Bo's Philosophy on Relationships

**Prada** · 06-16-2006, 09:08 PM

I new you were influenced by psychology. I manly read about Pavlov, Jung and Freud. Even there theories are applicable in Commerce(management) . As in Buying behaviour, human motivation, Hierarchy of Needs and how it changes to needs, wants, et cetera. Believe or not, all good B.Comm schools teach it extensively in the B.Comm program especially for Marketing student. Psycholgy is needed for marketing.

**Tren Bull** · 06-16-2006, 09:16 PM

Originally Posted by Tren Bull

i have a very simple philosophy on relationships. you pay attention to what makes your woman happy, and what doesn't. then you do everything in your power to make her smile, which includes buying her lots of gifts, getting to know her really well and establishing a strong friendship. and giving her lots of back rubs and lots of tongue.

females love that

oh yea, i forgot, you gotta shower her with compliments too. constantly tell her how beautiful she is. i know lots of guys will say thats a big no no cause you gotta keep your woman on her toes, but you know what???

fu_k the head games and fu_k the drama.

i love seeing my woman smile. but i hate it when shes all about the head games. its ideal to find a girl that doesnt pull that crap. thats no way to have a healthy and long term relationshp

**Bojangles69** · 06-16-2006, 10:25 PM

Originally Posted by Tren Bull

oh yea, i forgot, you gotta shower her with compliments too. constantly tell her how beautiful she is. i know lots of guys will say thats a big no no cause you gotta keep your woman on her toes, but you know what???

fu_k the head games and fu_k the drama.

i love seeing my woman smile. but i hate it when shes all about the head games. its ideal to find a girl that doesnt pull that crap. thats no way to have a healthy and long term relationshp

"shower".. why? so you can buy yourself into a relationship.
take the amount of money you've spent and divide it by the hours you've hung out with her and that = the hourly pay rate for what she considers her second job. how long have the gifts actually kept you a woman, and who ends the relationship for the large part? (honest answers please)
thats not called a "nice guy" thats called a "supplicator".
you said fu-k the head games but your playing the biggest head game in the world. your trying to influence someone to have feelings for you by buying them things. but i know what youll say, im some corrupt womanizer right? wrong.. your developing your own personal way of attracting women, and it may work (to attract, not keep) and youll always tell yourself your just being nice. (and do you think not buying them things makes you a dick?) But when attractive women get older, say maybe 27. thats about 10 years of being offered gifts by men since they were about 17. Attractive women get supplicated to almost everyday by a lot more men than you think. Add that up over a few years and just imagine how that changes the way she thinks about men?
Do you think they think the men are "just being nice"? just a few things to think about..
Funny thing is a lot of times guys forget woman actually have brains and can sometimes understand why a guy does what he does better than himself. Women are a lot smarter than you think.. (some)

**Tren Bull** · 06-16-2006, 10:31 PM

Originally Posted by Bojangles69

"shower".. why? so you can buy yourself into a relationship.
take the amount of money you've spent and divide it by the hours you've hung out with her and that = the hourly pay rate for what she considers her second job. how long have the gifts actually kept you a woman, and who ends the relationship for the large part? (honest answers please)
thats not called a "nice guy" thats called a "supplicator".
you said fu-k the head games but your playing the biggest head game in the world. your trying to influence someone to have feelings for you by buying them things. but i know what youll say, im some corrupt womanizer right? wrong.. your developing your own personal way of attracting women, and it may work (to attract, not keep) and youll always tell yourself your just being nice. (and do you think not buying them things makes you a dick?) But when attractive women get older, say maybe 27. thats about 10 years of being offered gifts by men since they were about 17. Attractive women get supplicated to almost everyday by a lot more men than you think. Add that up over a few years and just imagine how that changes the way she thinks about men?
Do you think they think the men are "just being nice"? just a few things to think about..
Funny thing is a lot of times guys forget woman actually have brains and can sometimes understand why a guy does what he does better than himself. Women are a lot smarter than you think.. (some)

its not about keeping a gold digging hoe, cause if i got the sense that she was only in it for that then i would dump her like a bad habbit

call me crazy, but i got this idea imprinted in my head... lets call it the man code, where a man goes out, makes money and spoils his woman.

**Tren Bull** · 06-16-2006, 10:33 PM

fu_k buying yourslelf into a relationship. its not supposed to be like that...

but i wouldnt know anything about that, cause im broke, and girls keep falling in love with me cause i treat them right... thats what its all about.

didn't you catch on to that?

**Tren Bull** · 06-16-2006, 10:36 PM

oh ok, you're askin me to answer truthfully who ends the realtionships?

its me, cause these girls got attitude problems, actin unfaithfull, and starting fights with me.

i usually got no problems, but some girls...

they got an attitude problem, then i dump them

and they end up with the broken heart cause they think that a nice little hard body and a pretty face will sucker me back into it.

but i dont put up with that crap

**Tren Bull** · 06-16-2006, 10:36 PM

so why dont you tell me, what the fu_k does supplicator mean anyway?

**Tren Bull** · 06-16-2006, 10:38 PM

oh hell no, you didnt just acuse me of playing head games by buying woman things.

didnt you comprehend a fu_king word i said???

i said i like to make my woman smile as much as i possibly can. this has nothing to do with head games, and everything to do with genuinly carring about the happiness of my woman

**Tren Bull** · 06-16-2006, 10:39 PM

attract but not keep???

you know what bro?

fu_k you, you dont know me, you got no clue how i treat woman.

**Tren Bull** · 06-16-2006, 10:42 PM

you think i forgot woman have brains?

jesus, you really didnt read what i said did you?

i said its all about establishing a strong friendship... its all about getting to know your woman, respecting her, and being there for her when she needs you...

you're twisting my words into you're own fu_ked up idea of how men treat women. im nothing like the typical pig man. you got no clue bro, so keep your stupid ass evaluations to yourself

**Tren Bull** · 06-16-2006, 10:44 PM

uh oh, here comes the long ass paragraph that i dont even want to read, but i will cause im curious to see what you got to say to me.

WHAT DOG???

hit me with your wanna be sigmund freud evalutation

**Bojangles69** · 06-16-2006, 10:53 PM

Originally Posted by Tren Bull

actin unfaithfull

dayamm, 6 posts!!! seems like someone touched a sensitive spot.

**Tren Bull** · 06-16-2006, 10:54 PM

Originally Posted by Bojangles69

dayamm, 6 posts!!! seems like someone touched a sensitive spot.

actually you did. i dont appreciate you passing judgement on me

**Tren Bull** · 06-16-2006, 10:56 PM

ive been through this unfaithfull crap.

as a matter of fact, i was feeling suicidal earlier cause of one girl, but your words had nothing to do with that.

you take my genuine and almost sickeningly sweet thoughts and twist them into some bullsh_t.

**Bojangles69** · 06-16-2006, 10:57 PM

keep wastn your money and dumping women, thats the best way to learn, you seem like you have a lot of experience. ill start putting for "entertainment purposes only" for those who cant keep thier composure.

**Tren Bull** · 06-16-2006, 10:58 PM

so you're tryin to throw some bullsh_t into my face...

you think it would be funny if you got me even more pissed off???

try harder

**Tren Bull** · 06-16-2006, 10:59 PM

Originally Posted by Bojangles69

keep wastn your money and dumping women, thats the best way to learn

HAHAHA yea bro, i think i will

**Bojangles69** · 06-16-2006, 11:00 PM

Originally Posted by Tren Bull

ive been through this unfaithfull crap.

as a matter of fact, i was feeling suicidal earlier cause of one girl, but your words had nothing to do with that.

you take my genuine and almost sickeningly sweet thoughts and twist them into some bullsh_t.

i didnt mean to open the floodgates or offend you, but i assure you NO woman is worth even contemplating suicide.

**Tren Bull** · 06-16-2006, 11:00 PM

Originally Posted by Bojangles69

ill start putting for "entertainment purposes only" for those who cant keep thier composure.

what exactly do you mean by that? are you gonna send me money or something?

**Tren Bull** · 06-16-2006, 11:01 PM

Originally Posted by Bojangles69

i didnt mean to open the floodgates or offend you, but i assure you NO woman is worth even contemplating suicide.

you have no clue where ive been

**Bojangles69** · 06-16-2006, 11:01 PM

Originally Posted by Tren Bull

so you're tryin to throw some bullsh_t into my face...

you think it would be funny if you got me even more pissed off???

try harder

obviously doesnt take a lot of "tryn" with you. you sure its the women starting the fights? and no this isnt humurous..

**Tren Bull** · 06-16-2006, 11:03 PM

Originally Posted by Bojangles69

obviously doesnt take a lot of "tryn" with you. you sure its the women starting the fights? and no this isnt humurous..

yea im pretty sure. why? do you find that hard to believe?

**Bojangles69** · 06-16-2006, 11:04 PM

Originally Posted by Tren Bull

you have no clue where ive been

yeh ive heard that before but this isnt the place to start telling war stories. if you wanna pm me go ahead, i would actually like to hear what the bitch did..

**Tren Bull** · 06-16-2006, 11:04 PM

btw, do you think im fu_kin laughing?

**Tren Bull** · 06-16-2006, 11:05 PM

Originally Posted by Bojangles69

yeh ive heard that before but this isnt the place to start telling war stories. if you wanna pm me go ahead, i would actually like to hear what the bitch did..

i dont want to go into it... as a matter of fact, id like to forget all about her

**Bojangles69** · 06-16-2006, 11:05 PM

Originally Posted by Tren Bull

yea im pretty sure. why? do you find that hard to believe?

you just seem a little too emotional is all.. again not insulting, i get that way too.

**Bojangles69** · 06-16-2006, 11:11 PM

Originally Posted by Tren Bull

i dont want to go into it... as a matter of fact, id like to forget all about her

thats cool, we'd all like to forget, and we all have our ways of getting over shit, but i usually get into shit before i can really get over it (not tryn turn this into a ****n therapy session) but i usually force any of my bro's to talk about the shit. a few different ways of looking at something can make you forget it a lot quicker, but w/e.

**ascendant** · 06-16-2006, 11:36 PM

bo, i tend to try to avoid your threads and posts cause i know we have always disagreed in the past, but i gotta point something out to you.

so far, i've seen you in arguments with 5 different people in posts of yours, and you actually just got out of a suspension cause of one of those arguments. haven't you learned, or are you looking to get banned???

you push peoples buttons cause you try to tell people "this is how it is". you just don't get that your answers are not absolute, and that your situations oftentimes do not apply to other peoples. actually, almost every single one of your comments i've ever read in any of your threads has not applied to me.

your standpoint is one that causes you conflict constantly with others on here, yet you seem to think that your perspective is "the right one". if so, then why does it cause conflict in all those around you? you need to understand that your psychology does not instantly give you an understanding of a person simply because of a few comments they've made on threads online.

personally i'm not a big fan of psychology, mainly because no matter how much you study it, there are always people who are exceptions to the standard rules, and it is innevitable that a psychologists assumptions will at times be completely incorrect. i find personal experience with others and reaching out for understanding of their perspectives and feelings on things gives me more answers to how people work than any psychology book could. i don't need a book to see why people do what they do.

anyway, you really need to lighten up the attitude and name calling here man before you get plicked off. they've suspended you once, next time it probably won't be temporary. respect the rules or go. simple as that. additionally, don't think they'd have any hesitation in booting you cause from what i've seen, you haven't made one single contribution in any of the threads other than the lounge. you're just leeching off the site and p*ssing people off. i'm just trying to make you aware of that before you get booted. even though we don't see eye to eye, i still choose to attempt to help. take this however you'd like of course, but that's all i'm trying to do.

**Tren Bull** · 06-16-2006, 11:44 PM

Originally Posted by Bojangles69

you just seem a little too emotional is all.. again not insulting, i get that way too.

well, im kinda drunk right now. i was feeling pretty depressed earlier.

**Tren Bull** · 06-16-2006, 11:47 PM

Originally Posted by Bojangles69

thats cool, we'd all like to forget, and we all have our ways of getting over shit, but i usually get into shit before i can really get over it (not tryn turn this into a ****n therapy session) but i usually force any of my bro's to talk about the shit. a few different ways of looking at something can make you forget it a lot quicker, but w/e.

ok, you wanna hear what this girl did to me?

she called me up one time to tell me she was about to go fu_k my best friend. another time, she got tag teamed by my two good friends. another time, she was dating this guy. me and her hooked up, and she told me that she realized how much she loved me, and that she was gonna break up with her boyfriend for me. then we hooked up...

a week later she said... "oh, wait, never mind, i changed my mind, im not gonna dump my boy"

**Tren Bull** · 06-16-2006, 11:48 PM

another time, she fu_ked this guy, and she re-enacted how she was fu_king him. another time, she fu_ked two guys in the back seat of a car.

and so many times, she told me all these graphic details about her fu_kijng all these "hot guys" she knew

**ascendant** · 06-16-2006, 11:52 PM

wow, i had to jump back on here. though i didn't read through the entire novel at the beginning of this thread, i did read something that i found to be malignantly incorrect. the statement "You weren’t born knowing how to love". are you for real???

though most believe emotions are influenced by our environment and other forms of conditioning, we certainly were born with our emotions, which includes but is of course not limited to love. not sure where you got the information from for that quote, but it's not even remotely true. our emotions are not formed from our external environment.

rather than trying to break things down into psycho-analytical information, try actually breaking down your personal social and environmental conditioning and you'll find emotions precede thought and at times, even precede the external cause for that reaction. though you may not quite understand that from your "grounded" perspective on things, our emotions actually create our external environment. this breaks down into levels of quantum physics and metaphysics in a way that is far too complex to explain here, but i can assure you the people explaining these ideas are just as reputable if not moreso than the psychologists you've read about. they are however on what could be seen as the opposite end of your spectrum and as such, i'm assuming you would dismiss it all as incorrect.

**Tren Bull** · 06-17-2006, 12:04 AM

Originally Posted by Tren Bull

another time, she fu_ked this guy, and she re-enacted how she was fu_king him. another time, she fu_ked two guys in the back seat of a car.

and so many times, she told me all these graphic details about her fu_kijng all these "hot guys" she knew

hows that for a square metaphorical kick in the nuts???

i loved this girl.

now aint that a bitch

**Tren Bull** · 06-17-2006, 12:05 AM

and then people are wondering why i got a skeleton holding a colt 1911 to its dome as my avatar

hello!?!?!?!

lifes a bitch, and i damn near ended it

**Tren Bull** · 06-17-2006, 12:07 AM

do you have any clue how it feels to have the woman that you love re-enacting how she fu_ked some guy 2 hours earlier that day?

**Tren Bull** · 06-17-2006, 12:08 AM

Originally Posted by Bojangles69

a few different ways of looking at something can make you forget it a lot quicker

i wish. id rather hit myself in the head with a hammer until i dont know anything

**Mizfit** · 06-17-2006, 07:11 AM

Well - in the end the real you is going to come out. so not sure why you would pretend to be something your not- shower a chick with empty compliments that you don't mean and eventually will stop saying..

The world is so full of smoke and mirrors.. its a wonder why we are where we are today...

**Bojangles69** · 06-17-2006, 09:11 AM

Originally Posted by ascendant

"You weren’t born knowing how to love". are you for real???

OMFG!!! Dude what are you?!?! A ****n gerbil?!?
This isnt something that is open to your opinion. Its a FACT documented EVERYWHERE by some of the smartest people alive.(im not even talking psychology, im talking biology) PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE stop saying stupid things.. just go out now and read a book and put some duct tape over your mouth for the next 6 months.
your born knowing how to breath, shit, and eat. Even than, you shit in your own pants, and eat when your forced to.. so the only thing your really born knowing how to do right is breath.
So everyone understand, this gentlemen just told me when he was a baby he KNEW how to love people. AHAHAH!!.. little pimp junior they called you.
thats the same exact thing as saying your were born knowing how to hate
babies dont hate anyone, you learn it from people around you.
which is why when you get around 4,5,6 children from ANGRY families know how to HATE and children from HAPPY families know how to love. They both can do both, but all these dynamics are conditioned into them from the environment.
Think about this (because thinking seems to be something you havent learned how to do)
Your born alone on an island, with NOONE else on that island. Are you going to learn how to love a banana tree or pile of sand?? No, you may prefer certain foods over others, but this doesnt even scratch the surface of love.

I'll say this once, love is an intellectual and emotional dynamic, a baby does not possess a cerebral cortex even slightly developed enough to allow a dynamic like that to exist untill they get A LOT older.
Take a developmental biology course.
See, you may think im a stubborn dick but in all reality, i LEARNED from you how i should treat you because you taught me really quick how much thought you put into things.
And heres a nice exercise you can do besides curls. Go google in with quotes "born knowing how to love" and "not born knowing how to love" and youll notice not even ONE single person on the whole net has even made the comment you just made, and that in fact 99% of them agree with me.
Its ok though, some people are well read and educated, think before they speak and dont try convince other people the sky is yellow.

Originally Posted by ascendant

i'm assuming you would dismiss it all as incorrect.

haha yeh me and 99% of the rest of the world. good try.

**Bojangles69** · 06-17-2006, 09:24 AM

Originally Posted by Mizfit

Well - in the end the real you is going to come out. so not sure why you would pretend to be something your not- shower a chick with empty compliments that you don't mean and eventually will stop saying..

The world is so full of smoke and mirrors.. its a wonder why we are where we are today...

this is called a person who thinks logically.

a lot of the world lives in a cloud, and because they do, they have no idea they're in it in the first place. than you help them take their head out for a peak and they get scared and start cursing at you.

there a lot of illogical thinkers out there. (and acters)

**Bojangles69** · 06-17-2006, 09:39 AM

Originally Posted by Tren Bull

do you have any clue how it feels to have the woman that you love re-enacting how she fu_ked some guy 2 hours earlier that day?

YOOO!!!! thats ****ed up shit, i admit. So you have been through worse things with woman and ive been through some real ****ed up shit in general. (with a best friend, had nothing to do with woman but a million times worse than anything a bitch can do to you, and im not talkn about the story im about to tell) and i guarantee your a lot smarter now than in the past, learning can usually be painful, but if your still mad your still learning.

my friends girl told him recently she cheated on him with 2 guys, and hes never gonna amount to anything because - "hes in a band"? (and going to college) after telling him everyday i love you baby, i wanna marry you, she literally did a 180 on his ass for no reason.
not only that but she feels its neccassary to still call him afterwards just to not act like a bitch (so he would stay on the phone) have general dry conversation than randlomly throw in an insult. She was your classic nutjob.
So all ill say (the specifics arent important, cause than people start saying dude thats ****ed up) but i wrote her a 2 paragraph letter on myspace. messaged a few of her friends, a few of his friends. copied thier AIM conversation and posted it as a blog on myspace and basically exploited the shit out of her for the world to see. it lasted a week, he was getting comments from people he didnt even know about what a whore she is, and get this.. her mom called him and told him to delete it and i made him keep that shit up for another 2 days untill she actually called him crying and thats what i call real closure. you never **** one of my buddies over.. ever.