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    Why NOW!

    Last year I posted about a hit and run in our town where a 15 year old boy was killed while walking with his friend.

    The friend of that boy was holding his buddy choking to death on blood, and called his mom and an ambulance.

    That boy lives with his mother in a low income apartment. She washes dishes and cleans other apartments at the facility. She is a very dear friend of my girlfiend. She walks to her house a few times a week to visit. She is good natured to say the least. Always a smile and a laugh though she has lived a very rough and traumatic life.

    The boy has his head on straight even after the accident. He has never had a father.
    His mother is all he has.

    Well, last week she went to the hospital she was confused. Couldn't talk well and was losing vision. We all figured a stroke was possible.

    Turns out its a fucking brain tumor.

    She is about 50. Tumor has taken over.
    She doesnt want to pursue treatment.
    Just to do a few things and laugh.

    Girlfried is throwing up and crying.

    Worried about that boy.
    His mother is everything to him. You have no fucking idea.
    Of kids in bad situations this is one of the worst I have seen. His mother does not need to go now.

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    Fuck all the safety types.

    Don't live safe.
    You find what you want, be CERTAIN YOU WANT IT and go like hell.

    If its working up the courage to ask someone out or break it off with someone, chase an athletic dream, start a business venture, or find a better job.... Whatever your hearts desire go get it!

    Crosshairs are on you and you are going to die sooner rather than later. Find a dream and get it.
    This one little lady will die with nothing and no relatives of a brain tumor and leave her son alone.

    So she just wants to enjoy a few moments...

    You may not be here tomorrow so act like it!

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    "But Obs.... I could lose everything!"

    You will I promise.
    You will lose every thing and sit on your death bed just wishing for more experiences. Go make some real efforts, take some chances, if you are miserable make a change.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Obs View Post
    "But Obs.... I could lose everything!"

    You will I promise.
    You will lose every thing and sit on your death bed just wishing for more experiences. Go make some real efforts, take some chances, if you are miserable make a change.
    Truer words were never spoken.

    I had the opportunity/task of working for 2wks on the "stairway to heaven" ward of the NHSD when I did my first medical training, and it was eye-opening, to say the least. Elderly cancer pts who were here for the last stop, as there was basically nothing but palliative care provided on this ward.

    To a man nearly every pt I spent time with said to "go for it", "live life to the fullest", "do everything that you can within, within your means..."

    I have tried, in the ensuing 36 yrs to put that into practice...

    Obs, you seem like an honorable, good-hearted guy; perhaps you and your family can do something for the boy...???

    What a sad story to wake up to...

    I wish him luck, strength, support and a positive outlook (life gets better).
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    I sometimes wonder why life is so hard. Consciousness is a blessing and a curse it seems. I don’t often understand how we could be given the gift of self awareness only to be left to suffer immensely in the conditions of life. I guess that’s why we should all be thankful for the good times we have as they are transient and often do not last.

    I also see all these people out there with everything but are thankful for nothing and always complaining. They measure worth my items and not moments. I was to wrapped up in the materialism of the world, only to lose it all and see truly how it all doesn’t matter. Yet until I met my wife, I still didn’t fully understand. Now I cherish moments with her and my family. I think about all the good friends I have and now make an effort to reach out. I don’t waste my time on trivial things and when I’m bored and have nothing to do. I force myself to find something to do that will help me grow.

    In the past few months I’ve been to a large amount of funerals. More in 6 weeks than I had in my entire life prior. Those people are now gone and All I have is the memories of them. So now I’m left to ponder who’s next and how should I best make the most of the time I have left with them.
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    Quote Originally Posted by XnavyHMCS View Post
    Truer words were never spoken.

    I had the opportunity/task of working for 2wks on the "stairway to heaven" ward of the NHSD when I did my first medical training, and it was eye-opening, to say the least. Elderly cancer pts who were here for the last stop, as there was basically nothing but palliative care provided on this ward.

    To a man nearly every pt I spent time with said to "go for it", "live life to the fullest", "do everything that you can within, within your means..."

    I have tried, in the ensuing 36 yrs to put that into practice...

    Obs, you seem like an honorable, good-hearted guy; perhaps you and your family can do something for the boy...???

    What a sad story to wake up to...

    I wish him luck, strength, support and a positive outlook (life gets better).
    Her fortune is where she lives.
    She will be taken care of and a slew including us would tske the boy in so he can finish high school.
    That boy and his mom babysat my kids a lot for extra money.

    This kid is the typical bookworm type. Not arrogant with a level head. Grew up knewing he had to help his mom as much as she helped him to survive.

    This town and us and her other friends will see to it she has her last adventures but this is just a horrible situation. They have no family here or anywhere that I know of.

    We all will do what we can and then some but in the end, this kid is alone. I dont really have words for the situation.

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    He had one friend. He is not Mr. Popular. His buddy was an overweight kid. They sat at their own table at lunch. They were walking between their houses together when his buddy was hit.

    The one that was there for him, (both before and after he lost his friend) from the start, is leaving now.

    Ah... Its just like two insignificant specs that were shit on all their lives, but had each other at least; are now being robbed of that.

    Goddamn!

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    Mrs Duff says let us know if your girl wants to help them 'do something'
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    Quote Originally Posted by MuscleScience View Post
    I sometimes wonder why life is so hard. Consciousness is a blessing and a curse it seems. I don’t often understand how we could be given the gift of self awareness only to be left to suffer immensely in the conditions of life. I guess that’s why we should all be thankful for the good times we have as they are transient and often do not last.

    I also see all these people out there with everything but are thankful for nothing and always complaining. They measure worth my items and not moments. I was to wrapped up in the materialism of the world, only to lose it all and see truly how it all doesn’t matter. Yet until I met my wife, I still didn’t fully understand. Now I cherish moments with her and my family. I think about all the good friends I have and now make an effort to reach out. I don’t waste my time on trivial things and when I’m bored and have nothing to do. I force myself to find something to do that will help me grow.

    In the past few months I’ve been to a large amount of funerals. More in 6 weeks than I had in my entire life prior. Those people are now gone and All I have is the memories of them. So now I’m left to ponder who’s next and how should I best make the most of the time I have left with them.
    I want to leave quick and leave my family with enough to know they dont have to worry.
    Miss me when I'm gone, but have the resources to move on and the pride and love in the memory.

    Whatever it takes is what I will do.

    I have never been after material things. A toy to me is a tool to make money to provide security my family never had.

    Bodybuilding is my only toy.

    I must admit I never live in the moment.
    I rarely enjoy my family.
    Too busy killing snakes working and worried about my one toy.

    I keep telling myself when I get to "X" I will slow down and enjoy things at home.

    Yeah right.

    I am taking my kids back to my ex wife after summer with me... Tomorrow.

    I will lose my composure once I am back on the road home. I will feel like this summer flew by and I was miserable. I was! I didn't enjoy shit.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Old Duffer View Post
    Mrs Duff says let us know if your girl wants to help them 'do something'
    Thanks duff and I know you two mean it.
    I think they will be provided for.

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    The womans name is Debbie.
    She has been single and not even gone on a date in years.
    She had bad teeth, very bad teeth. A few months ago she got all new implants. Not even a month later she was having lunch with a friend and a farmer asked her out on a date. She was very excited after the date.

    Their date was riding around the farm in a tractor getting to know one another. Don't know that it went anywhere.

    She has a micro apartment and a tattered old car.
    Always happy though or at least made everyone around her believe so. Never had much of anything.

    I guess it striked me so hard because I remember being the kid sharing a soda or ice cream with his mother when she had the change to spare.

    I don't know why I am dwelling on this so hard.
    I want it to teach me something but I have no idea what.

    It is the cruelest shit I have seen in many years.

    She never had nothing, never had no one, just was happy to be alive and see her son grow up even though everyone around her was doing better.

    Mark 12:43-44

    Calling his disciples to him, Jesus said, “Truly I tell you, this poor widow has put more into the treasury than all the others. 44 They all gave out of their wealth; but she, out of her poverty, put in everything—all she had to live on.”
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    Speechless....
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    Obs,

    Hit us up here on the forum with info on where and how to donate (I don't know how it works), and I am sure, as this story has touched us all, we can do something to help.
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    Quote Originally Posted by XnavyHMCS View Post
    Obs,

    Hit us up here on the forum with info on where and how to donate (I don't know how it works), and I am sure, as this story has touched us all, we can do something to help.
    I think it will be a local deal.
    I am scared to do this on here after the last drive we did.
    I started two different go fund mes for someone and both were closed without notice of why.
    Everyone donated and had to be refunded and many twice.
    I finally had everyone mail cash to a friend.

    I am sute we can raise enough money locally but I really don't know how to do another fundraiser without revealing identities.

    I really do appreciate it though and thats very considerate.

    I may consider just getting her address to have people mail cash.
    Any packs sent would need tracking and insurance.
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    If I did I would need admins permission and a second and third trustee like ag and cape.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Obs View Post
    I think it will be a local deal.
    I am scared to do this on here after the last drive we did.
    I started two different go fund mes for someone and both were closed without notice of why.
    Everyone donated and had to be refunded and many twice.
    I finally had everyone mail cash to a friend.

    I am sute we can raise enough money locally but I really don't know how to do another fundraiser without revealing identities.

    I really do appreciate it though and thats very considerate.

    I may consider just getting her address to have people mail cash.
    Any packs sent would need tracking and insurance.
    We are STANDING BY
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    Omg that is fucking awful!
    So sorry to hear, bro. My prayers are with the kid and his mother
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    I really do not know what to say obs, apart from i don't understand how cruel life can be to us.
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    I wont ever be able to make sense of the shit that happens to the innocent.

    My gf went and saw her today. I was in changing clothes but had to get back grinding stumps. I didn't get an update but will.

    I am going to have to step on getting something done.

    This year our adopt a kid for christmas is going to her and her son.

    I bitch a lot, but I have nothing to complain about.
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    Update from gf...

    Hospice is involved but not fully yet. They brought her a bed... Brcause she doesn't have one and slept in a reclining chair. I did not know this or I would have taken her one a long time ago.


    I am going to see if admin will allow a fundraiser.

    Her vision is her biggest complaint and she said she "saw something". Worried she wont be able to do much if I wait any longer.

    She said she wants to go to Colorado.
    We may or may not take her. Either way I want her to get money to blow on whatever she chooses.
    NOT MEDICAL OR NECESSITY the town and friends will see to that.

    If anything did happen with the fundraiser it will go to her son.

    **I mean if anything happened to her***
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    I suppose if it goes through.
    I will get a card with all usernames in it and give it to them and post some pictures of the two with the thanks they will have.

    If we take her to colorado I will document that here.

    The only way I can do this is the same way I did the christmas fundraiser.

    I won't waste any more energy with gofundme after the last debacle. I was was ready to pull my hair out.

    This as always hangs on my reputation and admin knows who I am. So if I were to not follow through with what I said.... Admin can post my name and address. Anyone who donates would be donating to a single woman about to leave her son behind.

    ALL WILL BE DOCUMENTED WITH A TRUSTEE SUCH AS AG TO VERIFY SHIPMENTS AND ARRIVAL.

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    Thats Ronnie on the left with his friend Gavin that was killed last year.

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    Gonna take Ronnie on some jobs I think.

    Idk the right thing to do.
    Don't want him to not be there with his mom
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    Quote Originally Posted by Obs View Post
    Gonna take Ronnie on some jobs I think.

    Idk the right thing to do.
    Don't want him to not be there with his mom
    Might be good to get his mind somewhere else for a minute
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    Quote Originally Posted by Obs View Post
    Gonna take Ronnie on some jobs I think.

    Idk the right thing to do.
    Don't want him to not be there with his mom

    Might do his mom some good to know others will take care of him and be there for him...

    Let me know the details when you have them...


    As always this is totally voluntary! (no one has to take part and there is no hard feelings at all if you do not.)
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    Quote Originally Posted by *Admin* View Post
    Might do his mom some good to know others will take care of him and be there for him...

    Let me know the details when you have them...


    As always this is totally voluntary! (no one has to take part and there is no hard feelings at all if you do not.)
    Thanks.
    I am gonna go lift and will sit down and propose the details after. May be tomorrow because I have to contact a guy that may be asleep.

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    Clearing details with ADMIN.
    Once and if approved I will start immediately with the fundraiser for Debbie and Ronnie
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    It's been decades ago, but my Granny started much the same way. Lost part of her vision. She goes to the small tobacco town Dr., he says it was nerves, have her some benzos,

    Happened again and my uncle took her over to Greensboro and saw a "real" Dr. He ran scans and it ended up she had astrocytoma ( one of the several types of brain and neural cancers).

    They could only remove ~40% of the tumor w/o removing too much brain tissue. Woman never smoked or drank a day in her life. It's a devastating, relentless condition.

    However she didn't have child that relying on her, so that makes it very important there's assistance and help....and prayer provided.

    Will definitely be glad to help, contribute, whatever I can do. Mrs. AG as well.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Obs View Post
    I suppose if it goes through.
    I will get a card with all usernames in it and give it to them and post some pictures of the two with the thanks they will have.

    If we take her to colorado I will document that here.

    The only way I can do this is the same way I did the christmas fundraiser.

    I won't waste any more energy with gofundme after the last debacle. I was was ready to pull my hair out.

    This as always hangs on my reputation and admin knows who I am. So if I were to not follow through with what I said.... Admin can post my name and address. Anyone who donates would be donating to a single woman about to leave her son behind.

    ALL WILL BE DOCUMENTED WITH A TRUSTEE SUCH AS AG TO VERIFY SHIPMENTS AND ARRIVAL.

    PROVIDED ADMIN OK'S IT
    That was stupid GoFvckMe....I mean GoFundMe's screwup. It's happened locally recently.
    You went above and beyond.
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    Quote Originally Posted by almostgone View Post
    That was stupid GoFvckMe....I mean GoFundMe's screwup. It's happened locally recently.
    You went above and beyond.
    Thanks man.
    I was ready to drive to their office and beat someone before it was over.

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    You are a good man AG.
    My respect. Thanks to your wife as well

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    http://forums.steroid.com/anabolic-l...und%2A%2A.html

    Donation link. Fundraiser is active.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Obs View Post
    http://forums.steroid.com/anabolic-l...und%2A%2A.html

    Donation link. Fundraiser is active.
    I'm getting page not found. Is it just me?
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    Quote Originally Posted by HoldMyBeer View Post
    I'm getting page not found. Is it just me?
    Works for me, HMB.


    Edit. Go to the main lounge page and look the title "**DEBBIE'S Final DAYS FUND** if it won't link you.
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    Quote Originally Posted by almostgone View Post
    Works for me, HMB.


    Edit. Go to the main lounge page and look the title "**DEBBIE'S Final DAYS FUND** if it won't link you.
    Thank you
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    Sorry man. Link works for me too.
    It is in the lounge for anyone who has issue. Though hmb found it

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    Sorry man. Link works for me too.
    It is in the lounge for anyone who has issue. Though hmb found it
    Not your fault. Probably Tapatalk fucking up per usual
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