Pretty Sure My Wife is Leaving Me...

[Bojangles69]

She might suffer of a behavioural disorder, which is easy to develop during one's youth and hard to figure out; but from the way you describe her actions and related emotions...

From your words, your relationship has been like that since the beginning so if it is something related to a behavioural psychology disorder, it does not depend on you.

If I were you a would see a psychiatrist, not a counselor.

Good Luck.

You don't go to a psychiatrist http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rosenhan_experiment
Most psychiatrists don't know shit about the mind and behavoir. They spend all their time learning chemicals.
A psychologist knows way more about behavoir and emotion trust me. Most psychiatrists are idiots and
and the majority of them overprescribe, this is a know fact.

[clemont51]

You will find a replacement for her. The next one is always better. Go for brains,
talent, high earnings potential, attractiveness. Go on the singles sites, more females then a 3-peckered billygoat can handle.

[ReX357]

Yes, that's good advice: slap the taste out of her mouth and tell her to get back in the kitchen-- that's what all women want to hear from their men. Maybe a black eye will get you a blowjob, too! This guy's probably dripping in p-ssy... Ha, ha, ha!

That is definitely not the solution here.

First, he will never be able to tip the power balance back his way. She has the upperhand in the relationship and unfortunately once a woman has had the power on her side, the respect for her man will never go back to what it was when they met. The guy bends to her will, tries to fix everything and she knows that no matter how crazy she acts he will always put up with it. The relationship is doomed and that's the reality of it. Couples are rarely ever able to change the patterns in their relationship when they're that deep in trouble already.

I'm sorry buddy, but you need to end this.

Now, to explain my previous post, what I meant is that 60 years ago, the relationship would of never got to that point. Men would never have conversations about their wives being crazy or threatening to leave. The reality of it is that as soon as a woman would get out of line the guy would put her back in her place with whatever means were needed. And guess what, women respected their men. Once again, not talking about giving her a senseless beating for not having supper ready on time. That's spousal abuse.

If we were to apply these principles nowadays, if any kind of female unfounded female craziness were to happen, you'd simply end the argument very quickly with something like: "I don't have time for your stupid sh*t. You're not happy you know where the door is". In negotiations, the person who has the power is the person that is willing to walk away from the deal. Do not yell when using a sentence such as that one. It will show emotional involvement and that's what they thrive on to keep arguments going. Remember this is not the way to deal with legitimate problems in the relationship but it is the way to deal with the button pushing part of having a woman in your life. Women not putting out? Go find it somewhere else. Or at least make believe that you can. When love is not enough, fear works pretty good. This has to happen from the start of the relationship as soon as the woman starts trying to pull bullsh*t and tries to push buttons. Guess what? It won't be very long before she realizes that you're not the kinda guy she can push around, you're not a doormat like the 20 previous guys she had.

I've been told many times by female friends they'll start arguments out of boredom. When things are going to good, they need something to make their lives interesting. Unfortunately a good part of women are like that. To help with that, the next woman you find should have hobbies of her own to keep her occupied.

I could go on and on, but I think everyone get the point.

[HitIt]

OP here's a novel idea...You leave her.

[D3m3nt3d]

That is definitely not the solution here.

First, he will never be able to tip the power balance back his way. She has the upperhand in the relationship and unfortunately once a woman has had the power on her side, the respect for her man will never go back to what it was when they met. The guy bends to her will, tries to fix everything and she knows that no matter how crazy she acts he will always put up with it. The relationship is doomed and that's the reality of it. Couples are rarely ever able to change the patterns in their relationship when they're that deep in trouble already.

I'm sorry buddy, but you need to end this.

Now, to explain my previous post, what I meant is that 60 years ago, the relationship would of never got to that point. Men would never have conversations about their wives being crazy or threatening to leave. The reality of it is that as soon as a woman would get out of line the guy would put her back in her place with whatever means were needed. And guess what, women respected their men. Once again, not talking about giving her a senseless beating for not having supper ready on time. That's spousal abuse.

If we were to apply these principles nowadays, if any kind of female unfounded female craziness were to happen, you'd simply end the argument very quickly with something like: "I don't have time for your stupid sh*t. You're not happy you know where the door is". In negotiations, the person who has the power is the person that is willing to walk away from the deal. Do not yell when using a sentence such as that one. It will show emotional involvement and that's what they thrive on to keep arguments going. Remember this is not the way to deal with legitimate problems in the relationship but it is the way to deal with the button pushing part of having a woman in your life. Women not putting out? Go find it somewhere else. Or at least make believe that you can. When love is not enough, fear works pretty good. This has to happen from the start of the relationship as soon as the woman starts trying to pull bullsh*t and tries to push buttons. Guess what? It won't be very long before she realizes that you're not the kinda guy she can push around, you're not a doormat like the 20 previous guys she had.

I've been told many times by female friends they'll start arguments out of boredom. When things are going to good, they need something to make their lives interesting. Unfortunately a good part of women are like that. To help with that, the next woman you find should have hobbies of her own to keep her occupied.

I could go on and on, but I think everyone get the point.

You are the master.

[Hoggage_54]

Now, to explain my previous post, what I meant is that 60 years ago, the relationship would of never got to that point. Men would never have conversations about their wives being crazy or threatening to leave. The reality of it is that as soon as a woman would get out of line the guy would put her back in her place with whatever means were needed.

The good ol' days...

[bigslick7878]

Isn't this chick pretty young or do I have you mixed up with someone else Lawman?

[layeazy]

ReX357 makes alot of great points in the sense u have no power shes knows that u know that she can leave at any moment and be ok and you cant. Theres the issue you need to stop masking your feeling with the booze and sit down by yourself and evalute your whole situation the pros and cons and the sooner you make your decision the sooner u can move on but booze late nights doing nothing will not help its down to you to just be man and sort the issue out asap and over time it will heal up....

[calgarian]

wow arent we all dr phil's here...just wow.

[DSM4Life]

That is definitely not the solution here.

First, he will never be able to tip the power balance back his way. She has the upperhand in the relationship and unfortunately once a woman has had the power on her side, the respect for her man will never go back to what it was when they met. The guy bends to her will, tries to fix everything and she knows that no matter how crazy she acts he will always put up with it. The relationship is doomed and that's the reality of it. Couples are rarely ever able to change the patterns in their relationship when they're that deep in trouble already.

I'm sorry buddy, but you need to end this.

Now, to explain my previous post, what I meant is that 60 years ago, the relationship would of never got to that point. Men would never have conversations about their wives being crazy or threatening to leave. The reality of it is that as soon as a woman would get out of line the guy would put her back in her place with whatever means were needed. And guess what, women respected their men. Once again, not talking about giving her a senseless beating for not having supper ready on time. That's spousal abuse.

If we were to apply these principles nowadays, if any kind of female unfounded female craziness were to happen, you'd simply end the argument very quickly with something like: "I don't have time for your stupid sh*t. You're not happy you know where the door is". In negotiations, the person who has the power is the person that is willing to walk away from the deal. Do not yell when using a sentence such as that one. It will show emotional involvement and that's what they thrive on to keep arguments going. Remember this is not the way to deal with legitimate problems in the relationship but it is the way to deal with the button pushing part of having a woman in your life. Women not putting out? Go find it somewhere else. Or at least make believe that you can. When love is not enough, fear works pretty good. This has to happen from the start of the relationship as soon as the woman starts trying to pull bullsh*t and tries to push buttons. Guess what? It won't be very long before she realizes that you're not the kinda guy she can push around, you're not a doormat like the 20 previous guys she had.

I've been told many times by female friends they'll start arguments out of boredom. When things are going to good, they need something to make their lives interesting. Unfortunately a good part of women are like that. To help with that, the next woman you find should have hobbies of her own to keep her occupied.

I could go on and on, but I think everyone get the point.

Your going to really make a women happy some day

[ReX357]

Your going to really make a women happy some day

NOT! Hahaha.

Seriously tho, I have a girlfriend that seems pretty content. She makes me pretty happy and rarely does anything to push my buttons on purpose. Everything was made clear from the start with her tho. And I stuck to my ways throughout the entire time. It's working very well for me. And seems to be working for her as well.

[BJJ]

Yes, that's good advice: slap the taste out of her mouth and tell her to get back in the kitchen-- that's what all women want to hear from their men. Maybe a black eye will get you a blowjob, too! This guy's probably dripping in p-ssy... Ha, ha, ha!

Marvellous!

[terraj]

NOT! Hahaha.

Seriously tho, I have a girlfriend that seems pretty content. She makes me pretty happy and rarely does anything to push my buttons on purpose. Everything was made clear from the start with her tho. And I stuck to my ways throughout the entire time. It's working very well for me. And seems to be working for her as well.

Do you play a banjo by chance?

[BJJ]

You don't go to a psychiatrist http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rosenhan_experiment
Most psychiatrists don't know shit about the mind and behavoir. They spend all their time learning chemicals.
A psychologist knows way more about behavoir and emotion trust me. Most psychiatrists are idiots and
and the majority of them overprescribe, this is a know fact.

I speak from personal experience. Perhaps we had different ones.

A behavioural psychology disorder does not necessarily mean that a person needs to be cured with drugs.

This is the reason for a psychotherapeutic support, which can only be given by a psychiatrist.

The knowledge of a psychologist is limited.

[D7M]

That is definitely not the solution here.

First, he will never be able to tip the power balance back his way. She has the upperhand in the relationship and unfortunately once a woman has had the power on her side, the respect for her man will never go back to what it was when they met. The guy bends to her will, tries to fix everything and she knows that no matter how crazy she acts he will always put up with it. The relationship is doomed and that's the reality of it. Couples are rarely ever able to change the patterns in their relationship when they're that deep in trouble already.

I'm sorry buddy, but you need to end this.

Now, to explain my previous post, what I meant is that 60 years ago, the relationship would of never got to that point. Men would never have conversations about their wives being crazy or threatening to leave. The reality of it is that as soon as a woman would get out of line the guy would put her back in her place with whatever means were needed. And guess what, women respected their men. Once again, not talking about giving her a senseless beating for not having supper ready on time. That's spousal abuse.

If we were to apply these principles nowadays, if any kind of female unfounded female craziness were to happen, you'd simply end the argument very quickly with something like: "I don't have time for your stupid sh*t. You're not happy you know where the door is". In negotiations, the person who has the power is the person that is willing to walk away from the deal. Do not yell when using a sentence such as that one. It will show emotional involvement and that's what they thrive on to keep arguments going. Remember this is not the way to deal with legitimate problems in the relationship but it is the way to deal with the button pushing part of having a woman in your life. Women not putting out? Go find it somewhere else. Or at least make believe that you can. When love is not enough, fear works pretty good. This has to happen from the start of the relationship as soon as the woman starts trying to pull bullsh*t and tries to push buttons. Guess what? It won't be very long before she realizes that you're not the kinda guy she can push around, you're not a doormat like the 20 previous guys she had.

I've been told many times by female friends they'll start arguments out of boredom. When things are going to good, they need something to make their lives interesting. Unfortunately a good part of women are like that. To help with that, the next woman you find should have hobbies of her own to keep her occupied.

I could go on and on, but I think everyone get the point.

Rex is dead on.

Women want men to be MEN.

Of course you don't have to hit a woman to be a man.

But society has emasculated men so much, most men don't know how to do it, and when they hear it (ie, from Rex) they think it's horrible and backwards.

[terraj]

Rex is dead on.

Women want men to be MEN.

Of course you don't have to hit a woman to be a man.

But society has emasculated men so much, most men don't know how to do it, and when they hear it (ie, from Rex) they think it's horrible and backwards.

Wow, you guys are so off center it is crazy.

Talk of tipping the balance of power back to yourself?? Balance is the word! Not Power....

As I have said proir....pick the girl a bit more carefully and you wont have some head**** to deal with.

60 years ago? FYI, married women were not working then.

[BJJ]

It is all about RESPECT.

Without of it, no relationship can take place.

[LawMan018]

Sorry for the late reply again, Holiday work hours are even longer and killing me... So again things have calmed down a bit... I've recently learned of something quite serious that has come to light in her personal life, dealing with her Father. Not to get into details, he's a a really good man but has an addiction and is in a heap of trouble right now so this could be a cause of some of the behavior... Although it's not an excuse. I'm going to force the counselor thing on her once things have calmed down even more so and we'll go from there... To answer some of your questions I have slept on the couch a few times haha, but I've also made her sleep on it too (payback). She's not "real" young, she's actually a day younger than me and I just turned 23. I personally never thought I'd get married this young, 25-26 was the range I was aiming for but oh well... things happen.

[DSM4Life]

Wow, you two are VERY young. I am guessing this is your first love ? It gets a lot easier after the first one.

[ReX357]

Do you play a banjo by chance?

No I don't. I'm a city guy. I get the joke tho lol.

[JohnnyVegas]

My dad always told me a man shouldn't be allowed to own a motorcycle or get married until they are 25. I got my motorcycle at 18 and got married at 21. I crashed both and don't have either one any more. Second wife is awesome...and I agree with above that is about mutual respect.

[ReX357]

Wow, you guys are so off center it is crazy.

Talk of tipping the balance of power back to yourself?? Balance is the word! Not Power....

As I have said proir....pick the girl a bit more carefully and you wont have some head**** to deal with.

60 years ago? FYI, married women were not working then.

Married women worked. They just worked the house. Took care of children, made sure everything was nice and clean for when their men came home, had a nice supper ready. I know it doesn't sound like a job but stay at home mom's work really hard. I think that credit has to be given there. My mom was a stay at home mom and it's a 24 hours a day job.

[terraj]

Married women worked. They just worked the house. Took care of children, made sure everything was nice and clean for when their men came home, had a nice supper ready. I know it doesn't sound like a job but stay at home mom's work really hard. I think that credit has to be given there. My mom was a stay at home mom and it's a 24 hours a day job.

My meaning was that they were unable to support themselves 60 years ago.

[ReX357]

My meaning was that they were unable to support themselves 60 years ago.

OK, so what's your point?

[Panzerfaust]

Considering I remember your history I cannot say I am shocked by such news. Also, this might be the time to do that gay nude modeling you wanted to do. That's right buddy 'ol pal...some of us NEVER forget.

[Sage]

Oh shit, no wonder she is leaving. You don't give it to her anymore like you do your boyfriend.

[terraj]

OK, so what's your point?

Hahaa, ok I will use small words.

They stayed in relationships where they may have been scared or not treated as an equal because they did not a have a choice 60 years ago.

Capish?

[ReX357]

Hahaa, ok I will use small words.

They stayed in relationships where they may have been scared or not treated as an equal because they did not a have a choice 60 years ago.

Capish?

I think you're wrong but let's agree to disagree here. I know you're one of our happily married members here, so our points of view are gonna clash no matter what when it comes to this subject. My past makes it I see things a certain way and I can't force my opinion on anyone.

Some of the psychology I explain in my posts does however apply to a majority of women and I'm gonna leave it at that.

[terraj]

I think you're wrong but let's agree to disagree here. I know you're one of our happily married members here, so our points of view are gonna clash no matter what when it comes to this subject. My past makes it I see things a certain way and I can't force my opinion on anyone.

Some of the psychology I explain in my posts does however apply to a majority of women and I'm gonna leave it at that.

man.... you laid down to easy....however you would make a great wife

But honestly man, I would not stay with a chick that did not have more happy times then not

[-Ender-]

im normally the guy who is the voice of reason when it comes to marrige advise and in most cases i would advise you to try all avenues to try to work things out as its obvious that you love her....but i think you already know the answer to your question if you have listened back to what you have told us....if you havent come to a conclusion as of yet then let me spell it out for you...RUN....run like hell...and with that all said i am truly sorry you are having a difficult time as of late...

x2

I'm sorry you're having trouble man, but Ghetto's right.

Find another. They really are everywhere.

[ReX357]

man.... you laid down to easy....however you would make a great wife

Meh, I just don't care for arguing over the internet that much. I don't have a problem with anyone here and I don't really feel like it.