baby mama drama

**AZGOLDSMEMBER86** · 09-26-2012, 02:55 PM

so my gf and i are separating
she wants lots ofcourse child support and keeps using our child as a pawn against me saying ill never see her. which disgust me..any idea how to makethis easier ?

**Capebuffalo** · 09-26-2012, 02:57 PM

Sorry to hear that. Honestly no it's going to suck for
A while

**Bigshotvictoria** · 09-26-2012, 02:59 PM

Don't text, email, or leave voicemail. Anything like that can cost you. Get a good lawyer and let HIM do the talking. The worst thing you could possibly do is let emotions rule your actions, because her lawyer will use everything and anything they can. After all, its their job.

With that said, I'm sorry you and your child are in this position. I truly hope it works out to every bodies best interest.

**AZGOLDSMEMBER86** · 09-26-2012, 03:01 PM

Originally Posted by Capebuffalo

Sorry to hear that. Honestly no it's going to suck for
A while

thx cape , the guys at work are fueling it.saying she will suck me dry.
i mean ,anything formy little girl , just id hateto hand over money to my ex. she's too selfish

**AZGOLDSMEMBER86** · 09-26-2012, 03:05 PM

Originally Posted by Bigshotvictoria

Don't text, email, or leave voicemail. Anything like that can cost you. Get a good lawyer and let HIM do the talking. The worst thing you could possibly do is let emotions rule your actions, because her lawyer will use everything and anything they can. After all, its their job.

With that said, I'm sorry you and your child are in this position. I truly hope it works out to every bodies best interest.

i was told this by her own mother
she says she's willing to go to court on my behalf so I can see my child still.
unfortunately I may have to come to that I do not want to argue with her just want things to be civil you know?

thanks man

**lstbred** · 09-26-2012, 03:06 PM

Agreed, get a lawyer and be civil, when/if she says "we can work this out ourselves" just say that you want to keep it on the up & up, "I'm contacting a lawyer to make sure that (the kid) gets everything thats needed and all the visitation is squared away"

**Bigshotvictoria** · 09-26-2012, 03:07 PM

Originally Posted by lstbred

Agreed, get a lawyer and be civil, when/if she says "we can work this out ourselves" just say that you want to keep it on the up & up, "I'm contacting a lawyer to make sure that (the kid) gets everything thats needed and all the visitation is squared away"

Perfectly put!

**AZGOLDSMEMBER86** · 09-26-2012, 03:09 PM

someone told me there's a way to avoid court by having a mutual agreement signed by the judge without a trial. meaning if we both came to an agreement and both were happy with what we planned out on paper send it to the judge and he signs it..

**gearbox** · 09-26-2012, 03:10 PM

Sometimes if woman know your being a nice guy they turn more bitchy. No idea why just stating what I have seen gone through.
I would play hard ball if you really have been nice to this point.

**DCI** · 09-26-2012, 03:14 PM

Originally Posted by gearbox

Sometimes if woman know your being a nice guy they turn more bitchy. No idea why just stating what I have seen gone through.

True that man, has happened to myself it's a weird one.

**AZGOLDSMEMBER86** · 09-26-2012, 03:15 PM

Originally Posted by gearbox

Sometimes if woman know your being a nice guy they turn more bitchy. No idea why just stating what I have seen gone through.
I would play hard ball if you really have been nice to this point.

yes I have experienced this before I've tried to be nice before and Ashley with them the best and then they turn around and be so b***** to me.
it's like killing them with kindness makes them so upset

**gearbox** · 09-26-2012, 03:23 PM

But your not getting what you walk and their walking all over you!

**AXx** · 09-26-2012, 03:24 PM

Ahhhh where do I start!!!

Well lets see first things first, remind her that you and her not getting along has nothing to so with the baby. 8 out of 10 the guys get punished for something that is not their fault.

As long as you or her are not unfit parents, if you come to a mutual written agreement and present it before the court it will go smooth. My ex whore and I have split custody of the kids. 7 days at my place and 7 days at her place. Now we live 10min apart so the school situation isn't a problem.

Try to limit conversation with her to text only that way you have a record of the conversations in case anything arises. This helps I promise, when having to do child support make sure you write a check and DO NOT pay cash. This I know also.

Feel free to inbox me for further burial instructions.......I mean I mean instructions on anything you might need!!!! Good luck

**evander87** · 09-26-2012, 04:35 PM

Originally Posted by Bigshotvictoria

Don't text, email, or leave voicemail. Anything like that can cost you. Get a good lawyer and let HIM do the talking. The worst thing you could possibly do is let emotions rule your actions, because her lawyer will use everything and anything they can. After all, its their job.

With that said, I'm sorry you and your child are in this position. I truly hope it works out to every bodies best interest.

Terrible advice!

Get a FEMALE lawyer let HER do the talking. The rest of what Big said is spot on. But I say get a female lawyer they look better in a court of law for men going through family bullshit.

Best of luck OP does your ex know about you using gear? She might use that against you. Just saying.

**AZGOLDSMEMBER86** · 09-26-2012, 04:36 PM

Originally Posted by AXx

Ahhhh where do I start!!!

Well lets see first things first, remind her that you and her not getting along has nothing to so with the baby. 8 out of 10 the guys get punished for something that is not their fault.

As long as you or her are not unfit parents, if you come to a mutual written agreement and present it before the court it will go smooth. My ex whore and I have split custody of the kids. 7 days at my place and 7 days at her place. Now we live 10min apart so the school situation isn't a problem.

Try to limit conversation with her to text only that way you have a record of the conversations in case anything arises. This helps I promise, when having to do child support make sure you write a check and DO NOT pay cash. This I know also.

Feel free to inbox me for further burial instructions.......I mean I mean instructions on anything you might need!!!! Good luck

i will let you know thanks a million

**JohnnyVegas** · 09-26-2012, 05:41 PM

Above all, be polite. Communicate via text and email if things are tense. That allows a cool down period and keeps a record of both sides.

Get an attorney so you can get custody and support nailed down and enforceable by the court. That will make both of you accountable.

I know I am not saying anything that hasn't been said, but making everything official will make it easier.

**songdog** · 09-26-2012, 05:46 PM

Good luck!!

**AZGOLDSMEMBER86** · 09-26-2012, 06:08 PM

thanks y'all for support ! one day at time

**red_hulk** · 09-26-2012, 10:54 PM

Sorry you're in that situation bro I had a friend go through the same thing. Just like everyone else said be polite and mature at all times and try and keep the kid out of it, cause that's just not right for the kid, once things cool down it'll be easier. For my friend it still isn't easy, but every situation is different so you might luck out.

As for me, I would keep a record of evidence of anything I could use against her to work in my favor. Even if you don't use it, it could come in handy. Keep your head up brotha!!