People who refuse to work out

**cherrydrpepper** · 10-23-2012, 10:03 PM

I need to vent here so I hope you guys won't take this too seriously or see me as a bigger a hole than I really am. Ok I really didn't want to make this thread I even made that one about being happier and less cynical but the pot of stew is about to boil over and I just need another perspective. Ok the short version my roommate doesn't work and he's a single child and a trust fund baby. His parents do everything for him and pay all his bills. Friends with him a long time he is a nice person everyone who has ever met him says that that he's a nice person. He's very very wierd. People have speculated he has Autism. I know theres something wierd about him and I do feel it could be a mental disorder but have spent a lot of time reading and can't peg him to one disorder. I'm out of work and live with him so i'm having to see him a lot not normally a bad thing but we are maybe seeing too much of each other.

The things I'm about to say about him, lots of people on this planet are like this and I just want someone elses perspective on it. I don't want to give the wrong impression that I "don't like him" or anything like that. I am trying to understand him and failing. My belief system for me says he's always been a good friend and is a good person and thats good enough for me. None the less I have questions.

Back to my inquiries. Let me start out with my major gripe we'll call #1A which is he will not work out and refuses to work out. The reason this is the biggest deal to me is because of the domino effect in how it effects all the other points I am about to make below.

Ok #1, he doesn't seem to want anything out of life. He doesn't have to worry about money which is great again he's a nice person.. but.. honest to god I think he has no goals in life. #2 He lives in a delusional fantasy world he has created for himself. In this fantasy world which involves 10 hours a day on facebook he is very popular with friends and dates easily. In reality I have known him almost a decade and can count on one hand how many male friends have come over to just hang out during that decade that I know about. #3 He dates fat chick after fat chick after fat chick which is good because he's very wierd and it would take someone with few other options to sit down and try to understand him. But, in his mind, and not just in his mind he is quick to say this out loud, he is a ladies man. He used to be able to get decently attractive ass in high school 20 years ago. When confronted he falls back on these 20 year old conquests and is quick to pull up their facebook pages. #4 The incessant and constant fat chick dating is a road that constantly flows back to itself. What I mean by this is he will not consider marrying these girls unless they have money, or they are that type of fat girl with a super cute face that makes up for being fat. He has some kind of problem with being alone and as soon as one big girl relationship ends, he is right into it again with another one which if he does have some type of disorder I think this could be a symptom. #5 This one really irks me I guess because of how far gone I am in the body dysmorphia realm. He has no consciousness or understanding on even the most rudimentary level of how physique plays into relationships with sexual/romantic nature and also of bro friends nature. What I mean to say is lets say we are watching an hour long special on SI swimsuit edition. As guys do we talk about the girls and oo that ones hot that ones got nice t/a whatever. I will explain yeah thats pretty much why I lift so I can bag a hot girl. People in bands pick up a guitar to smash hot girls and Im not going to sit here and pretend something else I picked up a weight so I could smash a hot girls poon. He will categorically deny that making muscles will in any way effect the outcome of trying to pick up a girl. Thats what irks me. If he said well I dont want to work out because its not my thing and I have a health issue or something like that Id drop it. Its the fact he thinks theres no relationship between your attractiveness sexually and as a comrade or friend , those two things, and how you physically look. Thats what I don't get how can you be that far gone and detached from reality. For the record I compare this guy to my brother a lot in my head.

**lovbyts** · 10-23-2012, 10:34 PM

Face it. #1 if you had not grown up with him or been friends in school you would NOT be friends with him now. Those are the type you need to separate from eventually and let them live their own life. You wont change him. It's no different than you dating a girl you dont get along with or have nothing in common with and expecting her to be more like you. It wont happen.

He may never have to worry about money due to his parents so he will never have any real goals or ambitions. Some people need a reason to improve or be productive.

**DSM4Life** · 10-24-2012, 04:57 AM

Whats wrong with sitting around and banging fat chicks all day? Cal does it.

**songdog** · 10-24-2012, 05:04 AM

I have a nephew like this he doesnt like to do anything.

**lovbyts** · 10-24-2012, 06:22 AM

Originally Posted by songdog

I have a nephew like this he doesnt like to do anything.

They both sound like Obama supporters since he is all about supporting them. lol

**krugerr** · 10-24-2012, 06:42 AM

To be fair, living life free and being able to express the 'chubby chaser' in me sounds great.
Hot girls are great on your arm, but nothing better than a chubby girl in the sack!

Agree with LovByts though, you won't change him. Our friend groups change throughout life, as we mature and move on, so does our likes in friends.
I had a friend at school, we were joined at the hip for 9 years. Now I haven't seen him in 3 years. But if he called now, I'd be there in a heartbeat, and he would do the same. We just run in different circles now.
Maybe it's time to let him do his thing and for you to do yours?

My 2cents

Krugerr

**stocky121** · 10-24-2012, 07:36 AM

You say your friend is a good friend and good person why should it matter to you that he has no intrest in working out the majority of people dont work out. Also not all chicks like a muscley body some find it a turn off. What i am trying to say is there is always going to be variety in the world if we were all the same it would be a boring place.

**--->>405<<---** · 10-24-2012, 08:02 AM

hey man.. it sounds like ur the one who has the problem. this dude seems to be happy.. what difference does it make to u whether he sees things ur way or not? everyone is difft. maybe u have too much time on ur hands to be focusing this much on some other dude..

he gets to sit on his butt all day and not work out and still gets laid. u know some guys prefer chubby women.. sounds like u may be a little jealous..

just my take

**zaggahamma** · 10-24-2012, 08:24 AM

Originally Posted by --->>405<<---

hey man.. it sounds like ur the one who has the problem. this dude seems to be happy.. what difference does it make to u whether he sees things ur way or not? everyone is difft. maybe u have too much time on ur hands to be focusing this much on some other dude..

he gets to sit on his butt all day and not work out and still gets laid. u know some guys prefer chubby women.. sounds like u may be a little jealous..

just my take

sorry cherry

x2^^^

just be a good friend dude sounds harmless and if he's a good friend just laugh on the inside as his trophy's get bigger

**Bigshotvictoria** · 10-24-2012, 08:31 AM

Nuthin' wrong with a chunky chick. You have to slay some dragons to get your princess...

**SEOINAGE** · 10-24-2012, 08:44 AM

Originally Posted by jpkman

sorry cherry

x2^^^

just be a good friend dude sounds harmless and if he's a good friend just laugh on the inside as his trophy's get bigger

X3 and lol.

**ReX357** · 10-24-2012, 09:22 AM

Gonna have to agree with everybody else. Live and let live. It shouldn't affect your life.

**kelkel** · 10-24-2012, 09:25 AM

Bring a chunky girl or two home and make him jealous!

**Times Roman** · 10-24-2012, 09:26 AM

If I only hung out with guys that went to the gym, life around here would get pretty lonely...............................

**SEOINAGE** · 10-24-2012, 09:27 AM

Originally Posted by Times Roman

If I only hung out with guys that went to the gym, life around here would get pretty lonely...............................

haahah, good point, especially where I live.

**HitIt** · 10-24-2012, 10:15 AM

there are 7 billion people on this planet...over 107 billion have lived on earth over time. they can't all be "normal". people who refuse to read books annoy me more than people who refuse to work out..

**--->>405<<---** · 10-24-2012, 10:27 AM

Originally Posted by HitIt

there are 7 billion people on this planet...over 107 billion have lived on earth over time. they can't all be "normal". people who refuse to read books annoy me more than people who refuse to work out..

u wouldnt like me very much hit it

**cherrydrpepper** · 10-24-2012, 10:38 AM

All the people saying we need a full spectrum of human beings ok I get it it really would be a boring world if we were all the same. At the same time I want to take all of you and make you more beautiful through bitch slapping

**Honkey_Kong** · 10-24-2012, 07:51 PM

CDP, dude having a fat-chick thriller friend is a GOD SEND. When you go to clubs and you're hitting on that hot chick, she's always got some fat friend that tries to cock-block you. That's where having a good wingman comes in to play.

As far as not having a job or a desire to work goes, I doubt many people would if they had enough money. Most of us dislike our jobs and we're only doing it because we need the money (unless you're getting paid 6 figures to pretty much just post on steroids sites *cough**cough*).

I also love to workout and play guitar. I do neither because I think it'll get me chicks. I do both because I get enjoyment out of the hobbies. I mean it's cool if you do it for the chicks, but if you have no game, you're still not going to get a lot of pus(s)y regardless of how you look. There are ugly dudes, who don't workout out, that snag tons of hot chicks because of their confidence and type of personality. And from my guitar experience, you'll never really be good at it if you're only doing it to get chicks. You think Michael Romeo gets girls? To me, doing those things comes from a passion for doing those things.

And Dude also, you said it yourself this guy is a good friend. Those come few and far in between. There are a lot of scumbags in this world, so be grateful that you got a good friend like him and try to be a good friend in return. He probably has low self-confidence and that's why he's going after those fat chicks. Maybe you could help him with that?