I'm in a DARK DARK place right now!!!

[PistolPete33]

Just needed to get this off my chest. I'm in a REALLY DARK place right now prob. the worst I've ever been. My entire life is falling apart and I just can't take anymore. I started my own business 3.5 years ago and once I did I got fired from my full time corporate America job. The company was losing money and it drowned all of our savings. We lost everything to keep it going and ended up going thru a bankruptcy a year and a half ago. Fast forward and things were going well. We had to move because we lost our house and the business was doing well. We moved again to a better town in a small but nice house that we're renting. The business took a MAJOR turn that I just can't recover from.

We're now running in the red and way behind on everything. I have a fake hip that I just f$cked up yesterday that I think may need to be replaced again. I have an appointment on Friday with my surgeon but something major is wrong with it. I just dropped my new phone and destroyed the screen, my wife threw away an envelope of mine with $250 in it and I just had an expensive emergency repair done at the facility I own. Thinking of closing the business that I dreamed about since I was a little kid after losing everything I had to do this. I'm truly hating life right now and not sure how to handle moving forward.

Anyways, just needed to vent. Thanks for listening.

[Roger11]

Hey mate, hope it gets well for you. How about leasing your business out instead ? Perhaps make more money that way, im not sure. Just food for thought i guess.

[austinite]

Doesn't sound like you have any problems that time and money won't fix. You might have to take several steps back. Your job is a job after all, dream or not. You can get back at it some other time.

Things have to get worse before they get better. Hang in there, Champ.

[yettibecsuse]

hang in there keep venting if u need to especially if it clears your head space.

[GirlyGymRat]

Sorry to hear you are having these difficulties and hopefully will be temporary.

[PistolPete33]

Thanks everyone I appreciate it. It will turn around just feeling really down in the dumps right now. I left out a major part of this frustration. I got audited by the state for 2011 AND 2012 and it's already past due and I have over 50 hours trying to put it all together. So stressed right now I can't even wrap my head around things.

[Times Roman]

going through the shit makes you appreciate the shine all that much more.

our society has changed in that there is no such thing as job security, unless living off the taxpayers.

you are going through a rough patch, just try to hang in there.

Good luck!
---Roman

[tarmyg]

One day at a time PistolPete, one day at a time. Good luck!

[thegodfather]

Pete....I'd recommend a realistic, and as objective(as possible) analysis of your business, and figure out with your emotions divorced from the calculus, if the business can ever be profitable, if it can be profitable in the long term, and even if it can or will be, will there be sufficient profits to get you out of the red and into the black. If not, while it's your dream, business decisions should always be based on math rather than emotions. Good luck brother, to take the risk you've taken in the first place is something that 99% of people on Earth will NEVER do in their lives. You cannot stand to gain immense profits without having skin in the game.

[Honkey_Kong]

Pistol, first thing you need to do is clear your head of all the negative energy. You can't expect to pull yourself out of this if you've got all those worries going on. Regardless of what you decide to do, tomorrow hasn't been written yet so stay positive. I've never met a real successful person before who hasn't had more than their fair share of struggles and failures.

Even if your business fails, you'll move on to something else. It isn't the end of the world. I'm sure you've learned a lot from your experience here that you will take on to future endeavors. Every time a door closes another one opens, just remember that.

[lovbyts]

I'm not sure what I could add that has not been said already. Some very good advice above, even from TR.

Life is full of speed bumps. Most millionaires and billionaires have gone through bankruptcy at least once and had to start all over. You lean from your mistakes and dont make the same ones twice.

Try not to dwell on the issue all the time when you are at home. Enjoy your time with the family and find some distractions even if it's watching TV or playing a game.

Best of luck.

[thegodfather]

Pistol, first thing you need to do is clear your head of all the negative energy. You can't expect to pull yourself out of this if you've got all those worries going on. Regardless of what you decide to do, tomorrow hasn't been written yet so stay positive. I've never met a real successful person before who hasn't had more than their fair share of struggles and failures.

Even if your business fails, you'll move on to something else. It isn't the end of the world. I'm sure you've learned a lot from your experience here that you will take on to future endeavors. Every time a door closes another one opens, just remember that.

That's the important take away here!!!! THANK YOU!... Successful people all have something in common, they know when to cut and run, and they also know that every business will not be a success and it is largely a numbers game. The people who have had multiple bankruptcies and succeeded, have done so because they tried more times than the person who started a business, went bankrupt, and then took a 9-5. It's similar to not playing the lottery and expecting to win, but with slightly better odds (33% isnt bad).... Try to look at this as a positive learning experience, as ridiculous as it will sound to you right now.. We're all here to support you dude...

[Euroholic]

Bloke my mates dad went bankrupt 7 times his wife left him cause she was sick of it then bam he is now the 50th richest man in aus. Just keep at it bra climb that Everest!!!!!!!!!

[lovbyts]

Bloke my mates dad went bankrupt 7 times his wife left him cause she was sick of it then bam he is now the 50th richest man in aus. Just keep at it bra climb that Everest!!!!!!!!!

And his wife didnt come crawling back?

[Euroholic]

And his wife didnt come crawling back?

There still in court she left him but they were still legally married when he made his big break. What a whorre ay

[Euroholic]

The Point is success rarely falls in your lap. You just got to keep getting back up on that horse and ride into the lions den.

[marcus300]

The Point is success rarely falls in your lap. You just got to keep getting back up on that horse and ride into the lions den.

Your just a prick, no one listens to a word you say your stupid ****

[Euroholic]

Your just a prick, no one listens to a word you say your stupid ****

Your just a negative person. A 50 year old man with nothing better to do in life than abuse other people.

[marcus300]

Your just a negative person. A 50 year old man with nothing better to do in life than abuse other people.

Thank you xxx

[Euroholic]

Thank you xxx

You have Bipolar

[marcus300]

You have Bipolar

Thanks again little boy xx

[zempey]

Take it one day at a time, try to see the positives in the situation as small as they might be, and don't dwell on the negatives. If you push forward with a positive outlook, things will start to go your way, be patient and don't give up. Best of luck, things will get better.

[Honkey_Kong]

Bloke my mates dad went bankrupt 7 times his wife left him cause she was sick of it then bam he is now the 50th richest man in aus. Just keep at it bra climb that Everest!!!!!!!!!

Yeah but he got rich because he banged sheep on PPV.

[lovbyts]

Yeah but he got rich because he banged sheep on PPV.

Does that work? It pays that good? Hmmm

[Hazard]

I know it seems like things will never get better..... I've been there. Persistence pays off. TGF gave some good advice..... Try to stay positive man.

[jimmyinkedup]

There are a few points in my life where I have felt like you do now. There are also many points when I look back I have no idea how I made it though them. No difference in severity of circumstance between the 2, just how I reacted to them.
The ones I now look back on where I cant believe I made it though I just pressed on and did what I had to do, trying my best and not allowing the big picture to freeze or overwhelm me. The ones where I felt like you do now - I did.
I know its not some dramatic gem or pearl of wisdom but it is my experience. If you stick it out, things will get better my friend.

[BG]

God is light in the darkness. He will lift you up and give you strength to get through any life situation.

[Joco71]

Pistol Pete keep your chin up and move forward. Make a list of the fires you need to deal with prioritize them and go after them one at a time. Most problems seem much worse in the moment. Like Jimmyink said looking back you will wonder how did I get through that but perserverance and Faith go's a long way!! Good Luck!!

[PistolPete33]

Thanks everyone I appreciate the advice. I just feel like the world is caving in on me. I know where the problems are and I'm working to fix them. Losing all your staff at your company within a week because of one bad apple can cripple a company. This is the case with my business and I'm trying to hard to recover but it's much harder than i would have thought. Also, once I get this F-ing Tax audit done it will be a huge weight off my shoulders. I will be finishing that this week so I'm excited that will be done. That is until they reply stating I owe them more money. I called some of my companies that I'm behind with and worked out a plan to get back on track and I fired a bunch of vendors to keep my overhead lower. Also, reached out to some of my customers to see their frustrations so I'm able to fix them. Today was a fairly productive day and hopefully one of many moving forward. Now, if my hip will just get better and if my surgeon says I don't need to have that replaced again all can/will be good. Fingers are crossed.

[jimmyinkedup]

All the best to you man. It WILL work out...

[Honkey_Kong]

Does that work? It pays that good? Hmmm

Aussies and New Zealanders love that shit.

[Euroholic]

Yeah but he got rich because he banged sheep on PPV.

Ppv? Positive predictive values?

[Euroholic]

Aussies and New Zealanders love that shit.

Ah right? Says the bloke who cant run a ball down a field without having more amour than a medieval knight.

[kelkel]

Best of luck Pete. You will get through this.

[Temporary Accnt]

Your just a prick, no one listens to a word you say your stupid ****

Thank you xxx

Thanks again little boy xx

Why on earth would you behave like this in this thread, or anywhere?? You appear to be a grown man but act childish towards Euroholic, and insensitive and disrespectful in the OP's thread who is clearly reaching out. If you have personal issues with Euroholic, i strongly suggest you deal with them privately and certainly not convolute this thread and turn it into a circus. And youre a moderator of some sort? You should be setting a better example, IMHO.

PistolPete, you've been given some useful suggestions and others have demonstrated their genuine support of you. I too hope and wish for the best outcome and pray that your life turns around for the best. Ive been exactly where you are now and reached out as well. Hang in there and try very hard to be strong. You appear to have some real friends here that are supporting you and hoping for the same.

Good luck and keep this thread posted of your progress.

[austinite]

Why on earth would you behave like this in this thread, or anywhere?? You appear to be a grown man but act childish towards Euroholic, and insensitive and disrespectful in the OP's thread who is clearly reaching out. If you have personal issues with Euroholic, i strongly suggest you deal with them privately and certainly not convolute this thread and turn it into a circus. And youre a moderator of some sort? You should be setting a better example, IMHO.

PistolPete, you've been given some useful suggestions and others have demonstrated their genuine support of you. I too hope and wish for the best outcome and pray that your life turns around for the best. Ive been exactly where you are now and reached out as well. Hang in there and try very hard to be strong. You appear to have some real friends here that are supporting you and hoping for the same.

Good luck and keep this thread posted of your progress.

This is the lounge. And Euro is our community clown. That's how we treat him. He knows, he understands and he likes it.

[Temporary Accnt]

I understand where we are and i also understand the Lounge is a free for all. But this thread was clearly created by PistolPete who is in a very "dark place" in order to reach out and share the personal pain he is experiencing, likely in hopes of receiving positive support from many of us. Simply because we are in the Lounge I dont imagine thats any reason for us to check our respect and understanding at the door when entering a personal thread such as this one, regardless if Euroholic is the community clown or not. That's my point.

If you'd like to continue this, i would be more than happy to do so privately so as not to derail or detrac further from the original post. Thanks for understanding.

[Euroholic]

Why on earth would you behave like this in this thread, or anywhere?? You appear to be a grown man but act childish towards Euroholic, and insensitive and disrespectful in the OP's thread who is clearly reaching out. If you have personal issues with Euroholic, i strongly suggest you deal with them privately and certainly not convolute this thread and turn it into a circus. And youre a moderator of some sort? You should be setting a better example, IMHO.

PistolPete, you've been given some useful suggestions and others have demonstrated their genuine support of you. I too hope and wish for the best outcome and pray that your life turns around for the best. Ive been exactly where you are now and reached out as well. Hang in there and try very hard to be strong. You appear to have some real friends here that are supporting you and hoping for the same.

Good luck and keep this thread posted of your progress.

Some people just lack respect. And feel like tough guys on the web. Imagine doing this sort of thing in the streets. Someone would smash a bottle in your face in know time.

[austinite]

I understand where we are and i also understand the Lounge is a free for all. But this thread was clearly created by PistolPete who is in a very "dark place" in order to reach out and share the personal pain he is experiencing, likely in hopes of receiving positive support from many of us. Simply because we are in the Lounge I dont imagine thats any reason for us to check our respect and understanding at the door when entering a personal thread such as this one, regardless if Euroholic is the community clown or not. That's my point.

If you'd like to continue this, i would be more than happy to do so privately so as not to derail or detrac further from the original post. Thanks for understanding.

Naa. You're just too new. Pete will be fine. He's one of the Good ol boys. He'll be at my house this weekend for BBQ. We've known him for a while and feel comfortable messing around, even if it's a sensitive topic. He's a cool cat, you see, and he's strong enough to get out of this rut sooner than later. He just needed to vent.

Seriously though... No need to play "superman to the rescue", because you don't know anyone here, and you don't know what anyone does, or does not accept as "Appropriate".

Now help us bash Euro. He's a child abuser. You don't support child abuse, do you?

[CanisLupus]

Weird coming across this thread now. I just hit a similar slump about a week ago.

I woke up in the middle of the night to crystal clear thought, and started reflecting on my life. Three days later I was still reflecting on every major decision I've made in the past, and it kept building up... I felt like crying. It felt hopeless, like a failure. I reflected on where I'd come from, what decisions I had made, and how it affected where I am right now, and every part of my life currently. I was completely overwhelmed.

I finally found someone talk to so I could let it all out. That helped a LOT, and they didn't even have to provide good advice, just listening did the trick. I'm better now, but wow. It is horrible to feel that way.

This is a bit silly, but when I'm overwhelmed it helps me to just remember this: How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. :-)