GF cheated while im on...should I stop or maybe take anti -e's

**reignman1** · 06-08-2009, 03:24 PM

basically just found out the mother of my child and gf of 5 years had sex with a cooworker 1 night after work about 6 months ago and its tearing me apart inside, my mind is spinning and just feel like my life is over. We have been looking at wedding places and I bought her ring last month and was waiting for the right time, and we got into an arguement about the guy, cause I found txt messages from him (6 months ago) and basically whenever we would get into a fight I would bring it up asking if she did anything which she always denied. Well, finally last night she just broke down and told me the truth, saying that she went to his house to talk cause we got into an arguement he was just listening to her crying and rubbing her back and she said he started kissing her and she said no at first but then just went along until he actually started having sex for a couple minutes and she got upset, he stopped and apoligized and she said she left. I just want to wring his ****in neck cause me and her are both 27 and this dude is 40 and just completely took advantage of the situation telling her "he's probably cheating on you" and stuff like that.

Anyway thats my rant and im on trt and I added additional test e so im totaling about 400mg week plus 70mg tren a every 36hrs and I was hoping to somehow get over this whole thing because I do love her and we have a kid together and were trying to get pregnant now plus get married.

Should I go back to original 200m trt dose, start taking arimidex or nolva, or clomid?

**chuckt12345** · 06-08-2009, 03:27 PM

that suks,, really its the kid thing for me that the problem because personally id drop her like a hot potato but thats just me. I mean how are you gonna trust her now if you get married. Good lluck and this prb needs to go to the lounge. i dont know what to tell you about your cycle but id keep goin at it

**lovbyts** · 06-08-2009, 03:29 PM

Keep up the cycle or start your PCT.

Keep the ring or take it back. It's not the guys fault and IF you believe they only had sex for a couple minutes.

She may feel guilty about it but time to move on. Sorry a kid is involved but unless you can find a way to 100% trust her again I wouldnt bother.
Dont tear yourself up over it even though it's HUGE right now. Dont let it turn into your fault and she will try. EVERYONE has arguments, it's not reason to cheat and that's why girls should NOT have guys friends like that. Where where/are her girl friends she chould have talked to? Sorry but if she went to a guys place she wanted the attention. She may be trying to convince herself it's not what she wanted but it is or she would not have gone there.

Life sucks sometimes.

**Immortal Soldier** · 06-08-2009, 03:36 PM

Go and ****ing kick that guys motha****ing ass and make sure he getes an ass kicking before you leave. **** battery charges, that dude knows better at 40 years old.

Alright I need to calm down lol....

What the ****, first of all she is lying when she said she only had sex with her for a couple of minutes you dont go from kissing to sex and say "It just happend" thats like a whole different ballgame.

Second who the hell keeps text messages from 6 months ago?

**inky-e** · 06-08-2009, 03:41 PM

Originally Posted by reignman1

basically just found out the mother of my child and gf of 5 years had sex with a cooworker 1 night after work about 6 months ago and its tearing me apart inside, my mind is spinning and just feel like my life is over. We have been looking at wedding places and I bought her ring last month and was waiting for the right time, and we got into an arguement about the guy, cause I found txt messages from him (6 months ago) and basically whenever we would get into a fight I would bring it up asking if she did anything which she always denied. Well, finally last night she just broke down and told me the truth, saying that she went to his house to talk cause we got into an arguement he was just listening to her crying and rubbing her back and she said he started kissing her and she said no at first but then just went along until he actually started having sex for a couple minutes and she got upset, he stopped and apoligized and she said she left. I just want to wring his ****in neck cause me and her are both 27 and this dude is 40 and just completely took advantage of the situation telling her "he's probably cheating on you" and stuff like that.

I don't believe that for one minute!! And just because he's older don't lay it all on him....she willingly opened her legs Bro....get real here...she had sex with him and is now minimizing it to get over on you....RED FLAG!!!...More cheating to come...once a cheater always a cheater....
Anyway thats my rant and im on trt and I added additional test e so im totaling about 400mg week plus 70mg tren a every 36hrs and I was hoping to somehow get over this whole thing because I do love her and we have a kid together and were trying to get pregnant now plus get married.

Should I go back to original 200m trt dose, start taking arimidex or nolva, or clomid?

I don't believe that for one minute!! And just because he's older don't lay it all on him....she willingly opened her legs Bro....get real here...she had sex with him and is now minimizing it to get over on you....RED FLAG!!!...More cheating to come...once a cheater always a cheater....IMO stay ON and get big....if you really don't know what to do...pray about it...you'll get the answer you need.

**lovbyts** · 06-08-2009, 03:44 PM

Originally Posted by Immortal Soldier

Go and ****ing kick that guys motha****ing ass and make sure he getes an ass kicking before you leave. **** battery charges, that dude knows better at 40 years old.

Alright I need to calm down lol....

What the ****, first of all she is lying when she said she only had sex with her for a couple of minutes you dont go from kissing to sex and say "It just happend" thats like a whole different ballgame.

Second who the hell keeps text messages from 6 months ago?

Why, the guy did not cheat, the girl did. Why do guys take this stance? It's up to the girl. She went to him, he was not stalking her or raped her. Who doesnt take advantage of a situation? We buy drinks, talk to girls, try to show sympathy and act like we care just to get laid every day. LOL

But really, STOP blaming the guy all the time. I'm in my 40s, I know better than what??? I want to get laid as much as any 20 yr old. LOL If a girl is married it's different but if she's dating someone and comes to me and is spooning all over me and wants some physical attention, OK.

Every girl out there is someones ex.

**stpete** · 06-08-2009, 03:44 PM

Sorry to hear that man but she must go. She can never be trusted again.

keep the dosages the same and go let out some frustration in the gym.

**RANA** · 06-08-2009, 03:44 PM

So sorry, It must be difficult to focus but you have to ask yourself can you ever trust her again?

**chuckt12345** · 06-08-2009, 03:45 PM

I don't believe that for one minute!! And just because he's older don't lay it all on him....she willingly opened her legs Bro....get real here...she had sex with him and is now minimizing it to get over on you....RED FLAG!!!...More cheating to come...once a cheater always a cheater....IMO stay ON and get big....if you really don't know what to do...pray about it...you'll get the answer you need.

Roger that,, shite like this makes me nervous about bein in relationships. If it wasnt for havin a family and all that dyin alone shite i thnk id stay single the rest of my life.

**inky-e** · 06-08-2009, 03:46 PM

[QUOTE=lovbyts;4680590]Why, the guy did not cheat, the girl did. Why do guys take this stance? It's up to the girl. She went to him, he was not stalking her or raped her. Who doesnt take advantage of a situation? We buy drinks, talk to girls, try to show sympathy and act like we care just to get laid every day. LOL

But really, STOP blaming the guy all the time. I'm in my 40s, I know better than what??? I want to get laid as much as any 20 yr old. LOL If a girl is married it's different but if she's dating someone and comes to me and is spooning all over me and wants some physical attention, OK.

Every girl out there is someones ex.[/QUOTE]

LOL Even a nun is Jesus' ex!! hahahaha

**Matt** · 06-08-2009, 03:46 PM

Originally Posted by inky-e

I don't believe that for one minute!! And just because he's older don't lay it all on him....she willingly opened her legs Bro....get real here...she had sex with him and is now minimizing it to get over on you....RED FLAG!!!...More cheating to come...once a cheater always a cheater....IMO stay ON and get big....if you really don't know what to do...pray about it...you'll get the answer you need.

X2, no need to pray though....

**c-Z** · 06-08-2009, 03:50 PM

Originally Posted by inky-e

I don't believe that for one minute!! And just because he's older don't lay it all on him....she willingly opened her legs Bro....get real here...she had sex with him and is now minimizing it to get over on you....RED FLAG!!!...More cheating to come...once a cheater always a cheater....IMO stay ON and get big....if you really don't know what to do...pray about it...you'll get the answer you need.

AMEN. F*** that dude... love sucks..... personally.... The gym will keep your mind straight. it's a good stress relief.. Just try to walk in clear headed..... Don't let her get to you..... Like he said she opened her legs willingly... Just don't be stupid bro. The "once a cheater always a cheater" saying is true to the fullest..... Don't be with someone you can't trust. trust is extremely important. and key in a relationship... Im sorry to hear that man........ I think if your still on here and not in jail yet then you doing alright... Just try to be calm about it all.. Dont stress man. Whats done is done. nothing can change that.....

As for cycle... Stay on as well..... if you leave her... In months you will look back and realize you were an idiot and it wasnt worth it.

I was kind of in a similiar situation...... And as much as I wanted to kill the guy..... A lot of friends talked me out of it... And the thing that made sense most was..... You can't be mad at him.. Only person to be mad at is her....

I'm sorry i dont want to sound like some therapist trying to tell you what to do... Stay with the cycle bro. Keep your head up. Anytime you want to bullshit PM. We are all here for you man.

**inky-e** · 06-08-2009, 03:51 PM

Originally Posted by MAD MATT

X2, no need to pray though....

OK **** praying...I rarely turn to that anyway....and just cause someone is in their 40's doesn't mean they have great judgement...I'm perfect proof of that!! lol

**inky-e** · 06-08-2009, 03:52 PM

Originally Posted by chevrolet02z28

AMEN. F*** that dude... love sucks..... personally.... The gym will keep your mind straight. it's a good stress relief.. Just try to walk in clear headed..... Don't let her get to you..... Like he said she opened her legs willingly... Just don't be stupid bro. The "once a cheater always a cheater" saying is true to the fullest..... Don't be with someone you can't trust. trust is extremely important. and key in a relationship... Im sorry to hear that man........ I think if your still on here and not in jail yet then you doing alright... Just try to be calm about it all.. Dont stress man. Whats done is done. nothing can change that.....

As for cycle... Stay on as well..... if you leave her... In months you will look back and realize you were an idiot and it wasnt worth it.

I was kind of in a similiar situation...... And as much as I wanted to kill the guy..... A lot of friends talked me out of it... And the thing that made sense most was..... You can't be mad at him.. Only person to be mad at is her....

I'm sorry i dont want to sound like some therapist trying to tell you what to do... Stay with the cycle bro. Keep your head up. Anytime you want to bullshit PM. We are all here for you man.

LOL...I was kinda referring to myself.....shhhh...don't tell the wife!!

**bjpennnn** · 06-08-2009, 03:59 PM

drop her like a prom dress man. honeslty your going to hold resentments the whole time that you are with her i gurantee. your always going to think she didnt tell you the whole truth, and sounds lie their is to much water under the bridge. **** her man honestly. i would bone her and then tell her to consider her ass dumped and start packing the bags.

there are way to many girls out there that would love a big stud puppy like yourself. get real man at 27 you should be nailing all these young girls in their 20's rite now. bang a few and get over her you will feel better. go find yourself a prom date.

**inky-e** · 06-08-2009, 04:02 PM

Originally Posted by bjpennnn

drop her like a prom dress man. honeslty your going to hold resentments the whole time that you are with her i gurantee. your always going to think she didnt tell you the whole truth, and sounds lie their is to much water under the bridge. **** her man honestly. i would bone her and then tell her to consider her ass dumped and start packing the bags.

there are way to many girls out there that would love a big stud puppy like yourself. get real man at 27 you should be nailing all these young girls in their 20's rite now. bang a few and get over her you will feel better. go find yourself a prom date.

Bro...you might wanna rephrase that...sounds kinda........GAY! lol

***D7M*** · 06-08-2009, 04:04 PM

that does really suck, bro.

I don't agree with the once a cheater always a cheater, though.

People do change.

Anyway, why would you discontinue the cycle?

I'd use this time to re-group and focus on your training.

**bjpennnn** · 06-08-2009, 04:08 PM

if it sounds gay that what i was going for. someone has to pump his balls up. he needs to realize its not the end of the world and your never going to find the rite girl if your with the wrong one and in my opinion the rite girl would not cheat on me ever. just my 2 cents.

**Dancer** · 06-08-2009, 04:08 PM

Women LIE LIE LIE... The last thing you need right now is a hormonal crash!

**inky-e** · 06-08-2009, 04:14 PM

Originally Posted by bjpennnn

if it sounds gay that what i was going for. someone has to pump his balls up. he needs to realize its not the end of the world and your never going to find the rite girl if your with the wrong one and in my opinion the rite girl would not cheat on me ever. just my 2 cents.

Dude...STOP!!! hahahaha

**Immortal Soldier** · 06-08-2009, 04:16 PM

Originally Posted by lovbyts

Why, the guy did not cheat, the girl did. Why do guys take this stance? It's up to the girl. She went to him, he was not stalking her or raped her. Who doesnt take advantage of a situation? We buy drinks, talk to girls, try to show sympathy and act like we care just to get laid every day. LOL

But really, STOP blaming the guy all the time. I'm in my 40s, I know better than what??? I want to get laid as much as any 20 yr old. LOL If a girl is married it's different but if she's dating someone and comes to me and is spooning all over me and wants some physical attention, OK.

Every girl out there is someones ex.

Look both the guy and girl are at fault, the dude is 40 and with age he should know a little bit better than to take advantage of that situation. Whatever you say and however you look at it, he took advantage of it.

You know how many times I had girls throw themselves at me because they got in a fight with their boyfriend or whatever?

And you know what I did, each and everytime? I sent them out on their ass.

Why? Because I got morals maybe thats where I am different, I don't give a rats ass about her boyfriend or respect him, I just know that I am not that type of guy. So I tell them "alright well leave and come back tomm, if you still feel the same way than we will see what happens". But when they come to me in the heat of the moment, I am not going to jump on that, thats just not me.

Both the guy and girl are at fault, and the girl had a kid which the guy should have known better it wasn't some 22 year old college girl who got into a fight with her boyfriend. The dude should know have better, like how good do you feel after you banged some girl who was in an emotionally fragile state? I mean I know I wouldnt feel good about it, so thats why morally I draw the line there.

I also draw the line at drunk girls who hit on me when I am compeltely sober, bu tthats a story for a different day my friend

**alpmaster** · 06-08-2009, 04:18 PM

If you're on TRT then you don't need any anti-e's. If you want to scrap the cycle because it is going to be difficult to be committed to training and dieting for gains, then drop back to the TRT dose. But either way, drop the tren for a bit, you don't need a compound that aggressive messing with your head and causing sides at a time like this.

Don't be mad at the dude. I know, that's the last thing you want to hear, but trust me, don't be mad at him. SHE cheated, and she WILL cheat again. Work it out with the kid and custody. This bitch has ****ed up your life, and now gets to damage this kid you two have together. Be a good father and love your kid, but that bitch you called a girl friend or future wife is nothing now, let her become someone else's problem.

***RAGE*** · 06-08-2009, 04:22 PM

dont stop your life for her, take care of your kids and fuvk that bitch, they cheat once they will do it again, now there are a shit load more good girls out there and good girls, but got treat some whores like shit for a while it will make you feel better......

sorry to hear that bro

**reignman1** · 06-08-2009, 04:27 PM

to give more background we were having a really rough couple of months where I thought I didnt want to be with her anymore and told her I was just staying for the kid pretty much, we had no sex for those 3 months and she was always ragging on me to give her attention and"tell her I loved her " stuff. She used to say "im gonna find someone else and then you'll be sorry" and I would just tell her I didnt care.

Her job was to tell techs where to go everyday for work over the phone and she said he would always make small talk at first with her, then it started being when she was upset with me he would ask her y and all. Then he started the "he must be cheating on you" and "I would give you the world" stuff. I looked at her phone records and and at 1st it was 1 or 2 calls a day for a half hour and maybe 20 txts then it got to be calls all the times like 4,000 in one month and 4,000 txts. this whole episode lasted basically 10/24 -12/13 was the day i found out and shit hit the fan. He lived about 1hr away from us and she worked 2 jobs. I basically found out by lying to her saying I called tmobile and they looked up if her cell was ever bouncing off the towers in that area and thats when she broke down and said she went to his house twice, and the first time they just talked and never did anything that time but she did eventually start having feelings for him and the second time she thought it might happen and thats were the first post comes in. She said she thought she was over me and ready to move on but when the sex started she got sick to her stomach and upset and thats when he stopped, asked her whats wrong and she said she couldnt do it and they stopped. She said alot of detail so thats why I think shes telling the truth like when he stopped he said "well that was a waste of a condom" and she basically left after that. She said he called her after he left and said he was sorry if she felt pressured into it. Of course the f-ed up part about it is that the next day is when I found all the txts and I wish I just looked one day earlier before that happened. It sucks because I after I found the txts and just thought they talked and didnt do anything, we became so much closer and completely(as gay as this sounds) in love, like just did everything together,

**reignman1** · 06-08-2009, 04:30 PM

im just sitting at the computer litteraly with tears running down my f-in face!! god it just sucks to hurt this much, but I was thinking maybe i feel this emotional because of the high levels of estrogen and if I lowered them would I feel better and easier to cope

**diesel405** · 06-08-2009, 04:33 PM

I would double the test and tren , find her best friend and spunk all over her face, and kick the guys ass.

**alpmaster** · 06-08-2009, 04:34 PM

Nope, it's not going to work like that. You could have not a microgram of estrogen in you, and this situation would still suck.

Read my post dude, it's tough, but it's life.

**Mooseman33** · 06-08-2009, 04:35 PM

i agree with everyone...
however, i would still kick the ever loving shit out of this guy....right or wrong, fuk that, stomp his sorry ass...
catch him in a dark parking lot, break a fukin concrete block over his head, leave him there leaking....
then kick here ass to the curb...
i know its wrong, but im sure u will feel better....

**Immortal Soldier** · 06-08-2009, 04:40 PM

Originally Posted by reignman1

im just sitting at the computer litteraly with tears running down my f-in face!! god it just sucks to hurt this much, but I was thinking maybe i feel this emotional because of the high levels of estrogen and if I lowered them would I feel better and easier to cope

I know man, and I hate to say it its not the excess estrogen. Happened to me before as well, one night I pretty much cried myself to sleep over a girl who ended a relationship with me, since then I promised myself I would never let a girl get that close to me, to hurt me like she did.....and I haven't. That was when I was 16 or so.

**operationgetbig** · 06-08-2009, 04:41 PM

if u stay with her go cheat on her so she feels as miserable as u did when u found out.

**gordongecko74** · 06-08-2009, 04:43 PM

even better, get caught

**PaHHaN** · 06-08-2009, 04:46 PM

I'm 100% agree with LOVBYTS. Man i hate when this kinda stuff happens. Keep up with the cycle, basically turn all your attention to your training, hopefully that will help you to go through all this. Don't do any crazy stuff, it just could make things a lot worse. Good luck BRO

**ninesecz** · 06-08-2009, 05:18 PM

wait for the rages to kick in and then rip his head off with your bare hands!

**MACKATTACK** · 06-08-2009, 05:25 PM

**** that, GET RID OF THE BITCH!!!! Its not worth to waste the rest of your life when you at least have only wasted 5 years............there are PLENTY of fish out in that sea and it is time to move on. GET THE RING BACK!!!

Obviously this chick is not worth the time or effort.............MOVE ON!!! Its tough when you love someone SOOOOOO much but realistically speaking you need to learn your life lesson take it like a man and move on...........its rough to do, but you will come out of this situation a better person and not have a dark cloud flying over you for the rest of your life..............

**HIITB$** · 06-08-2009, 05:43 PM

Originally Posted by diesel405

I would double the test and tren , find her best friend and spunk all over her face, and kick the guys ass.

haha lmfao i like this the best

**Zookl** · 06-08-2009, 05:45 PM

Originally Posted by MACKATTACK

**** that, GET RID OF THE BITCH!!!! Its not worth to waste the rest of your life when you at least have only wasted 5 years............there are PLENTY of fish out in that sea and it is time to move on. GET THE RING BACK!!!

Obviously this chick is not worth the time or effort.............MOVE ON!!! Its tough when you love someone SOOOOOO much but realistically speaking you need to learn your life lesson take it like a man and move on...........its rough to do, but you will come out of this situation a better person and not have a dark cloud flying over you for the rest of your life..............

I agree. Be a man about it. It may be hard dude, but those are the rules of the world. Don't punk out and you will be proud of yourself later. Trust me. Situation like this happened to me a little while ago...sorta... Still, I had to keep my head high and sure I was down, but I feel so much better now, especially that I didn't punk out.

**Hazard** · 06-08-2009, 05:57 PM

OK...... here are my 2cents.....

#1 - stay on cycle.... or at the very least..... drop to trt dosage but DONT COME OFF COMEPLETELY! LOL Get off cycle and take your clomid..... a week or 2 into the clomid come back and tells us how you feel...... haha

#2 - This situation just sucks..... i've been there..... alot of us have. Here's what i would do..... take it w/ a grain of salt cuz im a bit of an *sshole

- Tell her your over it...... don't let her see you cry...... then go and screw all the women you can. In the meantime..... get real close to her and let her think it's all good. Then let her "catch" you or if the satisfaction of just knowing your screwin her behind her back makes you happy..... thats fine too. DON'T GET MARRIED AND DO THIS! Infact..... DONT GET MARRIED TO THIS BROAD.....

#3 - regarding immortals comment..... if a girl threw herself at me like that.... i'd hit it LOL. Did i mention i was also a big hipocrit? Kind of a walking oxymoron...... you see..... the way i see things - if a guy ever did that to me, i'd drop her like a bad habbit and i'd kick his ass just because it would make me feel better. If i did itto another guy..... well..... thats just perfectly fine

love me/hate me - i know what i am LOL

~Haz~

**Lightsout2184** · 06-08-2009, 05:57 PM

Originally Posted by lovbyts

Why, the guy did not cheat, the girl did. Why do guys take this stance? It's up to the girl. She went to him, he was not stalking her or raped her. Who doesnt take advantage of a situation? We buy drinks, talk to girls, try to show sympathy and act like we care just to get laid every day. LOL

But really, STOP blaming the guy all the time. I'm in my 40s, I know better than what??? I want to get laid as much as any 20 yr old. LOL If a girl is married it's different but if she's dating someone and comes to me and is spooning all over me and wants some physical attention, OK.

Every girl out there is someones ex.

because he knew she was dating him and had a kid with him. she didnt go to him for sex. she was hurt and he took advantage of the situation. u cant hit ur girl so u beat the **** out of the guy.

**bmit** · 06-08-2009, 05:57 PM

my 2cents:

I don't know if the tren is the best idea right now but keep the test so u don't **** too much with your estrogen right now.

As for your relationship I had a very similar thing happen. Married with a 2 year old daughter and told my wife basically the same shit - that i could take her or leave her. Guess what she left me. LOL. Kind of had it coming but that shit really really hurt. If you don't have a kid with someone this is really hard to understand. Otherwise the decision becomes A LOT easier.

I really hope you guys find a way to make it work but it will be mad hard. If you are both committed to making it work you should probably get a relationship counselor and be prepared for it to suck for a long time. But if you do love her and you love your child then that is what is best bro. I really wish you luck, man, and i feel for you bro.

**reignman1** · 06-08-2009, 06:01 PM

Thanks for the support in truely means a lot... I guess I just feel like I have 5 years and my baby girl is. my world. She'll be 3 yrs old next month and its truely amazing to be around her all the time. Do u give any faith to what she said? This is something that happened 6 months ago and.she's telling me now she said because she couldn't live with it any more