Absence of Spousal Support??

[buckeyes#1]

My wife keeps calling me fat and lazy. She thinks it is all in my head regardless of my 3 years of lab work with no improvement. I am so close to completely breaking down. Has anyone had similar situations? I want to feel better but none of my docs have wanted to help.

[SEOINAGE]

First off I wouldn't put up with someone calling me fat and lazy, most especially a spouse. So you need to put an end to that right away, just don't tolerate it. Secondly if you aren't already busting your ass as best you can with what you are given then start doing it. Third you already know, find a better doctor.

[buckeyes#1]

Have two appointments scheduled next month with new docs and still researching for the best local doc.

[Dpyle]

My wife keeps calling me fat and lazy. She thinks it is all in my head regardless of my 3 years of lab work with no improvement. I am so close to completely breaking down. Has anyone had similar situations? I want to feel better but none of my docs have wanted to help.

I battle it everyday man. I'm headed in the right direction with my goals, but don't have a lot of support on the home front which makes it really hard to stay motivated.

Rather than talk down to me, my wife guilt trips me about my diet vs hers, and my motivation vs hers Always talking about how I make her feel bad when I make 2 dinners every night. Always one for me and one for her.

I just try to put it out of my mind like any other distraction, but that will only work for so long. Hope it all works out for you man.

[greenwell001]

I get the guilt trip about spending so much money on good food and always at the stadium or the gym.

[buckeyes#1]

I got that crap after getting the kids ready for school, picking them up from the sitters, taking my oldest to soccer and stopping to get the wife dinner on the way home.... about to lose it.

[Vettester]

2nd that with Seoinage!!! The world is a tough enough place to negotiate, so the last person you need stacking the deck against you is your own wife! If you take that then that's on you!

It's up to you to take control of ALL of this. Also, I encourage you to get more active with this place. Nothing is a quick fix.

[greenwell001]

I got that crap after getting the kids ready for school, picking them up from the sitters, taking my oldest to soccer and stopping to get the wife dinner on the way home.... about to lose it.

Dude you have let her treat you like shit for too long and know she has your balls in her purse. Get the ma****as from her and let her know that shot ain't cool anymore. If you don't have you balls, you don't have anything, so to speak.

[juice2012]

My girlfriend just moved in with me and I feel like I'm getting no support from her at all. I'm not the same guy she met a year ago because how I feel everyday is killing me. She has her own problems from moving somewhere far from home. It's bullshit that just because people can't SEE you suffering they assume you are just fine. My friends are tired of me complaining how I feel all the time. I'm in the same boat as you, I feel like I can't take this shit anymore. I've been feeling awful since May. Between work, my living situation, my girlfriend, my health, I feel like I'm at the end of my ****ing rope. Today was the 4th week of T injections, and the only area of improvement I have is my libido but now my girlfriend is being so distant it doesn't even matter.....

[Times Roman]

2nd that with Seoinage!!! The world is a tough enough place to negotiate, so the last person you need stacking the deck against you is your own wife! If you take that then that's on you!

It's up to you to take control of ALL of this. Also, I encourage you to get more active with this place. Nothing is a quick fix.

agree. your spouse is supposed to have your back. not ridicule and belittle you.

on the other side of the coin, i lifted for years with low T before I did anything abouut it. even though the cards can be stacked against you, you don't give up! You play the cards you were delt! Part of being a man (imo) is taking care of yourself as best you can, and that includes muscular development.

I'm assuming you really haven't been lifting much? (you really didn't say)

[spywizard]

I battle it everyday man. I'm headed in the right direction with my goals, but don't have a lot of support on the home front which makes it really hard to stay motivated.

Rather than talk down to me, my wife guilt trips me about my diet vs hers, and my motivation vs hers Always talking about how I make her feel bad when I make 2 dinners every night. Always one for me and one for her.

I just try to put it out of my mind like any other distraction, but that will only work for so long. Hope it all works out for you man.

wtf??? I do most of the cooking too in my home.. that's why my 4 yr old eats salmon and broccoli and he loves it... the wife eats what i cook or she makes something else for herself..

[bullshark99]

Bro, I do agree with what is being said above, but reality is not that simple. yes, start standing ur ground more but you better have a heart to heart with her because actions alone may just confuse the matter worse?

[jasondd1]

My wife has my back but if I have no change in 3 years I'm not sure should would be as understanding.

[JAMIE07652]

One thing is for certain , we are in charge of our own happiness and health . You have to ask yourself is anything she's saying true ? How is your sex life with her ( an under sexed partner will alway cause a problem ) if everything she's saying is false and she is just busting. Balls for no reason , you'll have to decide if it's worth being with her ... Period !

[Bonaparte]

So...is this a relationship or HRT question?

[greenwell001]

So...is this a relationship or HRT question?

wellness, maybe?

[Bonaparte]

wellness, maybe?

Well, do you want advice on how to fix your hormones, or do you want advice on dealing with your bitchy wife?
(the former would be easier)

[Brazensol]

You said you had three years of labwork. Post the results! Then we'll have something to work with and can get an idea of what the problem is.

[lovbyts]

You can start by looking here for a doctor. Thanks to TR
http://forums.steroid.com/showthread...=#.UExJ4ftXZv8

I know it's tough especially since you have been letting it happen for a while so you cant just put the hammer down because she will just get worse probably. Start by trying to talk to the wife and explaining she is not helping. If she wont listen try giving her some example of would you like it if I said X or Y? She is gaining weight, tits are sagging more etc? Usually doesnt go over to well at first but she will get the point. If she agrees to stop then make sure you call her on it each time she starts in on you. If she wont listen then tell her you want her to go to couples counseling.

[buckeyes#1]

You said you had three years of labwork. Post the results! Then we'll have something to work with and can get an idea of what the problem is.

Here are my test results for the past three years.

[lstbred]

Ok, I'll be the one to ask. Are you fat? lazy? good shape? because of your symtoms? you said you've been battling this for 3 yrs, did you have a bad cycle, pct? have you cycled since this started? what do you think made this come on? are you still working out or are you completely shut down? no muscle gain, strength, endurance, junk still work? not trying to be a dick at all, just trying to get info so maybe someone can help. If i was your wife, these are the questions i would be asking, not ridaculing you.

[JohnnyVegas]

Here are my test results for the past three years.

It is sad to see that you have been on TRT for three years and your levels are in the 300s. I don't think your doctor has adjusted your dose enough to get you to a decent level. You can push for the doc to up you to 200mg/wk (that is what my dose is) to see if you can get up to the higher part of the range...or maybe a new doctor will be more proactive.

That isn't to say that you don't have other issues as well. Sometimes our hormones are just part of the problem, but it is certainly no magic bullet that fixes everything that is going on with our bodies.

As far as your wife, that took a while to break down and will take time to fix. Shame it has deteriorated to the point that you guys are speaking to each other that way (or maybe it is just her, but it is a shame regardless).

[gixxerboy1]

are you getting your stuff from a compounding pharmacy or regular like walgreens and using watson test?
I can imagine being on 150mg ew and only being mid 300's

[JohnnyVegas]

are you getting your stuff from a compounding pharmacy or regular like walgreens and using watson test?
I can imagine being on 150mg ew and only being mid 300's

I wondered about that too. Odd.

[gixxerboy1]

I wondered about that too. Odd.

thats why im thinking it may be shit test. The stuff at a compounding pharm is only as good as their powder and the guy making it.

[Lunk1]

Tell me about it bro...Last night I am sitting on the couch watching football chatting on here on my laptop and my old lady had the gaul to cook supper, take out the trash and did my like a fkn whore later. Then today I come home from an easy day at work and that bitch is mowing the lawn. I am so sick of her shit...

[buckeyes#1]

are you getting your stuff from a compounding pharmacy or regular like walgreens and using watson test?
I can imagine being on 150mg ew and only being mid 300's

It is Watson Test Enanathate from CVS.

[jasc]

It is Watson Test Enanathate from CVS.

What kind of dosing protocol are you on? dosage? frequency?

[gearbox]

I battle it everyday man. I'm headed in the right direction with my goals, but don't have a lot of support on the home front which makes it really hard to stay motivated.

Rather than talk down to me, my wife guilt trips me about my diet vs hers, and my motivation vs hers Always talking about how I make her feel bad when I make 2 dinners every night. Always one for me and one for her.

I just try to put it out of my mind like any other distraction, but that will only work for so long. Hope it all works out for you man.

How can it be a bad thing for your wife if she eats more healthy like yourself. That's something I don't understand about that?

[AXx]

How can it be a bad thing for your wife if she eats more healthy like yourself. That's something I don't understand about that?

I believe his wife doesnt eat as healthy as he does. Thats the way I read it

[< <Samson> >]

Well, here's how my shit is:

My Gf(might as well be wife) just doesn't give a shit about herself, or how she looks & just mocks me for being in good shape. She just doesn't care "hey why don't you wanna go out for some greasy ass KFC" - I don't want to be a lard ass again honey. Oh well, I'm going anyway. . . This is a every day thing.

She just laughs when I eat healthy shit all day on schedule. Her answer - I can do it if I wanted to < WTF is that?



It really doesn't bother me that much to tell you the truth since I am in charge of me. But, it doesn't help in any way though.

[Dpyle]

I believe his wife doesnt eat as healthy as he does. Thats the way I read it

That's correct sir, and then she guilts trips me about eating healthy and working out regular when she refuses to try.

[AXx]

That's correct sir, and then she guilts trips me about eating healthy and working out regular when she refuses to try.

Thats what I thought.

[Rwy]

Tell me about it bro...Last night I am sitting on the couch watching football chatting on here on my laptop and my old lady had the gaul to cook supper, take out the trash and did my like a fkn whore later. Then today I come home from an easy day at work and that bitch is mowing the lawn. I am so sick of her shit...

you have an asian wife with fake boobs mowing the lawn???

[Rwy]

OP my test levels were worse then yours. Actually I have yet to see anyone on this site with worse levels then I had. My ex gf was def very aggressive and bossy, and when you feel like shit about yourself you just end up letting them walk all over you. I was a fat bastard (check members section look at my pics) have man boobs and a neck that started at my chin. I started on cycle amounts ( not suggesting that) of test and some other stuff until I got where I wanted to be and have dosed down big time. The confidence that came with the improvement to my body, libido and focus at work is incredible. I felt like I had my swagger back that I used to have in my 20's.

I ended up breaking up with the gf bc she did shit. Kicked her out and I have brought a girl home every weekend night I have been single. Although one night I did chubby chase. Get on the ball and get this shit figured out.

[ghettoboyd]

Tell me about it bro...Last night I am sitting on the couch watching football chatting on here on my laptop and my old lady had the gaul to cook supper, take out the trash and did my like a fkn whore later. Then today I come home from an easy day at work and that bitch is mowing the lawn. I am so sick of her shit...

LMFAO!!! that bitch!!!!sounds like a married mans dream come true...good on you bro...

[JohnnyVegas]

This thread is a bummer and it is surprising how often threads like this pop up in the TRT section (I know this one is in the Lounge). The older guys get on TRT and the wives not only don't charge their habits, but have a problem with the husband taking care of himself again. I can understand the women not changing, but am surprised they can't get behind their husband wanting to turn things around.

[ghettoboyd]

This thread is a bummer and it is surprising how often threads like this pop up in the TRT section (I know this one is in the Lounge). The older guys get on TRT and the wives not only don't charge their habits, but have a problem with the husband taking care of himself again. I can understand the women not changing, but am surprised they can't get behind their husband wanting to turn things around.

yea i would agree its unfathomable to me that a spouse that supposidly love there mate would not at least encourage an activity that is so healthy...it truley has to be some kind of insecurity issue or something...my wife is all for all of my healthy activitys cus she know its good for me and as she says"having a fit sexy husband dosent suck"...

[ironbeck]

Your wife does not sound like a nice person and you sound like a baby. Nothing is going to change unless you change it fatty and don't be lazy about it either.

[Lunk1]

you have an asian wife with fake boobs mowing the lawn???

She is not really Asian. I just have her dress up like a blonde, catholic school girl ,Asian, with fakeboobs (wait she already has those).