How long to wait till you ask a girl to be your girlfriend?

**JohnnyVegas** · 07-22-2013, 07:16 PM

I am probably old fashioned but I don't have sex with chicks that are having sex with other dudes. Soooo, I have the conversation about being exclusive pretty quickly. Like a month. It doesn't mean lifetime commitment, just giving the relationship a try without competition. If she says "no" then I know she isn't the girl for me.

Remember, I have been insanely happy in my marriage for the past ten years. I don't know if that means my advice is invalid because I have been off the market for a long time or VERY valid because it worked!

**SexySweetheart** · 07-22-2013, 08:07 PM

Lol sooooo funny coming to the site an peeling in boys brains.

FYI if your gal stops the bjs and oral ya may wanna look at what you stopped doing as well.... did you stop romancing her or pampering her or doing dishes or making her feel sexy Cruz usually the chick checks out sexualy when she sees her man has checked out physicly. Its a 2 way street . But sex isn't usually important to us gals and all the romantic for play isn't important to guys...so when we notice you no longer put in the effort guess what lol we stop too

**Honkey_Kong** · 07-23-2013, 01:45 AM

Originally Posted by spywizard

see, thats why i think marriage should have term limits.. like 5 yr terms.. no divorce ever, simply serve out the term of the contract.. the contract will spell out child support and spousal support during and after the marriage..

or 2 yr but no more than 5 yr terms..

Yeah, but then women would just work extra hard to spend every cent you had during those 5 years. Besides, most marriages nowadays don't last 5 years.

**lovbyts** · 07-23-2013, 03:47 AM

Originally Posted by Honkey_Kong

Yeah, but then women would just work extra hard to spend every cent you had during those 5 years. Besides, most marriages nowadays don't last 5 years.

LOL, didnt think about that and you are very correct.
I guess we also need a spending/allowance clause.

**krugerr** · 07-23-2013, 04:02 AM

Do people still ask to be boyfriend/girlfriend? It was just silently agreed with all my (few) relationships. You go on a few dates, you start seeing each other more and more, I would say you're at the boyfriend/girlfriend stage when you begin to just 'hang out' without the feel of a date.

Why do people feel the need to label things and categorize them. If its going well, leave it be.

**DSM4Life** · 07-23-2013, 05:34 AM

Originally Posted by Sexy4mySweetheart

Lol sooooo funny coming to the site an peeling in boys brains.

FYI if your gal stops the bjs and oral ya may wanna look at what you stopped doing as well.... did you stop romancing her or pampering her or doing dishes or making her feel sexy Cruz usually the chick checks out sexualy when she sees her man has checked out physicly. Its a 2 way street . But sex isn't usually important to us gals and all the romantic for play isn't important to guys...so when we notice you no longer put in the effort guess what lol we stop too

Need to make it a little more simple for the boys. If you girl/guy stops giving you oral ask yourself when was the last time you washed your balls.

**Honkey_Kong** · 07-23-2013, 06:49 AM

Originally Posted by lovbyts

LOL, didnt think about that and you are very correct.
I guess we also need a spending/allowance clause.

Maybe not a spending/allowance clause, but we need to get something in return for the money. Like for instance if she cooks dinner she gets $5. If it's good, $10. Clean the house $20.

Then we can get in to the good stuff.... HJs = $5, BJs =$10 and ZJs = $20.

See if it worked out like this, marriages would be happy.

**lovbyts** · 07-23-2013, 06:52 AM

Originally Posted by Honkey_Kong

Maybe not a spending/allowance clause, but we need to get something in return for the money. Like for instance if she cooks dinner she gets $5. If it's good, $10. Clean the house $20.

Then we can get in to the good stuff.... HJs = $5, BJs =$10 and ZJs = $20.

See if it worked out like this, marriages would be happy.

Or we could just stick with the Good old tried and true saying of; If it Floats, Flys or Fvcks it's cheaper to rent.

**krugerr** · 07-23-2013, 06:53 AM

Originally Posted by Honkey_Kong

Maybe not a spending/allowance clause, but we need to get something in return for the money. Like for instance if she cooks dinner she gets $5. If it's good, $10. Clean the house $20.

Then we can get in to the good stuff.... HJs = $5, BJs =$10 and ZJs = $20.

See if it worked out like this, marriages would be happy.

I just had to Urban Dictionary to find out what a Z-job was lol. What about anal, thats going to be pricey!

**Honkey_Kong** · 07-23-2013, 06:58 AM

Originally Posted by krugerr

I just had to Urban Dictionary to find out what a Z-job was lol. What about anal, thats going to be pricey!

If you had to look up a ZJ, you can't afford one. hahahaha.

**Honkey_Kong** · 07-23-2013, 06:59 AM

Originally Posted by lovbyts

Or we could just stick with the Good old tried and true saying of; If it Floats, Flys or Fvcks it's cheaper to rent.

When you get down to the nitty gritty, hookers are cheaper than girlfriends/wives.

**HitIt** · 07-23-2013, 08:59 AM

Originally Posted by Sexy4mySweetheart

Lol sooooo funny coming to the site an peeling in boys brains.

FYI if your gal stops the bjs and oral ya may wanna look at what you stopped doing as well.... did you stop romancing her or pampering her or doing dishes or making her feel sexy Cruz usually the chick checks out sexualy when she sees her man has checked out physicly. Its a 2 way street . But sex isn't usually important to us gals and all the romantic for play isn't important to guys...so when we notice you no longer put in the effort guess what lol we stop too

in other words, women trade sex for chores

**SexySweetheart** · 07-23-2013, 09:22 AM

Originally Posted by HitIt

in other words, women trade sex for chores

sex with some folks is a chore in its self ;D

**lovbyts** · 07-23-2013, 09:40 AM

Originally Posted by Honkey_Kong

When you get down to the nitty gritty, hookers are cheaper than girlfriends/wives.

Add in the cost of divorce and your savings are astronomical... lol

**jasc** · 07-23-2013, 12:12 PM

Originally Posted by Honkey_Kong

If you had to look up a ZJ, you can't afford one. hahahaha.

bahahaha

good flick

**GettingReal** · 07-23-2013, 12:41 PM

Originally Posted by krugerr

Do people still ask to be boyfriend/girlfriend? It was just silently agreed with all my (few) relationships. You go on a few dates, you start seeing each other more and more, I would say you're at the boyfriend/girlfriend stage when you begin to just 'hang out' without the feel of a date.

Why do people feel the need to label things and categorize them. If its going well, leave it be.

It may sound silly to ask, but the same thing can be done in other ways. Some people don't want to get emotionally attached before they know the other person is committed to the relationship. Or when they notice they are starting to really care about the person, they take the time to talk about it before getting more attached. We used to call it a DTR, determine the relationship, and in college it was usually a dreaded thing, because it was usually try to get as much action as you can before that comes up, since none of us guys really quite wanted a relationship, or if we did, we were just scared to talk about it.

And even then being gf/bf is only as big a commitment as you make it. You can't just assume what the other persons morals are, or assume that they think you are exclusive. Even in marriage you usually have some sort of agreement, not to mention society has kind of labeled marriage as monogamous, so being faithful is kind of assumed.

**Times Roman** · 07-23-2013, 01:04 PM

Originally Posted by BlueWaffle21

How old are you? This sounds like a high school question!!

I've never asked this iin my adult life. I meet a girl and if we hit it off and start dating, it's just assumed that we are gf/bf when we start acting like it. You could always ask if you're exclusive or still seeing other people but I think that is easily realized by the type of relationship you're in. I would never ask a woman to be my girlfriend, pretty sure they would laugh!

now that i think of it, I have to agree with the above. in highschool, I'd ask a girl if she'd be my girl. then later in life, that stopped. instead, it changed and was replaced by the "L" word. For some reason, women early on in a relationship want to hear that you love em. Once you say that, it somehow implies monogamy and also helps some women feel less like they are being used for sex. I had this one that was an absolute tigress in the sack, no holds barred sex. but she needed to hear the "L" word so she didn't feel like a tramp for some reason.

.....a small price to pay...!

**SexySweetheart** · 07-23-2013, 03:01 PM

Originally Posted by Honkey_Kong

When you get down to the nitty gritty, hookers are cheaper than girlfriends/wives.

yup

but sex is well just sex.
yay exciting meeting a new person that pretends to be interrested in you (but you both kkknowthey want your money or a fvck) an hour or 3 of bliss (unless your the chick than its an hour or 3 of pertending they are the best thing god made) ... .... than what? nothing. just akward knowing before hand and after, that the othr person sees you as income or a lay.

wow super forfilling stuff lmao

**ChiveOn** · 07-24-2013, 04:48 PM

Originally Posted by MACKATTACK

Well its been a month but she lives in the city so when she comes out on the weekend she stays at my place Thursday night through like sunday morning, 24/7. I mean its already pretty far along. I just don't like to jump out the gym too fast and ask too early.

Plus I just blew my knee out this past wednesday and she took care of me the whole time she was here doing everything.

If its at this point you're already dating. I would just ask about it and confirm exclusivity. You never know another persons morals unless you ask. And even then some can't be trusted... We don't have the answer for you because we're not in your situation.

Just remember. A man will burn down your house, beat the shit out of you or steal you car or something. But a woman will ruin your life.
Do you see the difference? Like, a man will cut your arm off and throw it in a river, but he will leave you intact as a human being. He won't **** with who you are.
Women are nonviolent, but they will shit in your heart