Urgent !!

[Chemical King]

What would you do in this situation ?

On sunday at 4am my ex rang me n told me that her neighbour who she was previously freinds with had threatened to rape my son and have him away in a box. My son is 4.

My first instinct was to kik her face in, but on reflectin I rang the police who filed a repot n that was it. Now i feel like something should stil be done.

I came up with the idea of mailing everone in her area (newcastle upon tyne) and telling them what I have told you and hope that someone does something.

I dont know what to do, I want to take a bat to her head but dont want to wind up in jail..please help

[Snrf]

gun, car boot, woods, shovel, bag of lime.


job done

[italianplayboy09]

gun, car boot, woods, shovel, bag of lime.


job done

dont forget the dildo, ky jelly and a rope

[Snrf]

hey look, we're in the same place

[Snrf]

dont forget the dildo, ky jelly and a plastic glove

I took that as a given, you don't always keep those handy for when you gotta dispose of those pesky women?

[mavsluva]

First thing I would do is to inform your child to stay away from this woman at all cost and at all times. The second thing that I would do is inform the local police. I know this is a very personal situation, but you don't want to be a member of a premeditated crime. Guilty by association is just as bad as being the actual culprit who committed the crime.

Also, if she lives in an apartment complex, I would tell the property manager IMMEDIATELY.

[Chemical King]

First thing I would do is to inform your child to stay away from this woman at all cost and at all times. The second thing that I would do is inform the local police. I know this is a very personal situation, but you don't want to be a member of a premeditated crime. Guilty by association is just as bad as being the actual culprit who committed the crime.

Also, if she lives in an apartment complex, I would tell the property manager IMMEDIATELY.

this person lives directly accross the stree from my son and his mum. In fact my sons mum used2 be freinds with her. the police have been informed but cant do anthing until she does something.

I went threw the AOL member directory and mailed a dozen or so ppl telin them this like. My next thing is to mail the local council and tel them and i have just emailed my local paper. Im not gona do anything silly cos thatway il wind up in jail,

[boarder034]

Hmmm all those emails? I woulda just killed the bitch...

[Chemical King]

Hmmm all those emails? I woulda just killed the bitch...

That was my first thought, so lucky for her that I live 20 miles away and do not drive.

If I had done something stupid, id of never seen my son for 30yrs cos i would be in jail for premeditated murder. Now I think Im doin things the smart way

[donniebrasco]

whats the woman like, i mean is she some council estate crackhead, with crazy criminal friends.
maybe if you dont mind pissing her off, print out loads of flyers ( with details, photo, address etc )and post them through the surrounding neighbourhood letter boxes. make sure one goes through her letter box. leave them in pubs, librarys, places where parents go, ie toyshops etc.
put them on car windscreens etc.
i think people have a right to know that there is a potential perv in the neighbourhood.

[fenceguy]

I know here in georgia you can go to the GBI website, and can do a search for convicted sex offenders by zip code/ address/ name etc. see if she pops up. if she has a history of sick f*** ing behavior you might get further with the local authorities.

[Chemical King]

whats the woman like, i mean is she some council estate crackhead, with crazy criminal friends.
maybe if you dont mind pissing her off, print out loads of flyers ( with details, photo, address etc )and post them through the surrounding neighbourhood letter boxes. make sure one goes through her letter box. leave them in pubs, librarys, places where parents go, ie toyshops etc.
put them on car windscreens etc.
i think people have a right to know that there is a potential perv in the neighbourhood.

that sounds like a very ver gud idea ,y freind. It just so happens im at college tomoro so maybe il do sum homework. When i drop my son off on sunday il be in my brothers car so i think il be throwin sakloads out the window of car

[manc]

thers no rush..wait a good six months or so..long enough for her to piss a few others off no doubt...then beat the shit out of her or have some one do it.she wont know who its connected to...patience mate

[donniebrasco]

post her mobile number, email address, address and we can all tell her how we feel. lol

[Chemical King]

thers no rush..wait a good six months or so..long enough for her to piss a few others off no doubt...then beat the shit out of her or have some one do it.she wont know who its connected to...patience mate

she already pissed loads of ppl off so im sorted. And i gona get other ppl to do it 4 me. not that i condone violence in anyway of course, cos that wud be wrong wouldnt it fellas/?

[Foskamink]

sorry if i misunderstood, she said her neighbour said that about your son.

who actually said it, i lost? ur x girlfriend or ur x girlfriends neighbour, in that case why kick her face in if somone else said it. thats what im understanding. damn im confused r u?

[italianplayboy09]

sorry if i misunderstood, she said her neighbour said that about your son.

who actually said it, i lost? ur x girlfriend or ur x girlfriends neighbour, in that case why kick her face in if somone else said it. thats what im understanding. damn im confused r u?

hooked on phonics kid

[donniebrasco]

sorry if i misunderstood, she said her neighbour said that about your son.

who actually said it, i lost? ur x girlfriend or ur x girlfriends neighbour, in that case why kick her face in if somone else said it. thats what im understanding. damn im confused r u?

i am now.

[spywizard]

What would you do in this situation ?

On sunday at 4am my ex rang me n told me that her neighbour who she was previously freinds with had threatened to rape my son and have him away in a box. My son is 4.

My first instinct was to kik her face in, but on reflectin I rang the police who filed a repot n that was it. Now i feel like something should stil be done.

I came up with the idea of mailing everone in her area (newcastle upon tyne) and telling them what I have told you and hope that someone does something.

I dont know what to do, I want to take a bat to her head but dont want to wind up in jail..please help

do you own a ski mask?? do you have a friend..?? intemidation is an art form.. you don't have to hurt him.. but i would.. but hey, that's me..

[italianplayboy09]

do you own a ski mask?? do you have a friend..?? intemidation is an art form.. you don't have to hurt him.. but i would.. but hey, that's me..

its a female neighbor that said that about his son

[gixxerboy1]

Just watch what your doing. You are emailing all these people very serious allegations about someone with no proof. Besides your ex's word. Not that i blame you, But you can be sued very easily for this and you will loose. Honestly to the paper and everyone else that doesn't know you or her you probably sound like someone who is mad at the person just trying to get revenge.

[ACE24]

Before you do something drastic, start documenting everything related to your son, your ex, the neighbor. Keep a log of dates, times, conversations, etc. Make sure you keep the local law enforcement informed, I am sure with a threat that was made that you would be able to obtain a temporary restraining order against her for your son. Custody may be an issue here also, think about that.

Or if you are like me, go to the post office, fill out a change of address card for your ex's neighbor and have all her mail sent to box 1 ALaska. Now this is just hypothetical of course!!!!

[goodcents]

gun, car boot, woods, shovel, bag of lime.


job done

Yeap, the soprano way just whack her on the head, then off her when you get the chance, but wait quite awhile so they don't go looking for you first

[boarder034]

500 bucks i know a guy...its taken care of

[Chemical King]

Just watch what your doing. You are emailing all these people very serious allegations about someone with no proof. Besides your ex's word. Not that i blame you, But you can be sued very easily for this and you will loose. Honestly to the paper and everyone else that doesn't know you or her you probably sound like someone who is mad at the person just trying to get revenge.

i know makin allegations is serious but onthem flyers i made i said "possibly" so i think i got my ass covered.lol

[NightTrain]

dude if anyone very made those comments about my kids you would have to call the police on me, cause i would blow her fvcking head off

[Kale]

How, pray tell, does a female rape a male ?

[Snrf]

How, pray tell, does a female rape a male ?

Yeah I did wonder, I think the thread is thats why I suggested he

[Chemical King]

Yeah I did wonder, I think the thread is thats why I suggested he

no , this shit really happened. the fact she sed it is enough, it doesnt matter weather a female can rape a male (child) or not it is the fact she sed it. and if u think this thread is bullshit why the fuk bother2 post in it u idiot

[cj1capp]

chem king go to the police and get an order keeping that person away from your son, in CA all you have to do is go to the police station and you can get an emergency order even before court. Do it!! put her on notice make her aware peopole are watching her. will your ex let your son stay with you on a temp basis so this matter can be fixed. Bro you must take this as a real threat for sons saftey.
women can rape men it no where as common as men raping women but it happens rember even men have a A hole and things can go in or out of it.
she is a sick person and must be treated as so sick and dangerous.



Myths about male rape, the rape of men

By Starman_uk (A.E.S.T.) © 2004

This page was last updated Tuesday, 26 September 2006

There are numerous frequently accepted myths about male rape and in all probability more so than there are about female rape. These myths have the effect of minimizing the gravity of the crime, and the accountability of the perpetrator.

These myths about male rape also have an effect on the way men think about themselves when they have been assaulted, and, sadly, the way those men are treated by many other individuals.

Understanding the facts about male rape can give the male rape victim the strength to counteract their fears and, we hope, will enable more men to ask for the information and counseling support that they so rightly ought to have. Knowing what are the myths and facts about male rape, may also help others understand how to respond to those male rape victims.

Here are a few of the facts about, and some of the most frequent myths about male rape and men who are raped.


Myth: Men can't be sexually assaulted.

Reality: Men can be, and are, sexually assaulted every day. Any man can be sexually assaulted regardless of their size, strength, appearance, occupation, race or sexual orientation. Male rape can happen at home, work, out doors, in your car, in the military, prisons, in locker rooms, rest rooms, public toilets, in fact just about anywhere a rapist thinks they can get away with it, and it can happen to any male.

It should also be noted that it is not unusual for a male to "freeze" during a rape, in part due to shock, and fear of ones life. Remember, the rapist will no doubt have done this before, and hence be prepared for what happens, but few, if any men, have even considered in their mind the possibility of such things happening and are thus totally unprepared.


Myth: Only gay men are sexually assaulted.

Reality: Although gay men are raped slightly more often than heterosexual men this is due more to the fact that they can be the target anti-gay violence, that often includes acts of rape, plus that gay men are at far more risk of date rape attacks from other men.

Heterosexual males can be, and are, also raped in very large numbers. An F.B.I. statistic put the number of males that will be raped as an adult at 3 %, a number most organisations think is very underestimated. Of this 3%, over 40% identify themselves as exclusively heterosexual.

Myth: It is only gay men that sexually assault other men.

Reality: The vast majority of men who sexually assault other men identify themselves as heterosexual. This fact helps to highlight another reality, that is, that sexual assault is usually more about violence, anger, domination and control over another person, than it is about lust or sexual attraction.

Myth: Adult men cannot be sexually assaulted by women.

Reality: Although the majority of perpetrators are male, (97 to 98%), women can, and do, also sexually assault men. If you include emotional blackmail as a way of giving the victim no choice, then the number greatly increases. Also don't think that if a woman rapes you that you have to penetrate her, there are such things as vibrators that she can use on you as well.

Myth: Male rape victims don't suffer as bad a female rape victims, after all they do not risk becoming pregnant.

Reality: All rape victims suffer in many different ways, some responses are gender specific, some are not.

Male male rape frequently involves higher levels of violence, weapons, and is also more likely to involve multiple assailants. Male rape victims are also more at risk of committing suicide as a result of rape.

As for the risk of becoming pregnant, no male rape victims do not run that risk. However anal rape does have a much higher risk of internal tearing and damage, and with that comes a higher risk of possible HIV transmission.

( also see ptsd and rape trauma syndrome )

Myth: Most rapists are strangers.

Reality: Whilst many gang rapes and acts of anti-gay violence are committed by strangers, most rapes, like in women, are committed by people known to the victim. They may be a friend, neighbour, boss or a relative, father, uncle, co-worker, brother or ex partner. They could also be a trades person, or a professional e.g., a doctor, teacher, psychiatrist, police officer or a public servant. One worrying increase is in the amount of rapes during robberies, muggings and house break-in's in an attempt to stop the person reporting the crime.

Myth: Getting an erection or ejaculation during sexual assault means you "really wanted it" or consented to it.

Reality: This is one of the things that can cause male rape survivors a lot of confusion and guilt when they do not know how things work. For a start I can honestly say that getting an erection shows nothing other than your body responds how it is suppose to do. It is a totally normal thing to happen and has nothing to do with desire. Have you never been on a bus, or sat in an office meeting, and it has gone hard all by it's self for no reason ?

Basically, unless you have some medical condition that stops you then you will get an erection when it is manipulated. It is a result of stimulation, and it does not matter if you do not want it to happen or not. There is little you can do to stop it most of the time.

Sadly, some males become confused and think an erection equals arousal equals them wanting it. In reality all it means is that part of the body has nerve endings that respond to touch and that touch can be wanted or not wanted, pleasant or non pleasant. With lubricant you will have even less choice as to how it responds to touch. It is the same as the body will respond to someone tickling you and you will probably laugh, but if it is done at a time or by a person you do not want to tickle you it will still respond.

If you were penetrated, the pressure in the prostate gland (see diagram below) also will cause an erection. Anyone who has ever had a DRE (short for Digital Rectal Exam) of the prostate at their doctors will know that getting an erection often happens during the examination.


Now as far as ejaculation goes, again this is a very normal thing to have happened. In fact, the rapist will very often go out of their way to make sure that you do ejaculate, in order to try to make you more ashamed, (adds to their dominate feeling of power) and also they know it will likely reduce your chances of reporting the crime. First off, it is because it is a normal reaction to stimulation. Second, the pressure on the prostate will, by it's self, release some fluid, making the penis more sensitive to that stimulation. In fact, it is possible for a doctor to obtain a semen sample during a DRE. Pressure on the seminal vesicle will likewise release a lot of fluid, and could resemble ejaculation to some extent, although may feel different.

Seminal Vesicles: Two glands which provides about two-thirds of the fluid which makes up the semen. These are located to the left and right of the prostate. Output of the seminal vesicle mixes with the sperm from the vas deferens and flows through a duct which then passes the fluid through the prostate to the urethra.
One other thing to remember, is that ejaculation against your will, and an orgasm when having a wanted sexual encounter are, two totally different things.

Myth: Rape in Gay couples does not exist.

Reality: Rape in marriage or any relationship, straight or gay , can and does often occur. Through physical, psychological or emotional coercion, some men are forced by their partners, to engage in unwanted sexual acts, including oral or anal sex. A spouse, or partner, boyfriend can be charged with the rape of their partner in many countries now. The law recognizes that a spouse is not the property of their partner, to be used sexually by them. Gay relationships deserve the same recognition.

Myth: Male rape only happens in prisons.

Reality: Rape does happen a lot in prisons, there is no doubt about that. In fact, in the USA, it is said that there are far more male rapes every day in prisons alone than there are rapes of all females in the USA. However, males are raped outside of prison every day of every year, in their homes, cars, at work and just about anywhere. Male rape also happens in the military and armed services as well, collages, universities, and all sorts of places.

[cj1capp]

How, pray tell, does a female rape a male ?

Kale it can happen , as a paramedic i have come across many many rape victims of rape all have benn women but i am trained to treat the mal victim in the same manner. This litle boy would be very easy target who could be hurt very bad or worse.
I know you werent making fun i just want the other bros to understand its possible and it happens.

Male Rape
Overview
Definition
Victims' Response
Male Rape as an Act of Anti-Gay Violence
If You Are a Victim
References
Bibliography
For Additional Information
There were approximately 4,890 rapes of males age 12 and over in the United States in 1994. The rate for rapes of males was .8 per 1,000 persons age 12 or older. (Bureau of Justice Statistics, 1997).
In 1985, the U.S. Department of Justice, Bureau of Justice Statistics reported in The Crime of Rape that there were 123,000 male rapes over a ten-year period. (Bureau of Justice Statistics, 1985).
Overview
Society is becoming increasingly aware of male rape. However, experts believe that current male rape statistics vastly under-represent the actual number of males age 12 and over who are raped each year. Rape crisis counselors estimate that while only one in 50 raped women report the crime to the police, the rates of under-reporting among men are even higher (Brochman, 1991). Until the mid-1980s, most literature discussed this violent crime in the context of women only. The lack of tracking of sexual crimes against men and the lack of research about the effects of male rape are indicative of the attitude held by society at large -- that while male rape occurs, it is not an acceptable topic for discussion.

Historically, the rape of males was more widely recognized in ancient times. Several of the legends in Greek mythology involved a**uctions and sexual assaults of males by other males or gods. The rape of a defeated male enemy was considered the special right of the victorious soldier in some societies and was a signal of the totality of the defeat. There was a widespread belief that a male who was sexually penetrated, even if it was by forced sexual assault, thus "lost his manhood," and could no longer be a warrior or ruler. Gang rape of a male was considered an ultimate form of punishment and, as such, was known to the Romans as punishment for adultery and the Persians and Iranians as punishment for violation of the sanctity of the harem (Donaldson, 1990).

Nicholas Groth, a clinical psychologist and author of Men Who Rape: The Psychology of the Offender, says all sexual assault is an act of aggression, regardless of the gender or age of the victim or the assailant. Neither sexual desire nor sexual deprivation is the primary motivating force behind sexual assault. It is not about sexual gratification, but rather a sexual aggressor using somebody else as a means of expressing their own power and control.

Much has been written about the psychological trauma associated with the rape of female victims. While less research has been conducted about male rape victims, case research suggests that males also commonly experience many of the reactions that females experience. These reactions include: depression, anger, guilt, self-blame, sexual dysfunctions, flashbacks, and suicidal feelings (Isley, 1991). Other problems facing males include an increased sense of vulnerability, damaged self-image and emotional distancing (Mezey & King, 1989). Male rape victims not only have to confront unsympathetic attitudes if they choose to press charges, they also often hear unsupportive statements from their friends, family and acquaintances (Brochman, 1991). People will tend to fault the male victim instead of the rapist. Stephen Donaldson, president of Stop Prisoner Rape (a national education and advocacy group), says that the suppression of knowledge of male rape is so powerful and pervasive that criminals such as burglars and robbers sometimes rape their male victims as a sideline solely to prevent them from going to the police.

There are many reasons that male victims do not come forward and report being raped, but perhaps the biggest reason for many males is the fear of being perceived as homosexual. However, male sexual assault has nothing to do with the sexual orientation of the attacker or the victim, just as a sexual assault does not make the victim survivor gay, bisexual or heterosexual. It is a violent crime that affects heterosexual men as much as gay men. The phrase "homosexual rape," for instance, which is often used by uninformed persons to designate male-male rape, camouflages the fact that the majority of the rapists are not generally homosexual (Donaldson, 1990).

In a well-known study of offenders and victims conducted by Nicholas Groth and Ann Burgess, one-half of the offender population described their consenting sexual encounters to be with women only, while 38 percent had consenting sexual encounters with men and women. Additionally, one-half of the victim population was strictly heterosexual. Among the offenders studied, the gender of the victim did not appear to be of specific significance to half of the offenders. Instead, they appeared to be relatively indiscriminate with regard to their choice of a victim -- that is, their victims included both males and females, as well as both adults and children (Groth & Burgess, 1980). The choice of a victim seemed to be more a matter of accessibility than of sexual orientation, gender or age.

Many people believe that the majority of male rape occurs in prison; however, there is existing research which shatters this myth. A study of incarcerated and non-incarcerated male rape victims in Tennessee concluded that the similarities between these two groups would suggest that the sexual assault of men may not be due to conditions unique to a prison and that all men are potential victims (Lipscomb et al., 1992).

Research indicates that the most common sites for male rape involving post-puberty victims are outdoors in remote areas and in automobiles (the latter usually involving hitchhikers). Boys in their early and mid-teens are more likely to be victimized than older males (studies indicate a median victim age of 17). The form of assault usually involves penetration of the victim anally and/or orally, rather than stimulation of the victim's penis. Gang rape is more common in cases involving male victims than those involving female victims. Also, multiple sexual acts are more likely to be demanded, weapons are more likely to be displayed and used, and physical injury is more likely to occur, with the injuries that do occur being more serious than with injured female rape victims (Porter, 1986).

Definition
Sexual assault and rape include any unwanted sexual acts. The assailant can be a stranger, an acquaintance, a family member, or someone the victim knows well and trusts. Rape and sexual assault are crimes of violence and are used to exert power and control over another person. The legal definitions of rape and sexual assault can vary from state to state (National Center for Victims of Crime, GetHep Series: Sexual Assault Legislation). However, usually a sexual assault occurs when someone touches any part of another person's body in a sexual way, even through their clothes, without that person's consent. Rape of males is any kind of sexual assault that involves forced penetration of the anus or mouth by a penis, finger or any other object. Both rape and sexual assault includes situations when the victim cannot say "no" because he is disabled, unconscious, drunk or high.

In some states, the word "rape" is used only to define a forced act of vaginal sexual intercourse, and an act of forced anal intercourse is termed "sodomy." In some states, the crime of sodomy also includes any oral sexual act. There are some states that now use gender-neutral terms to define acts of forced anal, vaginal or oral intercourse. Also, some states no longer use the terms "rape" and "sodomy," rather all sex crimes are described as sexual assaults or criminal sexual conduct of various degrees depending on the use and amount of force or coercion on the part of the assailant (National Center for Victims of Crime, GetHep Series: Sexual Assault Legislation).

Victims' Response
It is not uncommon for a male rape victim to blame himself for the rape, believing that he in some way gave permission to the rapist (Brochman, 1991). Male rape victims suffer a similar fear that female rape victims face -- that people will believe the myth that they may have enjoyed being raped. Some men may believe they were not raped or that they gave consent because they became sexually aroused, had an erection, or ejaculated during the sexual assault. These are normal, involuntary physiological reactions. It does not mean that the victim wanted to be raped or sexually assaulted, or that the survivor enjoyed the traumatic experience. Sexual arousal does not necessarily mean there was consent.

According to Groth, some assailants may try to get their victim to ejaculate because for the rapist, it symbolizes their complete sexual control over their victim's body. Since ejaculation is not always within conscious control but rather an involuntary physiological reaction, rapists frequently succeed at getting their male victims to ejaculate. As Groth and Burgess have found in their research, this aspect of the attack is extremely stressful and confusing to the victim. In misidentifying ejaculation with orgasm, the victim may be bewildered by his physiological response during the sexual assault and, therefore, may be discouraged from reporting the assault for fear his sexuality may become suspect (Groth & Burgess, 1980).

Another major concern facing male rape victims is society's belief that men should be able to protect themselves and, therefore, it is somehow their fault that they were raped. The experience of a rape may affect gay and heterosexual men differently. Most rape counselors point out that gay men have difficulties in their sexual and emotional relationships with other men and think that the assault occurred because they are gay, whereas straight men often begin to question their sexual identity and are more disturbed by the sexual aspect of the assault than the violence involved (Brochman, 1991).

Male Rape as an Act of Anti-Gay Violence
Unfortunately, incidents of anti-gay violence also include forcible rape, either oral or anal. Attackers frequently use verbal harassment and name-calling during such a sexual assault. Given the context of coercion, however, such technically homosexual acts seem to imply no homosexuality on the part of the offenders. The victim serves, both physically and symbolically, as a "vehicle for the sexual status needs of the offenders in the course of recreational violence" (Harry, 1992, p.115).

If You Are a Victim
Rape and sexual assault include any unwanted sexual acts. Even if you agree to have sex with someone, you have the right to say "no" at any time, and to say "no" to any sexual acts. If you are sexually assaulted or raped, it is never your fault -- you are not responsible for the actions of others.

Richie J. McMullen, author of Male Rape: Breaking the Silence on the Last Taboo, encourages seeking immediate medical attention whether or not the incident is reported to police. Even if you do not seem injured, it is important to get medical attention. Sometimes injuries that seem minor at first can get worse. Survivors can sometimes contract a sexually transmitted disease during the sexual assault, but not suffer immediate symptoms. Even if the symptoms of that disease take weeks or months to appear, it might be easily treated with an early diagnosis. (If you are concerned about HIV exposure, it is important to talk to a counselor about the possibility of exposure and the need for testing. For more information about HIV transmission and testing, contact the Centers for Disease Control National HIV/AIDS Hotline. Check the contact list at the end of this bulletin for the phone number and address information.)

Medical considerations making immediate medical attention imperative include:
Rectal and anal tearing and abrasions which may require attention and put the you at risk for bacterial infections;
Potential HIV exposure; and
Exposure to other sexually transmitted diseases.
If the you plan to report the rape to the police, an immediate medical examination is necessary to collect potential evidence for the investigation and prosecution.

Some of the physical reactions a survivor may experience in response to the trauma of a sexual assault or rape include:

Loss of appetite;
Nausea and/or stomachaches;
Headaches;
Loss of memory and/or concentration; and/or
Changes in sleep patterns.
Some of the psychological and emotional reactions a sexual assault survivor may experience include:
Denial and/or guilt;
Shame or humiliation;
Fear and a feeling of loss of control;
Loss of self-respect;
Flashbacks to the attack;
Anger and anxiety;
Retaliation fantasies (sometimes shocking the survivor with their graphic violence);
Nervous or compulsive behavior;
Depression and mood swings;
Withdrawal from relationships; and
Changes in sexual activity.
Survivors of rape, and often of attempted rape, usually manifest some elements of what has come to be called Rape-Related Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (RR-PTSD), a form of Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) . Apart from a small number of therapists and counselors specializing in sexual assault cases, few psychotherapists are familiar with the symptoms and treatment of RR-PTSD. For this reason, a rape survivor is usually well-advised to consult with a rape crisis center or someone knowledgeable in this area rather than relying on general counseling resources. The same applies to those close to a rape victim, such as a partner, spouse or parent; these persons become secondary victims of the sexual assault and have special issues and concerns that they may need assistance in dealing with effectively.

Local rape crisis centers offer male sexual assault victims direct services or referrals for services, including: counseling, crisis services and support services. Victims may contact their local rape crisis center, no matter how long it has been since the rape occurred. Counselors on staff can either provide support, or help direct the victim to trained professionals who can provide support. Most rape programs are staffed by women; however, some programs have male and female counselors. If you prefer one or the other, make that preference known when you initially contact the program. Whether or not they have male staff on call, almost all rape crisis centers can make referrals to male counselors sensitive to the needs of male sexual assault survivors. In addition, many communities across the country have support groups for victims of anti-gay violence.

Counseling can help you cope with the physical and emotional reactions to the sexual assault or rape, as well as provide you with necessary information about medical and criminal justice system procedures. Seeking counseling is an important way to regain a sense of control over your life after surviving a sexual assault. Contact your local rape crisis program even if services are not expressly advertised for male rape survivors. The number can be found in your local phone book listed under "Community Services Numbers," "Emergency Assistance Numbers," "Survival Numbers" or "Rape."

Sexual assault and rape are serious crimes. As a sexual assault survivor, you have the right to report the crime to the police. This decision is one only you can make. But because authorities are not always sensitive to male sexual assault victims, it is important to have a friend or advocate go with you to report the crime for support and assistance.

References
Brochman, Sue. (July 30, 1991). "Silent Victims: Bringing Male Rape Out of the Closet." The Advocate, 582: 38 - 43.

Bureau of Justice Statistics. (1997). Criminal Victimization in the United States, 1994. Washington, DC: Bureau of Justice Statistics, U.S. Department of Justice.

Bureau of Justice Statistics. (March 1985). The Crime of Rape. Washington, DC: Bureau of Justice Statistics, U.S. Department of Justice.

Donaldson, Donald. (1990). "Rape of Males," in Dynes, Wayne, ed. Encyclopedia of Homosexuality. New York: Garland Publications.

Groth, A. Nicholas and Ann Wolbert Burgess. (1980). "Male Rape: Offenders and Victims." American Journal of Psychiatry, 137(7): 806 - 810.

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[Chemical King]

thats a good post mate.this stuf is getting delt wif tomoro, but obviously i can post detail cos that b daft.n like i sed "i dont condone violence" .erm...ok

[violator1]

you need to watch your son like a hawk. tell your ex the same thing. the flyers sounds good. maybe talk to the neighbors and get some info on this crazy ho. but if it were me, i woulda romped her a$$ into the ground bro. jail or no jail. kids are kids and an ounce of prevention is worth a ton of heartache later. too many kids are hurt and abused these days so if you can put your foot down and park the sh*t, do it. but thats just me. did i type that out loud?

[Booz]

why hasnt your ex beaten the shit outta her???
if she had said that 2 my wife she wodda been in hospital before she cudda finishd the sentence................

[cfiler]

Glad that you have more self control than me, I would have probably done something stupid by now.

Definately keep tabs on this, and try get a restraining order on the women to keep her away from you, your son, and his mom.

Keep logs of everything, times and dates of when ever you leave your house, and when you come home, when your son leaves, ect.

Make sure to take resent pictures of him, and have his prints recorded by Child Find. You can also talk to him about how to avoid this woman, and what to do if she does come near him. If you do not live together, have a piece of clothing that he has worn, which was not washed yet. Keep that in a ziplock freezer bag. A used hair brush is good aswell to keep of his.

Another idea would be to have an escape plan, incase she starts harrasing your ex and him. They should have a bag packed with clothes, toothbrushes, ect. packed and easily accessable. That way, if they need to leave in a hurry, they can.

[cj1capp]

thats a good post mate.this stuf is getting delt wif tomoro, but obviously i can post detail cos that b daft.n like i sed "i dont condone violence" .erm...ok

good , keep your son safe and your self. its hard to be a farther from jail, i know you will do what is best for your son.

[Kale]

Trust me I was not making fun of this. If that women had made that threat to my son her ass would have been on the ground in a heart beat.

Now I fully understand that males can be raped, by other males. But females raping males is another issue all together. Especially a four year old. For her to do anything to him she would either have to to it digitally or with an object. In both cases it would sexual assault and not rape.

Regardless of that she needs to be restrained. The best way as somebody has already pointed out is with a restraining order from the courts.

[cj1capp]

in califorina rape is not just defined by penis and vagina penetration



"against a person's will by means of force, violence, duress, menace, or fear of immediate and unlawful bodily injury on the person or another."
where the victim is unable to resist because of an intoxicating, narcotic, or anesthetic substance that the accused has responsibility for administering.
where the victim is unconscious of the nature of the act and the perpetrator knows it.
where the victim believes, due to the perpetrator's intentional deceptive acts, that the perpetrator is her spouse.
where the perpetrator threatens to retaliate against the victim or any other person, and there is a reasonable possibility the perpetrator will execute the threat -- "threatens to retaliate" means threatens to kidnap, imprison, inflict extreme pain, serious bodily injury, or death.
where the victim is incapable of giving consent, and the perpetrator reasonably should know this.
where the perpetrator threatens to use public authority to imprison, arrest, or deport the victim or another, and the victim reasonably believes the perpetrator is a public official.

[Kale]

Well its different in Australia and I would say the UK as well

[Chemical King]

i dont know if i sed that i dont live with my son.he lives with his mother which is 20 miles away so u can see the position im in.

anyway, the leaflet thing went to plan n shit hit the fan and i aitn physical done anything and that whore rang police bout it but i denied any knowledge.