Whats the best way to approach a sexy girl with an ipod on all the time at the gym?

**Knockout_Power** · 12-20-2010, 06:33 AM

Ive actually been so tunnel-visioned that I can walk to the water fountain and not even notice someone in front of me wave or say hi (when I had my iPod on)...

**D.Pump** · 12-25-2010, 02:33 AM

Originally Posted by D3m3nt3d

Shit I thought it was part of your body the whole time, I just now noticed it was asscheeks

haha me too ive literally been staring at it trying to decide if it was real person or not feel like a complete dumbass now

**phat_matt85** · 01-09-2011, 01:39 PM

So i finally got to know her few days ago, she actually started a conversation after i came up to her and broke the ice. I though everything went well. I saw her today and she waved to me with a big smile. Before i had a good chance to come up to her and talk some guy comes up to me that i just met at the gym which i have seem him talking to her few times and asks how do u know her. I just told him that i met her few days ago and right away he says "she is crazy". lol Apperently they were talking for a month and he tired hanging out with her but she would never go out with him but they text alot everyday he says. Anyways he told me she just started talking to some kid at the gym like a week ago. The guy isnt too bad looking and Im not trying to sound cocky but i think i top him by at least 3 points i also think that im build better. So now my question is, do i got for it now? or wait?...I feel like if i go for it i really have to step it up or play loose like u guys said above. Oh she is also 22 if that helps ha.

**SlimmerMe** · 01-09-2011, 01:48 PM

Happy to hear you finally met her!

the other guy said she is crazy probably to scare you away since he is threatened

Go for it. It is the only way you can find out if you actually like her beyond the fantasy. If it works out then great. If not then you can move on to the next one.

**Bojangles69** · 01-09-2011, 02:38 PM

Originally Posted by phat_matt85

So i finally got to know her few days ago, she actually started a conversation after i came up to her and broke the ice. I though everything went well. I saw her today and she waved to me with a big smile. Before i had a good chance to come up to her and talk some guy comes up to me that i just met at the gym which i have seem him talking to her few times and asks how do u know her. I just told him that i met her few days ago and right away he says "she is crazy". lol Apperently they were talking for a month and he tired hanging out with her but she would never go out with him but they text alot everyday he says. Anyways he told me she just started talking to some kid at the gym like a week ago. The guy isnt too bad looking and Im not trying to sound cocky but i think i top him by at least 3 points i also think that im build better. So now my question is, do i got for it now? or wait?...I feel like if i go for it i really have to step it up or play loose like u guys said above. Oh she is also 22 if that helps ha.

This guy is a fvcking tool.

All women are crazy in one way or another, him telling you that seems more to me like he's trying to manage competition than to actually be helpful.

Not to mention you already know she rejected him, if he fears you have potential he does not he will try to **** things up for you.
Something tells me he prob went up to her right after that and said "how do you know that guy... you know hes crazy right?"

But NO do not "go for it". Stop thinking along those lines. The second you initiate a chase dynamic with a female is the second you trigger
resistance. You ever watch a movie where you have no idea how it will end till the last second? And you're leaning on the edge of your
seat the entire movie? Woman operate under the same laws of seduction.

You should NEVER EVER EVER make a woman think at anytime that you are interested romantically. They always just need to know, and once
they do, the ending has been revealed and the movies over. Keep her on her toes. You both "step it up" but "play it loose", they are not
mutually exclusive. Step up in terms of interaction, while being sure to demonstrate you are not interested romantically. Just listen to me
when I tell you this is a win win situation. Women will say "if a guy acts disintersted I usually lose interest" but they NEVER act that way.
Keep it playful, joking, and tease her. Misinterpret what she says as her being interested in you, and keep assuring her that you're not looking
for a relationship.
All I want you to keep in mind here is a lot of times the only thing that seperates a man from the rest is that he doesn't act needy. I've
seen tons of men approach women in my personal life and 90% of them do it coming from a position of desperateness. Like begging, repeating
questions, heavy flirting, compliments, supplementing to everything they say, theres a thousand ways to do it. At the end you will find you
always have a stronger hand with her having no proof whatsover that you are invested in ****ing/dating her.

If you need research/proof on this check out the "principle of lesser interest" in dating psychology. Tons of studies have been done on this
both formally in science and I also saw in the seduction community year after year. The person who demonstrates lthe least investment, while
simultaneously displaying the most valuable assets (personality, humor, wisdom, wit, charisma, social status, success, optimism) ALWAYS comes
out a winner in the end.
Keep it friendly, show her those traits I mentioned, but never ever take on the role of persuer. You will find some of the best seducers in this
world always intuitively realized to make the women chase, and theres lot of reason why you do this.

**phat_matt85** · 01-09-2011, 04:34 PM

Funny u say that u think he came up to her and told her sh**it about me bc i saw her today and she knew i was near her but she wouldnt look at me. Anyways i like what u said in ur post. I actually do exaclty what u said here The person who demonstrates lthe least investment, while
simultaneously displaying the most valuable assets (personality, humor, wisdom, wit, charisma, social status, success, optimism) ALWAYS comes
out a winner in the end. and yes it works EVERY EVERY TIME but im having problems doing that with super super hot girls first when i meet them. Im talking to this one girls right now, just met her and already slept at her this weekend and she is totally digging me bc i do what ur saying to do. But when i talk to the girl at the gym, i found my self more serious and nervous and little shy actually. I dont know how to get over that feeling or what ever is happening to me.

**SlimmerMe** · 01-09-2011, 05:13 PM

Either listen to a man or a woman or some study or theory. Up to you. A woman wants to know the man is interested.
It all goes back to the cave. Man by nature is the hunter. And to do otherwise goes against nature. And if you do not want to hunt her then she will think you are not interested or lazy or scared or waiting for her to hunt you. Any and all of those scenarios will not make her feel good about herself.

I have yet to hunt a man. And anytime I have come close, I have felt so bad about myself knowing it was not right in my gut. I know what it feels like to have a man want me and me only so if I have to hunt him? Forget it. It is tempting I admit. But way way way back in the back of my mind and every single female that I personally know thinks this: if a man is interested he will hunt and make it very clear. So if the guy does not want to hunt us? We know it is a matter of time before he will hunt what he wants and leave the huntress in the dust.

Now maybe what I call "hunt" and what others call "hunt" are 2 different things. I am not talking about prowling and stalking nor begging or making a complete fool out of yourself. I am talking about manning up and making no bones about your interest in a female with CONFIDENCE. A man who knows what he wants and goes after it is an aphrodisiac. Pure and simple.

Did Romeo hesitate?
What about Mark Antony? do you think he dilly dallied around with Cleopatra and made her chase him? not for a second.
or Lancelot? He was bold and broke up a marriage he hunted so much.

Now also know this: there is a big difference with a guy wanting to get laid and falling in love. I am talking about the falling in love part. Not getting laid. If that is your goal, you are on your own. Listen to the guys. I cannot help you out there. Not my territory nor my language.

**MACHINE5150** · 01-09-2011, 05:48 PM

Originally Posted by SlimmerMe

Either listen to a man or a woman or some study or theory. Up to you. A woman wants to know the man is interested.
It all goes back to the cave. Man by nature is the hunter. And to do otherwise goes against nature. And if you do not want to hunt her then she will think you are not interested or lazy or scared or waiting for her to hunt you. Any and all of those scenarios will not make her feel good about herself.

I have yet to hunt a man. And anytime I have come close, I have felt so bad about myself knowing it was not right in my gut. I know what it feels like to have a man want me and me only so if I have to hunt him? Forget it. It is tempting I admit. But way way way back in the back of my mind and every single female that I personally know thinks this: if a man is interested he will hunt and make it very clear. So if the guy does not want to hunt us? We know it is a matter of time before he will hunt what he wants and leave the huntress in the dust.

Now maybe what I call "hunt" and what others call "hunt" are 2 different things. I am not talking about prowling and stalking nor begging or making a complete fool out of yourself. I am talking about manning up and making no bones about your interest in a female with CONFIDENCE. A man who knows what he wants and goes after it is an aphrodisiac. Pure and simple.

Did Romeo hesitate?
What about Mark Antony? do you think he dilly dallied around with Cleopatra and made her chase him? not for a second.
or Lancelot? He was bold and broke up a marriage he hunted so much.

Now also know this: there is a big difference with a guy wanting to get laid and falling in love. I am talking about the falling in love part. Not getting laid. If that is your goal, you are on your own. Listen to the guys. I cannot help you out there. Not my territory nor my language.

^^^This is really good advice.. women like the cocky guy.. but not the cocky guy who is full of himself.

**SlimmerMe** · 01-09-2011, 05:51 PM

Originally Posted by MACHINE5150

^^^This is really good advice.. women like the cocky guy.. but not the cocky guy who is full of himself.

Exactly and to the point. Thanks.

**paulzane** · 01-10-2011, 09:54 AM

phatt matt15 ...... You sound like a spotty faced 15 year old who still hasn't got any pubes yet FFS!

**calgarian** · 01-10-2011, 10:08 AM

Originally Posted by phat_matt85

So i finally got to know her few days ago, she actually started a conversation after i came up to her and broke the ice. I though everything went well. I saw her today and she waved to me with a big smile. Before i had a good chance to come up to her and talk some guy comes up to me that i just met at the gym which i have seem him talking to her few times and asks how do u know her. I just told him that i met her few days ago and right away he says "she is crazy". lol Apperently they were talking for a month and he tired hanging out with her but she would never go out with him but they text alot everyday he says. Anyways he told me she just started talking to some kid at the gym like a week ago. The guy isnt too bad looking and Im not trying to sound cocky but i think i top him by at least 3 points i also think that im build better. So now my question is, do i got for it now? or wait?...I feel like if i go for it i really have to step it up or play loose like u guys said above. Oh she is also 22 if that helps ha.

where am I freaking high school????? do not confuse cocky with confident.....if u need more advise join stack_it , Calgarians' "hooking up for dummies" club.

**SlimmerMe** · 01-10-2011, 11:08 AM

Originally Posted by calgarian

where am I freaking high school????? do not confuse cocky with confident.....if u need more advise join stack_it , Calgarians' "hooking up for dummies" club.

True.....very true. We like strong inner confidence. Not cocky can't back it up big talk. And I am not saying you are cocky. This is just the difference.

**phat_matt85** · 01-10-2011, 12:08 PM

Ha!! yeah for real dude i know i DO! I dunno whats up with that bc i never had a prob getting the girl i want plus im running test right now and that usually jacks my confidence out the roof. But good one bro i needed that wake up call!