Another damn woman scenario

**Cuz** · 08-30-2014, 03:34 PM

Let me give you some advice. Keep your eye on the ball. Focus on gains. Gainzzzz. .......

.I would be competing already if I hadn't wasted so much time chasing ass. Because thats all it is...haha listen to the tren talking. I better shut up haha.

**probuild42** · 08-30-2014, 06:14 PM

Originally Posted by hawk14dl

Here's the jist of it:

I play coed recreational softball, one of the girls on the team made it known she had the hots for me. So we started dating. Been dating about a month and a half. Pretty plain and simple background there.

I had a profile set up on a dating site, no personal info no pictures, nothing. I set it up about 6 months ago to browse around. It's also set as hidden so it won't come up in searches.

About aweek into us dating I put in her stats and sure enough she had a profile on there. But she hadn't been on in over a week so it was all good.

Last week I decided to get on and delete mine since I was tired of getting the emails daily. Looked her up again first and it said she was on that day. So I left my account open, checked back daily and sure as shit she got on almost every day.

She's also been very recluse in the past week, says she's stressed from work.

So what do I do here? She's obviously still on the prowl, so at some point she's going to find somebody to replace me. Should I front her on it? Or just break it off, make up some bullshi+ about how we won't work out?

I'm not really attached, I just don't want to make an enemy in this process. I thought we were doing alright, even thought there could be a future. . But now not so much.

I'm reading this and all I can think is blah, blah, blah... Who gives a sh^t about a dating website. My advice is if you think she is hot, then tap it. Have fun and see where is goes... If she is acting withdrawn, then ignore her. Make her come to you or move the f^ck on.

**michael30** · 08-30-2014, 10:37 PM

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**hawk14dl** · 08-30-2014, 10:48 PM

Well pro, I tapped it for a month and she decided it ain't working. Be it a larger salary, possibly a guy without a child so as to be more available, idk. Had my fun, suspicions were right. Moving on

Angel, you aren't an anomaly. I've been with women who've easily o'd via intercourse, those who've o'd orally, and those who couldn't o at all. You all are different

**Honkey_Kong** · 08-31-2014, 01:27 AM

Hawk, you've been dating this broad for a month. You still barely know her. She obviously is playing the field and looking around and YOU should be too. If things later on start getting more serious, then you should have a talk about being exclusive. But you're not there now so don't beat yourself up on this.

Wait.... I read your last post. Good move in dumping that broad. Now you can go find something better.

**jesse4466** · 08-31-2014, 05:37 AM

A month for me was always the make or break time. Most don't last more then that so I never took them serious. Everyone is great for a month, then the reality sets in and most move on.

**thisAngelBites** · 08-31-2014, 01:44 PM

Yeah, I am not that crazy about these sex generalisations and the conclusions inevitably drawn.

I think that great sex is a necessary but not sufficient condition of a relationship, if you see what I mean. Sometimes the chemistry isn't quite the same on both sides, or any number of quirky, individual things cause a mismatch that are no reflection on anyone.

I think if one person's heart isn't really in it, they do the other person a favour by ending it, because who wants to be with someone who doesn't what to be with you, 100%? She coulda dragged it out for a year, and then you'd be really upset to find out she was never sure.

So good luck getting out there again. Another one that piques your interest will be along soon.

Originally Posted by hawk14dl

Well pro, I tapped it for a month and she decided it ain't working. Be it a larger salary, possibly a guy without a child so as to be more available, idk. Had my fun, suspicions were right. Moving on

Angel, you aren't an anomaly. I've been with women who've easily o'd via intercourse, those who've o'd orally, and those who couldn't o at all. You all are different

**kelkel** · 08-31-2014, 08:39 PM

Originally Posted by thisAngelBites

I think if one person's heart isn't really in it, they do the other person a favour by ending it, because who wants to be with someone who doesn't what to be with you, 100%? She coulda dragged it out for a year, and then you'd be really upset to find out she was never sure.

Well said.

**lovbyts** · 08-31-2014, 09:37 PM

Originally Posted by thisAngelBites

Yeah, I am not that crazy about these sex generalisations and the conclusions inevitably drawn.

I think that great sex is a necessary but not sufficient condition of a relationship, if you see what I mean. Sometimes the chemistry isn't quite the same on both sides, or any number of quirky, individual things cause a mismatch that are no reflection on anyone.

I think if one person's heart isn't really in it, they do the other person a favour by ending it, because who wants to be with someone who doesn't what to be with you, 100%? She coulda dragged it out for a year, and then you'd be really upset to find out she was never sure.

So good luck getting out there again. Another one that piques your interest will be along soon.

And it's always the one that got away that seems to hurt the most.

**thisAngelBites** · 09-01-2014, 01:17 PM

Originally Posted by lovbyts

And it's always the one that got away that seems to hurt the most.

Yeah, there must be some psychological issue with that. There's only one guy I dated that dumped me, and I still think about him now and again, which is crazy, because he just wasn't a great fit for me.

I'm the same with things that are limited edition or hard to get. I can be all meh about something, and then I find out it's impossible to get, and the competitive side in me has to be reined in or I will start searching for something I didn't really care about like it's perfection and my life depends on it. What's the story with that?? I think sometimes people are like that when people dump them. Maybe it's just about being competitive, or maybe it's easier to fantasise about the supposed perfection of something you can't have.