body dysmorphia , online vs real life

[GearHeaded]

I'm sure by now we all know and experienced body dysmorphia . most of us iron addicts never think we are big enough.
I think social media and online access to other people has really really distorted us all even more then we could imagine. we see images all the time, every day and think 'man I need to get bigger' ..

but in real day to day life . is this really the case ? no I don't think so.

I'm not a big guy by any means. I'm not a tuff guy by any means.. but the truth is in REAL LIFE and not social media bullshit , any where I go I feel like I'm that baddest person in the room , period.
walking around in public I feel I can destroy 99.9% of anyone that crosses my path .. I'm just bigger, badder, faster, more aggressive, more powerful, and can get more shit done in 5 mins then they can do in their whole life..

BUT.. add social media into the mix. add the whole world into the mix. add the Big Ramy into the mix from Egypt who I'd never know about being in the rocky mountains. . and all the sudden I'm the smallest fish in the pond.

social media creates body dysmorphia.. funny how that works cause we likely will never meet anyone . its still just about our local setting and people we interact with on a day to day basis in real life.


idk , kinda a rant but was just thinking about it..

[Gallowmere]

Interestingly, it’s not just the physique side either.
Fifteen years ago, it would have been easier for me to accept that I am within the top 1% of genpop for strength, and an even tighter percentage if you factor in bodyweight. That’s because when I look around in any gym that I go in, I’m the only guy squatting over four plates or dealifting over five, without looking like a pile of laundry covered in mayonnaise.
Now? With social media, it’s much easier for me to compare myself to EVERY strength athlete, which is a ridiculous notion. A decade ago, I’d have no way of knowing that there’s a 123 lbs. woman (Stefi Cohen) who could make me her bitch on any given day unless I was actually participating in powerlifting as an organized sport (I don’t). These days I can get that rubbed in my face multiple times per day if I so choose.

[AR's King Silabolin]

I go with the feel. I dont care about Ramys IG. When im 117 kg + and in shape and nice clothes, i can go everywhere and face every body with pride.
When im 114 kg and less, i often feel like just another guy.
But i dont fear age. With time i will be able to reprogram my brain and feel good at 105 kg. Why should i impress everybody at the grocery store for eternity. They just give a flying fuck anyway.

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[sv.elia]

True dat. In my small town gym I spotted only 2 guys that could be using aas. Definitely none of the girls, so I'm the most badass around. But then I have Bakhar Nabieva on my instafeed and I feel like a cookiepie by comparison.

[charger69]

I'm sure by now we all know and experienced body dysmorphia . most of us iron addicts never think we are big enough.
I think social media and online access to other people has really really distorted us all even more then we could imagine. we see images all the time, every day and think 'man I need to get bigger' ..

but in real day to day life . is this really the case ? no I don't think so.

I'm not a big guy by any means. I'm not a tuff guy by any means.. but the truth is in REAL LIFE and not social media bullshit , any where I go I feel like I'm that baddest person in the room , period.
walking around in public I feel I can destroy 99.9% of anyone that crosses my path .. I'm just bigger, badder, faster, more aggressive, more powerful, and can get more shit done in 5 mins then they can do in their whole life..

BUT.. add social media into the mix. add the whole world into the mix. add the Big Ramy into the mix from Egypt who I'd never know about being in the rocky mountains. . and all the sudden I'm the smallest fish in the pond.

social media creates body dysmorphia.. funny how that works cause we likely will never meet anyone . its still just about our local setting and people we interact with on a day to day basis in real life.


idk , kinda a rant but was just thinking about it..

You and I have not been in the same room together. LOL
Actually, I have this complex in real life as well as online. I dont feel big enough or good enough. I can look at someone and pick out something on them that is better than mine (calves, delt tie ins, etc). This person could be 60 pounds lighter than me.
This is sort of a double edged sword. It keeps me fighting to gain size however frustration also comes with it because I never make the size I want. This last high estrogen cycle blew me out of the water with the size I put on. I had issues with the water so I waned at the tail end of that phase and feel that I lost a lot.
I know that going on stage, I need the mindset that I am the baddest mother fucker there. I have been able to do but I also am going on stage full as opposed to all depleted. This makes a major mental difference.


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[GearHeaded]

You and I have not been in the same room together. LOL
Actually, I have this complex in real life as well as online. I dont feel big enough or good enough. I can look at someone and pick out something on them that is better than mine (calves, delt tie ins, etc). This person could be 60 pounds lighter than me.
This is sort of a double edged sword. It keeps me fighting to gain size however frustration also comes with it because I never make the size I want. This last high estrogen cycle blew me out of the water with the size I put on. I had issues with the water so I waned at the tail end of that phase and feel that I lost a lot.
I know that going on stage, I need the mindset that I am the baddest mother fucker there. I have been able to do but I also am going on stage full as opposed to all depleted. This makes a major mental difference.

I get what your saying .. a guy at my gym who I've helped out with some diet and cycle advice is always pretty lean and wearing a tank top at the gym all the time (I wear a hoodie or at the least a t shirt). he looks decent and defined. we were talking the other day and he told me he weighed 152 pounds . I was like damn , you look good in a tank top and are lean, but I'm also lean and out weigh you by 50+ pounds .. and I don't dare to walk around in a tank top. in the back of my mind I'm thinking "I can physically crush you'' , his max bench press is my over head press warm up.

its the same way with a lot of these instagram and social media guys.. they are lean and look good standing alone. they look jacked and huge in pictures.. but put a hoodie on them and stand next to them in person and in real like your thinking "I can crush you".
its like natural bodybuilding . the average natural PRO , yes I said PRO, bodybuilder is 150 pounds. in a t shirt on the street you can't even tell that they lift .
I'm not big by any means .. but when I'm 'swole' and on plenty of gear and at my biggest you can definitely see a very pronounced V taper even wearing a hoodie (yes it helps that I have a 29" waist).

by national bodybuilding standards, my physique is shit . but in real life standards compared to the average 40+ year old guy, I'm generally the most fit guy in the room.

now of course with social media we can see how small we really are though . when I compare myself to Brian Shaw, Eddie Hall, Thor, Big Rami, Phil Heath .. heck even smaller guys in Classic physique like Chris Bumstead, Arash Rhabar .. I feel small as shit.

but truth is , without social media and the internet , we would likely never even meet or see anyone like these guys in our entire life.

I asked my father in law one day, who is 66 years old , have you ever seen a pro bodybuilder ever in your whole life. he said "no" . he said he doesn't even know if he's seen an average body builder in real life. he's only seen glimpses of images on magazines at the super market .. that shows how rare it is to be big and jacked in the modern day population that most people have never even seen a bodybuilder in their whole life (yet we are all skewed in our thinking because we are obsessed with this stuff)

[Cuz]

This is an extremely good point, ive often wondered this myself. If im bench pressing 405 in my gym, which i never seen anyone else do correctly at least, and think to myself well damn Larry here is attempting a 705 lb bench press thats 300 more than me wtf am i even trying for?! We get caught up on youtube and all that other horseshit. Real life vs social media yea i think ill pick real life

Same goes for women, how many women do you see in real time that can even compare to what we see on the internet...right, damn near none

[Bjorg89]

I find that nowadays, instagram and social media, are just a shortcut to depression(or at least feeling like shit while scrolling), for the obvious reasons you already wrote

[Obs]

Mine is me.
I have to do better constantly and taking a step backwards can make me violent.

In reality no one looks like me walking around in the places I go from kansas city to home.

Most of the olympia guys do look huge and you cant find a time they dont look like monsters.
They are extremely rare though and thats all they do.

Here I get comments constantly but it means nothing.

It's what I know I can do and should be.
Everything I do requires pure motivation and adrenaline in one form or another. That has created a mindset where I gotta move forward at all times and fast.

I can't turn it off for homelife most days. I just dont want to be home. I sit down and all the things that lack start surfacing. I start getting irritated and want out back to the grind. I dont want to sleep, I have to because my body is beat up.

Lately I have been craving beer. Been drinking after work pretty hard. Not today, but last night I drank about 16 16oz michelobs in 5 hours or so.

Its a waste.
Used to be I didnt drink because of the setback anabolically. Lately though I have been doing it to come down from my adrenaline.

I slam redbull and ephed all day then on the ride home I realize I am heading home and think, "shit, I need 20 beers to deal with that shit."

I feel small and know I'm not.
Just can't help it. It's my nature since my felony indictments and divorce. I have tp be gaining in work and bodybuilding or its all just shit.

Sometimes when I look in the mirror I get so fuckin pissed I want to break it. Had a cursing fit about it and told gf, (yelled) about how I felt.

Not her fault. Its mine and my own insecurity with myself.

Bb's in nice lighting picks dont actually look quite like what you see in the photos.

Its a perfect shot or they wouldnt post it because we are all dysmorphic conceited mfers. Especially high level guys, imo.

[Obs]

This is an extremely good point, ive often wondered this myself. If im bench pressing 405 in my gym, which i never seen anyone else do correctly at least, and think to myself well damn Larry here is attempting a 705 lb bench press thats 300 more than me wtf am i even trying for?! We get caught up on youtube and all that other horseshit. Real life vs social media yea i think ill pick real life

Same goes for women, how many women do you see in real time that can even compare to what we see on the internet...right, damn near none

I watch amateur porn tyvm....

[charger69]

Mine is me.
I have to do better constantly and taking a step backwards can make me violent.

In reality no one looks like me walking around in the places I go from kansas city to home.

Most of the olympia guys do look huge and you cant find a time they dont look like monsters.
They are extremely rare though and thats all they do.

Here I get comments constantly but it means nothing.

It's what I know I can do and should be.
Everything I do requires pure motivation and adrenaline in one form or another. That has created a mindset where I gotta move forward at all times and fast.

I can't turn it off for homelife most days. I just dont want to be home. I sit down and all the things that lack start surfacing. I start getting irritated and want out back to the grind. I dont want to sleep, I have to because my body is beat up.

Lately I have been craving beer. Been drinking after work pretty hard. Not today, but last night I drank about 16 16oz michelobs in 5 hours or so.

Its a waste.
Used to be I didnt drink because of the setback anabolically. Lately though I have been doing it to come down from my adrenaline.

I slam redbull and ephed all day then on the ride home I realize I am heading home and think, "shit, I need 20 beers to deal with that shit."

I feel small and know I'm not.
Just can't help it. It's my nature since my felony indictments and divorce. I have tp be gaining in work and bodybuilding or its all just shit.

Sometimes when I look in the mirror I get so fuckin pissed I want to break it. Had a cursing fit about it and told gf, (yelled) about how I felt.

Not her fault. Its mine and my own insecurity with myself.

Bb's in nice lighting picks dont actually look quite like what you see in the photos.

Its a perfect shot or they wouldnt post it because we are all dysmorphic conceited mfers. Especially high level guys, imo.

Drink a lot???? WTF??? 16 in 5 hours???
I drink that in an hour. LOL



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[Obs]

Drink a lot???? WTF??? 16 in 5 hours???
I drink that in an hour. LOL



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Oh believe me its much worse. That was just last night. Gf up my ass about it.

[GearHeaded]

Sometimes when I look in the mirror I get so fuckin pissed I want to break it. .

common occurrence around here .. I'm probably broke because I've spent thousand and thousands of dollars in drywall repairs, glass door repairs , ripping doors off hinges and throwing them across the room , breaking furniture into small pieces with my hands etc.. just cause I get a little frustrated .

heres another little "happy accident"



BUT , just be careful what you decide to put your fist through .. reconstructive hand surgery cost me thousands of dollars

[Obs]

common occurrence around here .. I'm probably broke because I've spent thousand and thousands of dollars in drywall repairs, glass door repairs , ripping doors off hinges and throwing them across the room , breaking furniture into small pieces with my hands etc.. just cause I get a little frustrated .

heres another little "happy accident"



BUT , just be careful what you decide to put your fist through .. reconstructive hand surgery cost me thousands of dollars

Until deca I got cortisone injections in my right knuckles from just so.

I have broke way too much shit.
Breaking cellphones was almost an addiction until I was 27 or 28

[Obs]

Just pictured Bob ross on juice punching holes in his walls.

"Happy little accident!"

[GearHeaded]

Until deca I got cortisone injections in my right knuckles from just so.

I have broke way too much shit.
Breaking cellphones was almost an addiction until I was 27 or 28

well I've learned the hard way.. the above drywall pic from a couple weeks back was me using my head ,, I kinda got tired of all the knuckle pain and hand surgery .. notice the blood stains on the upper right and left side. just head but , smash and wipe . my knuckles are total crap. always scarred up ... I mean heck , I've been told I need to start using my "head" and not be so aggressive with my fists.. well ok then I'll use my head mother F'ers

[Obs]

My hands bones will be screwed togeter and basically useless if I live long enough.

So, it's a gentlemans race to die before then.

Btw, I never met a patient calm fucker that got much done.
Violent and agressive personality types get a lot more done. Type A trait.

Its also why we are predispositioned toward high blood pressure.

[GearHeaded]

Just pictured Bob ross on juice punching holes in his walls.

"Happy little accident!"

lol . I was hoping someone would get that joke .. my kids watch Bob Ross to this day just for fun

[Obs]

lol . I was hoping someone would get that joke .. my kids watch Bob Ross to this day just for fun

You wpuld be a scary sob punching walls if you could say it like he does at the same time.

I made a picture of charger with bob ross the other day

[Obs]

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[Obs]

What can they do for knuckles now?
Last time I went they said they couldnt do much other than screw the bones together.

I want something done to my right middle knuckle.
It hurts bad some mornings.
Especially in the cold there is so much swelling my hands dont get circulation and every morning I gotta work out the swelling while my fkin fingers freeze off.
Then once its gone I dont even need gloves.

Btw, dont fix the holes in the wall.
Just hang a frame around it and give it a title.

[GearHeaded]

You wpuld be a scary sob punching walls if you could say it like he does at the same time.

I made a picture of charger with bob ross the other day

yeah "happy accidents" have happened quite a lot.. people around me know I'm on edge and extremely aggressive, but they also know I'd never physically hurt anyone (unless they were tying to hurt my family)..
so yes "happy accidents" are kinda what it is and people around me understand. I've had lots of happy accidents . fuck I'm nearly Bob Ross himself on steroids and the world is my canvas ..

heres an example of a happy accident..
heres my last house and my beautiful kitchen.

I filled the dining space up with a massive engraved cherry wood dining set that cost me thousands.. well that table does not fit well in my much smaller rental house (I told you I keep an axe with me at most times right) .. one day, cause I felt restricted and confined with this big as fancy table at my now small kitchen in this shit rental house, I took my ax and started beating the shit out of my fancy table ..
umm happy accident . I realized my anger issues, and my "happy accident" and got other people involved (later on, not at that time) . me and my kids have used my axe and engraved tic tac toe games on that fancy ass table (thats all beat to shit now).
fyi - my daughter beat me at the tic tac toe with the axe . was a "happy" moment

ok I'll snap a pic of the table now

[GearHeaded]

Btw, dont fix the holes in the wall.
Just hang a frame around it and give it a title.

Lol . I wish. and so does my wife .. you know how much a 8 foot wide by 6 foot tall framed picture costs ? probably more then drywall repairs and replacing the whole wall..
yes I've knocked down entire walls essentially.

I'm way more toned down now then I used to be . a little head but here and there and yes I can cover that up with a picture

[GearHeaded]

What can they do for knuckles now?
Last time I went they said they couldnt do much other than screw the bones together.

I want something done to my right middle knuckle.
It hurts bad some mornings.
Especially in the cold there is so much swelling my hands dont get circulation and every morning I gotta work out the swelling while my fkin fingers freeze off.
Then once its gone I dont even need gloves.
.

I don't know brother .. I spent $10k to get my right hand surgically repaired and tendons reconstructed and all that crap . and to this day I have only about 60% use of my right hand. don't know what they can do for knuckles .. but believe me, if you can still make a tight fist and grip shit super stong, your good.
any punch I throw is with my left hand or my right palm, my right hand cannot physically make a fist and never will be able to.. I drop stuff all the time with my right hand cause I have no feeling and can't grip.
but I can still shoot a handgun like an absolute marksmen . trigger finger works just fine

[charger69]

I am glad that I am not destructive when I get frustrated. If so, I would be homeless.
I can’t afford downtime either.

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[Proximal]

The gear has been a gift from God that allows me to pump up with some of the young bucks at the gyms that I go to, which helps me psychologically.

It’s the degeneration of my body that’s causing my dysmorphia. But I can still look in the mirror & say I’m the oldest mf’r here & still looking like I belong.

[Obs]

I am glad that I am not destructive when I get frustrated. If so, I would be homeless.
I can’t afford downtime either.

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Charger beats up mexican police.

[Obs]

I want to see how you play cards lol

[i_SLAM_cougars]

I have issues with the fact that I can still fit through doors without causing destruction

[GearHeaded]

I have issues with the fact that I can still fit through doors without causing destruction

I remember Brian Shaw being asked if he could be small for a day what would he do .. his answer was , "I don't want to be small for a day" . we look at 6'8" tall and 440 pounds that must be uncomfortable and a hassle not fitting through door ways. but truth is he likes being huge

[i_SLAM_cougars]

I remember Brian Shaw being asked if he could be small for a day what would he do .. his answer was , "I don't want to be small for a day" . we look at 6'8" tall and 440 pounds that must be uncomfortable and a hassle not fitting through door ways. but truth is he likes being huge

I don’t see how being the strongest man on the planet could be too much of a hassle. I mean as regular people go I’m usually the strongest guy around, and I can tell on a daily basis that my life is easier for it. The only time it isn’t is when everyone else runs out of gas, and you have to carry them, but the ego feeding bullshit in that usually compensates.

[kelkel]

Interestingly, it’s not just the physique side either.
Fifteen years ago, it would have been easier for me to accept that I am within the top 1% of genpop for strength, and an even tighter percentage if you factor in bodyweight. That’s because when I look around in any gym that I go in, I’m the only guy squatting over four plates or dealifting over five, without looking like a pile of laundry covered in mayonnaise.
Now? With social media, it’s much easier for me to compare myself to EVERY strength athlete, which is a ridiculous notion. A decade ago, I’d have no way of knowing that there’s a 123 lbs. woman (Stefi Cohen) who could make me her bitch on any given day unless I was actually participating in powerlifting as an organized sport (I don’t). These days I can get that rubbed in my face multiple times per day if I so choose.

You might like Stefi rubbed in your face actually....

[kelkel]

Interesting comments above. If you want a dose of reality just go the the Arnold or Olympia. When you see some of the top pro's in person it's quite an impressive thing. It puts things into perspective. I'm by no means small but holy shit some of these guys are simply huge beyond belief.

[GearHeaded]

just to put it in perspective, Jay Cutler in the middle here is a 300+ pound mr Olympia , and even he can be made to feel small

[Cuz]

just to put it in perspective, Jay Cutler in the middle here is a 300+ pound mr Olympia , and even he can be made to feel small

Lol i think camera angle has ALOT to do with that, but yea Jay is like 5’9 and Shaw is literally almost a foot taller. Lol thats a funny pic, reminds of Rich out angling the camera and Jay is causally slumped over

[Gallowmere]

Lol i think camera angle has ALOT to do with that, but yea Jay is like 5’9 and Shaw is literally almost a foot taller. Lol thats a funny pic, reminds of Rich out angling the camera and Jay is causally slumped over

This is true, but at some point you have to realize that guys like Shaw and Thor might as well be a different fucking species.
I’m just shy of 200 lbs. and “big” for this area, when you ignore the obese Rascal riding soon to be foot amputee population. Then I have to acknowledge that it would take more than two of me to equal one of them. That’s just absurd no matter how you look at it.

[Gallowmere]

You might like Stefi rubbed in your face actually....

Might? Pfft, I know I would.
My girlfriend is convinced that she only need feel threatened in the security of our relationship if a sub-150 woman suddenly shows up at my gym and starts outpulling and squatting me.

[GearHeaded]

not only their size makes us feel inadequate, but the strength is ridiculous as well


the whole 'how hard can you punch' thing in the video is silly , the strength is impressive

[i_SLAM_cougars]

not only their size makes us feel inadequate, but the strength is ridiculous as well


the whole 'how hard can you punch' thing in the video is silly , the strength is impressive

Is this the part where you tell us how to do it?

[Obs]

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I hate to let her down but some things she asks I cannot do.