Trying to get out of the 'FriendZone'

[ramacher]

Ya were supposed to go out clubbing Friday with her friend, and went out tonight for drinks, but she always brings a friend along with her (always a girl). So maybe I shouldn't respond to her texts and blow her off?

[Brohim]

Be direct with her. Ask her what do you think about us getting together and she what she says. She will tell you how she feels. Seems like you are beating around the bush and you want to be beating the bush instead.

[GetItHot]

Are you buying them drinks?

[Honkey_Kong]

Ya were supposed to go out clubbing Friday with her friend, and went out tonight for drinks, but she always brings a friend along with her (always a girl). So maybe I shouldn't respond to her texts and blow her off?

Maybe you should get these girls drunk and over to your house?

[JohnnyVegas]

Are you still dinking around with this? Just tell her you would like to take her on a date.

"As we hang out more I am realizing how much I enjoy spending time with you. I would like to take you to dinner, like a date."

Then pause and wait to find out if you are in or not.

[wh1spa]

Man, so many good laughs to be had in this post.. Haha. I'd take Shsm's advice and straight up ignore her, don't act like you give two shits about her. From there it should be pretty easy seeing if she actually wants into your pants or is just an attention whore.

For some reason, when i read this acronym "SHSM" it was spoken to me as "Shovel Head Sh1t Mouth" ? anyone else get this?

[red_hulk]

Show her your dick. If that doesn't work nothing will.

[Doont-Hunter]

Should've moved early my friend. Once you think/have a feeling your in the friend zone, you most likely are. Then it's time for a new target.

[Shsm]

Ya were supposed to go out clubbing Friday with her friend, and went out tonight for drinks, but she always brings a friend along with her (always a girl). So maybe I shouldn't respond to her texts and blow her off?

Yes. It doesn't seem that you're confident enough to direct approach her just yet as Brohim suggested. Your best option should be to go a few days without texting her and see if she puts forth an effort of trying to get in touch with you. I'd she doesn't it means she doesn't give a shit about you, but if she does then you can reconsider direct approaching her...

No offense but you having her picture in your avatar comes off as extremely creepy to me. What would happen if she reverse searched her picture and found this thread?

[JohnnyVegas]

No offense but you having her picture in your avatar comes off as extremely creepy to me. What would happen if she reverse searched her picture and found this thread?

There is something we can agree on!

[GirlyGymRat]

Are you still dinking around with this? Just tell her you would like to take her on a date.

"As we hang out more I am realizing how much I enjoy spending time with you. I would like to take you to dinner, like a date."

Then pause and wait to find out if you are in or not.

What was her response to this question????

if she says no then you can just move on cuz this is not the one. There will be others.

[Gaspari1255]

Add Vinny The Chin on facebook and ask him for advice. You can't go wrong there...

[ramacher]

She actually sent me that picture via text, so that is why I used it. I think I am going to hold off because she is a little too young and immature. Every time we go out together she brings a cute friend (which is ok with me) but always asks me to bring a friend and hits on him, and even trys to go on a date with my buddy. So she is nothing but a big tease.

[austinite]

She actually sent me that picture via text, so that is why I used it. I think I am going to hold off because she is a little too young and immature. Every time we go out together she brings a cute friend (which is ok with me) but always asks me to bring a friend and hits on him, and even trys to go on a date with my buddy. So she is nothing but a big tease.

Well if that's the case, sorry you had to deal with all that. You should get revenge and send me all pictures you have of her.

[ramacher]

Well if that's the case, sorry you had to deal with all that. You should get revenge and send me all pictures you have of her.

hahaha no kidding. The bad part of it is she knows it bothers me, so screw her im done. I bounce part-time at a strip club so I'll be fine.

[Euroholic]

Is she in new york city? Tell her that t banger is coming for a visit soon. There good when there young they tend to be more gullible and easy to manipulate.


Ill do it for your bro take one for the sake of the fourm.

[austinite]

hahaha no kidding. The bad part of it is she knows it bothers me, so screw her im done. I bounce part-time at a strip club so I'll be fine.

Cool man. We live and learn. Just makes us more aware and cautious in the future.

[Shsm]

Cool man. We live and learn. Just makes us more aware and cautious in the future.

Agreed. R, that's bullshit. From your depiction of your situation it sounds like she isn't worth your time. There are plenty of other much more mature and better looking females for you out there that aren't interested playing games.

Since you're cutting off contact to her, if she does put forth an effort to contact you and one thing leads to another then you should definitely have sex with her like you initially planned. Just don't let yourself grow attached and don't take it any further than a hookup.

Good luck!

[lovbyts]

She actually sent me that picture via text, so that is why I used it. I think I am going to hold off because she is a little too young and immature. Every time we go out together she brings a cute friend (which is ok with me) but always asks me to bring a friend and hits on him, and even trys to go on a date with my buddy. So she is nothing but a big tease.

OK she is one of those. Not just a big tease but she feels she and her friend are entitled to free meals, movies, dates etc. You should go out to dinner with her and excuse yourself to the bathroom and skip out on the bill.

[athletic.guy]

It's easy dude, u want to get her attention??
Next time u go out to a club the minute u walk in, leave her side go to the bar and start talking to women, never buy them drinks, pretend your good friends with each girl u meet and don't give any attention to the girl u want, if she walks over to u introduce her to girls you have met, try talk to attractive ones. If she comes over dont break eye contact, always have a cheeky not creepy grin of confidence, talk with confidence and and never talk about yourself, but if u have to dont be honest be playful, when girls ask what i do i tell them "im a professional lotto player, I win all the time, next weeks numbers are 14, 21, 27".

DO NOT BUY THEM ANY DRINKS. If she asks for drinks walk away she's possibly using u, u can say something like, "Im good, grab one for yourself". Do not go to her during the night. Trust me she will see a difference in you and want some. The key is confidence, being funny, popular (even if it fake as long as it looks real) then she will start thinking, hmmm and start wondering why all the other women like about u. Then your in.

If u see it in her eye that she wants u, don't talk about it, dont give her compliments, she prob gets them all the time, i like a lil harmless teasing like saying,
"Wow, who did your nails, you should ask for a refund, i could of done a better job... look at mine, perfect".playfully flirt for a lil while then lean in for the kiss. From there it's yours!! Good luck bro.

[Armykid93]

It's easy dude, u want to get her attention??
Next time u go out to a club the minute u walk in, leave her side go to the bar and start talking to women, never buy them drinks, pretend your good friends with each girl u meet and don't give any attention to the girl u want, if she walks over to u introduce her to girls you have met, try talk to attractive ones. If she comes over dont break eye contact, always have a cheeky not creepy grin of confidence, talk with confidence and and never talk about yourself, but if u have to dont be honest be playful, when girls ask what i do i tell them "im a professional lotto player, I win all the time, next weeks numbers are 14, 21, 27".

DO NOT BUY THEM ANY DRINKS. If she asks for drinks walk away she's possibly using u, u can say something like, "Im good, grab one for yourself". Do not go to her during the night. Trust me she will see a difference in you and want some. The key is confidence, being funny, popular (even if it fake as long as it looks real) then she will start thinking, hmmm and start wondering why all the other women like about u. Then your in.

If u see it in her eye that she wants u, don't talk about it, dont give her compliments, she prob gets them all the time, i like a lil harmless teasing like saying,
"Wow, who did your nails, you should ask for a refund, i could of done a better job... look at mine, perfect".playfully flirt for a lil while then lean in for the kiss. From there it's yours!! Good luck bro.

This sounds ridiculous.
He wants out of the friend zone not a lesson on your internet ego.

[lovbyts]

This sounds ridiculous.
He wants out of the friend zone not a lesson on your internet ego.

Yeah but he figured out she is just using him more or less so actually the advice above is good. It works with a LOT of women.

[athletic.guy]

This sounds ridiculous.
He wants out of the friend zone not a lesson on your internet ego.

Thanks for your negative feedback but its up to the OP, his asking for advice and I've given mine. If its done right it will work. Good luck bro, you can do it !!

[Flagg]

I hate all that "Game" stuff, using all that BS just to manipulate women, but it usually works, mostly on the dumb ones, so if you just want to fvck her, go for it.

But she clearly is a prick tease. It's always struck me, that the hotter the girl, the more insecurities she has, and constantly needs validation.

And I agree, I think her and her friends are seeing you as a night out of free drinks/club entrance fee's. Dont be that guy.

[gearbox]

Sounds like an angry f#k is coming soon..

[DCI]

Sounds like an angry f#k is coming soon..

Lmao, nothing better

[Honkey_Kong]

It's easy dude, u want to get her attention??
Next time u go out to a club the minute u walk in, leave her side go to the bar and start talking to women, never buy them drinks, pretend your good friends with each girl u meet and don't give any attention to the girl u want, if she walks over to u introduce her to girls you have met, try talk to attractive ones. If she comes over dont break eye contact, always have a cheeky not creepy grin of confidence, talk with confidence and and never talk about yourself, but if u have to dont be honest be playful, when girls ask what i do i tell them "im a professional lotto player, I win all the time, next weeks numbers are 14, 21, 27".

DO NOT BUY THEM ANY DRINKS. If she asks for drinks walk away she's possibly using u, u can say something like, "Im good, grab one for yourself". Do not go to her during the night. Trust me she will see a difference in you and want some. The key is confidence, being funny, popular (even if it fake as long as it looks real) then she will start thinking, hmmm and start wondering why all the other women like about u. Then your in.

If u see it in her eye that she wants u, don't talk about it, dont give her compliments, she prob gets them all the time, i like a lil harmless teasing like saying,
"Wow, who did your nails, you should ask for a refund, i could of done a better job... look at mine, perfect".playfully flirt for a lil while then lean in for the kiss. From there it's yours!! Good luck bro.

So are you trying to be this girl's new asshole gay friend that does nails? WTF do you get your nails done for?

[GirlyGymRat]

Hi Ramacher. Sorry it has taken u 8 pages to figure out that this girl is using you. It takes gals about 12 secs to decide if a guy is going to be more than a friend, unless u r paying of course. I'm sorry that u wasted so much time and energy on this one. I haven't read every post but she seems tends towards immature and it seems like you can find someone who is worth your time and energy.

[athletic.guy]

So are you trying to be this girl's new asshole gay friend that does nails? WTF do you get your nails done for?

OMG, that's the joke. I don't get my nails done but there still better than hers. And don't u come on her calling me gay, that's just disrespectful.

I don't condone playing games, if that's what she is like then I'm telling u now she isnt a keeper, or at least until she grows up. But if you want her attention, whatever you have done up until now has got u into the friend zone. And that's not where u want to be, either change it up or completely walk away and stop replying to txt until she is ready to blow you for forgiveness.

[Far from massive]

If she is younger chances are she would be totally open and respectful of you simply asking if you were the type of guy she would want to hook-up with. You could phrase it as I know now might not be the right time but I am attracted to you so I just want to know if I am someone you would want to hook-up with or are we just friends.

My Godaughter is 24 5 foot 2 105 lbs and drop dead georgous, she runs into this problem constantly and would much rather a guy just go ahead and ask.

Of course the hard part is acccepting the answer, since if you have been clubbing all this time and nothing has transpired to let you know how she feels its most likely not a mutual feeling.

[cherrydrpepper]

Do more juice and lift harder hope this helps

[Doont-Hunter]

You should be able to tell in the first few hours of meeting the girl if there's a change either at that time, or in the future of getting doont off her. If you still like them but you don't think they like you, don't see them for a few months and train really hard and get bigger, more shredded and tanned and they will be all over you I guarantee it. It's a shallow world today, but it works.

[Honkey_Kong]

OMG, that's the joke. I don't get my nails done but there still better than hers. And don't u come on her calling me gay, that's just disrespectful.

I don't condone playing games, if that's what she is like then I'm telling u now she isnt a keeper, or at least until she grows up. But if you want her attention, whatever you have done up until now has got u into the friend zone. And that's not where u want to be, either change it up or completely walk away and stop replying to txt until she is ready to blow you for forgiveness.

Don't take things to heart, Brah. I don't think either of our jokes were that funny in hindsight. Hahaha we're batting .000

But yeah, this guy's got to either shit or get off the pot with this chick.

[ReX357]

Straight up man. You just can't go in the friend zone in the first place. Once you're there you're pretty much f*cked. You gotta start hitting on girls right off the bat and make it clear that there's no such thing as friendship with a girl.

Cut your losses. **** her friends. And don't talk to her. Hardest thing ever I know. Unless she wants to do something alone with you, don't hang out with her period. Don't message her first. Short answers. Don't keep the conversations going. Do not introduce any friends again. And if she uses the word friend again, tell her "We're not friends.". Then she's gonna be like "Why? What? What do you mean?" then tell her "I just don't think about bending my friends over the table and ****ing the shit out of them." (Don't change the words. Be blunt as sh*t.) Whatever her reaction is: Don't matter. There's a slight chance she's gonna go with it. If not too bad. At least you communicated your needs. You've just been beating around the bush for too long now.

[DCI]

I know, what it feels like to be used man. Had the same thing myself but for some reason I am slipping myself back talking to this one but we were more than friends thankfully I got something outta it but it's not easy to steer clear.

[Juced_porkchop]

Yeah I am not looking to really date her at the moment, but just get a little closer to her. She just broke up with a kid that went to school with me who is the same age as me, and dated for 2 years. So I don't think she wants to be in a relationship with anyone right now which I respect, but I wish she can be as open as she is thru text as in when we go out or at the gym together.

get her alone. go eat watch a movie, and see when you can mention you are fond of her, but not looking for a GF or anything, just that she seems "not like the others" and you love hanging with her... see where it goes.

[run_n_fool]

Man, these guys are twice your age and married, don't go off of their advice!

Anyways, if you want her attention then ignore her. Don't answer any of her calls, messages, texts, anything. It will drive her nuts. If she chooses in this time to not make an effort for your attention, then leave her, you won't get anywhere with her and will be wasting your time. However if she texts, calls, and messages you multiple times, in any significant effort to get your attention then you're game.

What it comes down to after that is making them want you. Don't call her beautiful and sexy and shit when you're trying to get in her panties. Think about the countless other losers making an attempt to have sex with her by complimenting her. Girls aren't attracted to sweet guy antics at first glance, they're attracted to power. Make her think you barely have any time in the day to do anything with her, where you're always busy either working or at the gym. Make her realize there are numerous other attractive girls out there at your disposal.

I agree with this advice.

I'm in the FZ at the moment and trying to do almost exactly this. It is hard, esp since you seem to want more. I am trying to avoid txt'ing her. If I get the odd txt or IM, I am trying to keep my replies shorter than hers, keeping a good amount of time before replying, etc., and also trying to seem like I have other stuff going on. If a person puts work into something (her or you) they become invested and do not want to lose that investment. Currently you are doing all the work. Get her to make more of an investment. Psychology shows that people are more loss averse than gain motivated. In other words, you will work harder to avoid losing something, anything, than you will be would be willing to do to gain something potentially better.

Also, if you happen to see her or talk to her, try to have other cool stuff going on in your life. I'm not saying lie, although you could do that if you had to. But when she says "what are you doing this wknd" it'd be good to be able to say you are checking out a cool new club with some friends, hanging with some girl she does not know, weekend away, whatever. If you actually have cool stuff going on it is win-win as it makes her think "i wish i were doing that with him" and also because it gets you out of your head a little about this particular girl. But worse case, a lie is better than saying you are doing nothing or something lame.

[brahmabull117]

trying to get out of friend zone is nearly impossible, avoid it before it happens

[ReX357]

trying to get out of friend zone is nearly impossible, avoid it before it happens

Yup. Pretty much echoes my last post. Just don't go there in the first place. If you find a girl attractive, make her laugh and start kino right away. (Kino = touching)

[baseline_9]

Wow this thread is still going....

Has the OP managed to slip his sausage in her Yorkshire pudding yet?

I need a quick update