Following my gf to another city now I need a job!

**awms** · 04-03-2012, 10:11 AM

My gf of 3 years who I live with just finished college and was accepted into her dream program at a university 2 hours from were we currently live...being the supportive bf that I am I said go for it! at first we were just going to have a "long distance relationship" but after a lot of thought I have decided to move with her...the only problem is I have no job in the city! Im a strength and conditioning coach/personal trainer and own my own business but I will have to kiss that all goodbye since i have zero connections in this new city. Although I really like the city we are moving to (I like it better than where we currently live) I am a little nervous to just pick up and go to a new city...any one eles ever experienced anything like this?

**gixxerboy1** · 04-03-2012, 10:18 AM

i've moved alot. but i always had a job lined up. Can you financially afford to not work for a while?

**RaginCajun** · 04-03-2012, 10:49 AM

i did it and don't regret a thing. i changed careers and states back in august from medical to oil and gas, and have not looked back since! if she can support the two of yall for a while, then why not go for it. do you see yourself with this girl for the long haul? i think that should be one question to ask yourself

**lovbyts** · 04-03-2012, 10:50 AM

Change is good and will help you in the long run. For now do the same thing MOST girls would do; milk it and leach off of her for a while. LOL

**spywizard** · 04-03-2012, 10:52 AM

yea, it will take time to rebuild a client base, but will be much easier for you this 2nd time.. and besides, she can always take a school loan to support you guys..

**awms** · 04-03-2012, 11:20 AM

Originally Posted by gixxerboy1

i've moved alot. but i always had a job lined up. Can you financially afford to not work for a while?

Nope lol I need cash! I do well but I have bills to pay like anyone so Im prob going to take a second job for the next 5-6 months and put that money aside so I have some money banked for rent, food ect...I will prob get a job as a trainer at a local gym in the new city which is a step back from what I am doing now (I charge $60-70 an hour) but I should be able to get 8-12 new clients in the first few months I am there. We are planing on renting something small and cheap so rent should not be more than $400 a month each...I figure If I can have 5-6 grand put away for rent and food I will be fine but Im a little nervous going to a new city! Im very good at what I do! actually I will be cocky and say I'm an extremely knowledgeable and I am an amazing trainer! lol so finding a personal training job making 25 dollars plus an hour should not be a problem...but im worried about getting client since I dont know anyone in this new city.

**awms** · 04-03-2012, 11:25 AM

Originally Posted by 00ragincajun00

i did it and don't regret a thing. i changed careers and states back in august from medical to oil and gas, and have not looked back since! if she can support the two of yall for a while, then why not go for it. do you see yourself with this girl for the long haul? i think that should be one question to ask yourself

Oh yeah man I want to marry this girl! She beautiful, super smart!, athletic, she genuinely loves me, and she is one of the hardest working girls I know! works 20-30 hours a week while studying to be a child psychologist! we will have a shit load of debt and she prob will be like 32 when she is done but hopefully it all pays off! she came from a "poor" family and dropped out of high school when she was 16 to work...she has worked her ass off to get were she is! Im proud as hell and I want her to have her dream job and be happy!

**awms** · 04-03-2012, 11:31 AM

The way I see it. We are both still very young (Im 25 and she is 22) and although I just started a business here that is starting to take off I am young and the perfect age really to set my self up in a new city. I would hate to make this decision at 40 with a couple kids and a house! that would be much harder! we are at a point in our lives were we can take risks and we can be kind of selfish since we have no kids....living in a one bedroom apartment is still fun to us haha were as if we has a couple kids it might not be.

**SexySweetheart** · 04-03-2012, 11:50 AM

Originally Posted by awms

Oh yeah man I want to marry this girl! She beautiful, super smart!, athletic, she genuinely loves me, and she is one of the hardest working girls I know! works 20-30 hours a week while studying to be a child psychologist! we will have a shit load of debt and she prob will be like 32 when she is done but hopefully it all pays off! she came from a "poor" family and dropped out of high school when she was 16 to work...she has worked her ass off to get were she is! Im proud as hell and I want her to have her dream job and be happy!

sounds somewhat familiar. Lol, anyway CONGRATS on the decision!
after me grad we are moving cross country to be closer to Tigers family. He will be deployed while I move there ALONE *gulp* so I can relate to your anxiety some, keeping your eye on the big picture and pre planning helps me stay focused on the positives, I’m sure it would help you too

best of luck !

**awms** · 04-03-2012, 12:09 PM

Originally Posted by Sexy4mySweetheart

sounds somewhat familiar. Lol, anyway CONGRATS on the decision!
after me grad we are moving cross country to be closer to Tigers family. He will be deployed while I move there ALONE *gulp* so I can relate to your anxiety some, keeping your eye on the big picture and pre planning helps me stay focused on the positives, I’m sure it would help you too

best of luck !

Yup the crazy shitt love makes you do lol

**RaginCajun** · 04-03-2012, 12:36 PM

Originally Posted by awms

Oh yeah man I want to marry this girl! She beautiful, super smart!, athletic, she genuinely loves me, and she is one of the hardest working girls I know! works 20-30 hours a week while studying to be a child psychologist! we will have a shit load of debt and she prob will be like 32 when she is done but hopefully it all pays off! she came from a "poor" family and dropped out of high school when she was 16 to work...she has worked her ass off to get were she is! Im proud as hell and I want her to have her dream job and be happy!

congrats my man! hard working woman is hard to find!

Originally Posted by awms

The way I see it. We are both still very young (Im 25 and she is 22) and although I just started a business here that is starting to take off I am young and the perfect age really to set my self up in a new city. I would hate to make this decision at 40 with a couple kids and a house! that would be much harder! we are at a point in our lives were we can take risks and we can be kind of selfish since we have no kids....living in a one bedroom apartment is still fun to us haha were as if we has a couple kids it might not be.

i moved at 29 last year man and when i was 25, never would have thought about doing it. its not an easy decision but do what yall feel is best for both (both as in a couple and as individuals)

**awms** · 04-03-2012, 02:21 PM

Its kind of exciting in that Its like a fresh start.

**RaginCajun** · 04-03-2012, 02:30 PM

Originally Posted by awms

Its kind of exciting in that Its like a fresh start.

that's exactly what it is and it feels great! only thing i miss is moving far from family and friends, only downfall

**awms** · 04-03-2012, 06:29 PM

yeah I will be moving away from all my family! and I am very close with my parents I go to them for all my important life decisions...ironically we will be close to her family lol Up until this year I was relient to some extent on my parent as most 20 something year olds are when they are starting out in the world but when I move I will have no support system what so ever! I think the scary thing is that although Im supporting my self now I know if it came crashing down I could call my parents and they would be there to help me out....once I move I wont have that and its kinda freaking me out lol but that part of growing up I guess.

At my age my dad had a 2 year old and another kid on the way lol

**gixxerboy1** · 04-03-2012, 06:38 PM

Originally Posted by awms

yeah I will be moving away from all my family! and I am very close with my parents I go to them for all my important life decisions...ironically we will be close to her family lol Up until this year I was relient to some extent on my parent as most 20 something year olds are when they are starting out in the world but when I move I will have no support system what so ever! I think the scary thing is that although Im supporting my self now I know if it came crashing down I could call my parents and they would be there to help me out....once I move I wont have that and its kinda freaking me out lol but that part of growing up I guess.

At my age my dad had a 2 year old and another kid on the way lol

your parents will always be there for you. They are just a phone call away. I havent lived near mine in years but if i need something or need to talk the still answer the phone

**Brohim** · 04-03-2012, 06:39 PM

throw some ads out in the newspaper, cragistlist. Make some connections at the gym and you will be gtg. Good luck with the move.

**songdog** · 04-04-2012, 03:22 AM

Good luck Bro.I did it a few times myself.

**Honkey_Kong** · 04-04-2012, 04:19 AM

Originally Posted by gixxerboy1

your parents will always be there for you. They are just a phone call away. I havent lived near mine in years but if i need something or need to talk the still answer the phone

Just a simple regular phonecall to chew the shit is a big thing when you're far away from home.

**awms** · 04-04-2012, 02:11 PM

yeah man there is nothing like a good talk with my mom when Im feeling like shit! That women gives me the best advice! both my parents in business and both managers so they give me alot of solid advice and guidance while trying to run my business.

**wmaousley** · 04-05-2012, 12:26 AM

Originally Posted by 00ragincajun00

i did it and don't regret a thing. i changed careers and states back in august from medical to oil and gas, and have not looked back since! if she can support the two of yall for a while, then why not go for it. do you see yourself with this girl for the long haul? i think that should be one question to ask yourself

Best field on the planet isnt it?

**wmaousley** · 04-05-2012, 12:29 AM

I left the Military in the US and joined an IOC (Oil & Gas) company in the Middle East. Huge change, but great reward. moving will give you a new ensight into what you had and what you will gain. Most likely your decision to move to support your GF will be more beneficial to you than not.

Good luck

**awms** · 04-05-2012, 12:39 AM

Originally Posted by wmaousley

I left the Military in the US and joined an IOC (Oil & Gas) company in the Middle East. Huge change, but great reward. moving will give you a new ensight into what you had and what you will gain. Most likely your decision to move to support your GF will be more beneficial to you than not.

Good luck

thank you that was great insight!

**kmdietri** · 04-05-2012, 07:41 AM

If you're just out of college you're young enough that it shouldn't be a problem.

**awms** · 04-06-2012, 04:47 PM

The good thing is that Im moving from toronto were rent and living cost is almost double the cost....the city im moving to is still large but not 3 million like toronto so I dont need to make as much to get ahead....50 grand in toronto wont get you far, but were im moving 30-40 grand will put you up in a 1200 sq. apartment and pay the car payments with money left over. Thats one thing im looking forward to!

**awms** · 04-06-2012, 06:41 PM

Originally Posted by kmdietri

If you're just out of college you're young enough that it shouldn't be a problem.

That guy has some good info but hes way to extreme! Yes women want confidence, they want a man who takes charge and speaks his mind but they still want a man who treats them with respect and treats them life a women.

**wmaousley** · 04-07-2012, 07:27 AM

Originally Posted by awms

The good thing is that Im moving from toronto were rent and living cost is almost double the cost....the city im moving to is still large but not 3 million like toronto so I dont need to make as much to get ahead....50 grand in toronto wont get you far, but were im moving 30-40 grand will put you up in a 1200 sq. apartment and pay the car payments with money left over. Thats one thing im looking forward to!

seems the move is already benefiting you.