Girl at the checkin counter at my gym always makes it awkward

[Times Roman]

Who the hell carried around dimes anymore? Pay phones even cost more these days... lol

(ahem... cough cough)

I did say this was when I was dating

(you know how many years ago THAT'S been?)

[calgarian]

(ahem... cough cough)

I did say this was when I was dating

(you know how many years ago THAT'S been?)

that you got laid???? we can guess.....

[oscarjones]

A dime back then is probably like a dollar today or some shit.

[Kawigirl]

A dime back then is probably like a dollar today or some shit.

Back than...Times could take a girl out to a movie....and share a shake with a dime. Than of course...go home alone.

[calgarian]

Back than...Times could take a girl out to a movie....and share a shake with a dime. Than of course...go home alone.

aint that the truth that even applies today just that these days his "date" is a HE....

[spywizard]

You guys missed the point about him having aspergers.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asperger_syndrome


Listen bro, just tell people. It will get it out there and then once that happens you can move past it. People don't like knowing something is off but not knowing what it is; it makes them uncomfortable. You will NEVER be able to move past something that you haven't reached yet. Get it out there then answer any questions people have about it and you WILL move past it. I have worked with people with autism before and I know how hard it is. You clearly want help because this is your second thread about it. Help people understand then everything can be worked out. Tell people bro, you already did on the internet.

You can have a sign or a note pinned to your shirt.. or go all out and get a shirt made or business cards Hi I'm John, I have aspergers

[Shol'va]

You can have a sign or a note pinned to your shirt.. or go all out and get a shirt made or business cards Hi I'm John, I have Boogers

That's not very nice.....

[brad1986]

I dont think its the girl thats awkward......

[jtuner77]

^^^I was about to say the same thing....this post has got to be a joke or the OP is a joke.

[Marine2000]

Attention whore! Are you guys actually reading this? This whole story is full of shit!

[gixxerboy1]

op is a good kid. This is a serious thread. He just has some issues with social activities

[SlimmerMe]

She might think you are being snobby if you do not say "hi" to her so I bet if you did say hi to her, she would really like it. So instead of how it might make you feel, just think how she feels when you come in and you are merely looking at the floor. I bet she thinks you think something is wrong with her and you would not like to hurt her feelings would you?

So just say "hi" and keep walking by for now. Practice that for at least a week. You do not have to say anything else. It is merely a courtesy acknowledgement for now. And then come back and report that you did this step.

[Shol'va]

op is a good kid. This is a serious thread. He just has some issues with social activities

I can relate cause I had some issues at his age with my antisocial activities. But I'm sure with this symptom it is very difficult to deal with anyone especially if you might have some feelings for that person.

[TBrah]

I'm gonna say hi to her when I see her. If any of the other girls try talking to me again I will do what Twist said. I guess it won't make anything worse or maybe it will.

[SlimmerMe]

^^^ sounds good to me. Let us know how it goes....looking forward to a report!

[Twist]

I'm gonna say hi to her when I see her. If any of the other girls try talking to me again I will do what Twist said. I guess it won't make anything worse or maybe it will.

You just have to help them understand that you want to talk to them but it is hard for you because you freeze up. Do you read? Do you have to think about things before you type them? Do you have to reformulate your sentences or do they flow out when you type? Is it only social situations that are the problem? What do you enjoy doing?

[F4iGuy]

Start by saying hello to more people. Don't put any pressure on yourself by assuming what might happen next. Simply make eye contact, smile, and say hello. It may be a challenge at first but the more you practice the easier it gets. Once you feel comfortable making eye contact, smiling, and say hello set a new goal. Make small talk. The easiest thing to do is make a comment about the weather "It's really hot out there right?" Another idea is to point out something you are both familiar with. "I noticed they have some new equipment over there... seems pretty nice. Have you had a chance to try it yet?" If you're feeling confident you could try some humor. "Hey do you live here? It just seems every time I come to this place you're always here" Who cares if it seems corny? People like to talk, we are social creatures so give it a shot. Don't feel like you have to get everything right. Good luck man and let us know how it goes.

[wmaousley]

zyzz and supaturk are my idols but I was not aware zyzz was a verb lol

this is your main problem, you idolize insecure immigrants

[paulzane]

I can relate cause I had some issues at his age with my antisocial activities.

Homoseuality by any chance?

[Times Roman]

Back than...Times could take a girl out to a movie....and share a shake with a dime. Than of course...go home alone.

Huh? That's some pretty intimate information that only myself and the girl that wouldn't go home with me would know.....

......Myrtle, is that you?

[Times Roman]

A dime back then is probably like a dollar today or some shit.

Hate to break it to you pal. I dime back then is still a dime today.

[lovbyts]

I ****ing hate having aspergers I've come to the conclusion I am physically incapable of having a normal conversation with a girl outside of a ****ing internet chat.

I'm the biggest I've been right now ****ing looking great doing my shit and some girl I met at a bbq for a guy at work like 3 weeks ago and her friend come up to me and try to make small talk offer to spot me and I didn't make any eye contact and gave 1 word answers until they just walked away.

I'm not trying with this shit anymore people should just leave me the **** alone and let me do my shit.

I use to have a phobia trying to talk to girls, I could NEVER walk up to a girl and talk to her if I was interested in her. Practice with girls you have no interest in. It worked for me. I started talking to just random girls/women and it was easy, then I just pretend or convince myself i'm not interested in the other ones and it works for the most part. Give it a try. BTW, I have ADD also.

[wmaousley]

I think she is already involved with another member of this forum!!!

http://forums.steroid.com/showthread...!#.TiLieGEjZko

[paulzane]

I think she is already involved with another member of this forum!!!

http://forums.steroid.com/showthread...!#.TiLieGEjZko

Ho ho ho

[TBrah]

you guys are not gonna believe what happened last night

[lovbyts]

you guys are not gonna believe what happened last night

You said Hi and she filed a restraining order on you for harassment?

[TBrah]

You said Hi and she filed a restraining order on you for harassment?

I haven't seen her scince I made the thread I don't think she works there anymore. I used to see her almost everyday and I really would have said hi.

Basically I had one of the worst experiences of my life last night. I got a phone call last night from my only friend telling me he had a girl at his house that would have sex with me. I thought maybe he was just trying to be funny and he was just gonna pick me up and be like JK! when we got to his house. I was very wrong. Keep in mind I have never kissed a girl or ever seen one naked in real life.

I walk into his place and his girlfriend and this girl are in the bathtub naked with the door wide open doing who knows what and I was in complete shock like I just poked my head around the door and ran away lol. Basically they get out dry off and him and his girlfriend leave me and the girl in a room together and you can not even imagine how awkward this was. They made me take my clothes off before they left and I was just standing infront of the girl and she was laying on the bed I was not saying anything just trying to figure out wtf was going on. She basically was just like lol u can lay down next to me if you want so i did and we were laying parallel not saying anything. I don't rly remember how but I ended up getting ontop and she kissing her which was also weird because i just had my mouth open i wasnt doing anything.

Now here is the worst part. 20 minutes had gone by and I had not even gotten slightly hard. She thinks maybe a shower will help so we do that and eventually it sort of gets up and I try to put the condom on and it goes limp. Try again same thing. She's like I guess we cant use a condom then. I'm just sitting down thinking what the **** is going on and they walk in on us and completely kills it. They eventually leave and we go back to the bed and we get something going until I see blood everywhere and I get all paranoid and we go back to the shower. Friends walk in on us again and we just went out into the main room of the house and tried again to no avail and we just talked until she went to sleep. I don't even know what to make of all this there have been some times where I am really contemplating a scenario but this just takes the cake.

I promise I am not trolling or anything I literally just got home

[HitIt]

my head hurts

[gixxerboy1]

arent you runnning tren only now? That could cause ed

[TBrah]

arent you runnning tren only now? That could cause ed

yeah I am but as soon as I got home and started thinking about what happened it was fine. I have not had any trouble before this and I've been on tren for 5 or 6 weeks. But I have not done anything outside of a skype show and watching porn/webcam models

[SlimmerMe]

Life is funny isn't it?

[TBrah]

Life is funny isn't it?

yes it's weird how things just happen

[LGM]

Wow dude, what an intro to sex... Sheesh.

Showed courage doing all that right off the bat though; congrats!

See what saying hi will get you? (lol... j/k)

[gixxerboy1]

you def need to talk to someone or maybe get some meds for your anxiety. It sound like that caused your ed issue

[Flagg]

Well I have to give you top marks for your complete honesty, a lot of guys would never have described that or would have greatly exagerated things.

Gixxer is right, I think you just have a few anxiety issues, and if you're naturally a bit shy, that whole situation must have felt like Hell for you, because it's like there is all this pressure on you.

Do you have any sisters, or friends that are girls?

[RaginCajun]

this is beginning to sound like a bunch of BS. if this is serious, then go to licensed medical professional and talk about your experiences. aspergers is serious and i hope you can get some help, especially for the anxiety.

[TBrah]

you def need to talk to someone or maybe get some meds for your anxiety. It sound like that caused your ed issue

Well I have to give you top marks for your complete honesty, a lot of guys would never have described that or would have greatly exagerated things.

Gixxer is right, I think you just have a few anxiety issues, and if you're naturally a bit shy, that whole situation must have felt like Hell for you, because it's like there is all this pressure on you.

Do you have any sisters, or friends that are girls?

I was going to councelling but I stopped the lady was kind of weird and I didn't feel ok to tell her anything plus she eats at the resteraunt I work at so I would have had to see her outside of sessions. I can tell people here things comfortably because it's mostly anonymous and I'm not physically talking to anyone. If i take anti anxiety meds isn't it basically going to make me apathetic and removed? You guys wouldn't have been nervous if you were in that situation? I literally only said hi my name is blank to this girl.

this is beginning to sound like a bunch of BS. if this is serious, then go to licensed medical professional and talk about your experiences. aspergers is serious and i hope you can get some help, especially for the anxiety.

im not gonna go to a site where I'm trusting people to give me directions on how to put stuff into my system and make up storys.

I understand most other people don't have trouble with stuff like this I should be able to be like that too.

[RaginCajun]

I was going to councelling but I stopped the lady was kind of weird and I didn't feel ok to tell her anything plus she eats at the resteraunt I work at so I would have had to see her outside of sessions. I can tell people here things comfortably because it's mostly anonymous and I'm not physically talking to anyone. If i take anti anxiety meds isn't it basically going to make me apathetic and removed? You guys wouldn't have been nervous if you were in that situation? I literally only said hi my name is blank to this girl.


im not gonna go to a site where I'm trusting people to give me directions on how to put stuff into my system and make up storys.

more like would have been really excited!!! you work in a restaurant and yet you have 'social' problems? must be in the back of the house. i am being serious when i say that you need professional help. getting into a girls pants is one thing but it sounds like that is the least of your worries at the moment. if the lady was weird, find another doctor that is not so weird. all i am saying is try to find a doctor that is willing to help you thru the anxiety/aspergers. and i must say one thing, you certainly have one good friend, whatever you do, don't F that up!

[brad1986]

I was going to councelling but I stopped the lady was kind of weird and I didn't feel ok to tell her anything plus she eats at the resteraunt I work at so I would have had to see her outside of sessions. I can tell people here things comfortably because it's mostly anonymous and I'm not physically talking to anyone. If i take anti anxiety meds isn't it basically going to make me apathetic and removed? You guys wouldn't have been nervous if you were in that situation? I literally only said hi my name is blank to this girl.
im not gonna go to a site where I'm trusting people to give me directions on how to put stuff into my system and make up storys.

I understand most other people don't have trouble with stuff like this I should be able to be like that too.

damn dude looks like you have more game than you thought... you didnt have to buy her dinner or anything just introduced yourself?? I think your off to a great start. and btw if I was a virgin and your age i would have been nervous too.. i say call that girl again and try again it seems like she understands whats going on and is willing to work with you

[TBrah]

more like would have been really excited!!! you work in a restaurant and yet you have 'social' problems? must be in the back of the house. i am being serious when i say that you need professional help. getting into a girls pants is one thing but it sounds like that is the least of your worries at the moment. if the lady was weird, find another doctor that is not so weird. all i am saying is try to find a doctor that is willing to help you thru the anxiety/aspergers. and i must say one thing, you certainly have one good friend, whatever you do, don't F that up!

I can do that my guardian is telling me I have to start going again anyways if I want to stay in the house. And yes he's definatley a good friend but I don't get to see him that much he lives far from my house and he works a lot.

damn dude looks like you have more game than you thought... you didnt have to buy her dinner or anything just introduced yourself?? I think your off to a great start. and btw if I was a virgin and your age i would have been nervous too.. i say call that girl again and try again it seems like she understands whats going on and is willing to work with you

this is not the girl from the gym this was a prearranged thing with some random girl I don't think I could have messed it up without purposely trying to mess it up like it was definatley going to happen regardless of what I said or did lol . I don't remember her name and she probably would not want to do that again or maybe she would idk I could probably get her number from my friend what do you think?