Shy Girls...

**SEOINAGE** · 05-08-2012, 07:20 AM

She sounds neurotic. This is preventing her from relaxing and really enjoying sex. Maybe try some relaxing breathing exercises before you have sex.

**paulzane** · 05-08-2012, 11:17 AM

Kiss her ass for 5 minutes pushing your tongue in as far as possible. Then French kiss her ..... I find that this makes the woman relax a lot more than chloroform or rohypnol ....

**jasc** · 05-08-2012, 11:52 AM

**Standby** · 05-08-2012, 03:03 PM

3 people are now agreeing on the tequila 20$ bills and limes and inviting her twin over for some sisterly love. I think this is settled. Get back to us on the progress, tiny

**DanB** · 05-08-2012, 04:10 PM

Originally Posted by gearbox

op- you basically said you want sex more then once a week. Even with time, therapy, and talking about her past is not going to change that.
Something I noticed about this board is that many of us have a misconception that woman want sex as much as men. Yes some do, but many do not. Woman are made differently and many times they have sex for a different reason then to feel good physically. I am not saying woman do not like sex, I am simply saying their are many who are happy with it once a week or even less. There is no hormonal issue, or past daddy issues. This is just who they are. ex- some guys want to get laid every freaking day, and other guys are total fine with 2x a week. We are all different in this regard.
op- you did say that she likes to fool around to a point, and it sounds like that point is everything before sex, which leads me to believe like many above have stated that she may have had something in her past that is not dealt with. but loves cuddling with you and some touching cause your her man and she likes to feel close to you

Correct, I know women that can go months without sex no problem, while we think ah sure I nothing better to do tonight I will ring ''x'' and have sex, they think ah no i want a fella that cares etc etc etc

I ain't saying they all like this, far from it but alot are and it sounds like the op girl is one of them

**JohnnnyBlazzze** · 05-08-2012, 04:10 PM

Eh I'll try next time i see them. I just went ahead and broke it off with her, oh well

**Standby** · 05-08-2012, 04:16 PM

good for you bud. now go find a nympho

**JohnnnyBlazzze** · 05-08-2012, 04:27 PM

Originally Posted by Standby

good for you bud. now go find a nympho

I have one, she's like fatal attraction nympho, shits crazy.

**frank13** · 05-08-2012, 05:07 PM

Originally Posted by johnnnyblazzze

Eh I'll try next time i see them. I just went ahead and broke it off with her, oh well

what the hells wrong with u man ... can i have her number?

**JohnnnyBlazzze** · 05-31-2012, 08:52 PM

Update for anybody who's interested.

We've still been talking since I started this thread and she insisted that I come and visit her. We spent 3 days together and she was more open sexually and told me what was going on. She told me that she wasn't 100% comfortable with me yet and told me her last and only BF was terrible in bed and always just kept it basic and quick lol. She said she feels embarrassed when she doesn't know what she is doing and told me she feels comfortable enough for me to try and show her new things. Needless to say we spent all 3 of those days in bed and she didn't even want to continue the last day because she was to soar lol. She says she can't wait to do it again and see where things go, in which I agreed

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Side note.....her twin sisters going through some rocky times with her bf and they're looking to split up. She wants to start bringing her sister out with us so her sister will let loose a little and start to get over her bf...plan is in the woodworks

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**DeadlyD** · 05-31-2012, 09:10 PM

Originally Posted by johnnnyblazzze

I've been seeing this girl for a while now and she's fun to hang around and seems more then comfortable around me. The thing is whenever we start messin around or get intimate she is crazy shy. Like she's all hesitate about doing things or only wants to do basic positions and not for that long, it's weird. It's really boring an when i ask her to do other things she sighs or rolls her eyes? Then it's like i don't even want it when she does sh!t like that...

We had a talk about it and she just said she usually NEVER gets an urge for sex or even likes having sex She said she only gets a tiny urge and that only happens when she has been drinking lol. She said she hates having sex for a long time and likes it better when it's just short so it can be over with. She said "I don't think I've ever had an orgasm? Idono." When i try to give her signs that i want to smash she like does counter signs to show she doesn't want it lol. If I visit her a whole week, I get booty maybe once out of that whole week, twice is really stretchin it. This girl is in her early 20's to? I'm just really confused.

Anybody have experience with a girl like this?

I had an ex that was like this, it turned out that it was because it was hurting her but she was hiding it or wouldnt show it! she had benine cysts on or near her cervex! she found out from her doctor. ...what can ya do?!? in your case I dunno.

**JohnnnyBlazzze** · 05-31-2012, 09:15 PM

Originally Posted by DeadlyD

I had an ex that was like this, it turned out that it was because it was hurting her but she was hiding it or wouldnt show it! she had benine cysts on or near her cervex! she found out from her doctor. ...what can ya do?!? in your case I dunno.

Damn man haha. This chick doesn't have any issues, I just don't think she's had continues sex over a 3 day time frame EVER. As so mentioned about her xBF I don't think she's experienced any pleasant sex at all haha, that's basically what she told me.

**DeadlyD** · 06-01-2012, 01:55 PM

Originally Posted by johnnnyblazzze

Damn man haha. This chick doesn't have any issues, I just don't think she's had continues sex over a 3 day time frame EVER. As so mentioned about her xBF I don't think she's experienced any pleasant sex at all haha, that's basically what she told me.

you'll have to show her the ropes!!

**frank13** · 06-01-2012, 05:27 PM

sound great im glad everything worked out for u man

**JohnnnyBlazzze** · 06-01-2012, 05:56 PM

Originally Posted by DeadlyD

you'll have to show her the ropes!!

I agree.

Originally Posted by frank13

sound great im glad everything worked out for u man

Thanks dude.

**cherrydrpepper** · 06-01-2012, 06:13 PM

Haha Johnny nice.. I only read your first post and your most recent about the 3 days. My current on again / off again girlfriend is 30 and has never had a decent lover out of 9 guys. She had only had a couple of orgasms in her whole life before me. We never have sex without her orgasming. What it is, is theres a lot of guys running around that are obsessed with quantity of women, or hitting it with a woman to get their rocks off. There are actually very few men running around who know their dik from a tootsie roll. I am one of the most unusual men on the planet. I can actually bang a girl and not care if I get off. Current girl said Im the "most adventurous" lover shes had which is a polite way of saying im crazy sick in bed. I always laugh when my guy friends share their sex stories - they never involve getting the girl off. They are always dumb shit about slamming her into the headpost or them getting blown. If you put the woman's needs first, she will see you as a sexual god.

**JohnnnyBlazzze** · 06-01-2012, 07:06 PM

Originally Posted by cherrydrpepper

Haha Johnny nice.. I only read your first post and your most recent about the 3 days. My current on again / off again girlfriend is 30 and has never had a decent lover out of 9 guys. She had only had a couple of orgasms in her whole life before me. We never have sex without her orgasming. What it is, is theres a lot of guys running around that are obsessed with quantity of women, or hitting it with a woman to get their rocks off. There are actually very few men running around who know their dik from a tootsie roll. I am one of the most unusual men on the planet. I can actually bang a girl and not care if I get off. Current girl said Im the "most adventurous" lover shes had which is a polite way of saying im crazy sick in bed. I always laugh when my guy friends share their sex stories - they never involve getting the girl off. They are always dumb shit about slamming her into the headpost or them getting blown. If you put the woman's needs first, she will see you as a sexual god.

I completely agree dude. I try to tell my friends this same thing. I think there is more of a reward of pleasing the woman and having her get off more then you just getting off. It's inevitable, obviously you are going to get it off, but the reaction and look on a womans face after you wowed her in bed is priceless.

I asked if she has ever had an orgasm and she said..."I don't know, I don't think so." I asked her if she had one later in the day after we had finished and she says she felt like she has never felt before, I still have bruises and bite marks on my chest and scratches on my back. It was funny to because I told her to get on top and again she got all shy and was like "I don't know what to do" So I kind of coached her through it for a while, needless to say she got all frustrated and was like "See I told you I can't do it!" all pissed off like it was my fault I made her do it haha, she just told me to get back on top. She still has little confidence in herself when it comes to the bedroom but I don't mind as long as she is open to work on it like we are now.

**BigBadBob** · 06-03-2012, 05:16 PM

Sounds like she's been sexually abused. i was seeing this chick ,after a couple of dates we end up in bed. i'm down there eating her as i get ready to stick it to she tells me wait till she falls asleep to **** her and not to stop no matter how much she resists. Later I found out she was molested by her uncle. Since her sister's BF said the sister's the same way , sounds to me like daddy 's been banging the two of them. If rape thing doesn't help, dump this bitch, she's ****ed up.
That or let me have a shot at her and I'll let you know for sure.

**Honkey_Kong** · 06-03-2012, 05:38 PM

Originally Posted by BigBadBob

Sounds like she's been sexually abused. i was seeing this chick ,after a couple of dates we end up in bed. i'm down there eating her as i get ready to stick it to she tells me wait till she falls asleep to **** her and not to stop no matter how much she resists. Later I found out she was molested by her uncle. Since her sister's BF said the sister's the same way , sounds to me like daddy 's been banging the two of them. If rape thing doesn't help, dump this bitch, she's ****ed up.
That or let me have a shot at her and I'll let you know for sure.

Yeah raping her is the right way to go. I hope you go to jail for that shit. Seriously if she doesn't want you to put your wick in her move on. There are plenty of bitches that will let you. Try a few of them. It sure beats raping them.

**JohnnnyBlazzze** · 06-03-2012, 06:17 PM

Originally Posted by BigBadBob

Sounds like she's been sexually abused. i was seeing this chick ,after a couple of dates we end up in bed. i'm down there eating her as i get ready to stick it to she tells me wait till she falls asleep to **** her and not to stop no matter how much she resists. Later I found out she was molested by her uncle. Since her sister's BF said the sister's the same way , sounds to me like daddy 's been banging the two of them. If rape thing doesn't help, dump this bitch, she's ****ed up.
That or let me have a shot at her and I'll let you know for sure.

Lol dude did you even read the first post or the update I gave? There's no more issues, she wasn't comfortable with me yet and had a shitty x-bf. She hasn't been abused and her dad is not banging her, that's some crazy shit though, pretty off the wall guess. Sounds like the chick you had was way off her rocker, If she told me that I would tell her she's fvcking crazy.

**SEOINAGE** · 06-04-2012, 07:06 AM

Originally Posted by johnnnyblazzze

I completely agree dude. I try to tell my friends this same thing. I think there is more of a reward of pleasing the woman and having her get off more then you just getting off. It's inevitable, obviously you are going to get it off, but the reaction and look on a womans face after you wowed her in bed is priceless.

I asked if she has ever had an orgasm and she said..."I don't know, I don't think so." I asked her if she had one later in the day after we had finished and she says she felt like she has never felt before, I still have bruises and bite marks on my chest and scratches on my back. It was funny to because I told her to get on top and again she got all shy and was like "I don't know what to do" So I kind of coached her through it for a while, needless to say she got all frustrated and was like "See I told you I can't do it!" all pissed off like it was my fault I made her do it haha, she just told me to get back on top. She still has little confidence in herself when it comes to the bedroom but I don't mind as long as she is open to work on it like we are now.

Still didn't orgasm. Sounds like a tough situation to crack, got pissed and acted like it was your fault she couldn't do it lol. Sounds familiar, but good luck.

**jasc** · 06-04-2012, 10:16 AM

Glad to see the update JB.. Here we were goin all Dr. Phil on the situation and it turns out she's just shy. You know what you have to do now.. Fvck the shyness out of her..

**BigBadBob** · 06-04-2012, 11:46 AM

Glad everything worked out. And no, I didn't make it to your most recent update till now. After the second page i just couldn't take it. Everybody was pointing to valid issues and you seemed certain none of them where a factor. When i got to tthe post where her sister's BF was having the same prob it seemed to much of a coincidence.
Yeh, that bitch was crazy. Seems I ran into more then my fair share of them but as per my experiances the crazy ones are better in bed.
I been married to the same woman for over ten years now. When we first met she was 19 (I was in my mid thirties) . She said that occasionally she would have pain during sex, She would make me eat her for hours before she would let me **** her. She went to the doctor and the doctor told her woman's body don't become fully sexually developed till around 25.
So since the second bit of advise I gave you worked,dumping her, which you did and she came crawling back and opened up to you more about the prob. I would now suggest that you eat the hell out of it, use plenty of lub and as the brother above says ,"**** the shyness out of her".
Whatever you do, don,t listen to that HOMO above that comented on my post without reading the whole thing, and go reading any of his links to Cosmopolitan.

**JohnnnyBlazzze** · 06-04-2012, 06:57 PM

Originally Posted by SEOINAGE

Still didn't orgasm. Sounds like a tough situation to crack, got pissed and acted like it was your fault she couldn't do it lol. Sounds familiar, but good luck.

I honestly don't think she knows what to feel, she's like a closet freak man it's crazy lol. Thanks for the goodluck wishes haha.

Originally Posted by jasc

Glad to see the update JB.. Here we were goin all Dr. Phil on the situation and it turns out she's just shy. You know what you have to do now.. Fvck the shyness out of her..

Yea, I appreciate all the feedback though, brought everybody together to figure it out lol. Everybody comes from different roads in life and had different experiences with different women so it was cool to get everybody's input. Hahah, i'll do my best.