Quote Originally Posted by Proximal View Post
Kong, it’s a shared attitude with my wife. We are not swingers, but soul-mates that have been together for going on 37 years.

The extracurricular activity is not encouraged, but should it present itself (like an amazing desert at a restaurant that you just can’t say no to), go for it.

IMO, a loving relationship is not about sex, it’s everything but. But then again, this has to be the attitude of both parties.

I could not live without my wife & should she say no more to the extracurricular sex, then I will respect that.

Hell at my age, my days are numbered. Shit, sometimes the viagra isn’t a big help. OK, that’s a fear.
Well, FINALLY the truth comes out... (NOT specifying YOU Proximal)

I KNEW that I wasn't the only one in here that had an ongoing battle with libido... I guess, that I just have / had a way with words that rubbed the wrong way once...

Certainly the sex, the strange sex, is an issue that most men grapple with, throughout their productive (sexually) years. I firmly believe, seeing in myself, that when we couple this, shall I say "innate" desire with AAS, then the effect and temptation is magnified.

I have a lot (mega) respect for the man who can keep it in check...

Me, I have come to grips with my hedonism; a side of myself which obviously has given me great pleasure, but at the same time caused / inflicted pain and suffering on the majority of hapless women who have succumbed to my charms.

So, to reiterate; I knew months ago when I responded in all honesty to that guy's thread on the cheating ol'lady; I knew that I was in good company here. I knew because there was only one negative comment concerning my response, and I am certain that a lot of you guys saw the post, but I would bet that for the male species, what I wrote rang true for the vast majority of us... Fortunately or unfortunately...

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FEARS:

Disability, crippling physical handicap (quad / para).

Arrest (of any variety ie: for any offence), as stated before; this is the most demeaning treatment and feeling that I have personally experienced; that, and being wrung through the wringer of the US Justice Dept.

Long-term incarceration (anything more than 5-8 yrs for me). I don't see myself being able to ever adapt to living in a cage for any serious stretch of time. I remember staying the night in San Diego County. That fucked-up feeling when anywhere you went, you had to walk on the side of the line painted on the floor, with your hands tucked into the waistband of your pants... Fuck that shit.

A lingering, long drawn-out suffering death (cancer comes to mind...). That doesn't sound very appealing to me.

Drowning. We spent more than a few trips on submarines and although I understand what a wonderful, powerful weapons system the boat is; there was always this lingering thought in my mind of that motherfucker slowly filling up with water...

Old age, to a degree. I understand and believe that through the luck of good genetics, constantly staying in shape and active (no matter how this is inevitably going to change as the years accumulate) and liberal application of TRT, one can stave-off the aging process for some time. Yet, sadly, the Grim Reaper will ultimately prevail...

For the moment, I guess that is all of my fears.