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    My healthy sex drive and her "menopause"=ISSUES, like porn

    My wife had a hysterectomy last fall, and now she rarely wants sex. I like it once or twice a day. she wants me to cuddle more, but i get horny as hell doing that, and she doesn't. I therefore step back from cuddling, because i don't want a night of blue balls. She always has excuses not to have sex, and "tired" is a big one. I feel like its a spouse's loving duty to please their spouse/relieve them of their aggravating horniness, irregardless. She should WANT to please me, even if she's not "in the mood". I can't live my life in a horny frustrated ungratified way, so, its like, if you don't wanna please me, I'll have to get relief through porn. She's appalled. But, damn! I had a girlfriend before that we would satisfy each other all the time. even in the middle of the night, or waking one another up in the morning. It's like we never left each other to suffer from horniness. more can be said about ALL these issues, but I'm curious what feedback i get from this....

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    a lot of people here will tell you to find a side dish

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    PT 141 is the solution if she is willing to hear you out and give it a shot for the relationship.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Standby View Post
    a lot of people here will tell you to find a side dish
    This^ or a divorce bro. You guys don't get along at all so what's keeping you two together? Plus once you are super ripped its gonna be hard to keep the girls at bay.
    Quote Originally Posted by Bryan2 View Post
    PT 141 is the solution if she is willing to hear you out and give it a shot for the relationship.
    Cool. Do you have personal experience that this works for women?
    Last edited by Twist; 04-27-2011 at 01:18 AM.

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    You need to talk to your wife, best of luck

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    my gf wants sex all the time everyday..i cant keep up

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    divorce or rape by chloroform is the best.

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    PT-141 nasal spray is supposed to work wonders on women's lagging libido. Derived from melanotan2.
    I've already got mine back home. I'll find out soon enough if it works =)

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    Your wife needs BHRT asap. I sent you a PM. Get her to register and join in on the HRT forum for help....for BOTH OF YOU!

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    Quote Originally Posted by toooosmall View Post
    My wife had a hysterectomy last fall, and now she rarely wants sex. I like it once or twice a day. she wants me to cuddle more, but i get horny as hell doing that, and she doesn't. I therefore step back from cuddling, because i don't want a night of blue balls. She always has excuses not to have sex, and "tired" is a big one. I feel like its a spouse's loving duty to please their spouse/relieve them of their aggravating horniness, irregardless. She should WANT to please me, even if she's not "in the mood". I can't live my life in a horny frustrated ungratified way, so, its like, if you don't wanna please me, I'll have to get relief through porn. She's appalled. But, damn! I had a girlfriend before that we would satisfy each other all the time. even in the middle of the night, or waking one another up in the morning. It's like we never left each other to suffer from horniness. more can be said about ALL these issues, but I'm curious what feedback i get from this....
    Fvck her while she's sleepin.....PAUSE

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    Get her on hrt. It'd common for women to be put on after hysterectomies.

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    rub n tug

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    Quote Originally Posted by marcus300 View Post
    You need to talk to your wife, best of luck

    x2....

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    Quote Originally Posted by l2elapse View Post
    my gf wants sex all the time everyday..i cant keep up
    Seriously???? THIS is what you have to say.....?

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    Quote Originally Posted by l2elapse View Post
    my gf wants sex all the time everyday..i cant keep up
    Is your GF kawi?
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    Quote Originally Posted by baseline_9 View Post
    Is your GF kawi?
    heeeyyyy....oh, who the hell am I kidden....true! lol

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    to OP...whenever I have this issue I go and visit Kawi.....just a thought.

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    Quote Originally Posted by calgarian View Post
    to OP...whenever I have this issue I go and visit Kawi.....just a thought.



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    Quote Originally Posted by Kawigirl View Post
    yeah thats it I like it rough too

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    Quote Originally Posted by calgarian View Post
    to OP...whenever I have this issue I go and visit Kawi.....just a thought.
    I was gonna reccomend PM'ing kawi
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    Quote Originally Posted by baseline_9 View Post
    I was gonna reccomend PM'ing kawi
    she is good with phone sex as well....ask stack.

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    All you can do is talk.You can try that pt-141.But go easy explain things.Dont threaten to get it elsewhere.That sh1t can back fire.Counseling may help.

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    Quote Originally Posted by songdog View Post
    All you can do is talk.You can try that pt-141.But go easy explain things.Dont threaten to get it elsewhere.That sh1t can back fire.Counseling may help.
    i like baseline's suggestion better

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    Sounds like ur wife may have some sort of mental problem with relation to having sex...

    Maybe she has lost her confidence or doesn't feel 'sexy' enough to satisfy you...

    I think u just need to talk to her, make her feel sexy, and don't force it... If you have to force sex it is not gonna be good sex...

    Good luck bro...

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    The whole you watching porn thing is gonna make this worse....

    If she feel inadequate at all, how do u think she is gonna feel when she finds out that your having to now watch some hot ass porn stars fukin to satisfy you...


    Flip it on its head... Ur wife says that she watches porn and gets off to it...

    Does it make you feel a little inadequate when you find out your wife in knockin one off to a male porn star with a dong like a donkey....
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    you definitely need to confront her and tell her how you are feeling. you also need to address what her problems are also, and do not be afraid to mention HRT to her. science can work wonders

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    Hello?

    Isn't this site all about hormones?

    A hysterectomy?

    She has few if any hormones~ she needs help!

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    Quote Originally Posted by SlimmerMe View Post
    Hello?

    Isn't this site all about hormones?

    A hysterectomy?

    She has few if any hormones~ she needs help!
    I don't think anyone has disagreed with this slimmer. The other serious suggestions were to talk to her about the issue which is needed too. He can't just pin her with test while she's sleeping..... Or can he.....? Lol

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    Slim is talking about female HRT which I know nothing about...

    I would think you get some kind of estrogen replacement and other 'female' hormones

    I have no idea, but know it does exist
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    I agree with everyone above that recommended hormone replacement. My first wife when through early menopause (she was older than me) and it was a challenge. Getting on the hormones not only increased her sex drive, but made her less insane.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JohnnyVegas View Post
    I agree with everyone above that recommended hormone replacement. My first wife when through early menopause (she was older than me) and it was a challenge. Getting on the hormones not only increased her sex drive, but made her less insane.
    A reason I do what I do as well......I'm less...errrr..."girly"

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    Quote Originally Posted by stack_it View Post
    I don't think anyone has disagreed with this slimmer. The other serious suggestions were to talk to her about the issue which is needed too. He can't just pin her with test while she's sleeping..... Or can he.....? Lol
    Been there done that and the outcome was not good, lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kawigirl View Post
    A reason I do what I do as well......I'm less...errrr..."girly"
    less girly? ouch! that doesn't sound good?

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    welcome to the world of frustrated husbands!

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    Quote Originally Posted by SlimmerMe View Post
    Hello?

    Isn't this site all about hormones?

    A hysterectomy?

    She has few if any hormones~ she needs help!
    gotta agree with Slimmer on this one OP. Hysterectame (sp?) changes the equation! THIS IS ALL ABOUT HORMONES!! I would be willing to bet Shovel's left testicle that once she gets on a reasonable HRT for women, then you would be G2G. And if not, go see Shovel for your pound of flesh! =)

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    thanks everyone. I'd like to try to address much of the replies here.
    pt141? there's no chance of getting her to inject anything unless a doc tells her to. she doesn't trust anyone but doctors regarding anything...as long as she can't find a different doctor that disagrees with that doctor and she likes his advice better. she's not too bright, and she's paranoid about diseases and cancer and such. she's very mainstream. if she knew I've just completed a 12 week steroid cycle, she'd shit bricks and maybe leave me. and everyone i know would know i use steroids . etc.
    divorce? could happen. hopefully there's a better option.
    why are we still together? we've wondered that too.
    side dish? haven't tried that before. probably won't unless I don't care for the marriage anymore at all.
    chloroform? i prefer rufees jk
    pt 141 nasal spray? now that's a good idea. please let me know how that works TR.
    HRT? I do want to research that. she refuses to take hormones because she's read or heard that it could lead to breast cancer.
    **** her while she's sleeping? funny you say that because i did play with her in the middle of the night last night and she showed no signs of arousal. (this is a woman that used to want sex allll the damn time.)
    PM'ing Kawi? welll,...she IS hot as hell...
    Base, I agree about the porn threats. you made very good points.
    So, I guess what I should do is research HRT thoroughly and find a way to discuss it with her in a way that she can understand. Perhaps i can get her interested in the hrt forum.
    thanks everybody!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Times Roman View Post
    gotta agree with Slimmer on this one OP. Hysterectame (sp?) changes the equation! THIS IS ALL ABOUT HORMONES!! I would be willing to bet Shovel's left testicle that once she gets on a reasonable HRT for women, then you would be G2G. And if not, go see Shovel for your pound of flesh! =)
    shovel? who dat?

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    Quote Originally Posted by toooosmall View Post
    thanks everyone. I'd like to try to address much of the replies here.
    pt141? there's no chance of getting her to inject anything unless a doc tells her to. she doesn't trust anyone but doctors regarding anything...as long as she can't find a different doctor that disagrees with that doctor and she likes his advice better. she's not too bright, and she's paranoid about diseases and cancer and such. she's very mainstream. if she knew I've just completed a 12 week steroid cycle, she'd shit bricks and maybe leave me. and everyone i know would know i use steroids . etc.
    divorce? could happen. hopefully there's a better option.
    why are we still together? we've wondered that too.
    side dish? haven't tried that before. probably won't unless I don't care for the marriage anymore at all.
    chloroform? i prefer rufees jk
    pt 141 nasal spray? now that's a good idea. please let me know how that works TR.
    HRT? I do want to research that. she refuses to take hormones because she's read or heard that it could lead to breast cancer.
    **** her while she's sleeping? funny you say that because i did play with her in the middle of the night last night and she showed no signs of arousal. (this is a woman that used to want sex allll the damn time.)
    PM'ing Kawi? welll,...she IS hot as hell...
    Base, I agree about the porn threats. you made very good points.
    So, I guess what I should do is research HRT thoroughly and find a way to discuss it with her in a way that she can understand. Perhaps i can get her interested in the hrt forum.
    thanks everybody!
    it's both a nasal spray and an injectible... the popular version is the nasal spray. due to administration method, twice the dose must be taken as the injectible version. PM me if you want a link. I ordered some and will be trying it as soon as I go home on vacation
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    Quote Originally Posted by toooosmall View Post
    shovel? who dat?
    one of the "different orientation" guys here, has an avi, two backward hat guys, smoochin....

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