Dealing with a break up

**Honkey_Kong** · 08-25-2013, 05:02 PM

Originally Posted by yeahbuddy289

i have stopped talking to her bro... i mean when she texts me i text back but i never initiate the conversation

Don't text her back. Just block her number and move on.

**Hazard** · 08-25-2013, 05:25 PM

Originally Posted by yeahbuddy289

well she screwed up a few times pretty bad.. she spent a whole year trying to make it right and i just treated her like crap

She cheated?

Do not respond to her..... Just don't. You won't get her back..... But even if there is a SMALL chance..... It'll be by HER pursuing YOU

**Lunk1** · 08-25-2013, 05:30 PM

The whole relationship is beginning to sound like a train wreck.

**calstate23** · 08-25-2013, 05:43 PM

Originally Posted by thegodfather

I do not agree with trying to get her back if u think she's the one. CLEARLY she's not the one or she wouldn't have left, and it's my guess during the OFF periods it was HER choice, and not yours...So, honestly, do you wanna get strung along by this nutty broad for another 4 years, and try to meet the one when your pushing 30? I wish I could just grab u and shake you and impart my knowledge and experiences to u and you wouldn't dream of pickin up the phone to call this broad.. Humans have this odd but natural tendency to only remember good experiences, and somewhat block out the bad...that's what you're doing by wanting this hunk of shit back...and what u don't realize is how much you're feeding her over inflated sense of self worth by continuing to attempt contact, while making yourself simultaneously feel worse. Breaking up with a broad is just like quitting a drug, only abstinence will make u forget the feeling associated with it.

I would agree with this in MOST circumstances...But the fact is most relationships are to complex for someone of an outside source to say EXACTLY how someone should go about a relationship...

Unless, you have cheating, lying etc then it is clear as day..You end it in a drop of the hat...

The fact is in every relationship people like to make theirs sound better then what it truly is....Everyone relationship whether boyfriend and girlfriend or married need work...Everyone gets in arguments etc...

So as long as there is no cheating and lying then it can possibly be worked out...Unless of course the attraction level is gone...

And most likely in this case, if there was no cheating etc and she wants to break things off it's because she is talking to another dude behind your back or just lost physical attraction towards you....

**Cuz** · 08-25-2013, 06:08 PM

who the f uck has time for relationships man just go lift! That's what I say

**yeahbuddy289** · 08-25-2013, 06:46 PM

She is a liar and has cheated on me... i dont know what is wrong with me i dont know why I want her so badly. I have had a couple girlfriends before but she is the first one I truly loved.

**crazy mike** · 08-25-2013, 06:58 PM

Originally Posted by yeahbuddy289

She is a liar and has cheated on me... i dont know what is wrong with me i dont know why I want her so badly. I have had a couple girlfriends before but she is the first one I truly loved.

YOu probably want her because you are used to her. Listen if you gave it a try then don't keep beating yourself up and try to find another date. No one but many. You can keep the door open if you want. But is apparent that she does not want you. I never crawled into bed with a girl if she didn't want to goo to bed with me. Really so if she said ok, I'll spend the night you would go for that. While you're in love she's just getting her rocks off, maybe.
Who know what's best for you ??? Not me. But I can tell you by my own experience when you beg and grovel and plead and try so hard with her attitude, you will sure make a pitiful fool of yourself and the biggest turnoff ever. I've been there, and I've seen it over a few years. ...crazy mike

**pasha** · 08-25-2013, 07:01 PM

Bro, its tough.. being with someone that long the person becomes your best friend.. and then one day not anymore.. sucks.. me and my ex broke up 2 years ago.. we dated for 5.. i still think about her and love her.. after the breakup i became one solid bodybuilder.. focus on your training sense you got all this energy in your mind.. transform yourself.. eat better, better yourself... focus on yourself... it wont make the pain go away but you can make yourself better. best of luck!

**yeahbuddy289** · 08-25-2013, 07:06 PM

Thanks guys... glad I have this forum.. good people and good advise.

**calstate23** · 08-25-2013, 07:30 PM

Originally Posted by yeahbuddy289

She is a liar and has cheated on me... i dont know what is wrong with me i dont know why I want her so badly. I have had a couple girlfriends before but she is the first one I truly loved.

Okay, there it is bro...She cheated...Don't talk to her, don't text her....She should no longer exist in your mind as a human being....

Don't even think twice about her...ever...

Whenever you think you miss her just imagine a dude blastin a load on her chest...How much do you think she cares about you? NONE, what so ever...That's a devil right there...

Empty her from your mind completely...

**Tron3219** · 08-25-2013, 07:31 PM

Best way to get over a woman is get under another one

**< <Samson> >** · 08-25-2013, 09:24 PM

I got it, post her pic. We'll decide - No prob. Problem solved

I know I am complete hypocrite with double standards, but that's just the way it is.

If my girl cheated on me, she's gone. She no longer exists, I will figure out the rest after we are no longer together.

**crazy mike** · 08-25-2013, 09:26 PM

Oooh boy !!! ...cm

**Buddyguy** · 08-25-2013, 09:37 PM

Originally Posted by yeahbuddy289

She is a liar and has cheated on me... i dont know what is wrong with me i dont know why I want her so badly. I have had a couple girlfriends before but she is the first one I truly loved.

If she cheated fvck her bro. Never take her back. No compromise. Just think to yourself what would