Quote Originally Posted by thegodfather View Post
You guys are a bein a little harsh on the dude....He sounds like a more mature 22 year old than most, being that he just got divorced, he was obviously ready for committment, and his cheating whore of a wife wasn't. I'm always told that I'm extremely mature for my age (24), and most of the guys on this board are always surprised when they learn how old I am, based on my the threads I post and the way in which I hold myself, HOWEVER, I am not even ready for that sort of committment, that the OP has clearly demonstrated he's capable of, so perhaps he needs an older woman.

I've tried to date women yonger then me, by 2-3 years, and it usually ends badly because I am much more mature, goal oriented, secure, etc, then they are. So I'm inclined to think there are exceptions to the rule, and that some of us are more mature than others, and therefore may need older women and not younger.

I believe that a persons age has less to do with compatability than their current station and place in life. For instance, at 22 I was (and still am) a full time student in college, and therefore if I were to date an independent young professional in her later 20's, we would probably be a bad match because I was still going to frat party's, and staying in to study and write papers, attending class, I had minimal responsibilities at that time. In contrast, my friend is one year older than I am, and while I'm back in school once again full time, pursuing higher education, he has had a wife, house, and 2 kids, since he was 20 years old. He owns a number of successful businesses, and therefore although he's 25, if he were to be single with no kids, the women he would be most compatible with would probably not be a 21 year old sorority slut.

Just IMHO....
You are correct on all points and for the most part my reply was in fun, I hope it was obvious. Yes it's to bad when one person is ready to commit and the other person is not honest enough to tell them they are not and ruins the relationship and hurts/scars someone for life. It makes you loose trust in everyone, it's sad.

Still, he should not rush into anything and take a few years at the least to reflect on what happened. To many people jump back into the fire to quickly and get burned again. Stay single, date, have fun and enjoy life while not hurting anyone else if at all possible and if you do apologize like you mean it. Dont get trapped into anything and NEVER be afraid to say no or think it's to late to turn back. You always have time up until you say I Do and you should mean it, hopefully next time she will mean it also. Good luck.