I fckved up my relationship

**Shol'va** · 11-05-2011, 03:43 PM

Now you need to follow up with 2 dozen long stem quality roses from a renowned florist and not walmart specials, along with a please forgive me type message for being a jealous idiot.

**Twist** · 11-05-2011, 05:58 PM

I didn't' read all the other posts but have you noticed that you have a severe anger problem? You need to control yourself and go see a specialist or something. If you are on gear then either 1, stop taking it or 2, lower your dose.

**Hazard** · 11-06-2011, 05:03 PM

I wont even comment because you already know how I feel.....

Most of the guys here don't know the entire situation..... and as much of an ass as you made yourself out to be in this thread..... she sure as hell deserved public screaming friday night and you held it back.

~Haz~

**Gaspari1255** · 11-13-2011, 10:43 PM

Update

Everything went okay for over a week until tonight. Now, ladies and gentlemen, I can't make this shit up, I'm not that creative...

The other night we had this crazy drunk girl go ape shit at the club I work at. My girlfriend was bar tending and I was bouncing. This crazy drunk bitch was punching bouncers in the face, kicking us, biting, acting completely crazy....As we were pulling her out of the door, the manager grabbed one of the bottle service girls and told her to watch the situation...The bottle service girl that he grabbed happened to be very good friends with my girlfriend. At the end of the incident, the bottle service girl said to me "hey I saw the whole, if it goes to court, I'll go and back you guys up." which is REALLY cool of her because this is probably going to end up in court...

Soo tonight my girlfriend and I are heading out to a local bar to watch the game and she's being a total jerk off to me..giving me one word answers...ignoring me...I asked her several times "whats wrong babe" and she responds with "Nothing!"...Soo I give her some space and assuming shes just in a bad mood for no reason. As soon as she starts heavily drinking, all fvcking hell breaks loose. She says to me "I know you're fvcking Kristen (Her best friend/bottle service girl who is going to testify for me)....If you weren't fvcking around with her, then she wouldn't have been so nice to you." OKAY THIS IS FVCKING NUTS. I was VERY calm and tried to reassure her that NOTHING was going on and that she was crazy to think such a thing. She starts drinking more and says to me in front of a crowed of people "Fvck you...dont talk to me....you're a piece of shit...you don't deserve me." I still remained calm, even HER friends came up to me and were like WTF is wrong with her tonight? To make a long story short, she gets into an argument with one of her girl friends and I have to pull her away so she doesn't get in a fight...then she pushes her best guy friend....then tries to swing at some random girl who said hi to me....I have never been so embarressed in my entire life. I still remain calm, and nicely try to get her back in the car and take her home. As we're driving home shes blacked out drunk and screaming at me accusing me of cheating on her over and over (what an insecure fvcking bitch)....

We get back to her house and I say nicely, "Look I tried to talk about this mature and rationally with you, but you keep telling me fvck you and acting like a total belligerent maniac..my car broke down and I have no ride home right now, but first thing in the morning I will be out...If I'm such a piece of shit and a scumbag, then you obviously don't want to be with me..."

Guys, she walks up and hits me with a right hand in the face. I remain calm...grab a trash bag and start throwing my shit in there (clothes, movies, anything thats mine) and I tried to leave...she punches me in the face again and starts pulling my hair. SHe then grabs my cell phone and tries to smash it, basically my cell phone was the only tihng keeping me from sleeping on the street or getting a ride back to my place. She takes my trash bag full of stuff, tears it open and throws it down her steps. I STILL remain calm. I'm walking away and she gives me a third shot and busts open my lip.

Thats it. FVCK THIS CRAZY BITCH. Yes I care about her a lot, but its not worth. I know I fvcked up yelling at her in public a few weeks prior to this, but these two situations are nowhere comparable. I'm never speaking another word to her again. I even kept saying "we'll talk tomorrow when you're sober" and I kept getting "fvck you" in response. Clearly, this woman has some serious mental problems and it's going to sting at first, but I am much better off without her....

This WILL be the last update.

**lovbyts** · 11-13-2011, 10:57 PM

Jealousy is an evil thing and can kill the best of relationships IMO. I'm not sure if she has always been this way or it's just a one time deal but I hate that shit. I had a girl who constantly searched my email, my phone, facebook etc and I told her, dont worry, if you look hard enough you will find something even if it's not there. I dont play that sh*t. you can leave something private/personal right in front of me and I dont have any curiosity to look.

I would still have not let her hit me and since you are a bouncer it should have been easy to block her. I have had b*tches go off on me and try to hit me, some have come close but none ever made it to my face. I have walked away with bruised arms and scratches and I have FELT like smacking one or two but never have. I have had the cops called and luckily they calmed down and told the truth that I never did anything to them, I showed scratches, bruises and the cops were good with leaving it alone and just said next time try to walk away sooner.

You need to stay away from her. Like you said there are issues with her, you cant fix her and you need to fix yourself. Fixing yourself may be as easy as finding someone who does not push your buttons on purpose, some women just know and like to push buttons. We all have our limits.

**spywizard** · 11-13-2011, 11:01 PM

she's acting out.. and the jealousy thing.. most people that accuse others of cheating so much is because they screwed around already..

my opinion.. you like the drama.. nothing wrong with it.. just sayin

**Gaspari1255** · 11-13-2011, 11:12 PM

Originally Posted by spywizard

she's acting out.. and the jealousy thing.. most people that accuse others of cheating so much is because they screwed around already..

my opinion.. you like the drama.. nothing wrong with it.. just sayin

Yeah there is something wrong with it.

**Gaspari1255** · 11-13-2011, 11:24 PM

Originally Posted by lovbyts

Jealousy is an evil thing and can kill the best of relationships IMO. I'm not sure if she has always been this way or it's just a one time deal but I hate that shit. I had a girl who constantly searched my email, my phone, facebook etc and I told her, dont worry, if you look hard enough you will find something even if it's not there. I dont play that sh*t. you can leave something private/personal right in front of me and I dont have any curiosity to look.

I would still have not let her hit me and since you are a bouncer it should have been easy to block her. I have had b*tches go off on me and try to hit me, some have come close but none ever made it to my face. I have walked away with bruised arms and scratches and I have FELT like smacking one or two but never have. I have had the cops called and luckily they calmed down and told the truth that I never did anything to them, I showed scratches, bruises and the cops were good with leaving it alone and just said next time try to walk away sooner.

You need to stay away from her. Like you said there are issues with her, you cant fix her and you need to fix yourself. Fixing yourself may be as easy as finding someone who does not push your buttons on purpose, some women just know and like to push buttons. We all have our limits.

That makes so much sense bro. I was dealing with the same thing, every time my phone would ring, she'd be like WHO IS THAT???? Anytime I'm on facebook, she's peering over my shoulder trying to get my password...But I like what you said though, if a woman really searches hard enough to find something, she's gonna poison her own head and make something up.

**lovbyts** · 11-14-2011, 02:18 AM

Originally Posted by spywizard

she's acting out.. and the jealousy thing.. most people that accuse others of cheating so much is because they screwed around already..

my opinion.. you like the drama.. nothing wrong with it.. just sayin

I know that is true most of the time or at least we tend to think it is but I can speak from experience that it's pretty easy to get caught up in things even when you are not like that or dont like drama. I have been there, don't that. Once you are involved with someone it's not always easy to just walk away because you want to see the good in them and hope it will change. yeah not smart move but it's what most of us do instead of leaving. Especially men we like to fix things, even people.

I hate Drama. I am not someone who gets emotional, upset easily, I always see the glass as 1/2 full, the positive in bad situations and let people take advantage of my good nature, willingness to help and always say yes but I have had more than my share of people in my life that are the exact opposite although at first they were not that way at all and always very good at claiming they are not that way but the proof shows different. It's mind boggling how someone can look you in the face and say they are not one way while they are doing exactly what they exclaim they would never do. LOL

**Gaspari1255** · 11-14-2011, 10:02 PM

Originally Posted by lovbyts

I know that is true most of the time or at least we tend to think it is but I can speak from experience that it's pretty easy to get caught up in things even when you are not like that or dont like drama. I have been there, don't that. Once you are involved with someone it's not always easy to just walk away because you want to see the good in them and hope it will change. yeah not smart move but it's what most of us do instead of leaving. Especially men we like to fix things, even people.

I hate Drama. I am not someone who gets emotional, upset easily, I always see the glass as 1/2 full, the positive in bad situations and let people take advantage of my good nature, willingness to help and always say yes but I have had more than my share of people in my life that are the exact opposite although at first they were not that way at all and always very good at claiming they are not that way but the proof shows different. It's mind boggling how someone can look you in the face and say they are not one way while they are doing exactly what they exclaim they would never do. LOL

Exactly...but then theres a point where you need to just walk away or you're a fool.

**SexySweetheart** · 11-15-2011, 08:33 AM

eeeeck!
I would soooooo run away lol, at least you left...now the hard part ~staying away...
even if you did like the drama, if you stay with her you will prob pump out a kid or 2 and this is NOT a healthy lady and will not have a healthy home which equals not healthy kids...and you dont want that.
your young and single...go mingle... being in a relationship is sapposed to be fun, remember? lol

**Times Roman** · 11-15-2011, 09:05 AM

Originally Posted by paulzane

I totally agree wth Jimmy here.

Now my wife and I are seperated but I do go and stay with her and my daughter when I stay in England. It is not always an easy situation to be in. We had some trouble with a builder last time and basically he managed to get payment from me when he hadn't completed the job. He had lied to me and said that he had spoken to the wife and it was OK.

Basically the wife went on and on about it being my fault and was nagging for about an hour. So I shouted at her and told her to "Shut the fvck up!" and a few other things. My daughter jumped out of her skin. We were all in the kitchen.

A few minutes later my wife said to my daughter. "You know what R........ That is only the second time in 20 years that your dad has shouted at me!!"

For you to behave like that at the beginning of a relationship is reprehensible. I hope she dumps your ass and finds someone who will have more respect for her and not some child who is fcuked up with petty jealousies

Check you out Paul!

Getting all judgemental and everything.....

....starting to sound like me a little! =)

**chi** · 11-15-2011, 10:49 AM

wow i would head for the hills my man. Not cool no matter what the situation may be

**calgarian** · 11-15-2011, 11:03 AM

Originally Posted by Bronzer

Update

Everything went okay for over a week until tonight. Now, ladies and gentlemen, I can't make this shit up, I'm not that creative...

The other night we had this crazy drunk girl go ape shit at the club I work at. My girlfriend was bar tending and I was bouncing. This crazy drunk bitch was punching bouncers in the face, kicking us, biting, acting completely crazy....As we were pulling her out of the door, the manager grabbed one of the bottle service girls and told her to watch the situation...The bottle service girl that he grabbed happened to be very good friends with my girlfriend. At the end of the incident, the bottle service girl said to me "hey I saw the whole, if it goes to court, I'll go and back you guys up." which is REALLY cool of her because this is probably going to end up in court...

Soo tonight my girlfriend and I are heading out to a local bar to watch the game and she's being a total jerk off to me..giving me one word answers...ignoring me...I asked her several times "whats wrong babe" and she responds with "Nothing!"...Soo I give her some space and assuming shes just in a bad mood for no reason. As soon as she starts heavily drinking, all fvcking hell breaks loose. She says to me "I know you're fvcking Kristen (Her best friend/bottle service girl who is going to testify for me)....If you weren't fvcking around with her, then she wouldn't have been so nice to you." OKAY THIS IS FVCKING NUTS. I was VERY calm and tried to reassure her that NOTHING was going on and that she was crazy to think such a thing. She starts drinking more and says to me in front of a crowed of people "Fvck you...dont talk to me....you're a piece of shit...you don't deserve me." I still remained calm, even HER friends came up to me and were like WTF is wrong with her tonight? To make a long story short, she gets into an argument with one of her girl friends and I have to pull her away so she doesn't get in a fight...then she pushes her best guy friend....then tries to swing at some random girl who said hi to me....I have never been so embarressed in my entire life. I still remain calm, and nicely try to get her back in the car and take her home. As we're driving home shes blacked out drunk and screaming at me accusing me of cheating on her over and over (what an insecure fvcking bitch)....

We get back to her house and I say nicely, "Look I tried to talk about this mature and rationally with you, but you keep telling me fvck you and acting like a total belligerent maniac..my car broke down and I have no ride home right now, but first thing in the morning I will be out...If I'm such a piece of shit and a scumbag, then you obviously don't want to be with me..."

Guys, she walks up and hits me with a right hand in the face. I remain calm...grab a trash bag and start throwing my shit in there (clothes, movies, anything thats mine) and I tried to leave...she punches me in the face again and starts pulling my hair. SHe then grabs my cell phone and tries to smash it, basically my cell phone was the only tihng keeping me from sleeping on the street or getting a ride back to my place. She takes my trash bag full of stuff, tears it open and throws it down her steps. I STILL remain calm. I'm walking away and she gives me a third shot and busts open my lip.

Thats it. FVCK THIS CRAZY BITCH. Yes I care about her a lot, but its not worth. I know I fvcked up yelling at her in public a few weeks prior to this, but these two situations are nowhere comparable. I'm never speaking another word to her again. I even kept saying "we'll talk tomorrow when you're sober" and I kept getting "fvck you" in response. Clearly, this woman has some serious mental problems and it's going to sting at first, but I am much better off without her....

This WILL be the last update.

Walk away sounds like a bipolar.......why oh why we are still talking........fvck man all the women died on the planet or you dont think you can do it any better? fvck

**JimmySidewalk** · 11-15-2011, 12:17 PM

Now imagine if all that energy and rage was spent in sex. Your not doing it right. Instead of fighting her you should have teared her clothes off, shove you ba-ding-ding in her and pound her till green pixies appeared. She would have loved it.

**paulzane** · 11-15-2011, 02:09 PM

Originally Posted by Times Roman

Check you out Paul!

Getting all judgemental and everything.....

....starting to sound like me a little! =)

It must be an age thing Times!

**Gaspari1255** · 11-15-2011, 08:19 PM

Originally Posted by Sexy4mySweetheart

eeeeck!
I would soooooo run away lol, at least you left...now the hard part ~staying away...
even if you did like the drama, if you stay with her you will prob pump out a kid or 2 and this is NOT a healthy lady and will not have a healthy home which equals not healthy kids...and you dont want that.
your young and single...go mingle... being in a relationship is sapposed to be fun, remember? lol

100% correct.

**dec11** · 11-16-2011, 11:17 AM

stay away from head- the- balls. i eventually learned that. tempestuous relationships are usually just based on sex and never work out.

**gixxerboy1** · 11-16-2011, 01:04 PM

Originally Posted by dec11

stay away from head- the- balls. i eventually learned that. tempestuous relationships are usually just based on sex and never work out.

but they can be alot of fun

**dec11** · 11-16-2011, 01:16 PM

Originally Posted by gixxerboy1

but they can be alot of fun

yep as long as you understand thats all they'll ever be

**chemicalromance** · 11-24-2011, 08:54 AM

Originally Posted by Bronzer

Update:

And for the record, Jacque is so hot. It's not even funny. Haz knows my girl and Jacque personally and after I tell him this whole shit show his first reaction is "This is perfect...now you can fvck Jacque!!!" lol

I realized that even Jacque and I were some what friends, I can't really have any type of relationship with her at all (friendship), or any time soon. Absolutely nothing good will come out of it, so when I run into her at work, I'm gonna pretty much blow her off and give her one word answers. It's an asshole thing to do, but just about the only thing to do for obvious reasons.

This is the only thing i disagree with. Not to be a woman hater but why should you have to be the one who breaks off communication with the opposite sex while she talks/texts to her "guy friend who cant take a hint" If you cant talk to jacque then your gf cant talk to that dude. period. Your gf was probly spilling her guts giving this toolbag updates on her relationship with you every ten minutes and he was pulling every line out of the book to reel her in. Typical female

**Renesis** · 11-27-2011, 12:11 AM

Holy Christ you have 10 times the patience I have. The moment I ever get struck by a woman I would not even attempt to remain calm or talk, my ass would be out of that 5 mile radius in SECONDS. Good luck to you dude.

**xelnaga** · 11-27-2011, 01:32 AM

Your restraint went above and beyond. I think the fact that she continued to escalate despite your lack of reaction is note worthy. She was obviously pushing you to your limits. There are some cases where girls get off on the danger of ****ing with a male in a dangerous way. In my experience they are usually chicks that have a history of abuse in their past.

Whenever Im in a long term relationship and serious issues arise- I try to picture my gf fat and tired looking. And I ask myself: "would you be able to over look this when shes not as hot and in shape?" Usually the answer is no- and i work on moving her out of my life.

**spoonta66** · 11-27-2011, 01:32 AM

Just go back to work and bang the super hottie or her mate she accused you of banging. Live live don't stress the small people

**Gaspari1255** · 12-01-2011, 11:48 AM

I tapped out. Yesterday, just ended it with her. I'm sick of walking on egg shells and getting accused of cheating 24/7 when I've been loyal this whole time. I don't want to be friends with her, she's cut off. She started hitting up my friends and asking them if I'm ****ing around on her....she crossed the line with that one. Like who the fvck is she to harass MY friends and bring them into her dramatic lifestyle. Moving on and not looking back my friends....

**ecruz** · 12-01-2011, 12:36 PM

we learn the do's and dont through our mistakes.. good news bro

**Hazard** · 12-01-2011, 12:55 PM

Originally Posted by Bronzer

I tapped out. Yesterday, just ended it with her. I'm sick of walking on egg shells and getting accused of cheating 24/7 when I've been loyal this whole time. I don't want to be friends with her, she's cut off. She started hitting up my friends and asking them if I'm ****ing around on her....she crossed the line with that one. Like who the fvck is she to harass MY friends and bring them into her dramatic lifestyle. Moving on and not looking back my friends....

Holy fvcking christ..... Can I actually see you at work now without the depressed look of a battered man?

HAHA - glad you moved on..... really..... I personally think shes more trouble than it's worth. You deserve someone thats going to treat you better..... you really don't need her shit. As you know..... the hard part is staying away.

~Haz~

**Gaspari1255** · 12-01-2011, 01:53 PM

Originally Posted by Hazard

Holy fvcking christ..... Can I actually see you at work now without the depressed look of a battered man?

HAHA - glad you moved on..... really..... I personally think shes more trouble than it's worth. You deserve someone thats going to treat you better..... you really don't need her shit. As you know..... the hard part is staying away.

~Haz~

YESSS!

But on a serious note, me and a few other guys from work are gonna start placing bets. Whats the chance she comes in Friday night wasted and assaults me or some other female who she see's talking to me? I'd be willing to take 5 to 1 odds that it's a yes.

**Hazard** · 12-01-2011, 02:11 PM

Originally Posted by Bronzer

YESSS!

But on a serious note, me and a few other guys from work are gonna start placing bets. Whats the chance she comes in Friday night wasted and assaults me or some other female who she see's talking to me? I'd be willing to take 5 to 1 odds that it's a yes.

OH YEAH..... She'll def show up. If she doesn't come after you then she'll try to piss you off..... I can almost guarantee it. I'm gunna hit the diner with blondie afterwards - you and jacqui should come.....

~Haz~

**Swifto** · 12-01-2011, 05:56 PM

F*ck her off.

She's a wrongun when she's pissed. You'll have it every time you have a drink together and she gets drunk.

Nutter.

Plenty more out there.

Go and get hold of Jaque (pics as well please).

**abstetic** · 12-01-2011, 06:39 PM

it sounds like you have self concious issues because you felt threathen by the other guy the first thing you should do is put that behind you if you still want to be with her you gotta show her that you can control your outburst maby be friends for a bit. if your over her then move one i mean there are many girls out there

**Urface** · 12-02-2011, 04:40 AM

Good read & lots of good advice.

**Hazard** · 12-02-2011, 03:57 PM

Originally Posted by Swifto

F*ck her off.

She's a wrongun when she's pissed. You'll have it every time you have a drink together and she gets drunk.

Nutter.

Plenty more out there.

Go and get hold of Jaque (pics as well please).

I'll try and get some with her tonight hahaha

~Haz~

**Standby** · 12-02-2011, 05:58 PM

Originally Posted by Hazard

I'll try and get some with her tonight hahaha

~Haz~

do it and youll be the best vet ever

**bjpennnn** · 12-03-2011, 01:33 PM

call jaquie

**Hazard** · 12-05-2011, 10:17 AM

Jacqui is normally upbeat as all hell..... she seemed like she was in a pissy mood friday so i passed on the pics LOL - next week. I'm not lettin this go until I can post her on here. She's got great bikini pics online..... if Bronzer would just fvcking post them up......

~Haz~

**Swifto** · 12-05-2011, 10:48 AM

Originally Posted by Hazard

Jacqui is normally upbeat as all hell..... she seemed like she was in a pissy mood friday so i passed on the pics LOL - next week. I'm not lettin this go until I can post her on here. She's got great bikini pics online..... if Bronzer would just fvcking post them up......

~Haz~

I want to see what you yanks call a "10/10".

**Hazard** · 12-05-2011, 10:56 AM

I wouldn't say a 10/10..... Those are mighty hard to come by. Plus everyone has different views on what looks good. I personally think she's sexy..... she can move..... shes vibrant and fun..... and she looks good. She's got an exotic look IMO.....

~Haz~

**Standby** · 12-05-2011, 05:01 PM

you post the damn facebook pics then

**Hazard** · 12-05-2011, 10:37 PM

Originally Posted by Standby

you post the damn facebook pics then

I don't have an account..... otherwise I would LOL!

Why don't I have an account you may ask..... Too much women trouble with facebook. It's the devil for relationships.....

~Haz~