, your JOB is to figure out in 3 minutes and 1 second if she has decided to **** you or not **** you. If the answer she decides is 'no', you walk.

You need to establish rapport, trust, and she needs to feel safe or she will not be alone with you (unless she is rather unstable, in which case YOU do not want to be alone with HER). If she is with her friends your goal is to get all of her friends to like you and approve of you, this way when you move to isolate her away from her friends (you can even ask their permission if you like once you are confident they approve of you) one of the friends will not start to worry about her and come and cock block you after 10 minutes of alone time.

Once isolated you want to (after rapport and trust so she feels safe- i.e. if your alone and she says 'no' there will be NO PROBLEM AT ALL FOR HER) escalate the situation through the use of touch, pay careful attention to her responses, her body language, you don't want to push too far too fast, push a little... then pull back... push a little... then pull back.

Then take her back to her friends and entertain them all once again. Then get her out of the place and bang her.

A more sophistocated approach is to go around the bar/club chatting up different random groups of mixed couples and small groups of girls and guys and moving on rather quickly. These will serve as your 'home bases' in between the times your feeling out different chicks in the club. This way you will look like a friendly guy out having fun and making friends, not a guy on the prowl to get laid. Yout can move into a small group of girls and chat for a few then go back to one of your home bases previously established. This way you don't look like your on the hunt, you don't look desperate, and you look friendly and appealing socially.

You can do this with a few different groups of girls to get a feel for who might be good to go and also demonstrate to them the above, your friendly and not desperate. Pay attention to body language.

If a girl asks you to buy her a drink tell her "I only buy drinks for girls I"m already having sex with." Stare confidently at her and wait for her response.

Don't offer to buy a girl a drink. You know what it says to a girl when you offer to buy her a drink? It says "If I give you $7.00 will you let me talk to you for 5 minutes?"

Your better off asking the girl if you can have her drink, or asking her to get the chump standing on the other side of her to buy her a drink so that you can have the drink.

There's lots more I could say, soak that in.

[40plusnewbie]

Solution to getting over the fear of rejection:

Gather 3 male friends. Go out to a high end club where there will be a good ammt of 9's and 10's relative to standard places.

Then take turns approching the hottest girls in the club with the goal of having them blow you off in under 10 seconds. Since your goal is to get rejected, you will become desensitized to rejection after you do this enough. Sometimes you will even forget about the goal of getting rejected ASAP because the chick doesn't instantly blow you off....

It's fun to have 3 of the 4 guys make up an approach plan for the guy whose turn it is. He is instructed how to act and what to say (keep the sexual stuff, scary stuff, gross stuff OUT, your goal is NOT to SCARE them).

It gets real fun when your initial line doesn't get them to say something like "I'm here with someone, or turn around away frrom you, and you have to start winging the convo trying to get the chick to blow you off ASAP.

Something along the lines of "My friends said you probably aren't the type, but I'm a cross dresser, would you ever consider going out with a guy who likes to dress up like a woman?"

Or some bs about star trek and the klingon's or asking her how often a guy should trim his toe nails. Anything the 3 who are deciding what the guy who is up has to say/do and they also get to pick the chick. Then you all get to have a great laugh about it after you get blown off. Then the next guy is up.

Do this 100 times and you will be able to walk up to Pam Anderson, or whoever, and just start shooting the shit with her and not care at all about what she thinks. After all, they don't even know you, who cares if they blow you off?

[scorpion62]

If you spot a pretty lady from the other side of the bar wave at her to come join you. When she sits down beside you continue with "I just made you come, now it's my turn."

DSM like your style great line