Another damn woman scenario

[hawk14dl]

Here's the jist of it:

I play coed recreational softball, one of the girls on the team made it known she had the hots for me. So we started dating. Been dating about a month and a half. Pretty plain and simple background there.

I had a profile set up on a dating site, no personal info no pictures, nothing. I set it up about 6 months ago to browse around. It's also set as hidden so it won't come up in searches.

About aweek into us dating I put in her stats and sure enough she had a profile on there. But she hadn't been on in over a week so it was all good.

Last week I decided to get on and delete mine since I was tired of getting the emails daily. Looked her up again first and it said she was on that day. So I left my account open, checked back daily and sure as shit she got on almost every day.

She's also been very recluse in the past week, says she's stressed from work.


So what do I do here? She's obviously still on the prowl, so at some point she's going to find somebody to replace me. Should I front her on it? Or just break it off, make up some bullshi+ about how we won't work out?

I'm not really attached, I just don't want to make an enemy in this process. I thought we were doing alright, even thought there could be a future. . But now not so much.

[lovbyts]

Your thinking to much. I would not worry about someone having a dating site account or being active on it unless we had discussed being inclusive and very serious.

Everyone is looking for the best they can do/get until they make a final decision. Forget it and if you like her just suspend your account for now and stop looking at hers. If it really bugs you then talk to her and let her know you saw her account and you had one also but suspended yours and see what she says. Stop letting your imagination run things.

[Kozmo]

If you like her learn how to lay pipe better.

[DrewZ]

^^ Haha

I'm glad you brought this up hawk
I needed to hear lb's answer, as much or more than you.
I think its the right one.

[Kozmo]

I am not trying to insult him. This is fact. Lay pipe right and have no fright

[lovbyts]

I am not trying to insult him. This is fact. Lay pipe right and have no fright

Actually it's get better at oral because most women prefer oral to laying pipe so to speak. Thats more of a guys things but it's all good but a woman can/will have a lot more O with oral than straight sex. Not all but most.

[Kozmo]

However it is more common that a guy can eat then lay pipe therefore she will not want to lose you if the pipe is right

And sure she does and I really enjoy when they give me oral so we should just say make sure you bring the heat in the sheets

[lovbyts]

However it is more common that a guy can eat then lay pipe therefore she will not want to lose you if the pipe is right

I think it's more common guys THINK they can do oral/eat better but that's not been what I have heard, read or been told. It's always good to be able to do both well but in the end the larger bank account almost always wins. lol

[GirlyGymRat]

I am not trying to insult him. This is fact. Lay pipe right and have no fright

Most women are not capable of vagina only orgasms.

[lovbyts]

Most women are not capable of vagina only orgasms.

Thank you for chiming it.

See I did learn something from those 100s of playboy, Penthouse and Hustlers I read (yes actually read from cover to cover) when I was 14. lol

[hawk14dl]

The quality of sex is not the problem, I assure you. The frequency probably is. We live on opposite ends of town and we only see each other on weekends and occasionally one night during the week.
She's a few years older then me, and actually makes slightly better money then I do. It's quite likely she's looking for a guy her age that makes more money. I can't blame her for that, I just feel kinda used. If that's all I am, I'm cool with that, but id like to know

[GirlyGymRat]

The quality of sex is not the problem, I assure you. The frequency probably is. We live on opposite ends of town and we only see each other on weekends and occasionally one night during the week.
She's a few years older then me, and actually makes slightly better money then I do. It's quite likely she's looking for a guy her age that makes more money. I can't blame her for that, I just feel kinda used. If that's all I am, I'm cool with that, but id like to know

Since u r both adults, just talk thru it. If u r looking for different things out of the relationship, nows a good time! Don't jump to any conclusions.

[hawk14dl]

Well said ggr.

It's nice to have a woman's input. Thanks

[PistolPete33]

Most women are not capable of vagina only orgasms.

Lucky for me my wife finishes easily so long as she's on top. However, oral skills are an ABSOLUTE MUST!!!! Master that and you are not easily replaced.

[lovbyts]

Lucky for me my wife finishes easily so long as she's on top. However, oral skills are an ABSOLUTE MUST!!!! Master that and you are not easily replaced.

Thats because when she is on top she is able to rock back and forth on your pelvis on her special area and has nothing or little to do with the in and out motion. Grab her hips and help her with the rocking motion, she will like the help. See if Girly agrees with me on this one???

One of the best complements I got was from a girl who I was seeing that was Bi (she preferred girls) and told me I was as good as any girl she had been with.

[Kozmo]

Most women are not capable of vagina only orgasms.

They only think this because the quality of the pipe they are getting is not sufficient. Laying pipe isn't about just genitalia it is 70% mental. 90% of men are clueless regarding this so myths like this continue.

[lovbyts]

They only think this because the quality of the pipe they are getting is not sufficient. Laying pipe isn't about just genitalia it is 70% mental. 90% of men are clueless regarding this so myths like this continue.

And you are going to argue with a woman about this? LOL

[Kozmo]

And you are going to argue with a woman about this? LOL

Lol yup. If I was a woman I would perpetuate that myth as well. Head is awesome. If the woman is attracted on All the levels she should be then you get an entirely different outcome. A lot of girly men with big wallets. I think I should shut up now if I want to continue have women spend their "significant other's money on me

[hawk14dl]

I appreciate the supposed criticism kozmo, but as I already stated, that's not the issue. Okthx

[lovbyts]

Lol yup. If I was a woman I would perpetuate that myth as well. Head is awesome. If the woman is attracted on All the levels she should be then you get an entirely different outcome. A lot of girly men with big wallets. I think I should shut up now if I want to continue have women spend their "significant other's money on me

[Times Roman]

Here's the jist of it:

I play coed recreational softball, one of the girls on the team made it known she had the hots for me. So we started dating. Been dating about a month and a half. Pretty plain and simple background there.

I had a profile set up on a dating site, no personal info no pictures, nothing. I set it up about 6 months ago to browse around. It's also set as hidden so it won't come up in searches.

About aweek into us dating I put in her stats and sure enough she had a profile on there. But she hadn't been on in over a week so it was all good.

Last week I decided to get on and delete mine since I was tired of getting the emails daily. Looked her up again first and it said she was on that day. So I left my account open, checked back daily and sure as shit she got on almost every day.

She's also been very recluse in the past week, says she's stressed from work.


So what do I do here? She's obviously still on the prowl, so at some point she's going to find somebody to replace me. Should I front her on it? Or just break it off, make up some bullshi+ about how we won't work out?

I'm not really attached, I just don't want to make an enemy in this process. I thought we were doing alright, even thought there could be a future. . But now not so much.

I always over think shit too much.

your description sounds casual, and yet you are bothered that you both did not simultaneously suspend your accounts.

Are you both on the same page?

Doesn't sound like it

It sounds like there are unspoken things going on

Maybe you two should skip the sex one night, and instead, have a heart to heart over a bottle of wine. the wine should loosen her up, and you too.

it could be that she feels things are moving too quickly?

Who knows

But apparently you two are not on the same page.

That's no reason to "dump her first"

Talk to her.

See what she says

Good luck!
---Roman

[kelkel]

Most women are not capable of vagina only orgasms.

Wait.....what?

[Kozmo]

It is not criticism it is truth. You can believe what you want. The fact that you are asking a bunch of anonymous body dysmorphics tells me exactly what is going on.

Before anyone gets there panties in a wad body dysmorphia is the label psychologists use. I just don't care what name I am called

[kelkel]

Hawk I think you're over-thinking it all. You've been dating a little over a month. Relax, have fun and don't worry about what the other one does just yet. Way too early. If you start questioning her you'll come off as having control issues, or a stalker.......

Ease up!

[hawk14dl]

The wonderful thing about a message board such as this is the anonymousity. I can ask for advice without worrying that the subject matter might become exposed.

Further, when you've frequented a board long enough, you can determine individuals personalities, their reputation, and whether or not to buy into what they're saying.

That being said, while I appreciate your attempt to give advice, I've already disclosed that sexual performance is not the problem. I'm not going to divulge the details of that matter, because frankly you're the only one feeding into what you're saying.

I have a feeling you're going to continue to try and convince everyone that they're wrong, and that none of us know anything about pleasing a woman, and you must be some sort of pipe laying god.. But I for one, am not impressed, and furthermore it's not applicable to the situation. So please seek your self fulfillment elsewhere.

[hawk14dl]

Thank you kel, and tr. I'll shrug it off, discontinue visiting the site and just see how it goes

[GirlyGymRat]

Wait.....what?

Need some help there big guy? Might what to PM Lovbyts.

[GirlyGymRat]

Hawk I think you're over-thinking it all. You've been dating a little over a month. Relax, have fun and don't worry about what the other one does just yet. Way too early. If you start questioning her you'll come off as having control issues, or a stalker.......

Ease up!

^^^ hawk. Listen to this advice.

One side note. Gals r just as free with sex as guys so if u think she is only saving it for you, unless u had the exclusive convo, pls be safe.

[paulzane]

Need some help there big guy? Might what to PM Lovbyts.

Bad advice here ...... You know the love god is redz

[lovbyts]

Bad advice here ...... You know the love god is redz

I'm happy to say I'm not in his league when it comes to women and advise.

[Kozmo]

The wonderful thing about a message board such as this is the anonymousity. I can ask for advice without worrying that the subject matter might become exposed.

Further, when you've frequented a board long enough, you can determine individuals personalities, their reputation, and whether or not to buy into what they're saying.

That being said, while I appreciate your attempt to give advice, I've already disclosed that sexual performance is not the problem. I'm not going to divulge the details of that matter, because frankly you're the only one feeding into what you're saying.

I have a feeling you're going to continue to try and convince everyone that they're wrong, and that none of us know anything about pleasing a woman, and you must be some sort of pipe laying god.. But I for one, am not impressed, and furthermore it's not applicable to the situation. So please seek your self fulfillment elsewhere.

You found me out. I get my self-worth from a message board. Its the only thing I have booohoooo.

Seriously, I don't even lift or have pipe.

[GirlyGymRat]

Bad advice here ...... You know the love god is redz

Stick by my statement.

[Mr.BB]

Most women are not capable of vagina only orgasms.

Why didnt somebody told me this 20 years ago

[GirlyGymRat]

Why didnt somebody told me this 20 years ago

Op disagree. Many women report not being able to achieve orgasm every time in contrast to men. I like to think some men are more read and skilled in technique. Not that my gf discuss openly but occasionally one or two have mentioned that they cannot achieve orgasm every time. there is a mental aspect and some r too uptight or distracted to release. I can only be empathetic

Sorry for the hijack. Eventually 99% of threads in lounge become t&a....

[lovbyts]

Op disagree. Many women report not being able to achieve orgasm every time in contrast to men. I like to think some men are more read and skilled in technique. Not that my gf discuss openly but occasionally one or two have mentioned that they cannot achieve orgasm every time. there is a mental aspect and some r too uptight or distracted to release. I can only be empathetic

Sorry for the hijack. Eventually 99% of threads in lounge become t&a....

But 80% of them also start out that way.

[hawk14dl]

Doesn't bother me ggr. It's sorta pertinent.

Best method I've found (since we're on the topic anyways) is to have her reach orgasm prior to actual intercourse. Usually at least twice. From then on, she's much more likely to reach it again (usually multiple times).

It's worked for me. And then, when all you have time for is a quickie, they're much more willing to oblige.

[hawk14dl]

Seems as though I had it pretty well figured out. She called me this afternoon and said she didn't want to date anymore.

At least I had my fun for a while. On to the next.

[lovbyts]

Time to go have more fun with someone different.

[hawk14dl]

I think that would be a great goal for tonight

[thisAngelBites]

One woman's opinion may not be true for the others. I wouldn't stay with a man just for the quality, but insufficient pipe quality means I wouldn't stick around at all. Oral is of far, far less concern to me. But then I have heard the same stuff that GGR says about women in general being more inclined to orgasm with oral, but it's not true for me. I doubt that I am some anomaly and that makes me wonder where knowledge like this comes from and how reliable it is.

And you are going to argue with a woman about this? LOL