GF cheated while im on...should I stop or maybe take anti -e's

[spooledup]

my brother in law cheated on my sister 10 years ago because she didn't have a sex drive after having kids. she forgave him and got hormone shots to improve her drive. seems to have worked for them

[reignman1]

In my heart I do still love her and want to be with her its more of a... Can I forgive and forget? Is this just a preview of her personality, like whenever shit hits the fan she won't be there

[bmit]

bro w/o knowing everything about your relationship and from what you told me it doesn't sound like she is a "cheater". But if you do enough ****ed up shit to a girl and make her feel unwanted enough she is going to find someone to make her feel wanted. That is just human nature, bro, and doesn't make her a bad person.

At the same don't beat yourself up. Nobody "made" her do anything. ****ing forget about the other dude. You are probably far better than him and she just used him to feel good about herself and get some affection and validation.

You two need to have a real heart to heart talk. You both will need to be all-in bc it is going to be rough for awhile but you will come out stronger. Is she all-in? Are you?

[Lightsout2184]

i mean the real question is can u let it go. if u can let it go fix ur relationship and make things right then go for it. her telling u was a giant step she took. if u truely love her and want to make a family with her and ur daughter then u should be able to get pass this. just explain to her she is gonna have to help by being understanding and working to help u gain ur trust back

[Kristofer68ss]

keep doing the cycle, man up.......

cash in on a free cheat...eye for an eye.

if you hold onto grudges, move on, your not the type to forgive and forget.

good luck

[alpmaster]

The hardest part of growing up is realizing that you can fall in love with many different people, it's just about being compatible.

The feelings you have, or had, for this chick are re-creatable. I bet this is going in one ear and out the other at this moment, and I was the same way when I was in your shoes, but you'll see buddy, and then it will all be easy.

When I was in boot camp, we were all getting "dear john" letters, wives and girlfriends leaving and cheating on their husbands and boyfriends while they fought for THEIR country. And it's like our drill sergeants told us: "There's nothing to cry about. Now they're someone else's problem". A cheater will always cheat again, let some other poor sap deal with that shit, not you.

Listen, focus on loving and raising your daughter as the best father you can be. You'll find someone else that you will fall head over heals in love with, and you'll be back on track again. Take the pain and realize that it is making you a better person, get up, and move on.

[warchild]

In my heart I do still love her and want to be with her its more of a... Can I forgive and forget? Is this just a preview of her personality, like whenever shit hits the fan she won't be there

you got to learn to forgive but never forget. we can all sit here and tell you to leave her, but we don't know you or her. i had something similar go on just like all the guys here have, and I have forgiving but ill never forget, and now this girl and I are friends. I strongly know I could never be with her or sleep with her. Hurts that it happens but move on friend....

[bjpennnn]

honestly get over this bitch ha, if that was my babys momma i would slit her throat.

[bjpennnn]

oj style

[Charger527]

You just got to be alpha, what does the alpha lion do when another lion walks on his in on his turf, he f**ks that c**t up. And he also f**ks that b***h off. Thats instict. You still be a good father, but there is no point trying to save it now because it is never going to work.


Stay on cycle do every thing as you would of done before, dont let sh*t get to you. Be Alpha

[c-Z]

With a child she never should have put herself or you in a situation like that... If she truly loved you she would not have gone to another guys place let alone had sex with him even if it is a few mins then feeling bad... Which i think is just trying to make it like she felt bad.... Take some time bro... its harder with a kid. Especially if you care as much about your child as much as you say you do.... Its not like u can walk away..... But this is coming from people who don't know you or her... Do you truly think she felt sorry for her actions...... She willingly hooked up with another guy knowing you care about her as well as you have a daughter together... that should mean something right there......

Just take time to figure out what you want.... Don't fall into her bullshit.... Don't let her tell you lies and crap to make you come around faster.... Take as much time as you need to figure out what you want.

[Tigershark]

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[reignman1]

Its tough because I loved her because she was that sweet librarian type, who had sex with only the 3 boyfriends she had before me and it took me awile to smash the first time so I know she was a good girl, but - feel she gave it up so easily to this dude. Its like she was a "good girl" for 27 yrs but a slut for a month

[AllPumpedUp]

Thats rough bro! Especially since you have accused her and she has been lying about it! But it is tough! Love does not just go away because people tell you u should dump her

[reignman1]

Were leaving in 2 weeks for disney with both are parents for my daughters birthday

[408gt91]

OK...... here are my 2cents.....

#1 - stay on cycle.... or at the very least..... drop to trt dosage but DONT COME OFF COMEPLETELY! LOL Get off cycle and take your clomid..... a week or 2 into the clomid come back and tells us how you feel...... haha

#2 - This situation just sucks..... i've been there..... alot of us have. Here's what i would do..... take it w/ a grain of salt cuz im a bit of an *sshole - Tell her your over it...... don't let her see you cry...... then go and screw all the women you can. In the meantime..... get real close to her and let her think it's all good. Then let her "catch" you or if the satisfaction of just knowing your screwin her behind her back makes you happy..... thats fine too. DON'T GET MARRIED AND DO THIS! Infact..... DONT GET MARRIED TO THIS BROAD.....

#3 - regarding immortals comment..... if a girl threw herself at me like that.... i'd hit it LOL. Did i mention i was also a big hipocrit? Kind of a walking oxymoron...... you see..... the way i see things - if a guy ever did that to me, i'd drop her like a bad habbit and i'd kick his ass just because it would make me feel better. If i did itto another guy..... well..... thats just perfectly fine

love me/hate me - i know what i am LOL

~Haz~

+1 We all cheat. I ****ed a 40 year olds wife last week if it makes you feel better. Point being if he came at me, i was wrong and new it and did it anyway cause i'm controlled by my dick. But, she should have never started it with me. It goes both ways man. Her and i are both wrong. Its tough to really tell you what to do. Its really up to you and what you want. If you keep her she's gotta get a different job and you gotta tighten up her leash.

[alpmaster]

Its tough because I loved her because she was that sweet librarian type, who had sex with only the 3 boyfriends she had before me and it took me awile to smash the first time so I know she was a good girl, but - feel she gave it up so easily to this dude. Its like she was a "good girl" for 27 yrs but a slut for a month

You have been together for 5 years and have a 3 year old daughter. What she did is inexcusable. She has jeopardized the happiness of you and your daughter, that's ****ed up as hell, and definitely not 'librarian type'.

You're not going to forget this, and you're not going to ever trust her again, and yes as hard as it is to accept, she will cheat again given the right circumstances and environment. Focus on being the best father possible for your daughter, and forget this bitch. You're at home taking care of your daughter, or at work making money for your family, while she's crying to some other f@g and letting him feel up on her?

Get your head up, the only girl for you in this world is your daughter. You will find someone else to be a companion down the road. Everything happens for a reason.

[history in the makin]

bash the guy man if my misses did that he an she would be lucky to still be breathing

[hankdiesel]

very sorry to hear about your situation, I'd stay on my cycle and let time heal the wounds. Unfortunately I believe once a cheater always a cheater. You'll never trust her again......at least fully. This is why I don't cheat on my wife.

[lovbyts]

Look both the guy and girl are at fault, the dude is 40 and with age he should know a little bit better than to take advantage of that situation. Whatever you say and however you look at it, he took advantage of it.

You know how many times I had girls throw themselves at me because they got in a fight with their boyfriend or whatever?

And you know what I did, each and everytime? I sent them out on their ass.

Why? Because I got morals maybe thats where I am different, I don't give a rats ass about her boyfriend or respect him, I just know that I am not that type of guy. So I tell them "alright well leave and come back tomm, if you still feel the same way than we will see what happens". But when they come to me in the heat of the moment, I am not going to jump on that, thats just not me.

Both the guy and girl are at fault, and the girl had a kid which the guy should have known better it wasn't some 22 year old college girl who got into a fight with her boyfriend. The dude should know have better, like how good do you feel after you banged some girl who was in an emotionally fragile state? I mean I know I wouldnt feel good about it, so thats why morally I draw the line there.

I also draw the line at drunk girls who hit on me when I am compeltely sober, bu tthats a story for a different day my friend

Your right, thank GOD I have no morals

OK to be 100% honest I have also turned girls away who where drunk and also in the heat of the moment after they where in a fight but that was LONG time ago. I still regret those missed opportunities...I'm older and wiser now and would hit it most any time. Yes there are still SOME opportunities I might pass up but I still say it's her fault, not his. If it wasn't him it would be someone else.

[lovbyts]

BTW, you woman WILL try to turn this around to be your fault or partially your fault. She will also try to say none of these guys know you or know her so how can they give you advise... Because statistically a LOT of these guys have been through it or know someone who has and 99% of the time the results are the same.

[johnnybigguns]

screw that that chick would be long gone
You fight and she goes to another guys house just to talk my ass she went there for a reason.
when a chick is upset they will get on teh phone with there girlfriends not go to a guys house.

[alpmaster]

when a chick is upset they will get on teh phone with there girlfriends not go to a guys house.

Ding ding ding!

[The Deuce]

That sucks Man... WOW... definitely THE WORST THING THAT COULD EVER HAPPEN !!!

I COULDNT EVEN IMAGINE IF MY WIFE CHEATED ON ME...


THE SAYING HOLDS TRUE... "GUNS DONT KILL PEOPLE, PEOPLE DON'T KILL PEOPLE... HUSBANDS WHO COME HOME EARLY... DO!!"


DON'T CHANGE YOUR CYCLE... KEEP GOING.. GET RIGHT JACKED AND ****** AND PERFECT LOOKING AND GO GET A SCREAMING HOTT HOTTIE AND MAKE HER CRY HERSELF TO SLEEP EVERY NIGHT REGRETTING HER MISTAKE !!!

[lovbyts]

screw that that chick would be long gone
You fight and she goes to another guys house just to talk my ass she went there for a reason.
when a chick is upset they will get on teh phone with there girlfriends not go to a guys house.

That's what I said, besides a bunch of other stuff...Agreed.

[spywizard]

Go and ****ing kick that guys motha****ing ass and make sure he getes an ass kicking before you leave. **** battery charges, that dude knows better at 40 years old.

Alright I need to calm down lol....

What the ****, first of all she is lying when she said she only had sex with her for a couple of minutes you dont go from kissing to sex and say "It just happend" thats like a whole different ballgame.

Second who the hell keeps text messages from 6 months ago?

why?? he didn't have a commitment with the poster.. the guy was just opening up his home in support of a woman that was obviously distressed and was looking for comfort in another person other than her husband..

she did.. she was the one that crossed the line and is justifying it in her mind so that she's not the slut that she is..

[johnnybigguns]

That's what I said, besides a bunch of other stuff...Agreed.

LOL I didn't really read any replies just the original post.


More like she purposely wne to fcuk him and then after tried to tone it down when she told you to try to make it not sound so bad.
Guaranteed shes fcuked him more then that one time. If she'll open her legs hat easy once you can guarantee she has done it alot more times then that. And by staying with her just shows you forgive her and it was okay.

[lebronjames]

I would personally make OJ Simpson look like a P_SSY in this situation..............have some respect for yourself.

[johnnybigguns]

my brother in law cheated on my sister 10 years ago because she didn't have a sex drive after having kids. she forgave him and got hormone shots to improve her drive. seems to have worked for them

thats some fcuking bullshit right there.
If your gunna cheat just leave the person and move on.
He could of talked to her about it and she could have got hormones and just jerked it until things were better

[NauticTL]

It's hard to leave when you have kids with the one you love. Thing is though dude, if you just forgive and forget, she'll eventually end up thinking she can get away with it in the future, and next will do anything to keep it from you. Especially if she's a nympho. 90% of the time it just gets worse and worse if you stay man.

Stay on cycle and show you're strong and that you have pride in yourself. Things happen for a reason, and even though you may not realize it right now this could be a sign that maybe she's not the one for you. You also need to realize this same situation happens to millions of people. You're not the only one. Sometimes it's good for you to be single. BE STRONG MENTALLY and you will get threw this. Best of luck bro.

[johnnybigguns]

Don't think you need to stay together for the kids.
You can still be a good parent as long as you are there for your kids when they need you.

[kas3379]

regardless of whether or not u and her make up, that doesn't mean u cant relieve some stress by dishing out a good ass-whoopin... ;-D

[rogue01]

This same shit happened to me...only without the kid. I tried to work it out and trust her again but couldn't get over it. I would always feel like a detective, watching her every move, phone calls, etc. It was ruling my life and I decided I couldn't live like that any more. If you are a better man than me, you might be able to forgive...but I just couldn't let it go.

Just know you are not alone brother. We all were able to move on or work it out...the pain will go away eventually.

[Dave-D]

I hate to chime in here so late, but i really feel for your situation. There is some good advice on here. I also would leave despite anything she says going forward. Things will never be the same and the relationship will be tainted with doubt form here on. I once made the mistake of forgiving a betrayal like this and it was one of the worst things I ever did, the break up in the end was harder later on.

Most important is the simple fact that you deserve better. You deserve a girl that would never betray you.

Be strong bro... I am sure this is not easy.

[abstrack]

I don't believe that for one minute!! And just because he's older don't lay it all on him....she willingly opened her legs Bro....get real here...she had sex with him and is now minimizing it to get over on you....RED FLAG!!!...More cheating to come...once a cheater always a cheater....IMO stay ON and get big....if you really don't know what to do...pray about it...you'll get the answer you need.

I agree. It's not she t****** and fell on his dick, for a few minutes. The guy was being a guy. She had no business going over there. Doesnt she have any girl friends, sisters, or a mother?

She was looking for it to be honest!

[doctorclaus]

I personally would just cheat on her and not let her know, it will make u feel so much better about the situation and u will keep her.
hell you wont even bring up the cheating thing anymore bc u will feel guilty..... so there you go end of story everyone is happy... and as far as the 40 yr guy find his gf and **** her brains out.

[jd111]

in so far as I can tell, she kept this from you for 6 FVCKING MONTHS! And only told you as much as she did because she thought you had her trapped in her lie with your tower dealy, and prolly thought you knew more than you were letting on. That is some sheisty bullsh1t my friend. Bitch only told you she was fvckin around on you when she thought she was caught, and threw in the whole "I felt so bad" because you probably provide a good deal of economic stability for her. Fvck that bitch, my babys mom did that to me Id kill her and the guy, and she fvcking knows it. Not the smartest rout of action, considering you got a 3 year old daughter to look after, however there is no excuse for her to do that to you. NONE WHATSOEVER. She can give you the whole "You dont pay attention" spiel, but in the end if thats how she felt and wanted to fvck other guys, she should have at least had the fvcking decency to break up with you. That wouldnt have been much fun either, but it would have been better than this sh1t shes left you with. It is, however, a lot easier for me to speak on the subject from an objective point of view seeing as how Im not currently in the situation, and I dont know every detail to your relationship. But I feel for you man. Try to keep a level head, keep your ass outta jail, if you gotta kill the motherfvcker be careful, your daughter isnt gonna be gettin too much help from daddy if hes up in the pen. Stay strong man!
jd111

[Ernst]

Sorry bro. She's a liar and a cheat. Run for the hills, but first get a DNA test on the kid and make sure it's yours. What else has she kept from you?

RUN!

[bjpennnn]

not to be a downer but also think about this what if this guy had a std or somethign then she slept with you are you ****ign serious how incosiderate can a person be. and if she did use protection then it was premeditated and your ****en over her.

[johnnybigguns]

Its a co-worker your screwed. The work place causes so much cheating to happen its crazy