How do you guys handle the risk of rejection

[cherrydrpepper]

Ok I was out all day in miami yesterday. I talked to this girl for like 2 hours in one of the government agencies i had to do business in. We were both waiting on something. She's got to be 10 years older than me but perfect latina body (I'm almost 30) and honestly totally bangable maybe even could knock one out looking at her able. I couldn't get a good feel for if she was feeling me and I pussed out, didn't get her number or offer her mine.

I hit the beach and some clubs afterwards.

I go out and this girl starts getting all on me saying how cute I am and shit and feeling my muscles "you've got pecs" hahah. She gives me her number after we talk like an hour. No luck last night but I'm hoping to bang her next weekend when im back in miami.

I start thinking about it I'm like damn how many numbers am I not getting just because im a bitch who fears rejection? So I thought I would put it out there on here so I can man the f up and get some advice on how the big boys do it.

[vanduhl]

Ok I was out all day in miami yesterday. I talked to this girl for like 2 hours in one of the government agencies i had to do business in. We were both waiting on something. She's got to be 10 years older than me but perfect latina body (I'm almost 30) and honestly totally bangable maybe even could knock one out looking at her able. I couldn't get a good feel for if she was feeling me and I pussed out, didn't get her number or offer her mine.

I hit the beach and some clubs afterwards.

I go out and this girl starts getting all on me saying how cute I am and shit and feeling my muscles "you've got pecs" hahah. She gives me her number after we talk like an hour. No luck last night but I'm hoping to bang her next weekend when im back in miami.

I start thinking about it I'm like damn how many numbers am I not getting just because im a bitch who fears rejection? So I thought I would put it out there on here so I can man the f up and get some advice on how the big boys do it.

yo, for real...no big guy talk...there have been times where i will strike up a conversation with a very good looking woman and ill get intimidated by her looks. it will be a perfect convo, laughing joking, touching....clearly flirting but i never walk away with a number. I have always been a "let them come to me" type of guy. but lately..i have gone after a couple girls ive seen on my facebook and it has worked. Honestly as i have grown up and dealt with more women and different types of personalitites and struglled with figuring out the woman's psyche....confidence is the NUMBER ONE thing you need. CONFIDENCE CONFIDENCE CONFIDENCE. I have manned up, i know what i want..and im sure all of us on this board do. We know what we want and we will stop at tnothing to get it. We have all chosen steroids because we watn muscles and we have taken these risks (big or small) to get them. Its just the same with women. you NEED to accept rejection as a part of the game...

[Hazard]

dude..... walk down the street and walk up to every woman you see and say "what do you think? Am I sexy enough for you? lets go out!"

before you laugh..... consider this..... You are almost guaranteed to not get a good response..... you will be walking into the situation KNOWING you will be rejected. After 100 women tell you to get lost..... you wont give a shit about the ones who you really try to get with.

You just hafta learn how to accept rejection. Remember this..... shes not rejecting YOU..... shes rejecting your method.....

It's not personal..... unless you're as ugly as 007.....

~Haz~

[vanduhl]

dude..... walk down the street and walk up to every woman you see and say "what do you think? Am I sexy enough for you? lets go out!"

before you laugh..... consider this..... You are almost guaranteed to not get a good response..... you will be walking into the situation KNOWING you will be rejected. After 100 women tell you to get lost..... you wont give a shit about the ones wo you really try to get with.

You just hafta learn how to accept rejection. Remember this..... shes not rejecting YOU..... shes rejecting your method.....

It's not personal..... unless you're as ugly as 007.....

~Haz~

...yeah the game hasnt even started and 007 already lost....

[Matt]

What was his name???

[Knockout_Power]

dude..... walk down the street and walk up to every woman you see and say "what do you think? Am I sexy enough for you? lets go out!"

before you laugh..... consider this..... You are almost guaranteed to not get a good response..... you will be walking into the situation KNOWING you will be rejected. After 100 women tell you to get lost..... you wont give a shit about the ones who you really try to get with.
~Haz~

this is a good point... if you throw enough shit against the wall, some gonna stick...

[Hazard]

What was his name???

Matt..... madd matt......

~Haz~

[cherrydrpepper]

yo, for real...no big guy talk...there have been times where i will strike up a conversation with a very good looking woman and ill get intimidated by her looks. it will be a perfect convo, laughing joking, touching....clearly flirting but i never walk away with a number. I have always been a "let them come to me" type of guy. but lately..i have gone after a couple girls ive seen on my facebook and it has worked. Honestly as i have grown up and dealt with more women and different types of personalitites and struglled with figuring out the woman's psyche....confidence is the NUMBER ONE thing you need. CONFIDENCE CONFIDENCE CONFIDENCE. I have manned up, i know what i want..and im sure all of us on this board do. We know what we want and we will stop at tnothing to get it. We have all chosen steroids because we watn muscles and we have taken these risks (big or small) to get them. Its just the same with women. you NEED to accept rejection as a part of the game...

Thanks this is exactly the type of advice I need. Hit me some more guys I know pretty much everybody in this section has game.

I have a friend whos a guy. When I met him he said "hey (my name) isn't afraid of nothing he's cool like that" because I get close (not too close though) to people when I talk and look them in the eye the whole time. I am trying to carry this over to women I used to have horrible body language with them but ive worked on it and its gotten 100x better. Ive also gotten much better at starting conversation its becoming where it is like talking to a friend even when I don't know them. I love it its the best feeling in the world to be able to walk right up to a woman and start talking to them with no alarm bells going off in my head.

[Matt]

Matt..... madd matt......

~Haz~

Hahaha lmao..

[Knockout_Power]

I go out and this girl starts getting all on me saying how cute I am and shit and feeling my muscles "you've got pecs" hahah. She gives me her number after we talk like an hour. No luck last night but I'm hoping to bang her next weekend when im back in miami.

take this part out of the equation when you're in initial chitchat unless she brings it up...

I could care less about rejection... in fact getting a "no" gives you a defininative on who to bother considering in the future.

Keep in mind, if she's extremely attractive and walking around alone, theres been tons of guys who have thought the same thing about approaching her and getting rejected... look at it from her point of view, shes probably starting to think she isnt attractive and probably getting a little lonely.

[Knockout_Power]

Thanks this is exactly the type of advice I need. Hit me some more guys I know pretty much everybody in this section has game.
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Are you fuken serious bro? Its called excessive amounts of free-floating test in their system.

[vanduhl]

take em to starbucks...order for them what IGIFUNO would get.....a double skinny caramel mocha macchiado with a spritz of lemon on the lite whipped cream....theyre pants will fall right off

[Knockout_Power]

take em to starbucks...order for them what IGIFUNO would get.....a double skinny caramel mocha macchiado with a spritz of lemon on the lite whipped cream....theyre pants will fall right off

sure, if they like Metro-men... do chicks really like a guy who orders a "double skinny" of anything... whatever that is...

[cherrydrpepper]

Are you fuken serious bro? Its called excessive amounts of free-floating test in their system.

hahaha yeah its great

dude..... walk down the street and walk up to every woman you see and say "what do you think? Am I sexy enough for you? lets go out!"

before you laugh..... consider this..... You are almost guaranteed to not get a good response..... you will be walking into the situation KNOWING you will be rejected. After 100 women tell you to get lost..... you wont give a shit about the ones who you really try to get with.

You just hafta learn how to accept rejection. Remember this..... shes not rejecting YOU..... shes rejecting your method.....

It's not personal..... unless you're as ugly as 007.....

~Haz~

Shes rejecting your method.. makes sense

[DSM4Life]

Best ice breaker:
"would you sit on my face?"

[vanduhl]

sure, if they like Metro-men... do chicks really like a guy who orders a "double skinny" of anything... whatever that is...

ask iggy...hes the fag

[Hazard]

Thanks this is exactly the type of advice I need. Hit me some more guys I know pretty much everybody in this section has game.

I have a friend whos a guy. When I met him he said "hey (my name) isn't afraid of nothing he's cool like that" because I get close (not too close though) to people when I talk and look them in the eye the whole time. I am trying to carry this over to women I used to have horrible body language with them but ive worked on it and its gotten 100x better. Ive also gotten much better at starting conversation its becoming where it is like talking to a friend even when I don't know them. I love it its the best feeling in the world to be able to walk right up to a woman and start talking to them with no alarm bells going off in my head.

LOL don't get too close..... and don't stare too hard into their eyes. You don't wanna scare em off.....

Theres a few ways to go about attracting/approaching females. You definately want to have some kind of "status" - walk into a club and start saying hello to people. Let everyone there see that you are a friendly guy..... it's even better if you go with a girl. When you pick out the girl you want..... make sure you're in her line of sight. Don't keep looking at her...... just be outgoing enough that her or her friends will notice you. Let her see you talking to other girls..... or a group of people that are laughing. This tells her that your liked..... you can be somewhat trusted..... and that your not some creeper whos going to throw her into your trunk.

Don't approach her right away..... NEVER walk in and scan the place and shoot right over to her table..... it's just weird. It takes time to build up a good surrounding. Spend the time..... it's worth it.

If she isn't intrigued enough to approach you..... then you must approach her. Theres a TON of things you can do here based on how you would rate her. You need to get a few books on "The game" and do some reading LOL

~Haz~

[vanduhl]

cherry, heres the best pickup line....try it.


*cherry spots unassuming sexy huge titted female and walks over*

Cherry: How much does a polar bear weigh?

Slutty Bimbo: *laughs* IDK?

Cherry: Enough to break the ice, *introduces himself*


Game Set Match LMAO

[Knockout_Power]

Best ice breaker:
"would you sit on my face?"

ok thats it... DSM is officially the man

[Hazard]

Keep in mind, if she's extremely attractive and walking around alone, theres been tons of guys who have thought the same thing about approaching her and getting rejected... look at it from her point of view, shes probably starting to think she isnt attractive and probably getting a little lonely.

Yeah..... OR..... Shes getting pissed because every guy keeps approaching her.

You can't be like every other guy..... if you want the hot girl..... you gotta be a one of a kind..... you gotta be ultra cool - but not conceited. You gotta give a shit less - but have to care just enough. You gotta be a bad boy - without being skanky or creepy.....

~Haz~

[Knockout_Power]

. Don't keep looking at her...... just be outgoing enough that her or her friends will notice you. Let her see you talking to other girls.....

all joking aside now... this has got to be the most accurate statement that could be made... even if she is not interested in you... if she see's other women are, if seems to trigger something in woman that make them want you more. I shit you not, woman dont ever seem to go for what they want, they want the admiration of their girls so they go after what the "concensus" wants.

Good one Haz

[Hazard]

cherry, heres the best pickup line....try it.


*cherry spots unassuming sexy huge titted female and walks over*

Cherry: How much does a polar bear weigh?

Slutty Bimbo: *laughs* IDK?

Cherry: Enough to break the ice, *introduces himself*


Game Set Match LMAO

You stole that from Hoagan knows best you tool..... LMFAO!

~Haz~

[vanduhl]

you stole that from hoagan knows best you tool..... Lmfao!

~haz~

lolol!!!!!!!!!

[cherrydrpepper]

all joking aside now... this has got to be the most accurate statement that could be made... even if she is not interested in you... if she see's other women are, if seems to trigger something in woman that make them want you more. I shit you not, woman dont ever seem to go for what they want, they want the admiration of their girls so they go after what the "concensus" wants.

Good one Haz

I agree haz / kp this is gold

When I was talking to the latina girl yesterday some admittedly out of my league bitch decided to join the convo purely because of whatever the f this phenomenon is

[Hazard]

LOL I pull this shit in the clubs all the time..... i've got a report with the people there now. When I walk in..... I know a TON of people. People say hello as i'm skipping the line, bouncers say hello, random guys and girls approach me and ask how i'm doing.....

I make each person I meet feel important..... this makes them remember me and like me. I'm not there to make enemies..... just friends.

The kicker is..... WOMEN SEE YOU SAYING HELLO TO BOUNCERS, OTHER GIRLS, AND BARTENDERS! They see that and instantly know that you're "someone" - you're someone who has been here before..... and you're liked enough for people to come find you. It's intriguing...... they want to know what you're about.

When the time comes.... don't fvck it up..... LOL

~Haz~

[DSM4Life]

If you spot a pretty lady from the other side of the bar wave at her to come join you. When she sits down beside you continue with "I just made you come, now it's my turn."

[Knockout_Power]

Cherry DP... can I call you that?

...the simplest thing is just to compliment them without making it sound like a pick up line... its kind of like the girl I asked out yestuday. It didnt start out as a pick up line, I just smiled and commented something along the lines of " so thats how you built a set of legs like that"... she was doing mildly heavy leg excersises. Got her talking, she responded how she feels they are her weak spot so she puts a lot of work in... insert another compliment.. get her smiling and talking about herself a little more and feelin good that someone is noticing the hard work shes putting in...

this is completely different than the usual thoughtless compliment like "so, do you workout?".. thats so lame, it only works as a pick up line when women use it on us cause we just like it when we get attention.

[Hazard]

LOLOLOL If a girl ever comments on my muscles I just say.....

"Really? wow..... thanks. I barely ever workout...." I always make sure to have on a playful smile.... just short of cocky. They smile everytime......

After that.... I feed her a compliment. Tit for tat.....

Also.... if you approach a group..... make sure to include all the friends - not just the one you're after. If you lose her friends.... you lose her..... unless you can seperate her from her friends 1st.

~Haz~

[Knockout_Power]

Also.... if you approach a group..... make sure to include all the friends - not just the one you're after. If you lose her friends.... you lose her..... unless you can seperate her from her friends 1st.

~Haz~

I keep trying, but they dont seem to be too interested in a quint-some... whatever 4 girls + me would equal.

[cherrydrpepper]

Cherry DP... can I call you that?

why not its what i think of when i see your av

[Dukkit]

I agree with everything Hazard has said.

and...

Its not all in your "game"

Its not all in your confidence

Or your pick up lines.

Or even your looks.

Its a numbers game as well. The MORE women you talk to. The more "yes's" youll get. And yeah... the more "no's" youll get.

But after you get so many yes's and bang x amount of girls... you start to just naturally get confidence and learn how to talk to girls. You learn as you live my friends. You learn what works by seeing what you did wrong last time.

More you talk to. The more you fukk.

[Matt]

Some good advice going on here, you've got to talk to her man...

I think it was last year before i went away, when i noticed this chick in the gym, man she was fvcking hot. Every time i was in there she seemed to be timing her gym sessions to be there too..

I also noticed she would often look over at me and smile and on the odd occasion she'd get on the tread mill next to mine.. I gave it alot of thought but decided i had to act so i said to myself the next time she gets on a tread mill next to me im going for it..

Sure enough the following day she's there, all smiles.. I knew this day would be the day so i cut my weight training short and got on the tread mill.. I was on it for about 20mins before she finally came over and got on the mill next to me. I was all nervous but it was either now or never, I smiled at her and said " are you ok" she said "yeah". I then said "do you fancy going for a drink sometime"??

Anyway before she could answer my girlfriend who was on the other side off me gave me a right hook to the back of the head and that was the end of that..

But at least i went for it, never saw her again...

[cherrydrpepper]

LOL 007

sound logic dukkit.. jesus fuk you have a lot of posts

[Neevor]

Anyway before she could answer my girlfriend who was on the other side off me gave me a right hook to the back of the head and that was the end of that..

But at least i went for it, never saw her again...

OMFG!! I'm laughin so hard I nearly peed! Dude that is an awesome story. Totally did not see that end coming. So funny!

Holy crap whew!

This thread is awesome by the way.

I say go for quantity. I always tell my buddies "quantity ensures quality". For about the last 5 years I have pretty much asked out anyone who even looked at me more than once (unless we are talkin at the gym or work or at my appartment complex, dont need to give myself a rep lol). I've definately humped some fatties and some double baggers but I've also humped actresses, models, strippers and even a couple porn stars, so it works out. When a hot girl rejects me I dont think to myself "gosh, she must be too good for me". I think "Gosh, she must not be into ugly guys with hot bodies." See what I'm sayin? Its not about you. Its about their preferences so if you get rejected feel better cause it wasnt about you anyway.

[Knockout_Power]

Anyway before she could answer my girlfriend who was on the other side off me gave me a right hook to the back of the head and that was the end of that..

But at least i went for it, never saw her again...

wtf bro... this story was going so good... like a fairytale happy ending...

in the words of the great M. night shyamalan... "what a twist!"

[Neevor]

why not its what i think of when i see your av

pfff! x2!

Damn it I cant even read half these threads when I'm at work for fear someone is gonna see his stupid AV and get me canned.

[Hazard]

I keep trying, but they dont seem to be too interested in a quint-some... whatever 4 girls + me would equal.

well you don't pick them all up LMFAO.....

just include them in convo..... make jokes. pick on some of the others.... playfully ofcoarse - but show just SLIGHTLY more attention to the one you want. After some solid conversation and laughter..... ask her if she'd like to go get a drink at the bar..... or maybe dance..... anything to get her alone. Then the kino and other things start.....

~Haz~

[MR-FQ320]

Ok so ladies hate cheesy chat up lines like "your like a parking ticket....you've got fine written all over you ".

just be natural as you can be,talk talk and more talk, ladies dont mind seeing a bit of nervousness it shows your not a caveman, try to make them laugh or giggle, if your struggling take the mick out of yourself they like this too( although not to the point so that you look like a total loser),they also love tales of heroism and charity stuff like saving someone from death and climbing everest for poor kids in nepal, if your feel like its workin just stay cool and suggest some kind of date like you wanna go see what/who/go whereever if its a positive answer push it a little more until you score, if she retreats then laugh it off make your excuses and leave, and just think to yourself "her loss"

[Neevor]

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[Knockout_Power]

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thats where I was going with this