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    Girl Problems.

    I've been dating this girl for about a month or so. We both really started liking eachother very quikly.we both felt like we've known each other for a long time,calling eachother baby etc... She warned me that she had just broken up with a guy and there was drama in her life.I said thats fine, i just want to have fun with you whatever happpens happens.
    Anyway listen to these shanangans:
    yesturday She tells me that the more she gets to know me the more shes sees herself being with me.She is not certain that this is what she wants.(we had sex once, two weeks after we started dating).She says we went too quikly and she still needs closure from her past relationship. But she has absolutely no intentions on getting back with this dude. She needs to take two steps back and time to breathe and think and whatever.She says shes being honest cuz she really likes me.
    what do i do?
    act busy, not call her and maybe she'll come crawling back?
    tell her straight up, i'm here right now for you,we've been having a great time togther thus far, do you want to be my girl or not?

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    Give her her time..

    In all seriousiness you don't know her well enough to not know she isin't palying games.

    Let her call you when she is ready, or move on.

    You give her an ultimatium she may walk anyhow..

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    Give her some space..If she truley cares she will come back but for god sakes don't sweat her. You can still call her but not all the time..Let her know you care in a subtle way but not to forward

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    agreed...its a VERY VERY new realtionship..give her time bro...

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    Wow bro your lucky. It actually sound like this girl is smart and not physco. She is probably doing the best thing in the long run for your relationship. It isn't smart for her or anyone to jump into something else. Let her have a little space. If you make her make a decision your done. Let her be.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mizfit
    Give her her time..

    In all seriousiness you don't know her well enough to not know she isin't palying games.

    Let her call you when she is ready, or move on.

    You give her an ultimatium she may walk anyhow..

    Damn ya read my mind lol

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    Step back and give her some time, if it's meant to be than you will both be together. You don't want to be caught in the middle of some old boyfriend thing with her and her ex.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FranKieC
    Damn ya read my mind lol

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    k, so i will not call her.
    cuz i like the girl, if i speak to her on the phone, im just gonna want to see her more.
    bummer situation

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    Quote Originally Posted by style74
    You don't want to be caught in the middle of some old boyfriend thing with her and her ex.
    no f-ing way, thats the worst.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DCB83
    k, so i will not call her.
    cuz i like the girl, if i speak to her on the phone, im just gonna want to see her more.
    bummer situation
    You can call her but not all the time..Hearing your voice will just reassure her that you aren't going anywhere

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    I can tell you from experience give her space, you dont want her to rush into anything. I moved in with my ex-fiance after I knew her for 2 WEEKS! She had only been broken up with her ex for a couple weeks, so I think I probably started off as a rebound...lol. Matter of fact after 4 years, she ended up cramming me for someone else a few months before the wedding date, and a MONTH after I'm gone - he's living there, guy I have been cool with almost 10 years.

    Point being, give it time. If you rush completely into it and it seems too good to be true, most of the time it is.

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    i've been where she is and when a new dude keeps harassing me because they want something from me - i feel way too much pressure and usually just walk away

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    just play it slow n smooth..shel come around.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mizfit
    i've been where she is and when a new dude keeps harassing me because they want something from me - i feel way too much pressure and usually just walk away
    i know, thats the last thing i want to do. even when we were seeing each other i would give her her own space, and i'm also chill like that.
    just hurts cuz she gave me all the right signals, and boom she hits me this.
    plus im in the middle of a cycle so im all emotional right now. sucks.hate the way i feel.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DCB83
    i know, thats the last thing i want to do. even when we were seeing each other i would give her her own space, and i'm also chill like that.
    just hurts cuz she gave me all the right signals, and boom she hits me this.
    plus im in the middle of a cycle so im all emotional right now. sucks.hate the way i feel.
    In all honestly sometimes we don't realize we are a mess until we are already knee deep in it.

    Respect the fact she told you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mizfit
    In all honestly sometimes we don't realize we are a mess until we are already knee deep in it.

    Respect the fact she told you.
    i do, i would expect that from her anyway.shes extremely honest.many girls bottle up they're feelings.can be very unpleasant to be around someone like that.

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    Go bury your face is another chicks crotch until this one calls you again.
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    Quote Originally Posted by muriloninja
    Go bury your face is another chicks crotch until this one calls you again.
    will try.

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    She is dumb for giving it up to you that soon. I think she feels guilty now for doing that and this is her way to get away and justify it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mariana
    She is dumb for giving it up to you that soon. I think she feels guilty now for doing that and this is her way to get away and justify it.
    How old r u - when you get older things move a little quicker.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mizfit
    How old r u - when you get older things move a little quicker.
    im 23, just buggin out cuz i really like her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mariana
    She is dumb for giving it up to you that soon. I think she feels guilty now for doing that and this is her way to get away and justify it.
    trust me i asked her that.things were amazing in terms of comfort level.we both gave it up cuz we wanted it to.

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    anyway, any other posts would be very much appreciated.
    but i think i know what i need to do now.
    thanks guys.

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    There is no such thing as giving it up 2 fast! When i buy a car i have to test drive it first, i am the same with my women!

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    send her a text or something, just say that you really like her, and would really like to see her again when she is ready. let her know that just because you are not calling, texting, emailing or whatever, it is solely because you dont want to be a stalker and let her have her space, but not because you arent thinking of her. balls in her court, then put it to the back of your mind. please remember for your own good, that the chances of her ever 'being ready' again to be with you are slim

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mizfit
    How old r u - when you get older things move a little quicker.
    yeah, what is she, a nun?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Timm1704
    send her a text or something, just say that you really like her, and would really like to see her again when she is ready. let her know that just because you are not calling, texting, emailing or whatever, it is solely because you dont want to be a stalker and let her have her space, but not because you arent thinking of her. balls in her court, then put it to the back of your mind. please remember for your own good, that the chances of her ever 'being ready' again to be with you are slim
    why are the chances slim?

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    this chick pulled a fast one on me.
    whatver, at least now i know how it feels.
    and i've done it to others many times.
    i'll just wait for her call, if she doesn't there's many other girls out there.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DCB83
    this chick pulled a fast one on me.
    whatver, at least now i know how it feels.
    and i've done it to others many times.
    i'll just wait for her call, if she doesn't there's many other girls out there.
    they are all bitches man serioulsy is the conclusion ive came to

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    I understand her delima if she is being honest about it. What i don't understand, is that you spend all this time together and are getting along well, you have sex quickly, then later she wants to cool it? Are you sure her ex isn't something to do with this? If not how long has it been now since she has talked to you, i mean without you contacting her? If she's the one who wants to cool it, then its up to her to keep communication up with you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by statuZ
    they are all bitches man serioulsy is the conclusion ive came to
    That means you're a dick like the rest of the men.

    What an immature statement. You go boy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mariana
    That means a dick like the rest of the men. you're

    What an immature statement. You go boy.
    I definately don't agree with his statement about all women being bitches....but by you saying him being a dick like the rest of the men makes you just as bad as him. Not all women are bitches just like not all men are dicks! There are good and bad of men and women, it all depends on the person!

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    be the friend... take time..

    and yes.. don't call her..

    as a matter of fact.. tell her over coffee or walk or whatever that you met this girl that you think you like.. (no it's not her)...

    it will put the fear of loss in her, and if she is interested in you, she will make a move to you..

    if not.. she is still hung up on her ex...
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    Quote Originally Posted by style74
    I definately don't agree with his statement about all women being bitches....but by you saying him being a dick like the rest of the men makes you just as bad as him. Not all women are bitches just like not all men are dicks! There are good and bad of men and women, it all depends on the person!
    you betcha!

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    Quote Originally Posted by style74
    you saying him being a dick like the rest of the men makes you just as bad as him.
    You should realize that was a rhetorical statement made to be just as assinine as the initial one. I thought that much was obvious, but I guess it went over your head.

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    Ok

    Well ok, must be the heat. So you are not as bad as he!

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    Thanks.

    I tend to judge people case by case, not as a whole. There are always exceptions to the rule.

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    Make her chase you.

    Maybe the sex was bad and she's looking for a way out.

    You're talking with a real ladies man right hurr. lol

    Don't worry. There's 300 Million more fish in the sea if it doesn't work out.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mariana
    That means you're a dick like the rest of the men.

    What an immature statement. You go boy.
    no man your mad cause you got a fuking vagina runnin down your groin.
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