i want to suppress my sex drive fully.

[dec11]

sweet jesus, i really do give up *head butts wall*

[Hazard]

I know EXACTLY what you're going through...... however..... ur way of "fixing" it..... is absolutely terrible LOL!

My wife has a low sex drive for various reasons..... I've talked to her about it..... it took a long long time but she now understands that even if she doesn't have the drive.... I still do. Just because the rollercoaster isn't open - it doesn't mean the whole theme park has to be closed (thanks Ron White ahahaha)

I had to tell my wife that I can't keep living without sex. You need to tell her you love her to death but part of being in love with someone is sharing that sexual experience. Hell.... Dr. Oz said that having sex 3x a week can add 7 years to your life span.

Seriously..... you need to have a long serious talk with her and if she shrugs it off then I would seriously consider giving her an ultimatum. A sex therapist or the relationship ends..... if shes not willing to fix the problem then shes not truely understanding and caring to your feelings.

~Haz~

[BigJuice777]

And that's coming from a Mormon! lol

Hell yah Mormons know how to screw!! It's all we get to do! LOL

[LouHulk]

I still have yet to see the most simple response. You "fix" might not be temporary, don't do it. Life changes quite a bit regardless of how stable you think it is. She might get her sex drive back, you guys might break up, anything could happen then you would be stuck with a broken dick and that would suck bro. This is coming from someone with Libido problems and erectino problems, don't damage yourself, it's just stupid and honestly I think you might be a troll.

[dec11]

I still have yet to see the most simple response. You "fix" might not be temporary, don't do it. Life changes quite a bit regardless of how stable you think it is. She might get her sex drive back, you guys might break up, anything could happen then you would be stuck with a broken dick and that would suck bro. This is coming from someone with Libido problems and erectino problems, don't damage yourself, it's just stupid and honestly I think you might be a troll.

bingo!!! at last

[jla1986]

My girlfriend gets it if she wants it or not. lol

[0tolerance]

bingo!!! at last

a troll?
im really not just asking this question for attention, why the hell would anyone put up with the snide remarks people are going to and have said just to get some attention if thats what you mean.

its a legit question.

And to JLA1986, this used to be the case for me aswell, but she ended up being really tired one day, got in trouble at her pharmacy for not following correct proecedure and then she went nuts at me for keeping her awake.

[Hazard]

My girlfriend gets it if she wants it or not. lol

LMFAO! I like the way you think.....

~Haz~

[jla1986]

Yeah thats true too got to find that happy medium place. Keep both sides happy its hard when you thow some good test in though.

[Kiki]

Try something fresh and kinky like sucking her toes or letting her use a strapon, might awaken some inner fetish you've never seen before and bam there you go!

Thank me later by sending some free anabolics my way

[layeazy]

wow once every 2 months you might aswell be single!

That really funny to read lol cant give advice because the whole thing is ridiculous...

she may be a lesbian and just enjoys your long hair and pretends for a female if thats you in the avatar...

[cro]

wtf, bro ?

Ok this sound stupid, but the girl im with is amazing.. everything is perfect except her lack of sex drive.

so im wondering if i took a deca only cycle for an extended period of time at 400mg/w would this tottally drop my sexual urges?

DIY doesnt do it for me any more and its getting more increasingly hard to not go sleep with some one else who wants to..

so what do you guys rekon?
i want to fully lose the ability and urge to do anything sexual.

[sixoner]

go for it bud!!...get her that strap on somebody suggested further up though in case she comes back to reality and you're limp.. she can wrap that beautiful long hair of yours up in her forearm bend you up like a question mark and put it on you. like you're supposed to be doing to her or any number of other women

I want to supress my sex drive fully...come on dude thats just gay..sissys going to prison don't even say shit like that

[Times Roman]

let me ask you mate... can you satisfy her? I mean all the way.

let me say this, if she aint at least willing to try to improve herself to make you happy, then I suspect there are other issues. My woman was always willing when she was young. We would talk about it, she would agree it isn't fair to me with low frequency. But that night, she would be dog tired, or on her period, and then start crying cause she realizes it aint right. Now she's just ravenous and im over here. But back to my point, if she is reluctant to even talk about it, that is a huge red flag. Let me guess, she's really young and shy, right? (That's why I always like slightly older women that are sure of themselves and are experienced enough to have mastered the "craft") Personally, I take an experienced 7 that is eager to please than a 9 that thinks looking is all she has to do.

[Times Roman]

but then again, really don't know much about you, and I do know some people get off to harming themselves?

shit, padre junipero serro (name right?) during californias missionary period would regulary beat himself with a leather whip (think cat o nine tails) until he was a bloody mess. He literally would inflict considerable pain on himself to kill his libido.

[Bonaparte]

but then again, really don't know much about you, and I do know some people get off to harming themselves?

shit, padre junipero serro (name right?) during californias missionary period would regulary beat himself with a leather whip (think cat o nine tails) until he was a bloody mess. He literally would inflict considerable pain on himself to kill his libido.

Oh, that's a good idea! I hadn't thought about self-flagelation or genital mutilation!
Anyone here ever seen that vid called "dick chop" or "pain olympics"? ROFL

OP, why doesn't she just stop taking the birth control, if that's a contributing factor? The stuff is only useful if you're having sex anyway...

[MACHINE5150]

I would recomend slippys spanish fly into her cereal every morning until she starts giving it out..

Girls that are not sexual are one of three things:
1. Never been fvcked right
2. been raped
3. been molested

[Ashop]

Ok this sound stupid, but the girl im with is amazing.. everything is perfect except her lack of sex drive.

so im wondering if i took a deca only cycle for an extended period of time at 400mg/w would this tottally drop my sexual urges?

DIY doesnt do it for me any more and its getting more increasingly hard to not go sleep with some one else who wants to..

so what do you guys rekon?
i want to fully lose the ability and urge to do anything sexual.

Honestly,,,I dont care how hot she is I would find someone else.

[Times Roman]

I would recomend slippys spanish fly into her cereal every morning until she starts giving it out..

Girls that are not sexual are one of three things:
1. Never been fvcked right
2. been raped
3. been molested

I would like to add one other category. A female friend of mine falls into this category:

4. Mentally fvcked up about sex because mom and dad
a: never had sex
b: she slept in mom's bed and dad slept in lazy boy drunk every night
c: she was repeatedly told and finally believed that sex is bad and dirty

[MACHINE5150]

I would like to add one other category. A female friend of mine falls into this category:

4. Mentally fvcked up about sex because mom and dad
a: never had sex
b: she slept in mom's bed and dad slept in lazy boy drunk every night
c: she was repeatedly told and finally believed that sex is bad and dirty

yeah.. this is true.. there are quite a few out there like that.. especially if you are not married they think it is a sin and stuff like that... either way the OP should talk to her about it and figure out the source and fix it.. they have counselors for stuff like this.

[Times Roman]

I'm betting OP's GF is very young, and isn't mature enough yet, meaning, some gals will just wait and hope
a) by ignoring the problem will go away
b) OP will stop bugging her

classic example of taking the path of least resistance

[BrettVarvre]

thank you to all who gave their oppinions and information its much appreciated.
trust me i have considered it all, cheating, being less attractive, doing something wrong, her BC etc etc and shes not cheating on me, if she did find me less attractive i shredded down again and when i asked her she said she didnt notice that i had gained any weight to begin with, im not sounding cocky when i say this but im very positive im not doing something wrong because she will be quite honest about if shes enjoying it or not, her birth control it might be, but trying to change my girlfriend is like trying to change the tide. Aside from all that, the rest of her qualities are excellent.

and to be honest, it would just seam easier to do something about it or sleep with other women... and i weighed the two options up as best i could, ive thought about it for the last 12 months ALOT and nearly posted this question on here half a dozen times.

She doesnt know im going to do it, shes the kind of girl that gets all upset if i even try talk about it with her and believe me ive tried talking with her about it, but she has such low self esteem i feel like shes going to stop eating or jump off a cliff(shes not suicidal, just has anxiety).

to the fella that asked how often shes having sex with me and if its good, the sex is great and always has been great in that aspect but frequency is once every 2 months if im lucky, which is driving me insane.

Im going to have my last ditch effort at talking to her today probably, hard decision because i think if i ended it after all this time that it would be one of the decisions that i regret because and i know it sounds stupid, cliche but no other girl ive met has been like her...

she must be super tight at least.

[n00bs]

Double

[n00bs]

Another alternative would be to increase her sex drive.
Perhaps you should look in to that possibility.
As I see it she is the one with the problem, not you.

No that would be common sense...

The world is full of idiots.

**** your nuts off! Last thing we want you to do is breed!

[SlimmerMe]

Couple of things:

Interest in sex for females usually starts between the ears so if something is bugging her emotionally then this needs to be addressed with lots of communication

If it is strictly a physical lack of interest, then ask her what you need to do and if it takes a map, then get a map

And if she is on birth control, which I think you mentioned is the case, then here is one of the best threads here about Birth Control and Lebido you will ever read.....think about it, BC throws off female's hormones drastically....GOOD LUCK!

http://forums.steroid.com/showthread...-mental-health

[Anabolic_Minds]

Take a look at this, it might explain what's going on with her. It might be Sexual Anorexia.
(this is all cited from wikipedia)

Sexual anorexia is a term used to describe a loss of "appetite" for romantic-sexual interaction. However, the term is used broadly and can be better defined as a fear of intimacy to the point that the person has severe anxiety surrounding sex with emotional content i.e. in an intimate relationship. [1] Other practitioners[who?] have applied the term in their own way. In the view of some practitioners[who?], corroborating the seminal work of Patrick Carnes, there are people who appear to have a sexual addiction which is expressed through a variety of behaviors such as the compulsive use of strip clubs, prostitutes, cyberporn sites, etc. but more accurately fit the definition of sexual anorexic in that they seem to lack the ability to have a relationship of a sexual nature beyond a paid-for or anonymous experience.[citation needed] The person does not have an aversion to sex but to intimacy. A sex addict is more likely to be capable of being in a more intimate relationship and is often married or in a committed relationship when deciding to get treatment for his or her addiction.[citation needed] A sexual anorexic may have a social phobia or be so fragile emotionally that the risk of rejection or criticism is far more frightening than being isolated.[citation needed] Narcissistic traits are often seen in both sexual anorexics and sex addicts, but in the sexual anorexic, the traits are considered far more "brittle" and the pain of rejection and criticism is far more excruciating than for the sex addict.[citation needed]

Treatment is aimed at helping the person see where their fears really are and to see the world in less black and white terms. The patient is encouraged to take calculated risks with social activities and distorted thinking is gently challenged with facts and reality.[citation needed] The goals for both sex addicts and sexual anorexics is to learn to have healthy sex and get emotional needs met in direct ways, and to set healthy boundaries. This is an issue that requires ongoing treatment in planned stages with the end goal of autonomy, independence, and improved social relationships.[citation needed]

The concept of "sexual anorexia" was first mentioned by psychologist Nathan Hare in 1975, in an unpublished dissertation submitted in partial fulfillment for a Ph.D. at the California School of Professional Psychology in San Francisco.[citation needed] Ellen Goodman, the nationally syndicated columnist, revealed psychiatrist Sylvia Kaplan's usage of the concept in 1981; which was quickly noted in the editor's "Notes" in the journal "Black Male/Female Relationships."[citation needed] A book by psychologist Patrick Carnes called "Sexual Anorexia" was published in 1997.[citation needed] Hare's Ph.D. dissertation on "Black Male-Female Relations" (1975) as well as the now defunct journal called "Black Male/Female Relationships" (1979-1982) are available in University Microfilms, from the University of Michigan.[citation needed] See also Nathan and Julia Hare, "Sexual Anorexia," Crisis in Black Sexual Politics, published in 1989 by The Black Think Tank, San Francisco,pp. 137-140, ISBN 0-9613086-2. Julia Hare has also used it in a book, "The Sexual and Political Anorexia of the Black Woman"

[stevey_6t9]

[Johnyonemove]

nothing 5mgs of anavar cant fix just make her breakfast every day for the next month!

[MikeIcon]

Just masterbate, or try and fix her.

Why **** your self up for her, if she's the one with the problem?

Haha, bro I was just about to suggest this as this is something similar to my situation. When my wife hit her 30's her sex drive was down for some reason. I just masterbate if need to because I love my wife and would never fk it up by cheating. Things changed after a few months alter. I found that stress can lower your hormone level both in men and women, maybe this is the cause?

[oldnsedentary]

She has mental issues - sounds just like somebody with whom I had a relationship. Let me tell you something, it only gets worse with time. The mental issues will manifest themselves in other ways, too, and you will be miserable if you try to make it work.

You need to have a talk with her about just being friends. Then you can spend time with her, since you think there is something about her outside of a sexual relationship that is so amazing, and you can move on to a real relationship with a woman who is not messed up in the head.

[Fetch]

I literally had this exact problem a year ago. My girlfriend simply wasn't interested in sex. When I first brought it up, she cried. Her self esteem is very low. Every major fight we had was because of this. She would 'go to bed early,' I'd get excited thinking it meant she wanted to fool around, then I'd get to lie in bed for 2 hours fuming while she snored away next to me. I know you love her, and you want to be with her, etc... but sex is a very important part of a relationship. If this is a problem that has been going on for a couple months, then by all means wait it out. If this is something that has been an issue for longer, then you should put serious thought into dropping the relationship. Trust me, you will always be irritated by this. It doesn't go away, and you will start to resent her. I would try something drastic, like asking her to drop birth control and see if it helps.

For me, ending that relationship was the best decision I could have made. It was a major problem for me that she wasn't willing to deal with, which made it easier for me to hang it up. After enough time in a relationship like that, you not only start resenting her, but your mood changes toward other people too. I simply wasn't a happy person anymore. Whatever you decide, best of luck.

[lil_herc81]

If you do some research there is probably a reason why she doesnt have a sex drive, reasons may include but not limited to , insecurity with herself, stress, birth control, or even something she is keeping from you. My opinion- Stock up on lube and whack away buddy! or take her to a sex therapist to get to the root.

[MACHINE5150]

I literally had this exact problem a year ago. My girlfriend simply wasn't interested in sex. When I first brought it up, she cried. Her self esteem is very low. Every major fight we had was because of this. She would 'go to bed early,' I'd get excited thinking it meant she wanted to fool around, then I'd get to lie in bed for 2 hours fuming while she snored away next to me. I know you love her, and you want to be with her, etc... but sex is a very important part of a relationship. If this is a problem that has been going on for a couple months, then by all means wait it out. If this is something that has been an issue for longer, then you should put serious thought into dropping the relationship. Trust me, you will always be irritated by this. It doesn't go away, and you will start to resent her. I would try something drastic, like asking her to drop birth control and see if it helps.

For me, ending that relationship was the best decision I could have made. It was a major problem for me that she wasn't willing to deal with, which made it easier for me to hang it up. After enough time in a relationship like that, you not only start resenting her, but your mood changes toward other people too. I simply wasn't a happy person anymore. Whatever you decide, best of luck.

If thats you n your AVI i don't think she was the one with a problem.. . hahaha JK

[VA703]

wtf?

[VA703]

seriously, wtf? get off the test bro your turning into a girl.

[sacrificeanything]

@Fetch
Bro... You got dumped, I used to do the same thing when I was younger. Quit putting out and wait until they lost interest. Holy shit, I think i may of just solved the riddle. She's lost interest bro. Find a new one.

[dolce4]

everybody is a smart ass f*cking expert in a forum, how long you been dating her?

btw Anabolic_Minds nice post, wikipedia taught me about sexsomnia (my exgirl claims I suffered from this disorder)

[The Hyena]

I dont believe this...
you guys left out the obvious answer....

she is getting it somewhere else... get a new girl
/end thread

[chuckt12345]

a) shes just tired of having sex with you (which most men do with their wifes, sig others)
b) shes on depression meds which can cut sex drive completely off
c) shes banging another guy while your at work,, see a)

Serioiusly who in their right mind would want to kill their sex drive,, you lose your test,, youlll feel like shit, be depressed, grow man tits and prb off yourself.

[clemont51]

If she is not very rich and generous, run, don't walk away as fast as you can.
Normal females are available.