Just saw my ex at the bar :-(

**juicehoe** · 03-10-2004, 11:19 PM

yea im guessing a lot of people have had this type of thing happen... but of cource everyones situation is different

**thebob** · 03-11-2004, 10:39 AM

I was with my ex for 6 years. She dumped me back in March 03. I was totally f'ed up for months. In fact, I had to be put on meds to be able to function again. After I started feeling better due to the meds, I was able to go out some. I ran into a girl that I knew and was able to talk to her at length, something I was unable to do before. It felt really good to be able to talk to someone else(female) that wasn't my ex. Next thing I know, we got together and things have been great. I kicked the medications, don't ever think of my ex, hell, it doesn't even phase me when I see her with her new man. I know you are still in love and so was I. But after getting together with my now fiance, things have been 180 degrees to what they were. I guess the moral of my story is, things WILL work out and get better, even if that doesn't include getting back with your ex.

**Butch** · 03-11-2004, 11:19 AM

Originally Posted by juicehoe

thanks butch... i dont want to leave you hanging so *high five. I dont know what im going to do. I guess hope for the best and expect the worst. I'd really like to work on myself and become a better boy friend for her. One day be back together. But i think i need to face the grim reality that ill be alone without my love. It just ****ing sucks after seeing her last night. Shes awesome

You know, I once broke up with a chic that I dated for about a year and half (this was...shoot, i think 7 years ago)...she was my first true love and all that shiat....but anyway, she broke up with me and crushed my heart....well I had this bar me and my boys use to always go to....she knew this too...so she shows up and I am wasted trying to drink my sorrows away...I cause a little ruckis (sp?) with the dudes she is with...no fight though. Anyway, I show up to the same bar the next week...and the bitch is there with the same dudes...so now these dudes are wasted....they decide that they are going to get back at me for the week before....so fortunatly i ahd my friend who at the time was a juice junky...we todssed in the bar for a good few seconds...lol. They throw me out the front entrance with those three dudes and throw my boys out the back entrance. So needless to say they jumped my ass.... and my ex could not believe that they did this...she was crying...but only becasue I busted her boy's jaw...*high five me...lol.

So I guess what I am saying is it is a pain in the ass when your lady shows up to the same bar...where she knows you will be. And they only do that because they know they will see you there...and they want to see you....
Just do what you got to do bro...and don't start **** with the dudes she is with unless you have boys with you...LMAO

**juicehoe** · 03-11-2004, 11:32 AM

First off *high five for busting the ex's jaw

LOL the thing is it was both our first times at that bar. Neither of us was with the opp sex nor getting with anyone while there. Just chilling with friends. And as far as the starting ****... im not sure if id be crushed seeing her with another guy or if id go crazy and crack a beer bottle over his head. Once i see her with another guy... the feelings of love will fade away.

**Butch** · 03-11-2004, 12:29 PM

Originally Posted by juicehoe

First off *high five for busting the ex's jaw

LOL the thing is it was both our first times at that bar. Neither of us was with the opp sex nor getting with anyone while there. Just chilling with friends. And as far as the starting ****... im not sure if id be crushed seeing her with another guy or if id go crazy and crack a beer bottle over his head. Once i see her with another guy... the feelings of love will fade away.

Yeah, that's what I thought...but since I wasn't with anyone...then I figured she shouldn't be with anyone...lmao. I konw it was a childish thing to do....but it was my first truw gf....so the feelings i was having I didn't know how to react...I felt the best way was to use anger...which bite me in the ass...lol.

Anyway dude, all in all you seem to know what you are doing...and only YOU can make the decsion on how to handle this...we are all simply recommendations....it's your life you live the best way you can...and eat hard, get huge and the ladies will flock to you!

best of luck bro....keep it real!

**juicehoe** · 03-11-2004, 06:13 PM

Thanks bro... ill just have to see. I'm doubtful that anthing will happen, but i still got the hearts in my eyes.
I guess i was just sharing... seeing what has happened to other people. I really dont have any friends anymore since the past two years she was my best friend.
And as getting huge... my first cycle will be started with in a week.