second date ideas?

**musclestack** · 02-05-2015, 04:25 PM

Originally Posted by Motardpdx

Wow! This is gonna be the best 2nd date ever... Don't screw it up. Ha!

I'll be sure to let everyone know how it goes!

**tcw** · 02-05-2015, 04:36 PM

Just Giving you the Facts My Brother!
You sound like you've been around....You know what i'm talking about!

~Best of Luck!

Originally Posted by musclestack

Oh dear...

But I get what you're saying. Like the old saying goes: "He who cares less, wins".

**Mr.BB** · 02-05-2015, 04:39 PM

2nd date? All i can think of is motel...

... might be the influence of exogenous test though

**GirlyGymRat** · 02-05-2015, 05:01 PM

Originally Posted by musclestack

Haha ok, GGR. So, if it happens to not work out with this girl, how bout we go shoot some pool sometime?

I'll keep this in mind.

**GirlyGymRat** · 02-05-2015, 05:02 PM

Originally Posted by musclestack

I'll be sure to let everyone know how it goes!

Please,....

**tcw** · 02-05-2015, 05:24 PM

Ding Ding!

Originally Posted by Mr.BB

2nd date? All i can think of is motel...

... might be the influence of exogenous test though

**CoLean** · 02-05-2015, 06:39 PM

Originally Posted by musclestack

Ok, so I'm probably setting myself up to get flamed here, but I haven't been in the dating scene for a while now...like a long time; at least nothing serious. So, I asked someone out about a month ago, and all went really well. We went out to dinner at a fancy restaurant, then had a couple drinks at a nice cocktail bar. It was a bit more formal; I wore khakis, a nice sweat shirt, and dress shoes.

Fast forward. We're going out again this weekend. What are some good date ideas that won't completely replicate the first date? I haven't been around her long enough to find out extra curricular activities that she enjoys doing, and I don't really want to ask her now, since I think I should be the one to take the lead and make the plans. Asking her what we should do, I think, would just make me look like I have no idea what I'm doing and show a lack of confidence. I live in a bigger city, so I'm pretty well open to all ideas here. I'd really like to take her to a concert (they're always fun), but there's nobody playing this weekend, so I'll save that one for later if I see her again. I DO NOT want to take her to a movie; I've always felt that was too cliche, and who wants to sit and watch a movie and not be able to have a conversation while it's playing?

Really looking for some advice here. And also, what should the dress attire be on a second date? Does it need to be as formal as the first? I guess that kind of depends on where we're going but still, are second dates generally as formal as the first date? Would like to get opinions from the female members as well. GGR, where are you?!

I love that you posted this question. I am a female, just to get this out of the way.

The second date really depends on what you both like to do. If she is physical also - what about going to a rock climbing gym? Or, rent bikes and ride around a lake? How about rollerblading? I would plan to have a meal after the physical activity. So, you will have some time apart - (e.g., when you are climbing) but you can have awesome bonding moments with encouragement and achievement and then have a meal together to connect further and talk.

Dancing is also very cool. Comedy club, as mentioned. But, whatever you do, be sure that you plan a meal or dessert or coffee (before or after) so that you have time to talk. Or, as you suggested, it is like just going to a movie.

I do NOT recommend taking her shopping on your credit card, as suggested by someone here. If she likes that on date #2, that may not be the girl you want. I am also from the Midwest but in LA now. As a Midwestern gal - that would make me wildly uncomfortable. Maybe it's just me, I know some women would love that.

Try not to stress too much, you can't really go wrong here. And, if the chemistry is there, you will probably get to date #3.

Good luck!

**CoLean** · 02-05-2015, 06:40 PM

Originally Posted by musclestack

I'll be sure to let everyone know how it goes!

Please do!

**kelkel** · 02-05-2015, 10:23 PM

Originally Posted by Jesusbrah

Where's the bodybuilder?

**GirlyGymRat** · 02-08-2015, 03:02 PM

How did it go???

**RaginCajun** · 02-08-2015, 03:35 PM

Originally Posted by GirlyGymRat

How did it go???

Hopefully he is still on his second date

**Mr.BB** · 02-08-2015, 03:37 PM

Originally Posted by GirlyGymRat

How did it go???

Humm... you sure seem interested in the outcome

**GirlyGymRat** · 02-08-2015, 04:14 PM

Originally Posted by Mr.BB

Humm... you sure seem interested in the outcome

Hopeless romantic!

**Bio-Active** · 02-08-2015, 04:16 PM

I couldn't imagine going on a date again but I would keep it simple. Dinner and a movie or nothing like a college football game

**Hoggage_54** · 02-08-2015, 04:30 PM

**musclestack** · 02-09-2015, 08:23 AM

Ok, so this whole thread was about me stressing over where to take her on this date. So, I see her Friday evening in the gym, and SHE comes up to me and suggests we go shoot pool! How awesome is that?! If only I would've known it was going to be that easy!

So, long story short, we grabbed dinner then went and shot pool while having a few drinks. The only bad part of it all? She beat me 4-0! I've never played so horrible in all my life. That, and she's actually pretty good. Oh well, she was excited about it...and I had fun too.

Oh, and she wants to see me again next weekend...

Thanks for all the help and support guys...and gals!

**Hoggage_54** · 02-09-2015, 08:25 AM

**GirlyGymRat** · 02-09-2015, 12:46 PM

Originally Posted by musclestack

Ok, so this whole thread was about me stressing over where to take her on this date. So, I see her Friday evening in the gym, and SHE comes up to me and suggests we go shoot pool! How awesome is that?! If only I would've known it was going to be that easy! So, long story short, we grabbed dinner then went and shot pool while having a few drinks. The only bad part of it all? She beat me 4-0! I've never played so horrible in all my life. That, and she's actually pretty good. Oh well, she was excited about it...and I had fun too. Oh, and she wants to see me again next weekend... Thanks for all the help and support guys...and gals!

Awesome. Plans for the 3rd date????

**tcw** · 02-09-2015, 07:26 PM

Good Work Man....
Did you Get Laid ?

Originally Posted by Hoggage_54

**bsh** · 02-09-2015, 09:46 PM

Lol, see u were stressed over nothing!!! Life is funny like that...

**lovbyts** · 02-09-2015, 10:30 PM

Originally Posted by tcw

Good Work Man....
Did you Get Laid ?

^^^^ Thats how we will know if it was a successful 1st date. Who cares how good she is at handling the pool stick and shooting balls, how was she at handling your stick and balls?
Remember, pictures or it didnt happen.
lol

Good to hear it went good. I was getting worried because you were to focused on trying to impress her. It was WC Fields who said. "Never try to impress a woman, because if you do she'll expect you to keep up the standard for the rest of your life."
There is a lot of truth to that statement. Just be yourself and remember to do things you like to do also, not just her so you can see how well she is at sharing.

**musclestack** · 02-10-2015, 08:39 AM

Originally Posted by GirlyGymRat

Awesome. Plans for the 3rd date????

Working on it, but I know this...I'm not going to stress over it!

Btw, it seems to be going well so far, so you and I will have to wait lol.

**musclestack** · 02-10-2015, 08:40 AM

Originally Posted by tcw

Good Work Man....
Did you Get Laid ?

Not yet. And honestly, I find her more appealing because of it.

**musclestack** · 02-10-2015, 08:41 AM

Originally Posted by lovbyts

^^^^ Thats how we will know if it was a successful 1st date. Who cares how good she is at handling the pool stick and shooting balls, how was she at handling your stick and balls?
Remember, pictures or it didnt happen.
lol

Good to hear it went good. I was getting worried because you were to focused on trying to impress her. It was WC Fields who said. "Never try to impress a woman, because if you do she'll expect you to keep up the standard for the rest of your life."
There is a lot of truth to that statement. Just be yourself and remember to do things you like to do also, not just her so you can see how well she is at sharing.

Good point lovbyts. Thanks!