My first heart break

[JohnnyVegas]

I would agree with you if he had no idea she had a boyfriend. However..... the fact that he KNEW she had a boyfriend shows a direct lack of respect to bronzer. If he was any kind of man he should have told her to break things off with him and then they could fvck. He deserves to get whats comming to him IMO.....

~Haz~

I don't blame a guy for hitting on a girl...and when that girl gives some kind of response like, "I'm in a relationship, but we are breaking up" then I think the guy is stupid, but not lacking respect. I would consider it a lack of respect if I knew him, but not if he was just some random guy. Hell, she might have started flirting with him first. She is a bartender.

Hell, I knew guys that told their girlfriends that they were going to leave their wife for YEARS and the girlfriends kept believing that the man was in a sexless marriage to some cranky bitch that emotionally abused him...all false. Those stupid girls should not be beaten up by the wife for "disrespect" - the husband should be kicked to the curb for being a evil bastard.

We all see life through the lenses of our past experiences. We obviously are viewing this differently. No biggie. I am just glad Bronzer isn't in the middle of it any more.

[yannick35]

When you are with a women you see it right away, when i went out with young girls because at 20-22 years old i don't call that women, and they started to look at other guys when they where with me, not knowing what they want and other crap like that, i hever put up with this.

Its very offending in the first place to be with someone and she keeps looking at other guys, its like what am i so ugly, she says no your really cute i just like to look at other people that's all pffff yeah right.

I like to have conversation with my girlfriend, more then physical, we got plans, we want to travel and more.

We got goals togheter, and more.

[JohnnyVegas]

^^^^ I will never fault my wife for looking at other men. Women attract my attention all the time. My wife knows I look but would never touch, or even flirt. But, I have build up a lot of trust. We both comment on attractive people, both mail and female, all the time. But that is our individual situation.

Everything else...totally agree. Common interests, conversations, plans and goals. I'm in it long term.

[HitIt]

never date a bartender.

[Noles12]

never date a bartender.

I can agree with this. They are around guys hitting on them and telling them how beautiful they are everyday and they flirt back for money. All it takes is you making her upset and she will have a guy at the bar she finds attractive ready to comfort her

[Gaspari1255]

Here's a lift of women that I have dated before and NEVER will again:

Bartenders: As stated above, masters of deception. They rely on their looks to pay their bills. They HAVE to flirt for a living.
Strippers: 90% of them are borderline escorts. When they don't have enough money for that months rent, they'll suck a dick for a few bucks in the lap dance room.
Porn Stars: Most are recovering drug addicts, and have more problems in a day then most of us do in a life time. Major daddy issues.
Shot Girls/Bottle Servers: I compare them to the drill team girls (that fat girls who wave the flags at HS football games during half time because they can't cheer lead) They are too dumb to be a bartender, so they deliver bottles to your VIP tables. They also have to flirt, dress slutty, but they aren't as intelligent as bartenders because most clubs make it mandatory tipping gratuity per bottle, so they don't have to "trick" men into any scams. They just hold a dumb smile on their face and light the sparkler on top of the bottle of Grey Goose.
Cougars: They get very clingy and want to get impregnate and keep you trapped for ever. They're washed up and getting older by the day, this is "panic" mode for a bitch because she realizes most of her friends are married. The self esteem o' meter needs to get kicked up a few notches..

Yes...I am young, but I feel like I've seen it all by now..If I wrote a book about all the times of women that I have encountered/dated, and that have screwed over in the past two years- It would win a nobel prize. Even the greatest minds of fiction couldn't make this shit up.

[thabeastmaster]

wow.....read this entire thread and gotta say.....its good to know NONE of us are ALONE!! I just recently came back to the forum after a solid layoff for several years....what brought me back? A BREAKUP! LOL.......I fell into the same trap all of us have at one point......i was 30 and ready to settle down, my player player years long behind me, she was only 21, and said all the right things, plus had a 1 year old with no father, so i figured, hell, she's gotta have her priorities straight......WRONG.....3 years of me sticking by this immature emotionally damaged female, and i finally had to break up with her when she just decided to start acting single....talk about tuff....getting dumped is bad....even worse when they wont dump you and just do what they want and make you have to make the call yourself, especially when your still in love.....well.....i lost 30lbs in just under 3 months..yeah, all of us here know how that works...you stop eating and what do you lose? MUSCLE!!!!!!! I lost all of my back, neck, traps, and arms....melted away.....for what? some ungreatful female, who had an amazing man, amazing father to her child, who decided that ****ing, sucking, drinking, smoking, and partying were better choices at the age of 25 with a 4 year old now???? lolololololol She cheated on me when we were together, and was back in the hood with her old friends and ****kkbuddies not even a week after we broke up....to think, i would have married her if things had played out different....totally in love....totally STUPID.....

its gonna hurt man......it always does.....but if you channel all your energy into positive things....ONLY positive results will happen....

smooth seas never made a skillful sailor..............and life is 10% the bullshit that happens to us,....and 90% what THE **** WE DO ABOUT IT!!!!!

Im proud to say im back on the forum, im back in the gym, and ive found more motivation and dedication in myself to my body and workout/nutrition than EVER BEFORE IN MY LIFE!!!!!!

stay focused brother.....its tuff....but the good choices that seem so hard to make, always have the best results...

[cherrydrpepper]

This thread is part of why I lift. Theres no better feeling than telling a hoe "really? you're going to act like that? Ok im going to the bar tonight to find someone and fk them have a nice life".

Then of course they backpeddal "oh no no no baby im sorry" cause they know your not fking kidding.

[Noles12]

This thread is part of why I lift. Theres no better feeling than telling a hoe "really? you're going to act like that? Ok im going to the bar tonight to find someone and fk them have a nice life".

Then of course they backpeddal "oh no no no baby im sorry" cause they know your not fking kidding.

It has worked out in my favor right now. We broke up and all of a sudden her "friends" start hanging out with me at the bars. These were never her closest friends but friends none the less. I was really happy when her most attractive friend, one she has always been jealous of for her beauty, comes up one night and starts kissing on me at the bar. Eventually she goes you and her are done right. I say yeah and she goes ok good because i would feel bad since we are friends. Im not pursuing these girls and trying to rub it in her face. I avoid conflict but its just working out this way. I guess her "friends" had ulterior motives too.

By the way sorry Bronzer for hijacking your thread with my stories. I just feel in the same boat and can relate to all of this

[Hazard]

I don't blame a guy for hitting on a girl...and when that girl gives some kind of response like, "I'm in a relationship, but we are breaking up" then I think the guy is stupid, but not lacking respect. I would consider it a lack of respect if I knew him, but not if he was just some random guy. Hell, she might have started flirting with him first. She is a bartender.

Hell, I knew guys that told their girlfriends that they were going to leave their wife for YEARS and the girlfriends kept believing that the man was in a sexless marriage to some cranky bitch that emotionally abused him...all false. Those stupid girls should not be beaten up by the wife for "disrespect" - the husband should be kicked to the curb for being a evil bastard.

We all see life through the lenses of our past experiences. We obviously are viewing this differently. No biggie. I am just glad Bronzer isn't in the middle of it any more.

I understand..... I just think if he knows i'm with her..... then he blatantly doesn't give a fvck about me. Right or wrong.... I'd get him back one way or another. It'd atleast make me feel better on the inside.

Here's a lift of women that I have dated before and NEVER will again:

Bartenders: As stated above, masters of deception. They rely on their looks to pay their bills. They HAVE to flirt for a living.
Strippers: 90% of them are borderline escorts. When they don't have enough money for that months rent, they'll suck a dick for a few bucks in the lap dance room.
Porn Stars: Most are recovering drug addicts, and have more problems in a day then most of us do in a life time. Major daddy issues.
Shot Girls/Bottle Servers: I compare them to the drill team girls (that fat girls who wave the flags at HS football games during half time because they can't cheer lead) They are too dumb to be a bartender, so they deliver bottles to your VIP tables. They also have to flirt, dress slutty, but they aren't as intelligent as bartenders because most clubs make it mandatory tipping gratuity per bottle, so they don't have to "trick" men into any scams. They just hold a dumb smile on their face and light the sparkler on top of the bottle of Grey Goose.
Cougars: They get very clingy and want to get impregnate and keep you trapped for ever. They're washed up and getting older by the day, this is "panic" mode for a bitch because she realizes most of her friends are married. The self esteem o' meter needs to get kicked up a few notches..

Yes...I am young, but I feel like I've seen it all by now..If I wrote a book about all the times of women that I have encountered/dated, and that have screwed over in the past two years- It would win a nobel prize. Even the greatest minds of fiction couldn't make this shit up.

The list of women you have DATED is the list of women most guys only FVCK lol..... there's your damn problem man. You've got your priorities all mixed up

~Haz~

[RaginCajun]

you need to write a book bronzer! just have to say, you play with fire and .............

[Gaspari1255]

Okay guys..the line he said on facebook keeps playing over and over and over in my head. I've analyzed it about 500,000 times in the past two days...here it was:

"“The last girl I put a good effort into had a boyfriend the whole time, and she was basically just using me for sex, it’s a compliment, but I’m still hurt.”

Do you think he's saying the last girl I put effort into had a bf (me) the whole time and she was using me for sex when they were going out?

OR

The last girl I put an effort into had a bf (me) and when they broke up, she was using me for sex????


I'm kind of thinking # 1...

[DIESELPWR]

I would think its number 1.. And I agree with haz.. Time to go to ac and find some chicks..

[wmaousley]

I don't have much to say man..... atleast not on here. We might need to pay this kid a visit though.....

If you need a night out we should hit up AC and troll for hewas

~Haz~

Dont check the pimp, check the ho

[wmaousley]

Okay guys..the line he said on facebook keeps playing over and over and over in my head. I've analyzed it about 500,000 times in the past two days...here it was:

"“The last girl I put a good effort into had a boyfriend the whole time, and she was basically just using me for sex, it’s a compliment, but I’m still hurt.”

Do you think he's saying the last girl I put effort into had a bf (me) the whole time and she was using me for sex when they were going out?

OR

The last girl I put an effort into had a bf (me) and when they broke up, she was using me for sex????


I'm kind of thinking # 1...

I think its 100% safe to say she was banging the other dude while with you, hate to put it like that. Ludacris said it right "cant turn a ho into a housewife"

[marcus300]

With age and experience you will learn that being heart broken over a relationship what was build on lies isn't worth wasting any energy on . You need to feed off what she's done and the lies she's told and move forward and away from her.Don't let her take anymore time or effort out of your life.

[DanB]

Okay guys..the line he said on facebook keeps playing over and over and over in my head. I've analyzed it about 500,000 times in the past two days...here it was:

"“The last girl I put a good effort into had a boyfriend the whole time, and she was basically just using me for sex, it’s a compliment, but I’m still hurt.”

Do you think he's saying the last girl I put effort into had a bf (me) the whole time and she was using me for sex when they were going out?

OR

The last girl I put an effort into had a bf (me) and when they broke up, she was using me for sex????


I'm kind of thinking # 1...

You wouldnt know which one mate but the whole using him for sex thing is b.s. she was playing him, he just wants to think it was for sex to make himself feel better

[thehulk2203]

Get you a cougar I got one and they don't play that creeping around bull I have been with mine for 4 years my age 24. Her age 46 best years of my life

[oatmeal69]

Get out and meet other girls - even ones you know aren't people you'd be interested in. And try to CONSTANTLY remind yourself of the bad sh*t she did to you.

[calgarian]

ok Now that I am pissed I am going to say something.
1. You play with fire you will get burn.
2. "We have too much in common" fvcking runs out 3 weeks into relationship.
3. Someone said you cannot turn Hos into housewifes.
4. You go and date all these "high profile" chiks cause you want to prove to yourself that you have confidence (and trust me you do) and then fall for one and especially that one????
5. 6 weeks too many u r still sitting and freaking sobbing? next thing u will know u will be depressed and your whole confidence will be shattered.
6. Why fvck one woman when you can **** them all (I cant do that ) but you still can.
7. You dont have to be in a relationship to be happy.
8. In order to get over someone you have to get under someone.
9. GO lift take your classes and STOP thinking about her bad or good thing.....dont live your life in woulda coulda shoulda. Thinking bad about her still means that she is important enough to have place in ur brain the good thing you can do is dont pay attention it just means she is nobody.

I can sit here and analyze the FACEBOOK comment and it will take me a whole page but thats y I am so against this fvcking FB it fvck things up.

You learned your lesson move on......I know I am being harsh and asshole(which I am anyway) I jut want you to SNAP out of it.

[oatmeal69]

You learned your lesson move on......I know I am being harsh and asshole(which I am anyway) I jut want you to SNAP out of it.

Agreed. cut your losses, take the pain and MOVE FORWARD! It's just gonna suck for a while. Don't have any more contact with her, leave the scene/friends where she is a factor and just keep swimming. It doesn't have to make sense right now.

[gixxerboy1]

I understand..... I just think if he knows i'm with her..... then he blatantly doesn't give a fvck about me. Right or wrong.... I'd get him back one way or another. It'd atleast make me feel better on the inside.



The list of women you have DATED is the list of women most guys only FVCK lol..... there's your damn problem man. You've got your priorities all mixed up

~Haz~

They are the ones i date and marry

[gixxerboy1]

^^^^ I will never fault my wife for looking at other men. Women attract my attention all the time. My wife knows I look but would never touch, or even flirt. But, I have build up a lot of trust. We both comment on attractive people, both mail and female, all the time. But that is our individual situation.

Everything else...totally agree. Common interests, conversations, plans and goals. I'm in it long term.

i agree. I think you must be insecure if that really bothers you. My wife will even point out hot girls.

[SlimmerMe]

With age and experience you will learn that being heart broken over a relationship what was build on lies isn't worth wasting any energy on . You need to feed off what she's done and the lies she's told and move forward and away from her.Don't let her take anymore time or effort out of your life.

THIS

and I will add: there is a big difference between heart break and obsession.

[jimmyinkedup]

Bronzer bro - You really need to comsider the places and people you surround yourself with buddy.
I mean christ you hangt out with Haz right?
Need I say more? *LMAO*

Seriously this should be a lesson learned - consider where you met her and her lifestyle. People dont normally change and if anything the closer you get - the more defects that will be revealed. Thats kind of how you know you have a winner - when more is revealed and sge gets better and better.

[calgarian]

Bronzer bro - You really need to comsider the places and people you surround yourself with buddy.
I mean christ you hangt out with Haz right?
Need I say more? *LMAO*

Seriously this should be a lesson learned - consider where you met her and her lifestyle. People dont normally change and if anything the closer you get - the more defects that will be revealed. Thats kind of how you know you have a winner - when more is revealed and sge gets better and better.

oh fvck that explains alot......

[SexySweetheart]

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[Hoggage_54]

Sorry to hear this... here's a quote that I think we can all relate to and appreciate as fitness lovers...

[calgarian]

Funny thing most ppl dont know that the writer of saying "what doesnt kill you makes you stronger" had a mental breakdown..........easier said then done......http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Friedri...2.80.931900.29

[Hazard]

Get you a cougar I got one and they don't play that creeping around bull I have been with mine for 4 years my age 24. Her age 46 best years of my life

Enjoy em now..... before you hafta start changing her diapers and givin her spnge baths

~Haz~

[calgarian]

Enjoy em now..... before you hafta start changing her diapers and givin her spnge baths

~Haz~

Nah they have expiry date.......as a matter of fact every relationship has expiry date.

[Gaspari1255]

I'm moving on. I'm not wasting and my time/energy/tears on this broad. Instead of looking at is as a negative experience, I will take it as one hell of a learning experience. Here is the three things I've learned and gathered from my past relationship:

1.) Never sacrifice your personal needs or hobbies or daily routine for a woman. (School, Work, Training, Dieting...etc) Once the relationship is over, you will feel that your life has ended because you made her your life. I was 260lbs before we started dating, I've dwindled down to 242 after depression, it's time to get back to where I was.

2.) Trust your initial gut instincts. If you think a woman is trouble, she's probably trouble. If you think she's a whore, alcoholic, or low life- she's probably all of those things.

3.) Never really trust a word a woman says when it's early in the relationship. They think and live for the moment- and all the plans of moving in together, getting a puppy, going on vacation is all just temporary hogwash going through their minds at the moment.

Phewwww, I am gonna bookmark this thread and look at it every time I get a slight interest in someone. Thanks for all the help my AR friends; the support and advice really means a lot to me.

[Razor]

ok Now that I am pissed I am going to say something.
1. You play with fire you will get burn.
2. "We have too much in common" fvcking runs out 3 weeks into relationship.
3. Someone said you cannot turn Hos into housewifes.
4. You go and date all these "high profile" chiks cause you want to prove to yourself that you have confidence (and trust me you do) and then fall for one and especially that one????
5. 6 weeks too many u r still sitting and freaking sobbing? next thing u will know u will be depressed and your whole confidence will be shattered.
6. Why fvck one woman when you can **** them all (I cant do that ) but you still can.
7. You dont have to be in a relationship to be happy.
8. In order to get over someone you have to get under someone.
9. GO lift take your classes and STOP thinking about her bad or good thing.....dont live your life in woulda coulda shoulda. Thinking bad about her still means that she is important enough to have place in ur brain the good thing you can do is dont pay attention it just means she is nobody.

I can sit here and analyze the FACEBOOK comment and it will take me a whole page but thats y I am so against this fvcking FB it fvck things up.

You learned your lesson move on......I know I am being harsh and asshole(which I am anyway) I jut want you to SNAP out of it.

Cal is a true friend, he called me from Canada on the phone and gave me a moto talk and after told me to read this post. Hope it helps you the way it did me!!
Cal thanks bro.

[Honkey_Kong]

I'm moving on. I'm not wasting and my time/energy/tears on this broad. Instead of looking at is as a negative experience, I will take it as one hell of a learning experience. Here is the three things I've learned and gathered from my past relationship:

1.) Never sacrifice your personal needs or hobbies or daily routine for a woman. (School, Work, Training, Dieting...etc) Once the relationship is over, you will feel that your life has ended because you made her your life. I was 260lbs before we started dating, I've dwindled down to 242 after depression, it's time to get back to where I was.

2.) Trust your initial gut instincts. If you think a woman is trouble, she's probably trouble. If you think she's a whore, alcoholic, or low life- she's probably all of those things.

3.) Never really trust a word a woman says when it's early in the relationship. They think and live for the moment- and all the plans of moving in together, getting a puppy, going on vacation is all just temporary hogwash going through their minds at the moment.

Phewwww, I am gonna bookmark this thread and look at it every time I get a slight interest in someone. Thanks for all the help my AR friends; the support and advice really means a lot to me.

Just use good judgement. Your personal needs/hobbies/routine are all things that make you, you. If you have to stop doing those things for some broad, then the truth is she doesn't like/care about you and you're just living a lie.

I mean if you've been dating some chick for a week and she's already talking about moving in, you need to get out of there or set her straight. Same with getting a puppy. Unless you want a dog, don't agree to it. You just have to live for yourself.

And think about it like this, when you spend all that time with a woman not worth your time, you're not available if you were to come across one that was. It'd just be a missed opportunity and she could've been the one too.

[Hazard]

Just use good judgement. Your personal needs/hobbies/routine are all things that make you, you. If you have to stop doing those things for some broad, then the truth is she doesn't like/care about you and you're just living a lie.

I mean if you've been dating some chick for a week and she's already talking about moving in, you need to get out of there or set her straight. Same with getting a puppy. Unless you want a dog, don't agree to it. You just have to live for yourself.

And think about it like this, when you spend all that time with a woman not worth your time, you're not available if you were to come across one that was. It'd just be a missed opportunity and she could've been the one too.

This ^^^^

This is why you should date 3-4 people at one time you bring one home to mom and bang out the other 2-3

~Haz~

[calgarian]

Cal is a true friend, he called me from Canada on the phone and gave me a moto talk and after told me to read this post. Hope it helps you the way it did me!!
Cal thanks bro.

Any time dude.....