Marriage?

**dwaynewade** · 08-20-2007, 07:20 PM

Originally Posted by BOOST

This sums it all up...

http://www.nomarriage.com/

awesome i will never forget this site...ever...

**Igifuno** · 08-20-2007, 07:32 PM

my wife and I married young... she was 22 i was 21 and we're going on our
9th anniversary next month. i think we are very luck to still be together considering all the changes we've been through. we've split up and separated on occasion, and have spent many rocky times together but have pulled through each time. like buffgator's parents, my wife and i are lucky - but statistically speaking it's probly smart as hell to wait until you are really , REALLY certain about the commitment. good luck.

**KidGalahad** · 08-20-2007, 07:36 PM

Dude, the only reason to marry is for real estate. Does she (or does her dad) own any?

Seriously. It's not 1950. You already get the sex. You can live together and share expenses. You can even have kids if you feel like it. None of that requires marriage. What's gained by signing a legal contract with a 50% failure rate!?

**gixxerboy1** · 08-20-2007, 08:56 PM

Originally Posted by DSM4Life

I think you are moving WAYYY to fast. Why do some people feel this need to validate their relationships with marriage? Not saying this is the case here but just speaking in general.

I would say if you think you are ready to move on in your relationship first try living together for a year or two. You really don't know someone until you live with them.
Good luck.

I'm not ready to ask her. Could it happen someday. Yes. But i agree i would like to live together first. I did that with my other long term GF's. Honestly i prefer living with my girl. I would do that now if she wanted.

I'm just more shocked because this came out of now where with her. At least to me it seems that way. Maybe she has been thinking it and not saying anything

**KidGalahad** · 08-20-2007, 09:03 PM

They're just wired that way. Nature, nurture, who knows, but every time they meet a dude they're just sizing him up for a tux.

**gixxerboy1** · 08-20-2007, 09:05 PM

Originally Posted by KidGalahad

They're just wired that way. Nature, nurture, who knows, but every time they meet a dude they're just sizing him up for a tux.

She says in Russia they get married earlier. She has a sister who is still there and a couple years old who is married with kids and all her college friends there are married or engaged.

**KidGalahad** · 08-20-2007, 09:15 PM

That's true, you're dealing with cross-cultural issues, too. That's tough. I dated a Muslim chick a few years back--like one genereation removed from cave-dwelling fundamentalist Muslims--totally f'ed up situation. Her family wouldn't even let me in their house. I think in they expected me to trade them a goat for her or something...

**goodcents** · 08-21-2007, 09:56 AM

Originally Posted by gixxerboy1

She says in Russia they get married earlier. She has a sister who is still there and a couple years old who is married with kids and all her college friends there are married or engaged.

Wow, they do start early there

Sorry Gix, couldn't play favorites

**gixxerboy1** · 08-21-2007, 03:17 PM

^^^ Don't worry i wouldn't expect any less.

**gixxerboy1** · 08-21-2007, 03:22 PM

Well we talked last night and she is serious. I told her I'm not ready yet. I don't want to get engaged again and have it break off later again. She understood that.

She basically said she isn't going to say she wants to get engaged, she said that is like her asking me. But she also said a lot of stuff pretty much telling me she wants to. Her last words were not to ask her again about it. If i want to know her answer to ask her seriously when I'm ready.

I'm still pretty shocked about this. Maybe in a few months I have some thinking to do.

**DSM4Life** · 08-21-2007, 08:14 PM

Originally Posted by gixxerboy1

Well we talked last night and she is serious. I told her I'm not ready yet. I don't want to get engaged again and have it break off later again. She understood that.

She basically said she isn't going to say she wants to get engaged, she said that is like her asking me. But she also said a lot of stuff pretty much telling me she wants to. Her last words were not to ask her again about it. If i want to know her answer to ask her seriously when I'm ready.

I'm still pretty shocked about this. Maybe in a few months I have some thinking to do.

Just marry me and you wont have to worry about her naggin you anymore.

**taiboxa** · 08-21-2007, 08:21 PM

Originally Posted by DSM4Life

Just marry me and you wont have to worry about her naggin you anymore.

Talk about playin a jealousy card on her..

**JWP806** · 08-21-2007, 08:57 PM

Originally Posted by BOOST

This sums it all up...

http://www.nomarriage.com/

haha that is some of the best stuff ive ever heard...

**BOOST** · 08-22-2007, 06:25 AM

1955 Boy have times changed..

The Good Wife's Guide
From "Housekeeping Monthly", May 13, 1955.

- Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready, on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about is needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially his favorite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.

- Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.

- Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.

- Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives.

- Gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper, etc. and then run a dustcloth over the tables.

- Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.

- Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair, and if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part. Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet.

- Be happy to see him.

- Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.

- Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first -remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.

- Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner, or other places of entertainment without you. Instead try to understand his world of strain and pressure, and his very real need to be at home and relax.

- Your goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order and tranquillity where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.

- Don't greet him with complaints and problems.

- Don't complain if he's late home for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that day.

- Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.

- Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low soothing and pleasant voice.

- Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.

- A good wife always knows her place.

Today, a marriage is a contract where a man is still supposed to provide for a family financially (90% of women still marry up, even women who make $200K a year), but a woman is a nagging bitch who stops having sex, makes your life miserable and ass-rapes you in divorce court.

**gixxerboy1** · 08-22-2007, 07:37 AM

Originally Posted by DSM4Life

Just marry me and you wont have to worry about her naggin you anymore.

I require a big rock

**dwaynewade** · 08-22-2007, 10:49 AM

Originally Posted by BOOST

1955 Boy have times changed..

The Good Wife's Guide
From "Housekeeping Monthly", May 13, 1955.

- Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready, on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about is needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially his favorite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.

- Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.

- Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.

- Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives.

- Gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper, etc. and then run a dustcloth over the tables.

- Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.

- Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair, and if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part. Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet.

- Be happy to see him.

- Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.

- Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first -remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.

- Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner, or other places of entertainment without you. Instead try to understand his world of strain and pressure, and his very real need to be at home and relax.

- Your goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order and tranquillity where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.

- Don't greet him with complaints and problems.

- Don't complain if he's late home for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that day.

- Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.

- Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low soothing and pleasant voice.

- Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.

- A good wife always knows her place.

Today, a marriage is a contract where a man is still supposed to provide for a family financially (90% of women still marry up, even women who make $200K a year), but a woman is a nagging bitch who stops having sex, makes your life miserable and ass-rapes you in divorce court.

I already printed this out and faxed it to my girls job...=)

**goodcents** · 08-22-2007, 05:18 PM

Originally Posted by gixxerboy1

I require a big cock

ok

**StoneGRMI** · 08-22-2007, 05:24 PM

Originally Posted by KidGalahad

That's true, you're dealing with cross-cultural issues, too. That's tough. I dated a Muslim chick a few years back--like one genereation removed from cave-dwelling fundamentalist Muslims--totally f'ed up situation. Her family wouldn't even let me in their house. I think in they expected me to trade them a goat for her or something...

**StoneGRMI** · 08-22-2007, 05:26 PM

I would marry her if it's the same chick you posted the pic of a few months ago. Really hot!

**gixxerboy1** · 08-22-2007, 07:00 PM

Originally Posted by StoneGRMI

I would marry her if it's the same chick you posted the pic of a few months ago. Really hot!

Yea thats her

**gixxerboy1** · 08-22-2007, 07:01 PM

Originally Posted by goodcents

ok

i was really going to make another post because i knew you were gonig to do that

**DSM4Life** · 08-23-2007, 04:27 AM

Originally Posted by gixxerboy1

i was really going to make another post because i knew you were gonig to do that

He got to it before i could. You solid it goodcents !

**goodcents** · 08-23-2007, 08:52 AM

Originally Posted by gixxerboy1

i was really going to make another post because i knew you were gonig to do that

sorry, that one was just too easy to pass up

I'll bake some extra cookies, it'll be alright. Seriously though it would be tough to pass up a russian girl that will love the shlt out of you

but I would have a hard time staying with one girl the rest of my life. You are at a cross roads age, I went through it a few years ago thinking I'm missing out and wanted kids but then I see the headaches and I'm glad I "got away"

**goodcents** · 08-23-2007, 08:56 AM

Also Gix, think about how close you got to the ex's kids but if you have your own and she does what seems to be standard with chicks and fuks with you it will destroy you

But hey, what are you going to do, give sheep the vote

Hell right now I would probably move in with her.

**gixxerboy1** · 08-23-2007, 09:00 AM

Originally Posted by goodcents

sorry, that one was just too easy to pass up

I'll bake some extra cookies, it'll be alright. Seriously though it would be tough to pass up a russian girl that will love the shlt out of you

but I would have a hard time staying with one girl the rest of my life. You are at a cross roads age, I went through it a few years ago thinking I'm missing out and wanted kids but then I see the headaches and I'm glad I "got away"

choclate chip cookies?

I'm really considering it. Not yet but maybe in a few months. She's a good girl and hot. She is very independent has a lot of determination with going back to school and having a good career. She doesn't give me shit for anything.

Also i figure 50% of 1st marriages end in divorce so why not get the first one out of the way with a hot trophy wife

**gixxerboy1** · 08-23-2007, 09:04 AM

Originally Posted by goodcents

Also Gix, think about how close you got to the ex's kids but if you have your own and she does what seems to be standard with chicks and fuks with you it will destroy you

But hey, what are you going to do, give sheep the vote

Hell right now I would probably move in with her.

Well if we get a divorce i'll have her deported and keep the kids

I was thinking of asking her to live together. I want to move to a new place this fall. But she wants to live in NYC now. With my current job that isn't ideal for me. I am looking for a new job in the city so i guess I'll have to see how that goes. But i think I'm going to bring it up to her this weekend