GF issue

**TheClinch** · 02-18-2013, 11:10 PM

Holy f*ck you guys get a grip. There are about a million reasons this woman could be looking. Jumping to defcon 5 is rediculous behaviour that is pure p*ssy repellant. Regardless of whether its founded or not.

There was advice to keep your sh*t cool and play the interested partner to allow the girl to unveil her truest thoughts on the situation without causing potentially irreversible damage to a blooming marriage. Take that advice or at the very least another subtle approach that both temporarily preserves all you have built up to this point and gets you better informed.

Have some f*cking tact people.

Gotta love irony....lol

**cherrydrpepper** · 02-19-2013, 12:11 AM

Clinch is probably right I don't really understand marriage / engagement at all so I guess my statement was in the context of dating. PS nice av clinch

**TheClinch** · 02-19-2013, 12:35 AM

Originally Posted by cherrydrpepper

Clinch is probably right I don't really understand marriage / engagement at all so I guess my statement was in the context of dating. PS nice av clinch

Thanks CDP

I have been hurt too. I've battled insecurities. All of it, so I'll spare details. But...

I've realized that by far the worst way to approach a situation like this is fueled by the fear of being hurt. The insecurity reeks of a future of unhappiness to a woman.

You read this next part earlier in this thread, but...

You have to put down your fear if you want get close to the girl. Mark my words, no woman will let you in close if you go mental snap show on her every time something can appear off.

Yes you will be vulnerable and yes you have no power over it but you will have self respect in knowing you are on the level and if anything undesired does.rear its ugly head you can walk away as a champ not a chump who manifested the end of the relationship.

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I'm old enough to have witnessed many marriage atrocities and I know for certain no one thinks less of a person with a cheating spouse.

It isn't pretty and its awkward as hell with all types of fallout ranging from "who gets the house and kids?" to "Who gets the friends and hang out spots?". But, everyone gets through it in the wash. Some more clean than others because they walk away like the champ with their family and friends respect because they kept their game tight.

If you need it in a song. Listen to "Love is my religion" by ziggy marley

**alexISthrowed** · 02-19-2013, 12:42 AM

I remember my first relationship in hs, I was totally inexperienced and dated a girl that had given one blowjob and was a virgin. I was extremely insecure and jealous and it ended the relationship. I've learned you need to get some of your own experience in before settling down in a serious relationship. I know guys who have only been with 1-2 girls that find themselves dating a great girl who was more socially "normal" and has slept with let's say 10 guys (which by today's standards is pretty normal for any woman in her twenties imo) that have ruined their relationship by being insecure and jealous.

**diabolicsoul** · 02-19-2013, 01:25 PM

Originally Posted by goode80

Ok, so im about to marry my fiance and just had a feeling rescently and snooped on her computer. Just before we met she dated this guy fr a short time. Said it didnt work out and they didnt click at all. But now when i looked on her computer history she checks his facebook looks like couple times a week. The guys married now with a kid, and she even looks up the wife too. The last search she was looking through all the photos. I know al this sounds childish, but faceboook is huge and everyone uses it.

Should i bring this up? I dont think shes talking to him at all, but theres just something about it thats bothering me. maybe shes jealous that hes married? Maybe regretting not being with him?

I have been cheated on before and thats why i looked, probably shouldnt have. I love her with everything i have, but afraid my fears are true, or that if i bring it up will lead to a break up to.

Any thoughts?

How long have you guys been together? And how old are you?

First of all. No, don't tell her. But, you are soon to be married and you are scared to bring up something like this because it will lead to a break up? If you did bring it up, would you be able to read her to tell if she's telling the truth about her feelings, etc?

If there's no message/text message exchange I wouldn't worry. All she's doing is checking his facebook page. Does she miss him? Maybe, but he has a wife and a kid. Is she checking in on someone who use to be in her life? yeah.

You are questioning her faith, and you don't seem to trust her very much if you are looking at her internet history behind her back. I would rethink about this marriage if it's coming up soon.

Sit down and think about the person you 'love' and the kind of person she is.

I've been cheated on before, so I can relate. But, the best thing you can do is just go to a quiet place in your house, and think. Make a decision that you think is best in your current situation. And when you are thinking, tune out your jealousy, or any other emotion that will **** up your decision making skills.