My gf. The gym. Her birthday. Me being too honest. A disaster. Help?

**Gears** · 08-12-2008, 05:52 PM

Originally Posted by gixxerboy1

She wasnt asking him to actually quit. It was a hypothetical question. Since it wasnt a serious question i would have just told her what she wanted to hear.

Ah, misread. Either way, I probably would just tell her that I didn`t have any intent on quitting. Then it would probably go into an argument about compromise (which i`m poor at =/). Ahh I can see it now.

**football2007** · 08-12-2008, 07:24 PM

Originally Posted by novastepp

don't kiss ass. that's what every single guy she has ever been with would do. she isnt going to want some guy who buckles back to what he knows may work when things get tough. stand a little ground but again, explain your answer. and tell her the truth about how you feel about her. if you love her let her know. just let her know you are diff people and diff things matter to both of you, but the one thing that matters most to both of you is each other.

Agreed.

Also agree with DSM..she sounds young and immature. Thats how my gf's sounded back in HS. My gf now is older than me, and I've seemed to sidestep a lot of these issues. Both partners have to accept and respect things that the other was interested in before the relationship started. Don't try to change the other person...

Before I even asked my gf out, I had a talk with her and told her what she was getting into. Yes, my life does somewhat revolve around my bodybuilding lifestyle...and to try to make sure she fully understood that..and that she wouldnt bitch and complain when things didnt change..

**Narkissos** · 08-12-2008, 07:43 PM

Originally Posted by DSM4Life

She sounds young and immature.

Understatement.

That convo was a waste of air.

Originally Posted by hotpink

Don't be a kiss ass, some girls won't fall for flowers and fake words...sit her down and have a serious one on one and talk to her. Tell her what you really feel and what you really meant. Just be completely honest, but keep it calm. If it works out, great. If not, maybe its not meant to.

Absolutely awesome advice.

**Narkissos** · 08-12-2008, 07:46 PM

Originally Posted by daem

Frankly, she made the mistake of asking a loaded question and I don't think you need to get on your knees and beg. You were being honest and spoke your mind, and she can either get over it or let it ruin her.

Agreed.

Originally Posted by Kale

curbs were made for chics like her.

Agreed x 2.

Sounds like a chick who's accustomed getting her own way in everything to me.

**needmorestrength** · 08-13-2008, 05:40 PM

Are you having sex now?
lol

**dd0316** · 08-14-2008, 11:32 AM

ok so here is what happened

She came over and we talked, i took most of your advice and basically did a mix of some ass kissing some explanations and some lay down the law type stuff.

I told her that of course she is always on my mind and that i truly do care for her. but also that my life in the gym is a big part of who i am and that i dont make time for her, i make time for the gym around her. (that line was a good fix) and i did apologize for snapping at her, it probably wasnt called for etc etc.

as far as the age and maturity thing, yea shes little on the immature side when it comes to stuff like this. she is one of those girls that usually has all the guys chasing after her and coming at her ankles. but i basically explained to her that yea i love her and all but im not going to come running after her every time i feel she is upset and im going to stand for what i believe, not simply agree with her and kiss her ass
although she made it clear to me that apprently ass kissing is good sometimes, so i did a little bit of it....

all in all...i saw her last night, made no attempt at being affectionate, just was myself, had fun, joked around, more in the friend way than the relationship way...whcih seeemed ot work as she was trying to be very "cute" with me, although things are a little wierd still...we havent done much talking in between...anyways

i feel like im back in highschool playing games sometimes though, soon enough the maturity will come i guess.

but for now im off to the gym and if anyone has any other advice for future with this girl
its appreciated

**gst528i** · 08-14-2008, 09:04 PM

Good to hear u got out of the dog house.
Just remember how to stay out of the dog house.
Also in order to give further advise i highly recommend

**nirish_mark20** · 08-15-2008, 11:23 AM

Originally Posted by slamjamnet

ok so here is what happened

She came over and we talked, i took most of your advice and basically did a mix of some ass kissing some explanations and some lay down the law type stuff.

I told her that of course she is always on my mind and that i truly do care for her. but also that my life in the gym is a big part of who i am and that i dont make time for her, i make time for the gym around her. (that line was a good fix) and i did apologize for snapping at her, it probably wasnt called for etc etc.

as far as the age and maturity thing, yea shes little on the immature side when it comes to stuff like this. she is one of those girls that usually has all the guys chasing after her and coming at her ankles. but i basically explained to her that yea i love her and all but im not going to come running after her every time i feel she is upset and im going to stand for what i believe, not simply agree with her and kiss her ass
although she made it clear to me that apprently ass kissing is good sometimes, so i did a little bit of it....

all in all...i saw her last night, made no attempt at being affectionate, just was myself, had fun, joked around, more in the friend way than the relationship way...whcih seeemed ot work as she was trying to be very "cute" with me, although things are a little wierd still...we havent done much talking in between...anyways

i feel like im back in highschool playing games sometimes though, soon enough the maturity will come i guess.

but for now im off to the gym and if anyone has any other advice for future with this girl
its appreciated

yeah we def need pics if im going to be added to that list!!!

good you got it sorted, and keep the way you are!!

**audis4** · 08-15-2008, 01:16 PM

Originally Posted by Kale

curbs were made for chics like her.

wow, I was going to say that exact same thing LOL

**Mazzive_T** · 08-15-2008, 07:27 PM

Originally Posted by Schmidty

That sounds just like my x...

mine too. Miss her like crazy, absolutley devastated, not spoke to her in two months, still in love with her.

But apparently im better off without her.

**gst528i** · 08-15-2008, 10:09 PM

Originally Posted by Mazzive_T

mine too. Miss her like crazy, absolutley devastated, not spoke to her in two months, still in love with her.

But apparently im better off without her.

Got u beat by one month. Haven't spoken to my ex in 3 moths. And yes i think im better off without her too.

**daem** · 08-15-2008, 10:21 PM

Originally Posted by slamjamnet

but for now im off to the gym and if anyone has any other advice for future with this girl
its appreciated

So did you at least have make up sex????!?!?! Or did you have to

**Chitown Raider** · 08-16-2008, 12:28 AM

She's not worth it! With you working out you will be banging way more broads, sounds like she's a little insecure.

**dd0316** · 08-18-2008, 03:59 PM

Originally Posted by Chitown Raider

She's not worth it! With you working out you will be banging way more broads, sounds like she's a little insecure.

hahaha awesome quote!!!!

yea...ive decided that incase she does some googling that i dont really want her picture on this forum....especialy...."COMING at HER ANKLES" wtf is that about
loll

we are on a better path...we talk less..i workout more...and therefore i hear less complaints

the world is jolly