Dating someone who uses steroids

**AllAmericanGirl** · 07-28-2014, 05:58 AM

Good Morning!
This is my first post, I just wanted a little insight from you all. I met this guy and he is awesome, so nice and funny, and we can talk on the phone for hours and hours. He is very respectful and just a good guy. He told me last night that he uses steroids . I am a serious worrier, so I of course googled the effects of steroids . I saw body acne, the testicle shrinkage, the sensitive nipples/growth of breasts etc... I also saw that it is possible to get HIV or hepatitis from needle usage. I asked him about how he got needles and he said he can buy them at a store. Any advice? Another big thing I worry about (and I know I am thinking very far ahead) but I want babies one day, I know the steroids can cause infertility and impotence which means no babies! I just need a little reassurance, I like him, he seems to like me. It has bit been an easy task to find someone I click with so I feel happy and lucky and I want to see where it goes. Help me!

**austinite** · 07-28-2014, 06:04 AM

He's not very smart for telling you about steroid use . But to each their own.

He is not buying steroids at a 'store'. Not a legitimate one anyway. And yes, there are plenty of risks. Most people have no clue what they're doing and end up with some sort of damage.

**AllAmericanGirl** · 07-28-2014, 06:06 AM

No he buys the needles that he uses at a store (he told me that when I asked about the whole HIV hepatitis thing). I didn't ask where he gets the steroids . He sounds like he may know what he is doing? I don't know a lot about it, it sounds like he is used to it. Like maybe he has done it a while. :/ I'm freaking out a little sorry.

**diesel101** · 07-28-2014, 06:18 AM

I would not worry about the HIV or other disease's I would suspect that he is buying sterile needles. I wouldn't think there are to many people that would share needles when using AAS.
Austinite is correct there are always risks.

**austinite** · 07-28-2014, 06:21 AM

Originally Posted by AllAmericanGirl

No he buys the needles that he uses at a store (he told me that when I asked about the whole HIV hepatitis thing). I didn't ask where he gets the steroids. He sounds like he may know what he is doing? I don't know a lot about it, it sounds like he is used to it. Like maybe he has done it a while. :/ I'm freaking out a little sorry.

Does he look like he is on steroids ?

**AllAmericanGirl** · 07-28-2014, 06:24 AM

I apologize in advance because this is going to sound stupid. He looks really buff like his neck is thick and his shoulders. His upper body is huge, his arms are huge. I honestly just want him to be safe. I don't want anything to happen to him you know? It scares me.

**austinite** · 07-28-2014, 06:26 AM

Originally Posted by AllAmericanGirl

I apologize in advance because this is going to sound stupid. He looks really buff like his neck is thick and his shoulders. His upper body is huge, his arms are huge. I honestly just want him to be safe. I don't want anything to happen to him you know? It scares me.

Huge with muscle or is he flat?

Lady, there are risks. You're too much of a worrier to be in a relationship that isn't exactly straight laced.You'll drive yourself crazy and there isn't anyone that can provide you with any reassurance. Most certainly not on the internet.

Good luck.

**AllAmericanGirl** · 07-28-2014, 06:30 AM

Huge with muscle.

Well thanks anyways.

**Cuz** · 07-28-2014, 06:44 AM

Originally Posted by AllAmericanGirl

I apologize in advance because this is going to sound stupid. He looks really buff like his neck is thick and his shoulders. His upper body is huge, his arms are huge. I honestly just want him to be safe. I don't want anything to happen to him you know? It scares me.

Yeah? Stats? Lol...

Like Austinite said you may not be able to handle this relationship but I can tell you he does care enough about you to tell you.

**AllAmericanGirl** · 07-28-2014, 06:52 AM

Originally Posted by Cuz

Yeah? Stats? Lol...

Like Austinite said you may not be able to handle this relationship but I can tell you he does care enough about you to tell you.

And that is so sweet and kind. I mean I can at least try right? He is a good guy and we all have our vices I don't want to judge him. If/when we really start dating we can talk more about it.

I don't know any stats, sorry, we literally just started going out recently like a few weeks

**zempey** · 07-28-2014, 07:04 AM

There are risks with everything, if he drank everyday there would be risks, if he ate fast food everyday there would be risks. If you like him go for it, steroids don't make you a bad person, if done improperly or abused there will be consequences, but that is with everything in life.

**lovbyts** · 07-28-2014, 07:09 AM

Well it's good at least you are looking into in and not just listening or believing all the TV hype.

It all depends on what he is doing and how he is doing it. Since you already told you (I agree, foolish on his part this early) then be open with him and ask him if he belongs to this site or others. In all honesty and yes I'm bias this is the best site around because we do not promote steroid use but focus on the health issues more as in is a person really ready physically, emotionally and mentally to use them.

There is very very very little to worry about in the way of Hep B or aids and if he is sharing a needle with someone to save $0.20 then there is really something wrong with this guy. lol

Your not a singer are you? Dont ask, long story but everyone here will understand. lol

**Capebuffalo** · 07-28-2014, 07:11 AM

Dating a few weeks? Tell him to run. Sorry but I've seen this all before.
Sorry.

**Cuz** · 07-28-2014, 07:19 AM

Originally Posted by Capebuffalo

Dating a few weeks? Tell him to run. Sorry but I've seen this all before.
Sorry.

You're sorry right? Lol

**Cuz** · 07-28-2014, 07:20 AM

Care to tell us how old he is?

**Capebuffalo** · 07-28-2014, 07:22 AM

Originally Posted by lovbyts

Well it's good at least you are looking into in and not just listening or believing all the TV hype.

It all depends on what he is doing and how he is doing it. Since you already told you (I agree, foolish on his part this early) then be open with him and ask him if he belongs to this site or others. In all honesty and yes I'm bias this is the best site around because we do not promote steroid use but focus on the health issues more as in is a person really ready physically, emotionally and mentally to use them.

There is very very very little to worry about in the way of Hep B or aids and if he is sharing a needle with someone to save $0.20 then there is really something wrong with this guy. lol

Your not a singer are you? Dont ask, long story but everyone here will understand. lol

She said he was big. Lol not Red

**austinite** · 07-28-2014, 07:25 AM

Originally Posted by Cuz

he does care enough about you to tell you.

lmfao! I needed that

thanks.

**Cuz** · 07-28-2014, 07:26 AM

Are u dating Redz??

**Cuz** · 07-28-2014, 07:28 AM

Originally Posted by austinite

lmfao! I needed that

thanks.

Gotta have some fun before the thread gets locked

**AllAmericanGirl** · 07-28-2014, 07:36 AM

I am not a singer lol (you mean an actual singer? or is that a codeword for something?). Also he is 33

**Rusty11** · 07-28-2014, 08:35 AM

I love these types of threads. They're about as legitimate as my mickey mouse club member card.. But, believe what you will...

**derekkpapa1** · 07-28-2014, 08:45 AM

Get rid of him. I am free I don't use steriods . I also have a bridge for sale.
What till he come down your going to miss getting banged 3 times a day

**AllAmericanGirl** · 07-28-2014, 09:09 AM

I genuinely just found this forum on a google search. I don't know much about steroids besides what I learned in HS and from a google search last night. I am a worrier I can totally admit that. I am still going to get to know him better and see where it goes. I mean it is his life, I don't think he is bad and I don't think people who use any substances are bad people everyone has different motivation. I just know that I want to meet someone and fall in love and get married and have a family I don't want his usage to complicate that. Which is totally selfish of me. I understand. Also we haven't had sex so getting banged 3 times a day? That doesn't necessarily sound fun to me lol

**derekkpapa1** · 07-28-2014, 09:18 AM

as long as he is not abusing it, which could/will have future health risks if you guys are still together I don't see a problem with a one or two safe cycles a year.
Remember as much as most of dont want admit it is a drug and just like anything else used with in reason and controlled should not be issue but abuse it could kill you.
Remember there are risk with taken Tylenol or other meds like birth control.
Relax enjoy life it's to short to worry.

**lovbyts** · 07-28-2014, 09:35 AM

Originally Posted by Capebuffalo

She said he was big. Lol not Red

My bad. You are 100% correct sir.

Originally Posted by AllAmericanGirl

I am not a singer lol (you mean an actual singer? or is that a codeword for something?). Also he is 33

No code. It has to do with one of our members who recently started seeing someone and is in love again. 4th or 4th time this year. LoL

**DontTaseMeBro** · 07-28-2014, 10:30 AM

The fact that he told you may mean that he's foolish; or may just indicate that he is a really upfront and honest guy that can't deal with a bunch of hiding and secrets. Most wouldn't choose the beginning of a relationship as the point they need to reveal every aspect of their lives; but to each his own.

There is little chance of contracting any blood-borne disease. Anybody that can afford steroids has enough money (and hopefully enough common sense) not to share needles.

Steroid use can pose numerous risks. These can be managed through responsible use and the appropriate use of other substances. There is a lot of information here about how one can use steroids responsibly. Steroid abuse, on the other hand, is extremely risky and almost always leads to physical damage in the long term. Impotence, sterility, heart problems and prostate issues are just the tip of the iceberg. Also be aware that some users claim to develop a very bad temper when using. There is some debate as to whether they are bad-tempered to begin with and just use the steroids as an excuse or whether the drugs make them that way.

Hopefully you are dating a stand-up guy that uses responsibly and just wanted you to know about it in the spirit of openness and honesty. Good luck.

**Kozmo** · 07-28-2014, 10:39 AM

Originally Posted by austinite

He's not very smart for telling you about steroid use . But to each their own.

He is not buying steroids at a 'store'. Not a legitimate one anyway. And yes, there are plenty of risks. Most people have no clue what they're doing and end up with some sort of damage.

Is it because he is probably getting roids black market or because the average persons knowledge of steroids consists of 90% wives tales

**Tigershark** · 07-28-2014, 11:13 AM

Like most of the responses on this thread, he is not very smart for telling you about it. He either falls in love really quickly or is way too trusting. But what's done is done and I would not worry about the diseases. He is not sharing needles or he is really stupid.

**diesel101** · 07-28-2014, 11:47 AM

I can't believe anyone would be that quick to let someone know about their steroid use . He could be just talking about it to try and impress you.

**redz** · 07-28-2014, 11:56 AM

Are u dating Redz?

That would be jokes if one of my gf's posted on here. I have more updates but apparently no one wants to hear them so ill stick to educational posts.

**Cuz** · 07-28-2014, 12:00 PM

Originally Posted by redz

That would be jokes if one of my gf's posted on here. I have more updates but apparently no one wants to hear them so ill stick to educational posts.

Lmao I knew you would make your way in here

**MuscleInk** · 07-28-2014, 12:28 PM

I applaud you for trying to understand the short and long term risks associated with steroid use . There is probably more misinformation on the internet than correct information, but this forum is one of, if not THE best resources available. Many members here are well versed in the risks of steroid use.

The way I see it, the decision to use steroids is his. I understand your concerns and those you specifically referenced, however, he is old enough to make the decision for himself. Steroids certainly carry some inherent risks, including severe cardiac risks but, not everyone is equally prone to the risks and some of the more severe risks are often associated with abusive patterns of use (long durations of use, less time between "cycles", using multiple compounds at once).

To your specific concerns regarding erectile dysfunction and infertility, yes, ED is a common effect of steroid use and can occur for many different reasons. It is generally treatable and may be less of a concern when the user is properly educated on the risks of steroids and how to minimize said risks. With respect to infertility, yes, steroids can impact fertility, but again, not everyone is equally vulnerable. Some guys in fact, have gotten their girl friends or wives pregnant while they were using steroids as well as after steroid use. There are no guarantees when it comes to steroids and everyone responds differently. I guess the only guarantee is that if you abuse them, you significantly increase the risk of short and/or long term problems.

The other comment I have is that it seems your relationship is in the early stages. Many of the concerns you have may never become issues you need to worry about. Men, unlike women, aren't thinking long term at the start of a relationship. We are pretty simple. We are thinking about hot women and fun in the bedroom. Women, while good looks may matter, are thinking longer term (especially more mature women) - having a partner you connect with, financial stability, intimacy, a considerate and caring husband, a role model to your children, etc. Men eventually come around, but for many of us, we aren't thinking long term at the beginning of the relationship. I think you may be worrying about some of these things prematurely. He may not be Mr. Right. He may only be Mr. Rightnow. I think it's a little early to say, but that's just my personal opinion based on the limited details and history you provide.

Ultimately, you need to decide if you are comfortable with his steroid use. Let him make his own decisions, but if its something you think you cannot deal with, it will make it impossible to have a meaningful relationship.

**AllAmericanGirl** · 07-28-2014, 02:40 PM

Thanks everyone

**diesel101** · 07-28-2014, 02:46 PM

Originally Posted by MuscleInk

I applaud you for trying to understand the short and long term risks associated with steroid use . There is probably more misinformation on the internet than correct information, but this forum is one of, if not THE best resources available. Many members here are well versed in the risks of steroid use.

The way I see it, the decision to use steroids is his. I understand your concerns and those you specifically referenced, however, he is old enough to make the decision for himself. Steroids certainly carry some inherent risks, including severe cardiac risks but, not everyone is equally prone to the risks and some of the more severe risks are often associated with abusive patterns of use (long durations of use, less time between "cycles", using multiple compounds at once).

To your specific concerns regarding erectile dysfunction and infertility, yes, ED is a common effect of steroid use and can occur for many different reasons. It is generally treatable and may be less of a concern when the user is properly educated on the risks of steroids and how to minimize said risks. With respect to infertility, yes, steroids can impact fertility, but again, not everyone is equally vulnerable. Some guys in fact, have gotten their girl friends or wives pregnant while they were using steroids as well as after steroid use. There are no guarantees when it comes to steroids and everyone responds differently. I guess the only guarantee is that if you abuse them, you significantly increase the risk of short and/or long term problems.

The other comment I have is that it seems your relationship is in the early stages. Many of the concerns you have may never become issues you need to worry about. Men, unlike women, aren't thinking long term at the start of a relationship. We are pretty simple. We are thinking about hot women and fun in the bedroom. Women, while good looks may matter, are thinking longer term (especially more mature women) - having a partner you connect with, financial stability, intimacy, a considerate and caring husband, a role model to your children, etc. Men eventually come around, but for many of us, we aren't thinking long term at the beginning of the relationship. I think you may be worrying about some of these things prematurely. He may not be Mr. Right. He may only be Mr. Rightnow. I think it's a little early to say, but that's just my personal opinion based on the limited details and history you provide.

Ultimately, you need to decide if you are comfortable with his steroid use. Let him make his own decisions, but if its something you think you cannot deal with, it will make it impossible to have a meaningful relationship.

And then here comes MI to knock it out of the park again.

**MuscleInk** · 07-28-2014, 03:46 PM

Originally Posted by diesel101

And then here comes MI to knock it out of the park again.

Just my $.02

**austinite** · 07-28-2014, 04:00 PM

Originally Posted by MuscleInk

I applaud you for trying to understand the short and long term risks associated with steroid use . There is probably more misinformation on the internet than correct information, but this forum is one of, if not THE best resources available. Many members here are well versed in the risks of steroid use.

The way I see it, the decision to use steroids is his. I understand your concerns and those you specifically referenced, however, he is old enough to make the decision for himself. Steroids certainly carry some inherent risks, including severe cardiac risks but, not everyone is equally prone to the risks and some of the more severe risks are often associated with abusive patterns of use (long durations of use, less time between "cycles", using multiple compounds at once).

To your specific concerns regarding erectile dysfunction and infertility, yes, ED is a common effect of steroid use and can occur for many different reasons. It is generally treatable and may be less of a concern when the user is properly educated on the risks of steroids and how to minimize said risks. With respect to infertility, yes, steroids can impact fertility, but again, not everyone is equally vulnerable. Some guys in fact, have gotten their girl friends or wives pregnant while they were using steroids as well as after steroid use. There are no guarantees when it comes to steroids and everyone responds differently. I guess the only guarantee is that if you abuse them, you significantly increase the risk of short and/or long term problems.

The other comment I have is that it seems your relationship is in the early stages. Many of the concerns you have may never become issues you need to worry about. Men, unlike women, aren't thinking long term at the start of a relationship. We are pretty simple. We are thinking about hot women and fun in the bedroom. Women, while good looks may matter, are thinking longer term (especially more mature women) - having a partner you connect with, financial stability, intimacy, a considerate and caring husband, a role model to your children, etc. Men eventually come around, but for many of us, we aren't thinking long term at the beginning of the relationship. I think you may be worrying about some of these things prematurely. He may not be Mr. Right. He may only be Mr. Rightnow. I think it's a little early to say, but that's just my personal opinion based on the limited details and history you provide.

Ultimately, you need to decide if you are comfortable with his steroid use. Let him make his own decisions, but if its something you think you cannot deal with, it will make it impossible to have a meaningful relationship.

**GirlyGymRat** · 07-28-2014, 05:37 PM

Originally Posted by AllAmericanGirl

Thanks everyone

Hi!!! I would date a guy who uses steroids responsibly.

You are worrying bc you have limited knowledge. AAS gets alot of bad press but you found an educational board. Welcome.

Whatever u do, respect his confidentiality. He told you although I chose not to involve anyone in my experiments with chemicals, except with the good members of this forum.