Buying house as couple.

**DSM4Life** · 05-01-2009, 07:38 PM

Originally Posted by jbm

I LOVE IT

It would match our guard dog

**Iron_Pig** · 05-01-2009, 07:39 PM

You offer the other more money

Originally Posted by DSM4Life

When buying a house for the first time with someone as a couple.

If we break up and didn't want house: split 50/50 everything
If we break up and one person wants house:the other person has to "buy out" what the other put into the home.
But what if we both want the house : ??? Then what ?

**jbm** · 05-01-2009, 07:39 PM

**jbm** · 05-01-2009, 07:44 PM

My gift to you!

**stack_it** · 05-01-2009, 08:45 PM

Originally Posted by CptAmericaX

Comon now uncle sam takes great care of me.

I almost added unless your military

**T_Own** · 05-01-2009, 08:58 PM

Originally Posted by jbm

My gift to you!

hey i'll even take a rainbow porsche.

but since i'm young, i don't know much about the quandaries of buying a house with a "partner". but i wish you the best of luck with it, and negatives conversations are a part of any relationship, and if they can't handle it, its a sign its not the right one. and this is coming from someone who just had one literally minutes before posting this. not as serious, but the same idea.

anyway, i would talk it over, MAYBE get something in writing, but thats always iffy if he takes it to court, but still helps. kinda like a prenup.

**gixxerboy1** · 05-01-2009, 10:55 PM

i agree i would see a lawyer and get your agreement in writing.

Do you guys just want to live together again or be married and own a home together? I was going to say buy the house yourself and have him be your roommate.

also as someone else mentioned. you could offer more then the 50% if you both wanted the house.

good luck buddy

**fit4ever** · 05-02-2009, 12:44 AM

**Tock** · 05-02-2009, 09:42 PM

Two of my breakups happened when we went house shopping. They probably would have broken up anyway, but the process of the give-and-take brought out the worst in my relationships.

If I was going to do it again, I'd get a duplex. One side for each of us. Territory for each to lord over, and living close enough for a sense of intimacy.
Or, I'd have one of us buy the property. The other would invest an equal amount in stocks & bonds, and pay half the utilities and about 25% of the monthly mortgage as a rental fee. If an unhappy end to the partnership arises, then both can go their seperate ways without having to fight over title to the property. If the partnership endures for 30 years and the investments (both real estate and stocks) rise in value, then both can continue to enjoy each other's company in peace and prosperity.

That's what I'd do, I guess. A lot would depend on what my sweetie would be comfortable with . . .

**Cam09** · 05-02-2009, 10:05 PM

Originally Posted by Chode Logan

Since you're gay, whoever takes the dong gets the house by default, kind of like how it works if you're straight.

LMAO seriously

**Brown Ninja** · 05-02-2009, 11:06 PM

what it's she's a tranny?

**KatsMeow** · 05-02-2009, 11:17 PM

DSM is taking the plunge...awwww

**DSM4Life** · 05-03-2009, 08:26 AM

Originally Posted by KatsMeow

DSM is taking the plunge...awwww

Yup and i have the jitters !

**Gappa** · 05-03-2009, 10:53 PM

wait I have a ?. and don't take this the wrong way either. if 2 gay man get married is there a husband and wife or are they both husbands? been dying to ask someone that.

**Gappa** · 05-03-2009, 11:05 PM

oh yeah since you're young and if you have the credit just buy it yourself. I am sooooo glad I didn't put my ex on the title when I bought my 1st house. That b!tch disappeared. And I walked away with almost 100grand from the profits and she didn't get s#it.(i bought it b4 we got hitched)
my 2nd marriage was much different but i am a little older and things are different. Just be ABSOLUTELY sure what you are getting into.

**eatrainrest** · 05-03-2009, 11:06 PM

paint the house purple

**DSM4Life** · 05-04-2009, 04:49 AM

Originally Posted by Gappa

wait I have a ?. and don't take this the wrong way either. if 2 gay man get married is there a husband and wife or are they both husbands? been dying to ask someone that.

husband and husband .

And when we have children fathers day is like Christmas !

**Misery13** · 05-04-2009, 05:03 AM

don't do it...

**jbm** · 05-04-2009, 05:09 AM

Originally Posted by Misery13

don't do it...

Just Do It!
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NIKE!

**Matt** · 05-04-2009, 05:26 AM

Will you have a house warming party???

**jbm** · 05-04-2009, 05:27 AM

Originally Posted by MAD MATT

Will you have a house warming party???

REPOST 6,000 times!

**Gappa** · 05-04-2009, 06:42 AM

how can you have children? adoption?

**Mooseman33** · 05-04-2009, 10:53 AM

Originally Posted by Gappa

how can you have children? adoption?

either that or kidnapping.....what else are the options...

**Kratos** · 05-04-2009, 11:05 AM

if you can't agree who gets it, sell it and split the money
you don't want to live in your ex-gay house of memories anyway, move on and start over

**Gappa** · 05-04-2009, 11:07 AM

ask Micheal Jackson he's a pro at obtaining random children.

**Kratos** · 05-04-2009, 11:09 AM

Originally Posted by jbm

My gift to you!

dman a slant nose
give it to me

**Pocketbattleship2B** · 05-04-2009, 02:38 PM

Originally Posted by mooseman33

either that or kidnapping.....what else are the options...

Emm are you forgeting the stork?

Thats where most babys come from, right?

**Gappa** · 05-04-2009, 03:12 PM

cmon you all never heard of a bung hole baby?

**DSM4Life** · 05-04-2009, 04:50 PM

Originally Posted by MAD MATT

Will you have a house warming party???

Hell yeah, you wanna come ?

**Gappa** · 05-04-2009, 07:38 PM

I wanna come! My gay guy friends are the most fun to hang out with. I used to dance professionally at a gay club in Wash. D.C. many years ago and the afterhours parties were insane. Free drugs from every direction..lol.. I am straight BTW.. I danced for female entertainment in VA Beach but they didn't tip for shit..lol

**WARMachine** · 05-04-2009, 07:41 PM

Originally Posted by Gappa

I wanna come! My gay guy friends are the most fun to hang out with. I used to dance professionally at a gay club in Wash. D.C. many years ago and the afterhours parties were insane. Free drugs from every direction..lol.. I am straight BTW.. I danced for female entertainment in VA Beach but they didn't tip for shit..lol

BOLD

**DSM4Life** · 05-04-2009, 07:43 PM

Originally Posted by WARMachine

BOLD

Lots of straight guys dance at gay clubs.

Originally Posted by Gappa

I wanna come! My gay guy friends are the most fun to hang out with. I used to dance professionally at a gay club in Wash. D.C. many years ago and the afterhours parties were insane. Free drugs from every direction..lol.. I am straight BTW.. I danced for female entertainment in VA Beach but they didn't tip for shit..lol

Come on downnnnnnnnnnnn. Not on me but just down

**Gappa** · 05-04-2009, 09:16 PM

$1000 a night.... Bold...yea maybe.... It was difficult for me to get over all the dudes gawking and hitting on me but after I did it once it didn't bother me. It was my gay friends that first got me to do it. They kept tellin me I was wasting my time entertaining females, I didn't think so, I didn't make too much cash but sure got alot of twat..lol
You are right DSM and it wasn't full nudity DC dosent allow it.(unless it's a private club) I would not have gone full nude.... However there were a few bachelorette parties in VA beach that got WAYYY out of hand..lol
This was after my 1st wife took off.. I really didn't give a fvck about anything.. I didn't need the cash as my house profits were quite large..
enough bout me... here I am in the same boat as you DSM defending my honor.
Man I tell you what if you are scared or creeped out by gay people you are not truly a man yourself. If you are not completely comfortable with your own sexual preferences enough to see that there are other cool people out there I call you a straight up Pvssy!
BTW I am married again with 2 wonderful kids now...

**Gappa** · 05-04-2009, 10:30 PM

r u gonna buy the house DSM?? If so could you afford it by yourself if anything happened?

**jbm** · 05-05-2009, 03:25 AM

**jbm** · 05-05-2009, 03:41 AM

**DSM4Life** · 05-05-2009, 04:56 AM

Originally Posted by Gappa

r u gonna buy the house DSM?? If so could you afford it by yourself if anything happened?

We still have to start looking. BTW you want to sell one of them kids ? How old are they ? the older they are the less money you get

**PittBoy** · 05-05-2009, 05:08 AM

Some helpful advice:

Look at foreclosed properties....banks have way to much supply right now and you can get hella deals.

When you get a realtor they are representing the seller unless you specifically ask them to be your agent. When they represent the seller they are looking out for the seller's best interest and not yours.

Hire an appraiser to do a low cost appraisal before you even consider making an offer. May cost you a few hundred but it could save you in the long run.

If you need financing options I have a good friend of mine that owns his own mortgage company, he's not to shady and also does all my mortgage work.

If you can get the place solely in your name that would eliminate your problem on what to do if you split. Remember....if you do a 50/50 split and one of you doesn't have cash that means the other still has to be able to refinance on his own accord to pay the other. If either of you can't do that......

Good luck and if you have any questions you can always PM

**Gappa** · 05-05-2009, 09:02 AM

damn DSM you would have to fight my wife to the death for one of my kids..lol
I think you might have to take one for the team and fvuck a chick one time.
You know it was funny, I was talkin to one of my gay friends one time and I asked him "Have you ever tried having sex with a woman?" He said, yeah you stick it in and just do it but it wasn't no fun..
It's quite difficult to adopt too. One of my pastors adopted a child from Russia, he got the little girl fairly quick but it cost him $60k