Legal advice.....

[Hazard]

Is anyone a lawyer or can off legal advice?

Brief summary: I have a daughter with someone who is a recovering addict. I want to leave the state and move to another about 1200 miles away. I have work lined up there and have family there as opposed to no family here.

She's 2 1/2 years sober and has a job. She rents a place with someone else. She pays child support - I have custodial custody but need to consult her with major decisions.

I'm scared that if I contact the court about loving and cite my reasons that she will fight for custody so my daughter stays.

Any help or insight?

[lovbyts]

I told you before, it's a lot less of a hassle being a widower than divorced.

Every country and state has different regulations. I would contact someone local. If she has no visitation that helps but she could later up and try to change it.

[Hazard]

I told you before, it's a lot less of a hassle being a widower than divorced. Every country and state has different regulations. I would contact someone local. If she has no visitation that helps but she could later up and try to change it.

She has every other weekend visitation

[lovbyts]

She has every other weekend visitation

That's going to suck. I don't see a way around it unless you get her to agree to a summer and holiday schedule. I would not be comfortable with that unless I was Sure there was no risks.

[Hazard]

That's going to suck. I don't see a way around it unless you get her to agree to a summer and holiday schedule. I would not be comfortable with that unless I was Sure there was no risks.

What I've read is the custodial parent has to show proof of a better life. Meaning job and family in the state moving to. I have family there and 2 jobs waiting for me.....

I'm just scared she will file a motion to get custody.....

[Euroholic]

What ypur hinting at costs 10k in my country

[GirlyGymRat]

What ypur hinting at costs 10k in my country

Does seem there are legal fees! Sounds messy, unfortunately.

[BG]

Can you and your ex talk like adults?

Easiest and cheapest way to find out.

[GirlyGymRat]

Can you and your ex talk like adults? Easiest and cheapest way to find out.

Best advice ever!

[bsh]

I have a somewhat similar situation! My ex and kids live in Florida and I'm in Texas... It makes it difficult to spend any real quality time with ur children imo... We do as mentioned above, holidays spring break summer time so....

It's hard to deal with and she possibly will make an issue out of it... If it were the other way around u might think different, idk. Only u can figure this one out but count on a fight if ur smart!

[Hazard]

Can you and your ex talk like adults? Easiest and cheapest way to find out.

BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

I know that was a serious question..... Unfortunately my ex has the mind of a child. She wants nothing more than to see me suffer. She see's our daughter for two days every other weekend. When my daughter comes home she tells me "mommy says that she's my only mommy and I should call MA (that's what she calls my fiancés mom) by her real name because they aren't really my family."

She's a waste of fvcking life IMO

[Hazard]

I have a somewhat similar situation! My ex and kids live in Florida and I'm in Texas... It makes it difficult to spend any real quality time with ur children imo... We do as mentioned above, holidays spring break summer time so.... It's hard to deal with and she possibly will make an issue out of it... If it were the other way around u might think different, idk. Only u can figure this one out but count on a fight if ur smart!

I was thinkin of stopping her child support of she let me move with written consent.

[GirlyGymRat]

BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA I know that was a serious question..... Unfortunately my ex has the mind of a child. She wants nothing more than to see me suffer. She see's our daughter for two days every other weekend. When my daughter comes home she tells me "mommy says that she's my only mommy and I should call MA (that's what she calls my fiancés mom) by her real name because they aren't really my family." She's a waste of fvcking life IMO

It saddens me when adults teach hate to their children.

X sounds insecure.

[Hazard]

She is and always will be. She's been nothing but a source of trouble in my life.

[bsh]

She is and always will be. She's been nothing but a source of trouble in my life.

if she feels powerless, then she will exploit this opportunity to the fullest...
I like the idea of a payoff...

[lovbyts]

What I've read is the custodial parent has to show proof of a better life. Meaning job and family in the state moving to. I have family there and 2 jobs waiting for me.....

I'm just scared she will file a motion to get custody.....

Yeah and just her filing a motion could take up to a year to get a decision. 90 days if you are lucky.

What kind of working relationship do you have with her? Does she seem OK with the current situation, flexible or has she been a PITA and hinting she should have custody now that she is sober? Does she seem to REALLY have your daughters best interest in mind or more self centered still?

My 1st wife tried doing the whole clean/sober acts for a while and being the GOOD reformed mom even going to church and getting baptized to show how she had turned her life around. I went to the church baptism well knowing it was all for show but played along. I listened to her whole story how she was changed and only wanted what was best for our daughter.

I told her that was great and I was really happy for her and I was excited to see her turn her life around. I went on to say then it should be easy for her to understand then that I also only had our daughters best interest safety in mind and with her very recent past I needed to continue my current direction with custody and was not going to just believe what I'm being told putting my daughter at risk. With her new enlightenment and understanding it should be easy for her to understand my position.

I dont think most people at the church had ever heard so many curse words and fowl language coming from a cute young woman especially after only being baptized 30 minutes prior. Maybe she was just filled with the holly spirit and speaking in tongues. hahahaha

BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

I know that was a serious question..... Unfortunately my ex has the mind of a child. She wants nothing more than to see me suffer. She see's our daughter for two days every other weekend. When my daughter comes home she tells me "mommy says that she's my only mommy and I should call MA (that's what she calls my fiancés mom) by her real name because they aren't really my family."

She's a waste of fvcking life IMO

Well that answers my question and is what I figured.

If she is anything like my ex was she will not give up the kid even to save a little child support because she probably knows if she is clean long enough she has a good chance of getting sympathy from the court and getting custody back. I'm sure you clearly know if the roles were reversed and she had the majority of the custody, time with your daughter you would be paying 10x what she is paying you now. She also knows this and is counting on that happening sooner than later.

You are going to have to prove her unfit AGAIN in some way. Dont suggest but dont make her pay child support. Let her get behind and keep meticulous records. Keep records of when/if she is late picking your daughter up and dropping her off. This does not have to be anything more than notes in a journal of some type of detailed, simple and clear.

Keep records and documentation of any problems with her work, changing jobs or whatever. All these things will matter when it comes time to fight as I'm sure you have learned and figured out in the past but sometimes a reminder is needed.

The payoff MAY work but you will have to catch her in the right mind-frame and make sure you do NOT make this sound beneficial to you in any way or she wont go for it. Some how make her think it's her idea and she is really squeezing you. Of course find a way to get her to sign a modified parenting plan withe a notarized signature before giving her a dime.

[Hazard]

Yeah and just her filing a motion could take up to a year to get a decision. 90 days if you are lucky. What kind of working relationship do you have with her? Does she seem OK with the current situation, flexible or has she been a PITA and hinting she should have custody now that she is sober? Does she seem to REALLY have your daughters best interest in mind or more self centered still? My 1st wife tried doing the whole clean/sober acts for a while and being the GOOD reformed mom even going to church and getting baptized to show how she had turned her life around. I went to the church baptism well knowing it was all for show but played along. I listened to her whole story how she was changed and only wanted what was best for our daughter. I told her that was great and I was really happy for her and I was excited to see her turn her life around. I went on to say then it should be easy for her to understand then that I also only had our daughters best interest safety in mind and with her very recent past I needed to continue my current direction with custody and was not going to just believe what I'm being told putting my daughter at risk. With her new enlightenment and understanding it should be easy for her to understand my position. I dont think most people at the church had ever heard so many curse words and fowl language coming from a cute young woman especially after only being baptized 30 minutes prior. Maybe she was just filled with the holly spirit and speaking in tongues. hahahaha Well that answers my question and is what I figured. If she is anything like my ex was she will not give up the kid even to save a little child support because she probably knows if she is clean long enough she has a good chance of getting sympathy from the court and getting custody back. I'm sure you clearly know if the roles were reversed and she had the majority of the custody, time with your daughter you would be paying 10x what she is paying you now. She also knows this and is counting on that happening sooner than later. You are going to have to prove her unfit AGAIN in some way. Dont suggest but dont make her pay child support. Let her get behind and keep meticulous records. Keep records of when/if she is late picking your daughter up and dropping her off. This does not have to be anything more than notes in a journal of some type of detailed, simple and clear. Keep records and documentation of any problems with her work, changing jobs or whatever. All these things will matter when it comes time to fight as I'm sure you have learned and figured out in the past but sometimes a reminder is needed. The payoff MAY work but you will have to catch her in the right mind-frame and make sure you do NOT make this sound beneficial to you in any way or she wont go for it. Some how make her think it's her idea and she is really squeezing you. Of course find a way to get her to sign a modified parenting plan withe a notarized signature before giving her a dime.

Appreciate all the info!

I already know she will never go for me leaving. This will have to be done in court. I'm consulting with a few people in the system to see how it looks.

She has no means to take care of my daughter..... She can hardly support herself let alone a child.

She has wanted more visitation but her own lawyer told her it's not possible.

The downside for me..... The lawyer is a family friend and doesn't charge her

[MuscleScience]

After reading this and having some buddies in similar situations. I'm glad I stayed on 2g of test and Deca for to long and killed off all my spermatozoa.

Hope it all gets worked out man.

[matri.x]

Can you and your ex talk like adults?

Easiest and cheapest way to find out.

i have been in such ugly situation my my wife's ex. we need the kid with us but not him visiting,. it took me few minutes to convince him to forget about him for some $$$.

in your situation that may work... don't stress and talk, just talk.

[matri.x]

After reading this and having some buddies in similar situations. I'm glad I stayed on 2g of test and Deca for to long and killed off all my spermatozoa.

Hope it all gets worked out man.

No shit man!


i neeeeeed so. how it works ? will be able to enjoy sex i mean?

[BG]

BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

I know that was a serious question..... Unfortunately my ex has the mind of a child. She wants nothing more than to see me suffer. She see's our daughter for two days every other weekend. When my daughter comes home she tells me "mommy says that she's my only mommy and I should call MA (that's what she calls my fiancés mom) by her real name because they aren't really my family."

She's a waste of fvcking life IMO

Damn it. I thought recovery might have helped her.

You need to see a lawyer, make a plan and just hit her with it.

[MuscleScience]

No shit man! i neeeeeed so. how it works ? will be able to enjoy sex i mean?

I was kidding buuuuuut, the Chinese published a large study on male contraceptive. They were giving men 1000mg of testosterone unidecanate. For a year, it was like 99.89% effective and the effect lasted up to two years after.

It takes 72 days for a sperm cell to fully mature.so that is why you can't still get your girl preggers while on. Because it will take a minimum of 72 days before your sperm counts start to drop.

Disclaimer: I am not advocating this as a form of male contraception. Lol

[GirlyGymRat]