Back from Cancun......

**jesse4466** · 06-29-2014, 06:48 AM

Nice congrats on the girl and cancun trip.

My wife and I are headed to Le blanc next week in Cancun for our late honeymoon, got married in Jan.

I'm in the middle of a test cycle so I'm just gonna do full weeks injections before I leave and work out and diet there.

**thisAngelBites** · 06-29-2014, 04:12 PM

Originally Posted by redz

Women will agree if a guy doesn't have an edge it's a turn off.

Not this woman. Women who think that men with an edge are somehow a turn on or interesting are the thickies who make the fatal mistake of thinking that the guy is like that with everyone else, but won't be like that ultimately with them. Like the women who date someone married, and when he leaves his wife for them, they convince themselves that he might have cheated before, but he would never cheat on them.

It took me quite awhile to decide to settle down, so I have what I would say is a fair amount of experience dating, and over the years I did briefly date a couple of guys that got all crazy and decided I was the perfect woman after a couple of weeks and started talking about running off and getting married. To say I got rid of them quickly after that would be an understatement.

Even in my 20s I knew that any man that had me whipped up to be that ideal of perfection after a couple of weeks was in love with the idea of a perfect woman who would be the answer to all his problems, and who I was didn't matter in the least.

I think women who yearn for the whirlwind romance of soul mates at first sight and married ten days later are a really niche combination of crazy and broken.

There is a cultural theorist whose work I quite like, called Lauren Berlant. She works a lot in the areas of intimacy and politics, and she says, rather interestingly, that love is one of the places in which people can rather freely admit that they want to become different, and that it is partly an urge to change that does not involve trauma. It's interesting thinking.

**David LoPan** · 06-29-2014, 06:16 PM

First post on 06-25-2014, 06:32 PM its now 6-29-2015 . . . got a new love of your life yet?

**redz** · 06-30-2014, 08:14 AM

No nothing new, I've been talking to her non stop. It's fun getting to know more about her. Maybe the way I say things on here rubs people the wrong way but I believe in the secret and it has worked well for me. I can manifest any future I desire.

**lovbyts** · 06-30-2014, 08:29 AM

Originally Posted by redz

No nothing new, I've been talking to her non stop. It's fun getting to know more about her. Maybe the way I say things on here rubs people the wrong way but I believe in the secret and it has worked well for me. I can manifest any future I desire.

They use to call the delusional or drug abuse, typically LSD.

So you is you can manifest your own future you must not like yourself much since you keep making the loves of your life ex's after a few short weeks unless they end up pregnant and then have an abortion.

Yeah sounds like a pretty good plan. Your desires are a bit different than most people.

**Cuz** · 06-30-2014, 08:55 AM

Do you tell people this shit in real life or do you just do it here on the internet?

**DOSA** · 06-30-2014, 09:29 AM

Do you have any friends?

I would think at least one of them would of beat some sense into you by now.

**Capebuffalo** · 06-30-2014, 10:33 AM

Can you manifest a future where you are an adult and behave as such?

Or is it you can only manifest a future with failure? Because that's what you've been doing since your divorce.

**redz** · 06-30-2014, 11:15 AM

How have I been failing? Very judgemental people. I love my life and that's more than most people can say. I get what I want. I do profess the secret and positive thinking in real life and many credit me with changing their lives. I try to help people with positivity. Realists are the idiots of the world.

**DCI** · 06-30-2014, 11:53 AM

I'd imagine you've changed many lifes all right.

**diesel101** · 06-30-2014, 11:59 AM

Originally Posted by DCI

I'd imagine you've changed many lifes all right.

If he is half as big as he claims the only thing he did was make them walk bowl legged.

**DCI** · 06-30-2014, 12:07 PM

Originally Posted by diesel101

If he is half as big as he claims the only thing he did was make them walk bowl legged.

Lol well we all know thats a loada balls ohh no I went there

**hawk14dl** · 06-30-2014, 12:26 PM

You've been failing because you've found a dozen "love of your life's" .

At first your stories were humorous. Now that we realize you truly believe you've fallen in love (again) we all just think you're an idiot.

If you just told it how it was, we'd be less judgemental. For example: "I just got this chick to fall for me while I was on vacation, spent the whole week banging her. It was great. Now that I'm back, I met this other girl and bought her an expensive dinner, we f#cked on the first date. I love my life"

Be real dude. You haven't fallen in love with any of these women. You're buying them nice shit and they're repaying you with sex. You're not the first guy that's done this or the last. We all have experience in that game. Get the f#ck over yourself

**redz** · 06-30-2014, 12:57 PM

What nice things did I buy her exactly?

**diesel101** · 06-30-2014, 02:34 PM

I agree with a lot of what is being said here and do not believe you are falling in love everytime but if you are enjoying your way of life and the women are going along with it what the hell go ahead and have a good time!

**diesel101** · 06-30-2014, 02:35 PM

Originally Posted by diesel101

I agree with a lot of what is being said here and do not believe you are falling in love everytime but if you are enjoying your way of life and the women are going along with it what the hell go ahead and have a good time!

O yea just remember herpes is forever

**DCI** · 06-30-2014, 02:57 PM

Originally Posted by diesel101

O yea just remember herpes is forever

Not for christmas

**redz** · 06-30-2014, 03:30 PM

I've been better about condoms Im protecting myself. We'll see how long I can hold out with this girl being so far away.

**Honkey_Kong** · 06-30-2014, 04:23 PM

Redz next girlfriend:

Just kidding!

**jay94** · 06-30-2014, 04:58 PM

Originally Posted by thisAngelBites

Not this woman. Women who think that men with an edge are somehow a turn on or interesting are the thickies who make the fatal mistake of thinking that the guy is like that with everyone else, but won't be like that ultimately with them. Like the women who date someone married, and when he leaves his wife for them, they convince themselves that he might have cheated before, but he would never cheat on them.

It took me quite awhile to decide to settle down, so I have what I would say is a fair amount of experience dating, and over the years I did briefly date a couple of guys that got all crazy and decided I was the perfect woman after a couple of weeks and started talking about running off and getting married. To say I got rid of them quickly after that would be an understatement.

Even in my 20s I knew that any man that had me whipped up to be that ideal of perfection after a couple of weeks was in love with the idea of a perfect woman who would be the answer to all his problems, and who I was didn't matter in the least.

I think women who yearn for the whirlwind romance of soul mates at first sight and married ten days later are a really niche combination of crazy and broken.

There is a cultural theorist whose work I quite like, called Lauren Berlant. She works a lot in the areas of intimacy and politics, and she says, rather interestingly, that love is one of the places in which people can rather freely admit that they want to become different, and that it is partly an urge to change that does not involve trauma. It's interesting thinking.

I know people are going to call me out, tell me that I'm Young and unexperienced, etc... But personally, I don't believe there's anything such as 'love'. There's the physical/sexual attraction for the first couple years, and then, there's the common interests, the life you have built with that person, the projects you have made with that person, the shared memories, etc... all those things that make you stay with that person even though the sexual attraction is gone. And then you have the weirdos like me, who don't really care about sex and will probably spend their life alone.

**Docd187123** · 06-30-2014, 07:20 PM

Originally Posted by jay94

I know people are going to call me out, tell me that I'm Young and unexperienced, etc... But personally, I don't believe there's anything such as 'love'. There's the physical/sexual attraction for the first couple years, and then, there's the common interests, the life you have built with that person, the projects you have made with that person, the shared memories, etc... all those things that make you stay with that person even though the sexual attraction is gone. And then you have the weirdos like me, who don't really care about sex and will probably spend their life alone.

So you admit to being an outlier instead of the norm yet denounce love? Not hating on you but you're right, you're still young and haven't experience much the world/life has to offer. I can tell you love exists and attraction can be maintained grouch out the years. A buddy of mine from HS had been with his girl for 7years by the time we were seniors. He's 29yo now, married to the same woman, still very much in love, and still highly attracted to her. My parents have been married over 30years and still attracted to each other.

Again I'm not hating on you not am I trying to put you down but you really need to open your eyes and realize there's all types of ppl in this world and your limited experiences are just that...YOUR experiences, not those of the rest of the population.

**lovbyts** · 07-14-2014, 10:20 PM

OK it's been almost a month since Redz has posted.

Anyone hear from him? Did he get married?
Maybe he found out a kid is on the way?
Maybe he went on vacation to visit his new love who is in MD school and she cut out his kidney to sell on the black market and left him in the desert???

Maybe he started chatting with some girl online and got busted in a sting operation?
Oh wait thats not Redz who does that.

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**redz** · 07-14-2014, 10:39 PM

I'm still alive and not married....yet. I am having a moral dilemma right now I have gotten myself in a bind. Not sure what to do right now.

**lovbyts** · 07-14-2014, 10:47 PM

Originally Posted by redz

I'm still alive and not married....yet. I am having a moral dilemma right now I have gotten myself in a bind. Not sure what to do right now.

You life would not be normal without a dilemma.

Well in honestly I hope you figure it out and it doesnt turn out BAD because if it does we might feel bad for you and not tease you so much. lol

Anything we can help with? It might help to share as long as you actually try to listen to some of the advice since a lot of use have probably gone though something similar and might have some insight. We just try not to make it a monthly situation.